“I Called The Police”: Guy Can’t Stand GF’s Smell, Locks Her In The Bathroom For 3 Hours
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When you’re in a relationship, you should trust your partner completely. You should feel secure and warm around them, and you should never have to worry about your safety. So when one woman shared online that her boyfriend had locked her in a bathroom for hours until the police came, readers were immediately concerned.
Below, you’ll find the full story that was recently posted on the “Am I the [Jerk]?” subreddit, as well as a conversation with Laura Sinko, PhD, MSHP, RN, CCTS-I, Director of Research and Evaluation at Our Wave.
After studying at a coffee shop, this woman went to see her boyfriend
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But the day quickly turned into a nightmare when he decided to lock her in the bathroom for hours
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“Often, those who perpetrate that abuse can come across as extremely charming, kind and loving at times”
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To gain more insight into this situation, we reached out to Laura Sinko, PhD, MSHP, RN, CCTS-I, Director of Research and Evaluation at Our Wave, a nonprofit dedicated to empowering survivors of sexual assault. Dr. Sinko told Bored Panda that it is very common for abusive behavior to suddenly emerge in an intimate relationship, even if the partner has never acted that way before.
“Often, those who perpetrate that abuse can come across as extremely charming, kind and loving at times, which makes the abusive incidents even more shocking, confusing and disorienting for the person who experiences the violence,” she continued. “This cycle of alternating between ‘good’ and ‘bad’ behavior is actually a typical hallmark of an abusive relationship dynamic and can slowly escalate overtime.”
Dr. Sinko does note, however, that an abuser’s behavior rarely starts out at the extreme level described in this story. “More frequently, abuse starts with smaller incidents that get continuously worse as the abuser tests boundaries and works on breaking down their partner’s sense of self-worth and resistance to the mistreatment,” she explained. “This insidious pattern of escalation is how seemingly ‘good’ partners are able to eventually perpetrate severely abusive acts.”
“No one deserves to be disrespected or verbally abused in the ways described”
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We were also curious if calling the police was the right move to make in a situation like this. “In a situation where one feels truly trapped, fearful for their safety, and desperate as this woman did, calling the police was an understandable and appropriate move,” she told Bored Panda.
“When a partner has physically restrained you against your will and is not allowing you to leave, that constitutes false imprisonment and a threat to your personal autonomy and safety,” Dr. Sink added. “Getting law enforcement involved can sometimes help de-escalate a volatile domestic situation.”
But the expert acknowledges that involving the police is not always the best or safest choice for everyone, particularly for marginalized populations who may face additional risks or discrimination. “Other options she could have tried were contacting a friend/family member for help, or calling a domestic violence hotline,” Dr. Sinko shared. “She should not fault herself for the decision she made at that moment, however. Trusting your gut is always the right call.”
The expert also says that, based on the information provided, this woman did absolutely nothing to provoke or deserve the cruel, abusive treatment from her boyfriend. “No difference of opinion or argument justifies that level of controlling behavior, false imprisonment, emotional abuse and intimidation that he subjected her to,” Dr. Sinko noted. “I would urge her to resist apologizing or taking accountability for his completely unacceptable choices. No one deserves to be disrespected or verbally abused in the ways described.”
“This probably was not a one-off incident, but part of a very serious pattern of abuse”
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As far as advice the expert would give this woman, she would like her to know that “this probably was not a one-off incident, but part of a very serious pattern of abuse that will likely continue to escalate,” and “she should prioritize her own safety, autonomy and well-being above any impulse to rationalize or excuse his actions.”
“She might consider seeking out support services from violence advocates in the community or through her university to safety plan and explore options, and she should consider terminating the relationship, as her partner has proven himself to be abusive, unpredictable, and unwilling to take accountability,” Dr. Sinko added.
The expert also wanted to make it clear that this traumatic experience was in no way this woman’s fault. “The abuse is his choice alone, and a product of his issues rather than any shortcoming on her part,” she told Bored Panda. “With time, counseling, and support from loved ones, she can begin to overcome this traumatic situation she has endured. Her instinct to reach out when she felt unsafe was the right one – staying safe must be her top priority moving forward.”
Dr. Sinko also provided some resources for this woman, or anyone else who wants to learn more about how violence and abuse can manifest in relationships. “I would advise her to check out our website at Our Wave. We answer anonymous survivor questions and provide a space for people to share their stories to process traumatic experiences and learn from the experiences of others.”
Later, the woman shared more information about the situation
Readers assured her that she had done nothing wrong and warned her about the dangers of her boyfriend’s behavior
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"Now I see that wasn't the hill to die on." Already rationalizing that this was in some way her fault. There is no such hill unless you decide to construct one for yourself. I think this young lady has already experienced abuse in her life because she seems conditioned to accept it. I hope she gets out and gets help, fast!
It could have easily become a hill to die on.
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"We" could have gotten in trouble? WE? Hell no, HE should have gotten in trouble, and she for her part should run over all the seven hills ahead away from him. This is not normal behavior, not even for arguing.
RUN!!!!! Seriously, get out of there, the relationship I mean, this is typical abusive behaviour. Super nice and attentive till they're not getting what they want, then they "snap" and become nasty, and they blame you for whatever happens then....... You didn't need washing, the smell of coffee will have disappeared within an hour or so, his reaction to you not "obeying" was drastic, and then he gaslighted you in front of the cops and blamed you and is acting the victim?!?!?! RUN RUN RUN XX
When I was 20, I was also locked in the bathroom for hours by my ex husband for hours because he was mad at me. This was right before cell phones were popular. Our relationship eventually escalated to broken bones, hospitals, and more concussions, than I care to admit to. It took me 15 years to escape that animal. He stalked me for years, I have had to move to a different state to hide from him. You need to run as far away from him as possible.
I'm so glad you finally got your freedom, Brooke. No one, absolutely no one, deserves to be treated that way.
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What is wrong with young girls? He locked her in a room for three hours and when she comes out, she lets him lie that it's her fault?!?! It's the fault of whoever raised this child to be a victim, poor wretch. I don't care if she came home smelling of cigarettes and weed, you don't lock people up!
Whatever is wrong with her is only a tiny fraction of what is wrong with him.
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WHY is the OP apologizing to the guy who IMPRISONED HER FOR 3 HOURS?!?!? In WHAT reality does her calling the police for this make HER the A-HOLE?!?!? OP, run, do NOT look back, do NOT apologize, do NOT contact this dude EVER again! Get a restraining order, no contact order, whatever it takes, but do NOT, and I cannot emphasize this enough, do NOT go back to him.
Excuse me, but I’ve never heard of anyone smelling like coffee after being in a coffee shop. Do the people who work in the coffee shop go home smelling like coffee? I think the boyfriend was just using that as an excuse to torture OP. And torture is what locking someone in any room is. OP needs to run, not walk, as far from this guy as she can.
Yes, you will smell like coffee after a few hours in a coffee shop. Baristas come home smelling like coffee just like how fast food workers come home smelling like greasy chicken.
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Why are so few of you mentioning the age gap? At that age, it IS significant and part of his controlling behaviour. Besides the very obvious fact that he's an abuser.
And if they've been dating for 2 years that means that they started dating when she was 18 and he was 25. That's not okay
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What is this had been your child calling for help because she had been locked in the bathroom for hours after studying? RUN,get a domestic restraining order, have the police do a standby while she gets her stuff the block him on everything. He is danger just waiting to happen.
NTA for calling the police. YTA for listening to him lie about what happened and not saying anything.
People in abusive relationships are brainwashed into thinking certain behaviors are within the norm when they aren't. Too easy to judge when on the outside looking in. Speaking from experience. By the time I finally left my ex...in 1982, not one of "our" friends believed he was capable of anything I'd reported. Fortunately, MY friends believed me.
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In all that the part that horrified me most was the female police officer asking if she had BPD, which is a very serious personality disorder. That looks like bias and she should complain in case that's now been recorded somewhere.
Unless it was something he claimed whilst she was getting dressed or otherwise not paying attention due to her headache. The police officer might have been trying to verify the boyfriend's claims, rather than making assumptions.
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Gf had nothing to apologize for, nothing. He should have been charged with assault/battery, false imprisonment ,and domestic violence/ domestic assault.. He is control freak, and has anger and violence issues, I'm talking severe red flags. The fact that she thinks she needs to apologize, thinking she's at fault. 10000% his fau lt. She needs to break up right now ,and kick him out immediately. I think she is in imminent danger.. Along with the rest, she needs a restraining order. And a friend or relative until things settle down. She needs to get him gone to become safer
Why do people put up with or accept these behaviors? Then ask if you are the a-hole? I mean do you honestly have to question this.
My first guess is that he has been subtly manipulating her for quite some time. She also might not have had a lot of dating opportunities before and is trying to save the relationship now that she finally has one. She might have grown up in an abusive household. There are a lot of possible things, but this is, unfortunately, not an uncommon kind of scenario :(
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She better run and run NOW!!! This is just the first step. I'm sure there have been other red flags that she hasn't admitted to seeing.
She won’t leave him. He’s already weakened her into defending him in her very first sentence. She says he’s never like this, she’s in denial. He probably has never been physical yet but has verbally assaulted her. To the point where he’s broken her down enough to blame herself. That’s when the physical abuse comes in. And she won’t leave. She’ll stay until he starts beating her. Hopefully she’ll leave then and make it out alive.
Kidnapping is a serious crime that is prohibited by both federal and state laws. It is commonly defined as the taking of a person against his or her will, or restricting that person to a confined space. Kidnapping can occur in two circumstances. First, it may arise when an individual is removed, against his or her will, from a location and taken to another location. This makes the transportation of the individual an essential element of the crime, and the movement must be more than something slight or inconsequential. However, kidnapping may also occur when an individual is not transported to a new location, but is instead confined against his or her will in a certain space. If the victim is restrained in a manner that restricts his or her freedom of movement, this is enough to constitute kidnapping.
I accidentally took a pen home from the bank when I went in to make a deposit. The teller followed me home and threw a bowling ball through my front window. AITA?
Today you met his real self. The guy you fell in love with doesn’t exist. This abusive a*****e is who he really is. He may pretend to be the loving guy but you are going to see his real self more and more. This is the first time he abused you but it won’t be the last. Run.
Do the smell of coffee linger in clothes and hair like cigarette smoke? First time i heard that.
It's from 11 days ago. On the other hand, her responses suggest that she's having doubts that she was the villain here.
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Run like the wind, girl. Before you know it, he will tie you to a chair and/ or duct tape your wrists, ankles & mouth. Sorry, hon... Your boyfriend is an abuser.
Leave! Never look back. No one who loves you is going to A. Pick a fight over something so trivial. B. Lock you in any room for any length of time C. Then yell at you for his own abusive actions. Seriously... F that guy.
Besides this event, he has been so kind and so good to you? No way. You are seriously in denial. Get help for yourself.
It is upsetting to see so many of these threads of people being abused horribly but still finding a way to think it's their own fault or they could have prevented the actions of an unhinged adult.
What in the ever loving fück did I just read, holy shít nta
per her post, he had been 'kind and good' to her until this incident. not only is this incident a major red flag regarding what he is willing to do to get his way but she also presents a red flag in that she didn't call him out on his fabricated story as to why she was in the bathroom. that behavior on her part seems to be a red flag in that she is willing to let this behavior go and/or cover for him. it is not healthy for her both mentally or emotionally. she's better off kicking him to the curb now.
First off-Dump him. Secondly-that's abuse. Locking you up for 3 hours? No you don't need that kind of bf. I know saying it now but you should have just taken all your property and left. And broke up with him. Did you ever spend so long at that coffee shop that he never mentioned the smell before? Well regardless. File a complaint w the police and get a restraining order. Break it off. He's abusive. What if you didn't have your phone? He lets you out and you go sleep with him like ha ha? No. Not worth his drama. Tell your friends too. They can help support you through this.
