Guy’s Relationship With Female Colleague Heads For Work-Wife Territory, Real Wife Shuts It Down

Wise people say sometimes, “Every cloud has a silver lining,” and it really does work in many cases. For example, in situations where one small problem actually helps avoid or solve another much bigger and much more serious one.

Here’s further proof of this worldly wisdom – this story from the user u/mi-dynasty, who was initially shocked by the disrespectful behavior of her husband’s female colleague during her own birthday party, but then this incident led her to other, more serious suspicions about her relationship with her spouse. However, let’s not get ahead of ourselves.

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When we face some issue in our lives, we sometimes don’t even realize that it could actually bring us a solution to another way more serious problem – and this story is more proof of this

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The author of the post is happily married, but recently her husband became the cause of real trouble that nearly shook their entire marriage

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The man invited some of his colleagues to his wife’s birthday party, and one of them, a young lady, literally clung to him all night long

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The author started suspecting something serious between them, but the man just brushed off all her words of worry, claiming that she was just a friend, nothing more

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So the woman was in two minds on what to do with this, especially since the question of the husband’s possible affair was left open

So, the original poster (OP) says that she’s now 28 years old, and her husband is four years older. A couple of years ago, for his wife’s birthday, the guy asked if he could invite some of his colleagues. The lady agreed – but the guests didn’t really bring her any joy. On the contrary, one of her husband’s colleagues, whom the author calls “Day,” literally clung to him all night long.

The husband was quite tipsy that night, and he’s generally a very open, naive, and friendly person, so he didn’t suspect anything unusual in her behavior. For our heroine, the entire evening became a real test of willpower, so in the end, she just asked the guests to leave.

However, after this, as she discovered, Day kept showing increasing interest in the author’s husband, literally trying to talk to him more and more. Our heroine attempted to discuss this with her spouse several times, but he stubbornly refused to understand the reasons for her concerns, calling Day simply a friend, and nothing more.

Day later quit her job at the company where the author’s husband works, but, coincidentally, some time later, she found herself delivering a cake for the OP’s family celebration. The woman tried to strike up a conversation with our heroine’s husband, but she gently but firmly pushed him aside, paid for the order, and closed the door.

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“Apparently, this lady was indeed confronted by another woman’s outright attempt to become her husband’s mistress,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda contacted for a comment on this case. “And, fortunately, she intervened in time to dispel the intrigues woven around their family.”

Regarding the author’s husband’s behavior, the expert is almost certain that he just couldn’t have realized the true reasons for his colleague’s behavior and could’ve considered her just a friend. The fact is that different people have different levels of “reading” nonverbal cues, and some of us just don’t recognize the interest directed toward us or the real reason for such interest.

“Psychologists do believe that men are actually way worse at reading nonverbal cues than women. This has often been the cause of various conflicts in relationships, because women sometimes couldn’t even believe their partner was so ‘deaf’ to their reactions. So, if there was no affair here, let’s hope this will be a great lesson for the couple for the future,” Irina Matveeva concludes.

By the way, in an update to the post, our heroine also noted that she conducted a detailed investigation into the incident and found that there was indeed no affair between her husband and Day. They had a frank conversation later, and the man finally realized how much pain he had truly caused her with this.

So, when the couple later ran into Day again at some friendly party, the man flatly refused to dance with her after being invited. The author’s husband politely but firmly asked the woman to leave him alone, and she left in tears. Well, let’s hope things get better for this couple from now on. And do you, our dear readers, agree with this as well?

In the update, the author added that she finally found out that there was no affair at all, and the man apologized to her and even gave the woman a brush-off in public

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