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Woman Is Left In Tears After Her Boyfriend Tricks Her Into Eating Meat For The First Time In Her Life
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Woman Is Left In Tears After Her Boyfriend Tricks Her Into Eating Meat For The First Time In Her Life

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It’s an awful thing to realize that you can’t trust your partner and that they don’t respect your life choices. And yet, knowing the truth about who they are is still better than letting them manipulate and control you.

A distraught internet user, who has been a vegetarian all of her life, begged the ‘Am I Overreacting’ online community to weigh in on a horrible situation with her boyfriend. She revealed how her partner made a nice dinner for both of them to trick her into eating meat, and then laughed about it. You’ll find the full story, including the internet’s advice for the woman, below.

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    This vegetarian woman revealed how her toxic boyfriend shared his true colors by tricking her when he volunteered to make dinner

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    Controlling individuals dislike boundaries, won’t take responsibility for their mistakes, and will try to dictate what you can and cannot do

    The awful thing is that some people completely disregard your choices, wants, and needs because they think they know what’s ‘best’ for you. They might take something positive, like the desire to protect and support your loved ones, and take it too far, turning it into controlling or even coercive behavior.

    To be very clear, somebody who tricks you into going against your principles or manipulates you into changing your beliefs isn’t a reliable partner. It’s one thing to express concerns or to have an adult debate about life choices. It’s another thing entirely to gaslight and lie to your significant other in order to force them to change their behavior.

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    Controlling individuals want everyone to do things their way, going as far as controlling small and personal choices. They hate it when others disagree with them or enforce healthy boundaries.

    These people will refuse to admit that they’ve made mistakes, and they will not accept blame. Moreover, they tend to be unpredictable, want to be in the spotlight, use lying to get what they want, and have a desire to dictate where you go, who you meet, and what you do. They may even try to isolate you from your family and friends.

    “Controlling people want to control your reality. Truth is the bedrock of reality. They will try to deny your reality by lying about their behavior or yours. They may insist you’re the crazy one when you try to contradict them,” WebMD warns.

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    Some controlling people will pretend to be joking so that they can openly criticize or make fun of you

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    Meanwhile, Verywell Health points out that controlling people might pretend to be kidding or joking around to give themselves permission to say or do whatever they want. “This form of manipulation allows a partner to openly criticize, mock, or hurt you and make you feel bad or stupid if you respond.”

    Furthermore, Healthline notes that a controlling individual will often criticize you to try to undermine your confidence in private or public. For example, they might exaggerate your flaws, avoid acknowledging your successes, make mean jokes about you, criticize how you dress or speak, and get angry if you don’t answer your phone right away.

    What’s more, they are expert gaslighters. “They underplay your experience by lying or accusing you of being overly sensitive. If you’re upset about something they told you last week, they’ll deny ever having said it and that it’s all in your mind. You start second-guessing yourself all the time.”

    It’s also a major red flag if they try to change you. “They’ll try to mold you to suit their own interests by pressuring you to make changes,” Healthline warns.

    According to Verywell Health, you may be stuck in a toxic, violent relationship if your partner embarrasses or ridicules you, makes you question your decisions, and uses intimidation or threats to control your behavior.

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    Other relationship red flags include your significant other repeatedly checking where you are, blaming you for how they feel or act, preventing you from seeing your family or friends, and forcing you to change yourself in order to ‘fix’ their behavior.

    What do you think, Pandas? How would you react if your partner tricked you into disregarding your values, dietary preferences, or important life choices? How do you protect your boundaries and well-being? Let us know in the comments.

    Here’s the advice that the internet gave the distraught young woman

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    Later, the woman shared a very important update about her relationship

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    Remi (He/Him)
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not vegetarian, but what the guy did was inexcusable. You don't mess with other people's food. If someone has been vegetarian for a long time, their stomach can't handle meat and it's about the same as giving someone lactose intolerant milk products with lactose without telling. Dude gives "I don't care about your bodily autonomy" - vibes too

    Sarah Belt
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. That was dangerous to her and a despicable level of disrespect on his part, especially with the gaslighting as a lead up.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is about consent. She has an incredibly well define and well articulated boundary and he crossed it on purpose. He's laughing and calling her names because she's upset. Why would you trust him let alone speak to him again? His arguments are all the same that guys who stealth use. You were fine doing it when you thought it was what you consented to. Boundaries only matter if notice they've been crossed immediately. But while eating the burger was not ok for OP, the not giving a s**t about her boundaries is the larger and more pressing issue. DTMFA

    KatSaidThat
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and followed that up with gaslighting. Very much the end afaic.

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    Trillian
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Call me dramatic but I'd pack my bags and move out. Couldn't trust a guy like that.