"my boyfriend stabbed me and I bled on his new white leather couch, AITA?" - seriously, why does BP always take the AITAs that are plain as a pikestaff? There are way more controversial ones that are way more interesting, but probably, BP doesn't like any controversy. 🙄 as to the topic itself, wow, that's abusive and totally out of place, especially for such a minor thing as coffee-smelling hair.
All I take from this is she is saying sorry, and thinks that SHE may be the AH. Girl, you need to get a backbone - and let it help you run away from this godawful guy, for good. Maaan....
For clarification, is a coffee shop a place to buy and smoke weed (like here in the Netherlands)? The smell is really annoying to non users so I get there part about him asking her to get rid of the smell. Maybe he has bad experiences with d***s. But that doesn't excuse locking someone up! Tell her to shower or leave. But do not lock someone up.
Think it's just a normal coffee place, no weed
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This is the first incident in a long line to come. Run for the hills, run now, run hard and don't look back....
Abuse. Gaslighting. It's absolutely apparent to me that he has done other things but she's not recognised them for what they are. Yet. From the sounds of it she's still not there yet but I am terrified for her safety. I was in an abusive marriage. I Knew I was but it still took a certain incident to Really change my perspective and get out of the relationship. I hope to hell that she is out of this now. What the f**k would he do to her if she took a job in a coffee shop???
Do NOT lie to the police in a situation like this! Remember Gabby Petito. She was vacationing with her boyfriend when they got into an argument. The police intervened, but Gabby swept it all away and said everything was OK. And her boyfriend took her life.
I'm glad he's shown his true colours before they become a serious couple living together. The police obviously didn't belive him and it wa her letting him lie was the only reason for not arresting him.csn you see this relationship if they live together? She would end up being a prisoner in her own home wondering how it got that bad
WHY WOULD SHE LET THAT JACKASS LIE?? She just got abused and she just let him walk away!?! Don’t be blinded by love! Tell the truth and Get his a*s arrested and Ditch him
The issue to him is not the coffee smell, it's that she was out of his control for four hours. He'd have punished her with four hours in the bathroom if the police hadn't been called.
If anyone tried to lock me in their bathroom for three freaking hours? First their door is going to be fked. Then if they get in between me and the exit...they are too. This is straight up psycho stuff. Like literally text book not okay behavior. He's lucky jail is all he had to worry about. She needs to get out. He will hurt her.
She needs to GTFO. Immediately or sooner. This guy is (bleep) looney-tunes and has such massive anger issues he's an active threat.
Why exactly are you seeking his forgiveness rather than getting TF out of there? The man forcibly imprisoned you for 3 hours. And had you not had your phone on you, it would have been a lot longer. All to punish you for something as benign as the smell of coffee. This is not someone who should be in your life.
She must leave him, or have him be arrested. This is horrible, just sickening. I mean, locking someone (and forcefully) just because they hate the smell clinging on them. Either they are just mad or something. Can't they just be patient? It not like it going to cause a catastrophe!
When I was really young, one of my brothers locked me up in his bedroom for a whole afternoon. He also left the house so he wouldn't hear me scream. His reason? He wanted to know if the lock would keep. Yep. That was almost 50 years ago and I still don't lock my bedroom or my bathroom door. I just can't.
NTA... however NOT the brightest crayon in the box either. There was clearly a red flag slapping you in the face when he started having an uproar over the smell of coffee. That is when you should've just left instead of staying to argue with him over literally nothing to be honest. After the incident you lied to the police to prevent him from being arrested for false imprisonment, failed to mention you broke up with him & still referred to him as your boyfriend. If this is real & OP see this don't come crying to social media when your abuser's abusive behavior escalates. 🤨
This post makes me want to bang my head on my desk!! She's the AH because she's so incredibly stupid to not understand what he did was wrong. I really hope it's not true because she's going to have a rough time in life if she's this naive at age 20!
The fact she is even asking AITAH is a red flag. What is wrong with her?
