Bestie Spreads Rumors About Woman’s BF Cheating, She Cuts Her Off And Shares Update 1 Year Later

Friendships are based on trust, and that’s what keeps the bond strong even during the toughest moments. If one person tries to sabotage the relationship out of jealousy or insecurity, it can break this special connection very fast.

This is what a woman realized when she found out about the kind of rumors her friend was spreading about her boyfriend. She couldn’t understand why her bestie was doing such a thing, but she soon learned that it was better to just end the friendship.

More info: Reddit

Friends are supposed to stick up for one another, not spread gossip behind each other’s backs

Two women talking outdoors, one smiling and holding a drink, illustrating best friend sabotage in relationship with bf.

Image credits: Ivan Samkov / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The poster shared that she became best friends with a woman from work, and that the same friend set her up with a man from another department

Text post revealing a best friend sabotage relationship with boyfriend cheating rumors shared among friends.

Text excerpt explaining a friendship and early crush, highlighting best friend sabotage in a relationship with boyfriend context.

Text excerpt discussing a couple set up by coworkers, highlighting best friend sabotage in a relationship with a boyfriend.

Text describing relationship issues where best friend coldness causes tension, representing best friend sabotage in a relationship.

Text on a plain background discussing an issue in a relationship related to best friend sabotage.

Text about studying for the MCAT and dealing with a boyfriend’s chronic illness flare-up affecting the relationship.

Text excerpt showing a conversation about a boyfriend consulting a best friend, hinting at best friend sabotage in relationship.

Text discussing a best friend’s attempt to sabotage a relationship by contacting someone about a personal issue.

Text passage describing a best friend’s reaction affecting a relationship and ongoing conflict with a boyfriend.

Text excerpt about best friend sabotage in a relationship, highlighting conflicts with boyfriend George.

Two friends laughing on a couch, sharing popcorn while discussing best friend sabotage in a relationship.

Image credits: MART PRODUCTION / Pexels (not the actual photo)

Over time, it seemed like the poster’s friend disliked her boyfriend and felt she was choosing him over her, so she became much more closed off

Text excerpt discussing best friend sabotage relationship BF and balancing time between boyfriend and friends.

Text discussing efforts to improve friendship amid feelings of neglect linked to best friend sabotage relationship bf issues.

Text describing a best friend sabotage relationship with excuses and last-minute cancellations affecting trust.

Text describing a best friend sabotage relationship with a boyfriend, highlighting feelings of hurt and rejection.

Text describing workplace tension as a best friend sabotage relationship impacts collaboration and task sharing.

Text excerpt describing feeling sabotaged by a best friend in a relationship with a boyfriend, expressing exhaustion and mistrust.

Text excerpt discussing patience and waiting during an internship, relating to best friend sabotage in a relationship with a boyfriend.

Text excerpt about best friend sabotage in a relationship, revealing betrayal and suspicion between friends and boyfriend.

Text describing a best friend sabotaging a relationship by calling late, sending inappropriate texts, and eyeing her at a party.

Text on a white background discussing trust issues and lies in a best friend sabotage relationship with boyfriend.

Stressed woman holding head in hands, showing emotional strain in a best friend sabotage relationship with boyfriend context.

Image credits: Mizuno K / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The poster also found out that her friend had been spreading rumors at work about her boyfriend, saying that he was having an affair with her

Text excerpt showing suspicion about a best friend’s sabotage in a relationship involving accusations of infidelity.

Text excerpt discussing how a best friend sabotaged the relationship by spreading false betrayal rumors.

Text about feeling crushed discovering a best friend’s sabotage in a relationship with boyfriend revealed to others.

Text describing feelings of betrayal and rage caused by best friend sabotage in a relationship with boyfriend.

Text discussing feelings of betrayal and whether to cut off friends highlights best friend sabotage in a relationship with boyfriend.

Image credits: u/Puzzleheaded_Tart693

A year later, the woman shared an update, saying that her friend’s rumors didn’t affect her work life at all; in fact, she flourished, and so did her relationship

Text update about best friend sabotage relationship bf revealing betrayal and attempts to ruin trust in boyfriend.

Text excerpt about internship ending quietly, reflecting on not confronting Ellen or HR, hinting at best friend sabotage relationship bf.

Text on a white background discussing a deteriorated personal relationship causing hostility and issues at work.

Text excerpt about work experience and recommendation, relevant to best friend sabotage relationship bf discussions.

Text on a white background describing acceptance to a top school and a strong relationship plan to marry after studies.

Person using a laptop and notebook at a table with coffee and flowers, illustrating best friend sabotage relationship bf concept.

Image credits: Peter Olexa / Pexels (not the actual photo)

Her former best friend moved abroad, and they were no longer in touch, she also realized who her true friends were and which people were toxic

Text describing moving abroad and distancing from a friend group due to best friend sabotage in a relationship with bf.

Text about realizing toxic best friend sabotage in relationships and recognizing unkind, immature behavior.

Text about holding on to loyal people and avoiding shady ones during internship, related to best friend sabotage relationship bf.

Text excerpt discussing a best friend sabotage relationship involving a boyfriend and revealing hidden details.

Text excerpt discussing a best friend sabotage relationship with a boyfriend involving trust issues and long-term friendship.

Text showing a best friend sabotaging a relationship by criticizing time spent with boyfriend and neglecting friends.