    Min
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Completely. All trust would be gone forever.

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    Erla Zwingle
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The man is a monster. He hurt you deliberately, then laughed at you, then insulted you. He would continue this on rinse and repeat until he destroyed you, at which point he would laugh and insult you. Just thinking about this makes me want to unalive him. Glad you're moving on.

    Lady Eowyn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boyfriend should now be described as "ex-boyfriend." What if she had an actually allergy, not just a dietary choice? You don't mess with people's food. But she lost a few point with me for her pride in being "the perfect vegetarian." Humble brag.

    ginger
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah she gave me the ick but what he did was absolutely despicable

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    meeeeeeeeeeee
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a gross violation and likely a*****t.

    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does this guy have any idea how dangerous it is to give someone who has never eaten it meat?

    Sparky Hughes
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so glad she left him. What you put in your own mouth is a literal permanent boundary. The incredible thing is vegetarians are the easiest people to accommodate and typically don’t care about what others are eating. I let a friend live with us for a few months when she broke up with her bf. She had just become vegan. It started getting obnoxious. Hubby has gut issues and she tricked him in having tofu. For some reason, he has issues about pure tofu. She made a stir fry for us, and lied about tofu saying it was some Beyond Meat, which he is fine with. I cook it with it sometimes when accommodating vegan friends. He was sick all night and barely got sleep since he was in the bathroom. She got kicked out. Why TF do people have issues with other people’s differences?

    Michael Fernandez
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m kind of an omnivore (raised Chinese, despite my surname), but this is pure abüse by the ex-bf.

    Bob bobberson
    Community Member
    17 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If God didn't want us to eat meat, he wouldn't have made animals so plentiful and delicious.

    David
    Community Member
    18 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    disgusting. How can you claim to care about someone and do this? I keep Kosher and well understand the need to dietary preference and personal morals to be protected. I once dated a vegan, I just make sure she had vegan food. Road Trip? Beef Jerky for me, Mushroom Jerky for her. Eating out? check if the place has vegan options first. You respect other people's dietary choices.

    Miss Ann Thrope
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Disrespectful and a huge betrayal of trust.

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not vegan nor vegetarian and eat pretty much anything and even I'D BE F*****G PISSED if someone tricked me into eating something, anything, regardless of what it actually was, let along something that I was choosing to not eat. It's an absolute violation. And the worst part is the ex will take it as OP being dramatic or over reacting to a little bit of meat or whatever.

    Jessica Daus-Warner
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not overreacting. I wouldn't trust him again. I don't understand why meat eaters feel the need to try and trick people into it. Just sad and pathetic.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I text him and say, "You are a complete and utter POS. If you ever touched me again, I'd vomit. You are just a low character s*****g and I'm sorry I wasted even a minute of my time with you. Please forget I exist, because I've already forgotten you".

    Kathy Brooke
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if she were a proud life long virgin tricked into... This man has no respect for her whatsoever.

    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Obviously I believe we should respect all people's dietary wants/needs, but I call BS on this story - OP has been in a relationship with boyfriend for THREE YEARS, describes him as having always respected her dietary requirements, knows his family, etc.... and then one day for kicks he pulls this prank on her and calls her a baby for overreacting? Either OP has been living with a psycho for three years and didn't know it or this story is made up for rage-bait.... I call the latter.

    spacer
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    sadly this is common among men. they basically wait until they have you wrapped around their finger then decide to test the waters to see if the woman will accept a***e. most of them wait until after marriage so shes "lucky" he exposed himself before then.

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    Joe Bloe
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    1 day ago

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    What the guy did was clearly wrong, but it show how overly dramatic she can be, suddenly feeling nauseous. I guess it's like religious diet restriction. You identify your whole personality around it, so the slightest deviance make you feel anormal, rejected by your "church", you stepped on your morality.

    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alright, let me explain that to you. Imagine that you grew up with chicken, but there is one chicken that you really love more than anything. You spend time with it, name it, feed it, view it as your friend... And one day you're at dinner and someone suddenly tells you that you've been eating your friend. Puking is a very normal response to having the cooked flesh of someone you love in your mouth.

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    Remi (He/Him)
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not vegetarian, but what the guy did was inexcusable. You don't mess with other people's food. If someone has been vegetarian for a long time, their stomach can't handle meat and it's about the same as giving someone lactose intolerant milk products with lactose without telling. Dude gives "I don't care about your bodily autonomy" - vibes too

    Sarah Belt
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. That was dangerous to her and a despicable level of disrespect on his part, especially with the gaslighting as a lead up.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is about consent. She has an incredibly well define and well articulated boundary and he crossed it on purpose. He's laughing and calling her names because she's upset. Why would you trust him let alone speak to him again? His arguments are all the same that guys who stealth use. You were fine doing it when you thought it was what you consented to. Boundaries only matter if notice they've been crossed immediately. But while eating the burger was not ok for OP, the not giving a s**t about her boundaries is the larger and more pressing issue. DTMFA

    KatSaidThat
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and followed that up with gaslighting. Very much the end afaic.

