Bodybuilder Claims His Physique Is Natural, The Truth Comes Out When His Wife Wants To Have A Baby
When your partner tells you something, it’s only natural to take their words at face value. Why would you assume that they’re lying? But sometimes, it is wise to push back to ensure that they’re not hiding anything. Otherwise, you might be stuck with regrets years later when the truth finally comes out.
This woman’s husband had been hiding his steroid use from her for years. When she finally found out, she believed that she had shut it down. But apparently, there was more to the story. Below, you’ll find a post that she recently shared on Reddit seeking advice, as well as some of the replies invested readers left her.
This woman’s bodybuilding husband swore that he stopped taking Testosterone when they got married
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But now that they’re trying to have a child, the truth has come out
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Later, the author responded to a couple of readers and shared more details about her situation
Steroid use is extremely prevalent in the bodybuilding world
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If you’re familiar with the bodybuilding world, you know that it’s often more about appearances than health. Yes, it’s important to be strong and lean. But many bodybuilders have no problem making certain sacrifices that can negatively impact their health to win a gold medal.
According to the UK Anti-Doping agency, over one million people in the country are currently taking steroids. And one young bodybuilder told the BBC that he believes 90% of his peers are doing so. Meanwhile, an online survey found that 75% of male gym users had considered taking steroids to bulk up.
Unsurprisingly, bodybuilders are under extreme pressure to sculpt their bodies into the “perfect” form. Even plenty of men who aren’t competing feel the need to grow their muscles. It’s estimated that 10% of men in the gym have “bigorexia,” or muscle dysmorphia.
“Muscle dysmorphia is a preoccupation with the idea that one isn’t big enough, isn’t muscular enough,” Rob Willson, chair of the Body Dysmorphic Disorder Foundation, told the BBC. “There are thousands upon thousands with it, who are going to be excessively concerned about their appearance, having very poor self-esteem, and also feeling very anxious and very worried.”
This can take a huge toll on an individual’s mental health, often leading to depression and sometimes even athletes taking their own lives.
Now, there are valid reasons for taking anabolic steroids. They can be used to treat delayed puberty in teen boys, certain types of breast cancer in women, endometriosis, osteoporosis, primary male hypogonadism, and more. But like any other medication, it doesn’t come without risks.
Misusing anabolic steroids can be dangerous
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The Cleveland Clinic warns that taking anabolic steroids, such as Testosterone, can cause acne or oily skin, ankle swelling, stimulation of the prostate, breast enlargement in men, worsening of sleep apnea, and changes to a woman’s menstrual cycle.
Meanwhile, individuals who misuse these medications can experience even more serious side effects. These can include high blood pressure, blood clots, heart issues, stroke, liver damage, male-pattern baldness, aggression, mania, and delusions. And, as the author of this story found out the hard way, infertility.
Orange County Urology Associates reports that, in many cases, taking anabolic steroids can have a devastating impact on a man’s fertility. The risk of this happening will increase the longer someone uses these substances. While stopping steroid use can help a man increase his chances of having a child, it will take time for his fertility to recover.
He may be able to speed up the process by taking natural supplements, such as zinc, folic acid and CoQ10. But it will be wise for him to consult a doctor and create the best course of action with their guidance.
It’s also important to note that many users who decide to stop taking anabolic steroids will experience withdrawal and will have to detox. This can be a painful process which can last anywhere from a few days to two weeks.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. What would you do if you were suddenly in the author’s shoes? Then, if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article discussing similar marital drama, we’ve got the perfect article to check out next right here.
Some readers were brutally honest with the woman, noting that it won’t be easy for her husband to quit cold turkey
And others left supportive replies, warning the author that her husband is exhibiting major red flags
Meanwhile, some readers thought that both spouses had made poor decisions
And finally, some called out the author for judging her husband for his steroid use
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The 0.01cm peen didn't give it away? /s Huge difference between being a bodybuilder (genuine) and just taking T to look like a beef-cake.
As a cisgender hetero female who appreciates the male body (both naturally-muscular and not; I think both "forms" are attractive) I REALLY find the "roid bro"/testosterone gymbro look to be not just unattractive but downright repulsive. It sort of triggers this almost-instinctive "there is something wrong with you" séxual non-attraction. I've never been interested in procreation or having children, but (I think) I still have that lizard-brain attraction to "this physical specimen would make a good sire for your offspring" thing, lol. And for whatever reason, those super triangular-shaped gymbros just... repulse me. You'd think that, since they're muscular, that would tell my brain "this male is strong and can protecc you and your offspring", but nope XD
Load More Replies...Most people on T, look like they're on T. I'm so unattracted to it. It looks dysmorphic. How can you be with a "body builder" and not know he's on T. You can't even compete in body building unless you're on T. Real men's bodies look like Chuck Norris used to look. Not like Arnold Schwartzenegger.