Text describing a best friend sabotage relationship involving excuses and concern for a boyfriend’s chronic illness flare-up.

Text showing a best friend sabotaging a relationship by spreading false reasons for canceling plans with a boyfriend.

Text on screen showing a message about confronting Anna, related to best friend sabotage in a relationship.

Text passage discussing best friend sabotage in relationships, focusing on misunderstandings and mutual communication issues.

Young woman in a casual green sweatshirt discussing best friend sabotage in a relationship during a serious conversation indoors.

Image credits: SHVETS production / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The poster was shocked when she found out that her ex-best friend had also tried to ruin her roommate’s image by spreading lies about her

Text discussing best friend sabotage in a relationship, revealing suspicious messaging patterns between friends.

Text about best friend sabotage in relationship with boyfriend, discussing messages and accusations after discovery.

Text about bad habits and suspicious texting involving a best friend possibly trying to sabotage a relationship with a boyfriend.

Text excerpt reflecting on self-awareness and challenges in a best friend sabotage relationship involving a boyfriend.

Text about reflecting on missed chances to save a friendship and dealing with best friend sabotage in a relationship with a boyfriend.

Text on a gray background discussing unfair treatment and confrontation in a best friend sabotage relationship with a boyfriend.

Text highlighting how a best friend sabotage relationship by damaging reputations and affecting trust with a boyfriend.

Text about feeling vindicated after a best friend tries and fails to get a job, hinting at best friend sabotage relationship bf.

Text expressing gratitude for past support and seeking lessons to avoid best friend sabotage in relationships with a boyfriend.

Image credits: Puzzleheaded_Tart693

The woman realized that her former friend had done such heinous things because she felt neglected, but that still didn’t justify her behavior

The poster mentioned that she had been close friends with a woman at her internship for three years. During that time, her friend introduced her to a man whom she then started dating. Immediately after the OP entered into the new relationship, her friend seemed much colder and didn’t get along with her boyfriend.

This can sometimes be observed in friendships and romantic relationships where either the partner or the friend feels like they aren’t the priority. Usually, when people begin dating someone, they put their romantic partner first and sideline their friends, which might end up causing a lot of hurt.

The poster realized exactly how her best friend was feeling when she found out that the other woman had been spreading rumors about her and her partner. The friend told folks that the OP’s boyfriend was trying to have an affair with her, and she made up a lot of stories about that. She seemed to be making up such lies because she felt ignored by the poster.

Friends might feel jealous if they are no longer as close and if someone else seems to be taking their spot. These feelings are often an indicator that something is wrong in the friendship and needs to be addressed. If both people go too long without talking about this problem, it might cause long-lasting issues in their bond.

Young woman outdoors looking down thoughtfully, illustrating best friend sabotage in relationship with boyfriend feelings.

Image credits: Zulfugar Karimov / Pexels (not the actual photo)

When the poster realized that her bestie had been gossiping about her, she began to distance herself from the other woman. Their connection eventually fizzled out after the friend moved abroad. This also taught the poster a valuable lesson about friendship and about surrounding herself with people who actually cared about her.

Healthy friendships are built on mutual respect and trust. Even if both people can’t spend as much time with one another, they still know that their connection is strong. Neither person will go out of their way to punish the other for a mistake; instead, they’ll discuss it calmly and come to a compromise that makes everyone happy. 

It was also difficult for the OP to deal with all the rumors that had been circulating about her relationship. Even though she tried her best to set the record straight, the best thing to do is to ignore the gossip and just move on. Eventually, people will begin discussing something or someone else, and they’ll no longer care as much.

This entire experience taught the poster a lot about friendships and identifying people who cared about her. Luckily, she was saved from a toxic friend and could nourish her relationship better. 

Have you ever been in a bad friendship like this, and what made you realize it? We’d love to hear your story and perspective on this situation.

People were shocked by the former friend’s behavior and felt that she probably had strong feelings for the poster, which is why she acted the way she did

Text conversation about a partner consulting a best friend, highlighting best friend sabotage in a relationship with a boyfriend.

Screenshot of a social media comment discussing the impact of a best friend sabotaging a relationship with a boyfriend.

Screenshot of a Reddit comment reflecting on life experiences, illustrating best friend sabotage in a relationship with BF.

Alt text: A personal story about best friend sabotage in a relationship showing feelings of neglect, jealousy, and patience in friendship.

Online comment discussing suspicion of best friend sabotage in a relationship and possible boyfriend involvement.

Comment discussing a potential best friend sabotage in a relationship, suggesting manipulation and emotional tactics.

Text post discussing how best friend sabotage relationship bf by whispering about others can lead to negative consequences at work.

Comment on social media discussing emotional strain, highlighting best friend sabotage in a relationship with boyfriend.

Text comment explaining a best friend sabotage relationship bf by causing problems and losing both the guy and the friend.

Poll Question

Total votes ·

Thanks! Check out the results:

Total votes ·

Newsletter

Subscribe to Access
Exclusive Polls

Subscribe

By entering your email and clicking Subscribe, you're agreeing to let us send you customized marketing messages about us and our advertising partners. You are also agreeing to our Privacy Policy.

Thank you! You've successfully subscribed to newsletters!

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing!

Follow Bored Panda on Google News!

Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda!