Guy Thinks He Can Mess Around On GF While She’s Out Of Town, Gets Busted By Hidden Camera

The strongest and most stable relationships usually have one thing in common, and that is that they’re often built on trust and honest communication. If one of these things is missing between partners, it tends to create suspicion and can lead to many conflicts over time.

This is exactly what happened when a woman caught her boyfriend in a lie about his ex, which pushed her to set up a hidden camera in their house. Through it, she got to know that he had invited a woman over just as soon as she left for her holiday.

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When a person keeps lying to their partner over and over again, it’s time to figure out if the relationship is worth it anymore

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The poster shared that she became suspicious of what her boyfriend Nick was doing when they had gone to a music festival, and he kept returning to bed late

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Through the woman’s sleuthing, she found out that Nick had contacted his ex during the music festival, so she urged him to be more honest with her

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Since the woman was going out of town for Thanksgiving, she warned Nick not to bring any women to their house, especially his female coworker Claire

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The poster felt uneasy before leaving, so she hid a camera in the house, and later caught Nick bringing Claire over for drinks

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The poster’s trust in her boyfriend was completely broken, so she made him go to therapy, as well as pay for her counseling and their couples therapy

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The poster couldn’t believe Nick’s actions and even texted his ex to find out how far he had taken things with her when he met her at the music festival

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What hurt the woman the most was that she had previous trauma from infidelity related to coworkers, which is why Nick’s betrayal stung so much

The OP explained that she and Nick had been dating for a while and that their relationship was pretty perfect. Since they already lived together and had a 5-month-old baby, they were also planning to get married soon. That was until she began catching him in lies, especially when he tried to hide that he had contacted his ex.

Usually, when people stay in touch with their exes, there is not much to worry about, but psychologists say it can be concerning if they fib about it, become defensive, or question your concerns. This kind of behavior is a red flag that must be addressed immediately so that there is honest communication in the relationship.

The poster also wanted her boyfriend to be truthful rather than hiding stuff from her, but she couldn’t bring herself to trust him just yet. So, just before leaving for her holiday, she decided to hide a camera in their house just to check up on him. She also warned him not to invite any female friends over, especially his colleague Claire.

Even though the lady had her suspicions about her partner’s behavior, by secretly hiding a camera in their house, she had also broken his trust. Many experts point out that some people use their boundaries to manipulate their loved ones and assert control over their actions, just like this woman seemed to be doing.

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The main reason why the OP had forbidden Nick from bringing women over to the house and had kept the camera in their living room was because she had been cheated on in past relationships. She especially didn’t want him to spend time alone with his coworker Claire for that same reason.

According to mental health professionals, a person’s past trauma in relationships can impact their trust and can also cause them to become paranoid about their partner’s actions. If they give in to their paranoid thoughts, it can end up causing conflicts and lead to unnecessary arguments, especially if their loved one isn’t doing anything wrong.

In this case, though, Nick did bring Claire over to the house as soon as the OP left for her trip, and he kept lying about her being there until he found the camera his girlfriend had hidden. Unfortunately, despite having gone through such a big betrayal, the poster didn’t feel comfortable ending things with Nick because of their baby.

Even though it might seem sensible to cut one’s losses in situations like this, studies have found that nearly one-third of couples in conflict stay together solely because of their children. The problem is that individuals might be trying to prioritize their kids’ happiness, but their troubled relationship ends up causing the little ones even more pain.

Hopefully, the OP and her boyfriend are able to figure things out and rebuild trust in their relationship, otherwise, they might just find themselves making the same mistakes later on.

What do you think about the situation, and what advice do you have for the OP? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

People told the woman to leave Nick as soon as possible and that she shouldn’t stay with him just because of their child

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