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Woman Forced To Awkwardly Explain She’s Not A Wife After Strangers Congratulate Her “Married” Boyfriend
Losing the person you’d planned to spend the rest of your life with can be devastating. Many people will try to find ways to stay connected to their spouse after they pass away. Some do this by continuing to wear their wedding ring. But what happens when you get into a new relationship and it starts to get serious?
That’s the dilemma one couple is now grappling with… The man’s wife passed away from cancer four years ago and he’s still not quite over the loss. While his current girlfriend has been supportive, she wants him to take his wedding ring off – or at least wear it on the other hand. She says arguments have ensued over the ring, and her boyfriend is accusing her of being jealous of someone who isn’t even alive. Is she asking for too much?
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His wife passed away 4 years ago and he’s chosen to keep wearing his wedding ring
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His current GF feels it’s inappropriate but he says it’s part of who he is and she needs to just accept it
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Don’t want to wear your wedding ring after your spouse passes? Here are some other options…
What you choose to do with your wedding ring if or when your spouse passes away is completely up to you. Some people wear it for the rest of their lives while others take it off immediately. At the end of the day, it’s not a decision that should be rushed…
If for some reason you don’t want to continue wearing your wedding ring on your ring finger, but aren’t ready to let it go or sell it, there are many other options.
For example, you could simply move it to the other hand. This is a small step towards letting go while still allowing you to feel connected to your spouse who is no longer around. It’s also a way to let others know that your circumstances or relationship status have changed, without you having to say a word.
You could have it redesigned and made into a different piece of jewelry, or you could add a memorial diamond, which is made from your spouse’s ashes.
Another idea is to put it on a chain and wear it around your neck. “This is common practice with widows, more so than with widowers,” reveals estate planning experts AED Attorneys. “It is a good remembrance option since you can keep the ring close to your heart while indicating your marital status.”
If you have children, you could keep the ring as an heirloom to pass onto them after your own passing. However, AED’s team cautions that you’ll need to specify this in your Will to ensure that it goes to the correct person when your estate is wound up. Of course, you could give the ring to one of your children while you are alive, either for when they marry, or for another occasion.
“If you do not feel comfortable wearing your ring anymore and have no idea what to do with it, put it in a safe until you settle the matter in your mind,” advises the site.
Those who feel they are ready to part with their wedding ring could consider selling or donating it. “Many non-profit organisations accept and resell jewellery to fund their operations. If you are open to a good cause, then this may be an option,” the estate planners say. “However, you would need to be comfortable with not knowing where the ring ends up. This may be very difficult for some people.”
Another option is to use your ring as final closure when you’re ready. “Send it off ceremoniously,” suggests the AED Attorneys team. “You may like to use your ring in a ceremonial farewell where you cast it into the ocean or bury it in a particular place as a final farewell. Include close friends or family to make this a special occasion.”
Whether or not to keep wearing your wedding ring after your spouse passes away is a deeply personal decision. But according to AED Attorneys, there are a few cases in which you should stop wearing your ring.
“The first is if your wedding ring causes you intense emotional pain, then it would probably be better to remove it and store it somewhere safe until you feel able to face it again,” elaborates the site. “The second is in the event of remarriage at a later stage. Continuing to wear the ring may cause your second spouse some unnecessary discomfort, even if they don’t say it, in which case it would be better not to wear it at all.”
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Many felt the BF wasn’t ready to move on and some advised the woman to leave
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Sam O'Brien 15 hours ago
What the actual f&$k is with this BS clickbait headline? Nothing “brutal” about the responses to the OP.
Kate Johnson 13 hours ago
He's obviously not ready to move on, so she should. She shouldn't waste any more time dating someone who clearly can't give her want she wants. He's just using her to pass the time and is obviously not at all serious or invested in the relationship.
Ace 10 hours ago
It's not about "moving on". I'm still wearing my wedding ring (and some of her favourite jewellery) just over a year after my wife dîed, and have not even thought about taking it off, why would I? And what the fûck gives you the right to suggest that he should not be dating just because he still loves his late wife. Your comments are deeply hurtful to me.