I'm pretty sure this is fake. Reddit is filled with this ragebait c**p. BP has been sharing more and more of the fake ones.
This is the biggest BS article I've seen out of all the BS articles on BP.
"Now I see that wasn't the hill to die on." Already rationalizing that this was in some way her fault. There is no such hill unless you decide to construct one for yourself. I think this young lady has already experienced abuse in her life because she seems conditioned to accept it. I hope she gets out and gets help, fast!
It could have easily become a hill to die on.
Load More Replies... "We" could have gotten in trouble? WE? Hell no, HE should have gotten in trouble, and she for her part should run over all the seven hills ahead away from him. This is not normal behavior, not even for arguing.
RUN!!!!! Seriously, get out of there, the relationship I mean, this is typical abusive behaviour. Super nice and attentive till they're not getting what they want, then they "snap" and become nasty, and they blame you for whatever happens then....... You didn't need washing, the smell of coffee will have disappeared within an hour or so, his reaction to you not "obeying" was drastic, and then he gaslighted you in front of the cops and blamed you and is acting the victim?!?!?! RUN RUN RUN XX
When I was 20, I was also locked in the bathroom for hours by my ex husband for hours because he was mad at me. This was right before cell phones were popular. Our relationship eventually escalated to broken bones, hospitals, and more concussions, than I care to admit to. It took me 15 years to escape that animal. He stalked me for years, I have had to move to a different state to hide from him. You need to run as far away from him as possible.
I'm so glad you finally got your freedom, Brooke. No one, absolutely no one, deserves to be treated that way.
Load More Replies... What is wrong with young girls? He locked her in a room for three hours and when she comes out, she lets him lie that it's her fault?!?! It's the fault of whoever raised this child to be a victim, poor wretch. I don't care if she came home smelling of cigarettes and weed, you don't lock people up!
Whatever is wrong with her is only a tiny fraction of what is wrong with him.
Load More Replies... WHY is the OP apologizing to the guy who IMPRISONED HER FOR 3 HOURS?!?!? In WHAT reality does her calling the police for this make HER the A-HOLE?!?!? OP, run, do NOT look back, do NOT apologize, do NOT contact this dude EVER again! Get a restraining order, no contact order, whatever it takes, but do NOT, and I cannot emphasize this enough, do NOT go back to him.
Excuse me, but I’ve never heard of anyone smelling like coffee after being in a coffee shop. Do the people who work in the coffee shop go home smelling like coffee? I think the boyfriend was just using that as an excuse to torture OP. And torture is what locking someone in any room is. OP needs to run, not walk, as far from this guy as she can.
Yes, you will smell like coffee after a few hours in a coffee shop. Baristas come home smelling like coffee just like how fast food workers come home smelling like greasy chicken.
Load More Replies... Why are so few of you mentioning the age gap? At that age, it IS significant and part of his controlling behaviour. Besides the very obvious fact that he's an abuser.
And if they've been dating for 2 years that means that they started dating when she was 18 and he was 25. That's not okay
Load More Replies... What is this had been your child calling for help because she had been locked in the bathroom for hours after studying? RUN,get a domestic restraining order, have the police do a standby while she gets her stuff the block him on everything. He is danger just waiting to happen.
NTA for calling the police. YTA for listening to him lie about what happened and not saying anything.
People in abusive relationships are brainwashed into thinking certain behaviors are within the norm when they aren't. Too easy to judge when on the outside looking in. Speaking from experience. By the time I finally left my ex...in 1982, not one of "our" friends believed he was capable of anything I'd reported. Fortunately, MY friends believed me.
Load More Replies... In all that the part that horrified me most was the female police officer asking if she had BPD, which is a very serious personality disorder. That looks like bias and she should complain in case that's now been recorded somewhere.
Unless it was something he claimed whilst she was getting dressed or otherwise not paying attention due to her headache. The police officer might have been trying to verify the boyfriend's claims, rather than making assumptions.