Yeah, she's been lying to herself as much as he has been. I have dated a few bigger guys, but they have all been more the muscular rugby player build, rather than body builder, so they were still a little squishy at the edges. Much more attractive in my opinion.
Load More Replies...Don't raise a child with this man. He isn't honest, he isn't interested in getting help and long term recreational T use, interfere with mood regulation and is known to cause even more severe psychological effects. As he gets older, he's going to up the dose to combat natural aging. Don't subject a child to a dishonest relationship, or especially with d***s and mood instability in the mix
But much more than that are the horror stories about people abusing roids. The most famous among them may be the wrestler (it’s always wrestlers) Chris Benoît; he killled his wife and children and then himself. The documentary “Bigger, Stronger, Faster” is about a family of (five, if memory serves) brothers who went into wrestling and roided up to their eyeballs. Four (again, if memory serves; I think it does) didn’t make it to middle age. There’s a movie right now on Netflix about the same family. People who a***e roids turn into literal monsters, beating up their loved ones and hulking out at the slightest provocation, or no provocation at all. (If I were a man, like Stallone or Schwarzenegger, I’d go on a rampage on my mirror because my testices are the size of petit pois.) Lying in and of itself is bad enough, but pile all the PEDs on, too? I don’t care what his redeeming qualities are (I really doubt he has many anymore) aren’t worth what lies in his future, and perhaps hers, too.
Load More Replies...This man is essentially a d**g a****t and a pathological liar. Do NOT have children with him, leave him immediately. You will be very sorry if you don't. He is entirely untrustworthy.
Stop trying to get pregnant. Your relationship is not in a good place to add a child, and he's not ready to be a father. You are both in need of some individual and couples therapy and heart searching to work out whether you are going to be a compatible. Things you need to acknowledge: He has a body image disorder and a d**g a*******n, both of which he is lying to you about. His long term d**g use, (T, and most likely steroids as well) is likely going to have long term heath implications. Also, he may not be medically safe to stop T after becoming homonally dependant on it. He could need a supervised maintenance dose for the rest of his life. Having T at hand for this, and continuing to body build, or even maintain a muscle physique during natural aging, could very easily lead to him abusing d***s again. Does he want to stop being a muscle bro? It doesn't sound that way. He's been lying to you for years about the d***s, and his muscles sound like a major part of his self identity.
There is no relationship with a liar. Even when you know they are lying. Even when they blame you for lying. There is no ability to communicate, trust, or effectively plan when one person is a liar. Lying rarely stays about 'just one thing.' Lies multiply to all sorts of things. And for the people saying that Testosterone/Steroids aren't such a big deal, at the very minimum they have k****d his body's ability to make s***m and his sense of morality about habitually lying to his wife. Those are just going to be the two starter side effects.
His body, his choice. But that's no excuse to lie. And taking testosterone DOES have health risks, for him and for any child he might somehow manage to father despite destroying his s***m count. Choices have consequences; his are going to end in divorce, and that's entirely his own fault.
Steroids are f kin dangerous, and tbh men look awful so pumped up, (ex gym instructor ) I loathed it lol ,natural muscles are far nicer , plus roids make men in to a b u s I ve pos , 15 yrs of this ,means coming off it will be much like coming off H !!! hard going , ,he’s lied n lied , to you , having kids is not a wise idea ! cos he ain’t the kinda bloke you want to in all honestly , as some said roids can affect the baby in the womb to , the only person this bloke loves is himself end off , go to marriage counselling, first off n go from there , NTA
It's his body, his choice, but that also applies to OP. If OP wants to have kids and the person she wants to have those kids with shows by his actions that he is not interested in that, it's time to leave him. It doesn't matter that he lied or that she was willfully blind to what he was doing: if you want kids and the person you're married to is not into that, you should find someone who follows the same path as you. Just don't argue about who's wrong and who's right: get a divorce and find someone else.
