Man Keeps Finding A Reason To Visit Ex’s House, GF Loses It After He Goes There To Charge Phone

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, and without it, the bond won’t last long. When partners have to constantly question their loved one’s motives or keep track of them, it shows that there are much deeper issues below the surface.

This is what a woman began to realize when her boyfriend kept finding ways to spend time with his ex. He didn’t like it when she questioned him about his behavior, so he tried to gaslight her into accepting his actions. She just couldn’t take it anymore.

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When people have to constantly be on guard with their partner and worry about what they are doing, the relationship becomes toxic

Boyfriend sleeping in a dim bedroom at ex-girlfriend’s house, wrapped in blankets with phone left charging nearby.

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The poster mentioned that her boyfriend had been sick, and since he hadn’t changed his address, his insurance paperwork got sent to his ex’s house

Boyfriend visiting ex-gf’s house to use bathroom and charge his phone during illness and address update.

Text on screen showing a message about boyfriend's ex-gf bringing phone charger to his house bathroom.

Text excerpt describing a boyfriend visiting ex-gf house bathroom to charge phone while staying for a few hours.

Couple lying together in bed at home with boyfriend embracing ex-girlfriend in a cozy bedroom setting.

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The man’s ex offered to bring him his insurance card and take him to the hospital, but the poster felt uncomfortable with that and refused the help

Text describing a boyfriend at his ex-girlfriend’s house bathroom trying to charge his phone after it died.

Text message conversation about boyfriend at ex-gf house using bathroom and phone on charge, explaining missed call.

Text about boyfriend's ex-gf and current relationship details, mentioning house, bathroom, and phone charge.

Woman talking on phone while working on laptop at home, with child in background near couch, holding phone to charge.

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Later on, the woman got to know that her boyfriend had gone to his ex’s house to use the bathroom and charge his phone, as he didn’t return her calls for hours

Text excerpt about boyfriend's ex-gf and house bathroom phone charge communication issues.

Text about boyfriend and ex-gf still connected by phone plan, with his stuff left at her house and unresolved ties.

Text expressing frustration about boyfriend not understanding feelings after ex-gf bathroom phone charge incident.

Text message on phone screen asking about breaking up with boyfriend in his ex-gf's house bathroom while phone needs charge

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The poster shared screenshots of a text exchange where her boyfriend kept trying to convince her that she was blowing things out of proportion

Text message conversation about urgent care video visit on phone, boyfriend ex-gf house bathroom phone charge context.

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Text message conversation about phone charging and relationship concerns between boyfriend and ex-girlfriend in house bathroom setting.

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Text message exchange about meds, stomach issues, and feelings while boyfriend’s ex-gf is at the house bathroom charging phone.

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Text message conversation showing tension between a boyfriend and ex-gf at house bathroom about phone charge.

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The woman felt hurt by his actions and thought about breaking up since he had been back and forth between them for years

The poster shared that her boyfriend had been sick for a while and that his insurance paperwork had to be sent. Since he hadn’t changed his information from his ex’s house, all of it got sent to her. He didn’t seem to be bothered by the situation and was okay to have her also involved in the process.

Most people who stay in contact with their ex might do so because of unresolved feelings. Either they might still have lingering romantic thoughts about the person, or not know how to process what happened between them. These emotions can end up causing problems for them when they enter new relationships.

The poster could see that her boyfriend was too closely connected to his ex. The other woman offered to bring his insurance card and take him to the emergency room. The man didn’t stop his ex from connecting with him, and he also went out of his way to go to her house. His excuse was that he needed to charge his phone and use the bathroom.

It seems like the man didn’t want to give up his relationship with his previous girlfriend. He was still stringing her along and enjoying her company, even though it hurt his partner. According to research, it was observed that around 40% of people still keep in touch with their ex, and out of that, 13% talk to their ex several times a week, which means that it’s more common than one would expect.

Text message exchange about boyfriend going to ex-girlfriend’s house bathroom to charge phone during a breakup argument.

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The poster lamented that her boyfriend had been going back and forth between her and his past girlfriend for years. Despite having a kid with the OP, the man seemed to treat both of his relationships equally. He also kept half of his stuff at her house. It seems like the couple had broken up a few times over this issue, and had recently just gotten back together.

The woman confronted her partner over the issue, but he dismissed her concerns. He kept trying to normalize his behavior and how much time he was spending with his ex. This obviously made the poster feel annoyed and hurt. She didn’t know whether to break up with him or stick it out.

It’s clear that the man wasn’t admitting to his mistakes. Experts say that when a person gaslights their partner or gets defensive when their mistakes are brought up, it is often a glaring red flag. Couples who aren’t able to have honest conversations struggle with their bond and eventually might not be able to sustain their connection.

The woman just seemed to be a placeholder for her boyfriend. Based on what she shared about him, he kept flitting between her and his ex. He didn’t seem to value either of them enough to cut off ties, and so he played both of them like a fiddle. Hopefully, after reading the comments, the woman might end things with her toxic boyfriend and find someone who values her.

What advice would you give to this woman? Do share your honest thoughts in the comments below.

People confronted the woman on why she kept giving the man so many chances, and they also urged her to leave

Red smartphone charging on a bathroom counter in a house, next to a boyfriend and his ex-gf's belongings.

Text message conversation showing manipulative behavior warning about boyfriend ex-gf house bathroom phone charge situation.

Text post discussing trust issues with boyfriend-ex-gf in the house bathroom while phone is charging.

Screenshot of a comment discussing a boyfriend, referencing ex-gf's house bathroom and phone charge situation.

Man charging phone in a bathroom at his boyfriend's ex-girlfriend house, focusing on the phone and charger connection.

Comment from Swarm_of_Rats expressing concern about staying with a boyfriend-ex-gf situation and its impact on a child.

Reddit comment discussing boyfriend ex-gf house bathroom phone charge and emotional manipulation in a relationship conversation.

Comment about boyfriend, ex-gf house bathroom phone charge and being a second choice in a relationship.

Screenshot of a Reddit comment discussing relationship issues about boyfriend and ex-gf in her house bathroom phone charge situation.

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