Load More Replies... Gf had nothing to apologize for, nothing. He should have been charged with assault/battery, false imprisonment ,and domestic violence/ domestic assault.. He is control freak, and has anger and violence issues, I'm talking severe red flags. The fact that she thinks she needs to apologize, thinking she's at fault. 10000% his fau lt. She needs to break up right now ,and kick him out immediately. I think she is in imminent danger.. Along with the rest, she needs a restraining order. And a friend or relative until things settle down. She needs to get him gone to become safer
Why do people put up with or accept these behaviors? Then ask if you are the a-hole? I mean do you honestly have to question this.
My first guess is that he has been subtly manipulating her for quite some time. She also might not have had a lot of dating opportunities before and is trying to save the relationship now that she finally has one. She might have grown up in an abusive household. There are a lot of possible things, but this is, unfortunately, not an uncommon kind of scenario :(
Load More Replies... She better run and run NOW!!! This is just the first step. I'm sure there have been other red flags that she hasn't admitted to seeing.
She won’t leave him. He’s already weakened her into defending him in her very first sentence. She says he’s never like this, she’s in denial. He probably has never been physical yet but has verbally assaulted her. To the point where he’s broken her down enough to blame herself. That’s when the physical abuse comes in. And she won’t leave. She’ll stay until he starts beating her. Hopefully she’ll leave then and make it out alive.
Kidnapping is a serious crime that is prohibited by both federal and state laws. It is commonly defined as the taking of a person against his or her will, or restricting that person to a confined space. Kidnapping can occur in two circumstances. First, it may arise when an individual is removed, against his or her will, from a location and taken to another location. This makes the transportation of the individual an essential element of the crime, and the movement must be more than something slight or inconsequential. However, kidnapping may also occur when an individual is not transported to a new location, but is instead confined against his or her will in a certain space. If the victim is restrained in a manner that restricts his or her freedom of movement, this is enough to constitute kidnapping.
I accidentally took a pen home from the bank when I went in to make a deposit. The teller followed me home and threw a bowling ball through my front window. AITA?
Today you met his real self. The guy you fell in love with doesn’t exist. This abusive a*****e is who he really is. He may pretend to be the loving guy but you are going to see his real self more and more. This is the first time he abused you but it won’t be the last. Run.
Do the smell of coffee linger in clothes and hair like cigarette smoke? First time i heard that.
It's from 11 days ago. On the other hand, her responses suggest that she's having doubts that she was the villain here.
Load More Replies... Run like the wind, girl. Before you know it, he will tie you to a chair and/ or duct tape your wrists, ankles & mouth. Sorry, hon... Your boyfriend is an abuser.
Leave! Never look back. No one who loves you is going to A. Pick a fight over something so trivial. B. Lock you in any room for any length of time C. Then yell at you for his own abusive actions. Seriously... F that guy.
Besides this event, he has been so kind and so good to you? No way. You are seriously in denial. Get help for yourself.
It is upsetting to see so many of these threads of people being abused horribly but still finding a way to think it's their own fault or they could have prevented the actions of an unhinged adult.
What in the ever loving fück did I just read, holy shít nta
per her post, he had been 'kind and good' to her until this incident. not only is this incident a major red flag regarding what he is willing to do to get his way but she also presents a red flag in that she didn't call him out on his fabricated story as to why she was in the bathroom. that behavior on her part seems to be a red flag in that she is willing to let this behavior go and/or cover for him. it is not healthy for her both mentally or emotionally. she's better off kicking him to the curb now.
First off-Dump him. Secondly-that's abuse. Locking you up for 3 hours? No you don't need that kind of bf. I know saying it now but you should have just taken all your property and left. And broke up with him. Did you ever spend so long at that coffee shop that he never mentioned the smell before? Well regardless. File a complaint w the police and get a restraining order. Break it off. He's abusive. What if you didn't have your phone? He lets you out and you go sleep with him like ha ha? No. Not worth his drama. Tell your friends too. They can help support you through this.