Roids are great for building a physique and increasing some types of athletic performance. But, they increase the risk of cancer, cause hair loss (one reason there are so many bullet head LEOs), cause testicular shrinkage, cause sterility (firing blanks), and psychoses. Should not be kept a secret and should not be around kids. That said an attempt at therapy should be made. However, also talk to an attorney. He could rage out at any moment if under stress.
You married a bigamist. HE WAS ALREADY MARRIED - TO STEROIDS. You're "2nd Fiddle" to his steroid a*******n
Fúcking typical Panda. They censor the word spérm, because it might cause... what? Rápe? Panda is the Puritan village idiot.
Married a lying d**g a******d narcissist who proved himself to be so more than once. Look at the gun in your hand, look at the hole in your foot. We'll wait.
BP really needs to get out of the asterisks censorship game. I'm all for sensitivity, but this article was about a relationship threatened by a*******n, and anyone who is going to be triggered by the word "a*******n" is going to pick up on that very quickly - so you haven't really done anyone any favors. Plus at a certain point, we need to self-police - so instead of blanking out every word, do us a favor and just put a warning at the top of the article, and trust that your audience will make the right decision.
edit to say I was not the one who asterisked my words. obviously.
Load More Replies...People who have addictions are the best liars on earth and do not change. Good luck.
Hmm why is he lying to her ? That is despicable. Unless i am mistaken, here T is testosterone? That is not a d**g... It is a hormone that affects fertility, among other things. Since he is lying... now, one can't be sure if the infertility is the cause or effect of supplement testosterone...
Did you see all the comments from other men who are currently (or have in the past) on testosterone supplements who SAY that it reduces fertility because it reduces spérm production? Being on supplemental testosterone (for the purposes of muscle-building) is the CAUSE of the infertility. When a man is on TRT (testosterone), their brain detects the unnaturally high levels of the hormone and then signals the pituitary gland to stop producing luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH). Both of those are required to produce spérm. Being on external testosterone is absolutely 100% the reason why this man has a low/zero spérm count.
Load More Replies...The 0.01cm peen didn't give it away? /s Huge difference between being a bodybuilder (genuine) and just taking T to look like a beef-cake.
As a cisgender hetero female who appreciates the male body (both naturally-muscular and not; I think both "forms" are attractive) I REALLY find the "roid bro"/testosterone gymbro look to be not just unattractive but downright repulsive. It sort of triggers this almost-instinctive "there is something wrong with you" séxual non-attraction. I've never been interested in procreation or having children, but (I think) I still have that lizard-brain attraction to "this physical specimen would make a good sire for your offspring" thing, lol. And for whatever reason, those super triangular-shaped gymbros just... repulse me. You'd think that, since they're muscular, that would tell my brain "this male is strong and can protecc you and your offspring", but nope XD
Load More Replies...Most people on T, look like they're on T. I'm so unattracted to it. It looks dysmorphic. How can you be with a "body builder" and not know he's on T. You can't even compete in body building unless you're on T. Real men's bodies look like Chuck Norris used to look. Not like Arnold Schwartzenegger.
Yeah, she's been lying to herself as much as he has been. I have dated a few bigger guys, but they have all been more the muscular rugby player build, rather than body builder, so they were still a little squishy at the edges. Much more attractive in my opinion.
Load More Replies...Don't raise a child with this man. He isn't honest, he isn't interested in getting help and long term recreational T use, interfere with mood regulation and is known to cause even more severe psychological effects. As he gets older, he's going to up the dose to combat natural aging. Don't subject a child to a dishonest relationship, or especially with d***s and mood instability in the mix
But much more than that are the horror stories about people abusing roids. The most famous among them may be the wrestler (it’s always wrestlers) Chris Benoît; he killled his wife and children and then himself. The documentary “Bigger, Stronger, Faster” is about a family of (five, if memory serves) brothers who went into wrestling and roided up to their eyeballs. Four (again, if memory serves; I think it does) didn’t make it to middle age. There’s a movie right now on Netflix about the same family. People who a***e roids turn into literal monsters, beating up their loved ones and hulking out at the slightest provocation, or no provocation at all. (If I were a man, like Stallone or Schwarzenegger, I’d go on a rampage on my mirror because my testices are the size of petit pois.) Lying in and of itself is bad enough, but pile all the PEDs on, too? I don’t care what his redeeming qualities are (I really doubt he has many anymore) aren’t worth what lies in his future, and perhaps hers, too.
Load More Replies...This man is essentially a d**g a****t and a pathological liar. Do NOT have children with him, leave him immediately. You will be very sorry if you don't. He is entirely untrustworthy.