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    Trillian
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Call me dramatic but I'd pack my bags and move out. Couldn't trust a guy like that.

    Min
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Completely. All trust would be gone forever.

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    Erla Zwingle
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The man is a monster. He hurt you deliberately, then laughed at you, then insulted you. He would continue this on rinse and repeat until he destroyed you, at which point he would laugh and insult you. Just thinking about this makes me want to unalive him. Glad you're moving on.

    Lady Eowyn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boyfriend should now be described as "ex-boyfriend." What if she had an actually allergy, not just a dietary choice? You don't mess with people's food. But she lost a few point with me for her pride in being "the perfect vegetarian." Humble brag.

    ginger
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah she gave me the ick but what he did was absolutely despicable

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    meeeeeeeeeeee
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a gross violation and likely a*****t.

    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does this guy have any idea how dangerous it is to give someone who has never eaten it meat?

    Sparky Hughes
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so glad she left him. What you put in your own mouth is a literal permanent boundary. The incredible thing is vegetarians are the easiest people to accommodate and typically don’t care about what others are eating. I let a friend live with us for a few months when she broke up with her bf. She had just become vegan. It started getting obnoxious. Hubby has gut issues and she tricked him in having tofu. For some reason, he has issues about pure tofu. She made a stir fry for us, and lied about tofu saying it was some Beyond Meat, which he is fine with. I cook it with it sometimes when accommodating vegan friends. He was sick all night and barely got sleep since he was in the bathroom. She got kicked out. Why TF do people have issues with other people’s differences?

    Michael Fernandez
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m kind of an omnivore (raised Chinese, despite my surname), but this is pure abüse by the ex-bf.

    Bob bobberson
    Community Member
    17 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If God didn't want us to eat meat, he wouldn't have made animals so plentiful and delicious.

    David
    Community Member
    18 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    disgusting. How can you claim to care about someone and do this? I keep Kosher and well understand the need to dietary preference and personal morals to be protected. I once dated a vegan, I just make sure she had vegan food. Road Trip? Beef Jerky for me, Mushroom Jerky for her. Eating out? check if the place has vegan options first. You respect other people's dietary choices.

    Miss Ann Thrope
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Disrespectful and a huge betrayal of trust.

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not vegan nor vegetarian and eat pretty much anything and even I'D BE F*****G PISSED if someone tricked me into eating something, anything, regardless of what it actually was, let along something that I was choosing to not eat. It's an absolute violation. And the worst part is the ex will take it as OP being dramatic or over reacting to a little bit of meat or whatever.

    Jessica Daus-Warner
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not overreacting. I wouldn't trust him again. I don't understand why meat eaters feel the need to try and trick people into it. Just sad and pathetic.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I text him and say, "You are a complete and utter POS. If you ever touched me again, I'd vomit. You are just a low character s*****g and I'm sorry I wasted even a minute of my time with you. Please forget I exist, because I've already forgotten you".

    Kathy Brooke
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if she were a proud life long virgin tricked into... This man has no respect for her whatsoever.

    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Obviously I believe we should respect all people's dietary wants/needs, but I call BS on this story - OP has been in a relationship with boyfriend for THREE YEARS, describes him as having always respected her dietary requirements, knows his family, etc.... and then one day for kicks he pulls this prank on her and calls her a baby for overreacting? Either OP has been living with a psycho for three years and didn't know it or this story is made up for rage-bait.... I call the latter.

    spacer
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    sadly this is common among men. they basically wait until they have you wrapped around their finger then decide to test the waters to see if the woman will accept a***e. most of them wait until after marriage so shes "lucky" he exposed himself before then.

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    Joe Bloe
    Community Member
    1 day ago

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    What the guy did was clearly wrong, but it show how overly dramatic she can be, suddenly feeling nauseous. I guess it's like religious diet restriction. You identify your whole personality around it, so the slightest deviance make you feel anormal, rejected by your "church", you stepped on your morality.

    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alright, let me explain that to you. Imagine that you grew up with chicken, but there is one chicken that you really love more than anything. You spend time with it, name it, feed it, view it as your friend... And one day you're at dinner and someone suddenly tells you that you've been eating your friend. Puking is a very normal response to having the cooked flesh of someone you love in your mouth.

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