"my boyfriend stabbed me and I bled on his new white leather couch, AITA?" - seriously, why does BP always take the AITAs that are plain as a pikestaff? There are way more controversial ones that are way more interesting, but probably, BP doesn't like any controversy. 🙄 as to the topic itself, wow, that's abusive and totally out of place, especially for such a minor thing as coffee-smelling hair.
All I take from this is she is saying sorry, and thinks that SHE may be the AH. Girl, you need to get a backbone - and let it help you run away from this godawful guy, for good. Maaan....
For clarification, is a coffee shop a place to buy and smoke weed (like here in the Netherlands)? The smell is really annoying to non users so I get there part about him asking her to get rid of the smell. Maybe he has bad experiences with d***s. But that doesn't excuse locking someone up! Tell her to shower or leave. But do not lock someone up.
Think it's just a normal coffee place, no weed
Load More Replies... This is the first incident in a long line to come. Run for the hills, run now, run hard and don't look back....
Abuse. Gaslighting. It's absolutely apparent to me that he has done other things but she's not recognised them for what they are. Yet. From the sounds of it she's still not there yet but I am terrified for her safety. I was in an abusive marriage. I Knew I was but it still took a certain incident to Really change my perspective and get out of the relationship. I hope to hell that she is out of this now. What the f**k would he do to her if she took a job in a coffee shop???
Do NOT lie to the police in a situation like this! Remember Gabby Petito. She was vacationing with her boyfriend when they got into an argument. The police intervened, but Gabby swept it all away and said everything was OK. And her boyfriend took her life.
I'm glad he's shown his true colours before they become a serious couple living together. The police obviously didn't belive him and it wa her letting him lie was the only reason for not arresting him.csn you see this relationship if they live together? She would end up being a prisoner in her own home wondering how it got that bad
WHY WOULD SHE LET THAT JACKASS LIE?? She just got abused and she just let him walk away!?! Don’t be blinded by love! Tell the truth and Get his a*s arrested and Ditch him
The issue to him is not the coffee smell, it's that she was out of his control for four hours. He'd have punished her with four hours in the bathroom if the police hadn't been called.
If anyone tried to lock me in their bathroom for three freaking hours? First their door is going to be fked. Then if they get in between me and the exit...they are too. This is straight up psycho stuff. Like literally text book not okay behavior. He's lucky jail is all he had to worry about. She needs to get out. He will hurt her.
She needs to GTFO. Immediately or sooner. This guy is (bleep) looney-tunes and has such massive anger issues he's an active threat.
Why exactly are you seeking his forgiveness rather than getting TF out of there? The man forcibly imprisoned you for 3 hours. And had you not had your phone on you, it would have been a lot longer. All to punish you for something as benign as the smell of coffee. This is not someone who should be in your life.
She must leave him, or have him be arrested. This is horrible, just sickening. I mean, locking someone (and forcefully) just because they hate the smell clinging on them. Either they are just mad or something. Can't they just be patient? It not like it going to cause a catastrophe!
When I was really young, one of my brothers locked me up in his bedroom for a whole afternoon. He also left the house so he wouldn't hear me scream. His reason? He wanted to know if the lock would keep. Yep. That was almost 50 years ago and I still don't lock my bedroom or my bathroom door. I just can't.
NTA... however NOT the brightest crayon in the box either. There was clearly a red flag slapping you in the face when he started having an uproar over the smell of coffee. That is when you should've just left instead of staying to argue with him over literally nothing to be honest. After the incident you lied to the police to prevent him from being arrested for false imprisonment, failed to mention you broke up with him & still referred to him as your boyfriend. If this is real & OP see this don't come crying to social media when your abuser's abusive behavior escalates. 🤨
This post makes me want to bang my head on my desk!! She's the AH because she's so incredibly stupid to not understand what he did was wrong. I really hope it's not true because she's going to have a rough time in life if she's this naive at age 20!
The fact she is even asking AITAH is a red flag. What is wrong with her?
I'm pretty sure this is fake. Reddit is filled with this ragebait c**p. BP has been sharing more and more of the fake ones.
This is the biggest BS article I've seen out of all the BS articles on BP.
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