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Lisbeth Guz 7 hours ago
The responses weren't brutal but honest. Lots of empathy and no blame. I hope they both move on, clearly not together.
Emilu 15 hours ago
Can't really speak to if he's ready or not (obviously) but wearing his wedding ring doesn't *necessarily* mean that he isn't. I mean, whether he keeps the ring on or not, obviously his wife is going to remain a huge part of his 'story' and OP will need to be willing to accept that if she wants to date him. I agree with the Redditor that says that they need to have a deeper discussion about whether he is truly ready for a relationship, and what both parties want out of it (eg: if she wants marriage and he wants a long-term GF, things may not work out, but better to find out sooner than later).
Kate Johnson 13 hours ago
She should just tap out and move on to someone who is actually available without so much baggage. Sounds like not enough juice in that squeeze.
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ThisIsMe 6 hours ago
My husband died in April. While he was in the hospital he couldn't wear his ring, so I started wearing it on middle finger, left hand, next to the beautiful ring he got me for our wedding. And there they stay. Period. I'm not interested in getting married again (I'm 61) but someday there may be a relationship with the right man who will respect that and be okay with my rings. I don't know if I'll consider moving to the other hand or not one day bottomline is that it will always be my decision. And who knows - maybe that man will be widowed and want to wear his ring :-)
Robyn Hill 13 hours ago
OP needs to grow up. She doesn’t get to dictate when he’s ready to take off the ring. He does. She knew what she was signing up for. She signed up for it anyway.
Kate Johnson 13 hours ago
If you're so attached to your dead wife you're still wearing your ring, you're not ready to date anyone.
Load More Replies... Sam O'Brien 15 hours ago
What the actual f&$k is with this BS clickbait headline? Nothing “brutal” about the responses to the OP.
Kate Johnson 13 hours ago
He's obviously not ready to move on, so she should. She shouldn't waste any more time dating someone who clearly can't give her want she wants. He's just using her to pass the time and is obviously not at all serious or invested in the relationship.
Ace 10 hours ago
It's not about "moving on". I'm still wearing my wedding ring (and some of her favourite jewellery) just over a year after my wife dîed, and have not even thought about taking it off, why would I? And what the fûck gives you the right to suggest that he should not be dating just because he still loves his late wife. Your comments are deeply hurtful to me.
Load More Replies... Lisbeth Guz 7 hours ago
The responses weren't brutal but honest. Lots of empathy and no blame. I hope they both move on, clearly not together.
Emilu 15 hours ago
Can't really speak to if he's ready or not (obviously) but wearing his wedding ring doesn't *necessarily* mean that he isn't. I mean, whether he keeps the ring on or not, obviously his wife is going to remain a huge part of his 'story' and OP will need to be willing to accept that if she wants to date him. I agree with the Redditor that says that they need to have a deeper discussion about whether he is truly ready for a relationship, and what both parties want out of it (eg: if she wants marriage and he wants a long-term GF, things may not work out, but better to find out sooner than later).
Kate Johnson 13 hours ago
She should just tap out and move on to someone who is actually available without so much baggage. Sounds like not enough juice in that squeeze.
Load More Replies... ThisIsMe 6 hours ago
My husband died in April. While he was in the hospital he couldn't wear his ring, so I started wearing it on middle finger, left hand, next to the beautiful ring he got me for our wedding. And there they stay. Period. I'm not interested in getting married again (I'm 61) but someday there may be a relationship with the right man who will respect that and be okay with my rings. I don't know if I'll consider moving to the other hand or not one day bottomline is that it will always be my decision. And who knows - maybe that man will be widowed and want to wear his ring :-)
Robyn Hill 13 hours ago
OP needs to grow up. She doesn’t get to dictate when he’s ready to take off the ring. He does. She knew what she was signing up for. She signed up for it anyway.
Kate Johnson 13 hours ago
If you're so attached to your dead wife you're still wearing your ring, you're not ready to date anyone.
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