Stop trying to get pregnant. Your relationship is not in a good place to add a child, and he's not ready to be a father. You are both in need of some individual and couples therapy and heart searching to work out whether you are going to be a compatible. Things you need to acknowledge: He has a body image disorder and a d**g a*******n, both of which he is lying to you about. His long term d**g use, (T, and most likely steroids as well) is likely going to have long term heath implications. Also, he may not be medically safe to stop T after becoming homonally dependant on it. He could need a supervised maintenance dose for the rest of his life. Having T at hand for this, and continuing to body build, or even maintain a muscle physique during natural aging, could very easily lead to him abusing d***s again. Does he want to stop being a muscle bro? It doesn't sound that way. He's been lying to you for years about the d***s, and his muscles sound like a major part of his self identity.
There is no relationship with a liar. Even when you know they are lying. Even when they blame you for lying. There is no ability to communicate, trust, or effectively plan when one person is a liar. Lying rarely stays about 'just one thing.' Lies multiply to all sorts of things. And for the people saying that Testosterone/Steroids aren't such a big deal, at the very minimum they have k****d his body's ability to make s***m and his sense of morality about habitually lying to his wife. Those are just going to be the two starter side effects.
His body, his choice. But that's no excuse to lie. And taking testosterone DOES have health risks, for him and for any child he might somehow manage to father despite destroying his s***m count. Choices have consequences; his are going to end in divorce, and that's entirely his own fault.
Steroids are f kin dangerous, and tbh men look awful so pumped up, (ex gym instructor ) I loathed it lol ,natural muscles are far nicer , plus roids make men in to a b u s I ve pos , 15 yrs of this ,means coming off it will be much like coming off H !!! hard going , ,he’s lied n lied , to you , having kids is not a wise idea ! cos he ain’t the kinda bloke you want to in all honestly , as some said roids can affect the baby in the womb to , the only person this bloke loves is himself end off , go to marriage counselling, first off n go from there , NTA
It's his body, his choice, but that also applies to OP. If OP wants to have kids and the person she wants to have those kids with shows by his actions that he is not interested in that, it's time to leave him. It doesn't matter that he lied or that she was willfully blind to what he was doing: if you want kids and the person you're married to is not into that, you should find someone who follows the same path as you. Just don't argue about who's wrong and who's right: get a divorce and find someone else.
Roids are great for building a physique and increasing some types of athletic performance. But, they increase the risk of cancer, cause hair loss (one reason there are so many bullet head LEOs), cause testicular shrinkage, cause sterility (firing blanks), and psychoses. Should not be kept a secret and should not be around kids. That said an attempt at therapy should be made. However, also talk to an attorney. He could rage out at any moment if under stress.
You married a bigamist. HE WAS ALREADY MARRIED - TO STEROIDS. You're "2nd Fiddle" to his steroid a*******n
Fúcking typical Panda. They censor the word spérm, because it might cause... what? Rápe? Panda is the Puritan village idiot.
Married a lying d**g a******d narcissist who proved himself to be so more than once. Look at the gun in your hand, look at the hole in your foot. We'll wait.
BP really needs to get out of the asterisks censorship game. I'm all for sensitivity, but this article was about a relationship threatened by a*******n, and anyone who is going to be triggered by the word "a*******n" is going to pick up on that very quickly - so you haven't really done anyone any favors. Plus at a certain point, we need to self-police - so instead of blanking out every word, do us a favor and just put a warning at the top of the article, and trust that your audience will make the right decision.
edit to say I was not the one who asterisked my words. obviously.
Load More Replies...People who have addictions are the best liars on earth and do not change. Good luck.
Hmm why is he lying to her ? That is despicable. Unless i am mistaken, here T is testosterone? That is not a d**g... It is a hormone that affects fertility, among other things. Since he is lying... now, one can't be sure if the infertility is the cause or effect of supplement testosterone...
Did you see all the comments from other men who are currently (or have in the past) on testosterone supplements who SAY that it reduces fertility because it reduces spérm production? Being on supplemental testosterone (for the purposes of muscle-building) is the CAUSE of the infertility. When a man is on TRT (testosterone), their brain detects the unnaturally high levels of the hormone and then signals the pituitary gland to stop producing luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH). Both of those are required to produce spérm. Being on external testosterone is absolutely 100% the reason why this man has a low/zero spérm count.
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