Honesty and transparency are key parts of any happy and healthy relationship. After all, it’s doubtful that you can build a meaningful life together if you don’t share your thoughts, feelings, and past experiences with each other. But sometimes, your partner can react to the truth in very toxic ways, and it can make you question the entire relationship.
Internet user u/CapableEmergency5154 opened up to the AITA community about a massive fight that broke out between her and her now-ex-boyfriend after he found out that she’s a landlord. Upon learning this, he showed his true colors and demanded a cut of the money she earns. You’ll find the full story below.
Financial incompatibility is a common problem among romantic partners
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But, sadly, this woman learned about it the hard way
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After her story went viral, the woman promised to share an update on the situation and joined the discussion in the comments
Eventually, she delivered on her promise
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You don’t become open with your partner overnight
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Gabrielle Applebury, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist with specialties in areas such as trauma and communication, says that people usually start sharing more detailed personal information after they decide to stop dating others.
“This typically occurs after at least a few months of consistently dating each other when there is a high level of emotional closeness, openness to being vulnerable with each other, and support,” Applebury explains.
As with many things, there’s no one right formula, but couples in an exclusive relationship can take the initiative to have serious discussions about finances (things like salaries, debts, and whether they are a spender or a saver) when they begin to move forward to bigger milestones, such as a bigger vacation or even living together.
So the fact that the internet user’s ex expected that she would have shared that she’s a landlord before finding out the way he did isn’t that unreasonable.
Plus, a 2020 survey found that 64% of couples admit to being “financially incompatible” with their partners, with different philosophies about spending, saving, and investing their money, which can lead to so-called financial infidelity (an act that 45% of committed adults admitted they’re guilty of).
But throwing accusations and then demanding half of her rental income is no way to deal with these disagreements.
Instead, a healthy way to kickstart such talks, according to Applebury, can be buying a shared item and discussing who will pay how much and why, planning and throwing a dinner party together, shopping for a friend’s wedding or birthday gift, and so on.
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"Together for 6 months, he moved in 3 months ago". I hope she learned from this. Dear Pandas, don't do that.
So he moved in with her without ever raising the money of contributing to the rent of her place (since he didn't know she owned the building). What a sad little grifter.
And apparently, no one who owns property should profit from it! He’s not just a sad little grifter, but a truly deranged jerk incapable of rational thought. “Prove you’re not a greedy landlord by giving away half the money you get to ME” is one of the silliest things I’ve ever seen someone in a relationship demand!
Load More Replies...Agree with the post that says "get the locks redone". It might be unnecessary, but you never know with morons like that. And gotta love how it's so awful for her to be a landlord but suddenly okay if he gets half the income? Ol' mate deserves to get kicked to the curb. What a scunge-bucket.
I was sure I'd seen this one before. November 12 2023, man leaves gf over being landlord. Same story, same "not the actual photo". Are you just recycling posts now?
What an absolute [pinlike] of bf. Clearly doesn't understand that in such a situation the rent money goes to the upkeep of the building so that the owner can keep on living there. It's not like a career landlord that buys additional properties and the tenant pays the mortgage for them!
She let him live there for free and he says she's just in it for the money? And then wants half the profits? None of this is logical.
I would say that sure, you can have some of that money, but now you start paying me rent as I am actually your landlord too.
Her first mistake was moving in together after 6 months together. I don't believe in cohabitation until after 2 years of serious dating because by then you should've already sussed out all the red flags before you are stuck with them. Her next mistake was letting him move in and not making him contribute something financially. I don't care if I own the building you're not living with me for free, I'm not your mother! He's using water, electric, wifi, cable and she only hold him accountable for food. SMH
Wow he’s some deluded pos , she’s renting out an apartment,with two bedrooms ,one bath kitchen, sitting room ,plus another room , for $500 a mth THATS NOT MONEY GRABBING !thats bloody good tbh. Then he demands half the money ,or it makes her like other landlords ,hmmm so he’s money grabbing but thats ok , 😂right then , glad she kicked him out , now he can be homeless , like he said he wanted others to be instead of giving landlords rent his words . He’s got a s c r e w or ten loose , here’s hoping he leaves her alone now , x
"Together for 6 months, he moved in 3 months ago". I hope she learned from this. Dear Pandas, don't do that.
So he moved in with her without ever raising the money of contributing to the rent of her place (since he didn't know she owned the building). What a sad little grifter.
And apparently, no one who owns property should profit from it! He’s not just a sad little grifter, but a truly deranged jerk incapable of rational thought. “Prove you’re not a greedy landlord by giving away half the money you get to ME” is one of the silliest things I’ve ever seen someone in a relationship demand!
Load More Replies...Agree with the post that says "get the locks redone". It might be unnecessary, but you never know with morons like that. And gotta love how it's so awful for her to be a landlord but suddenly okay if he gets half the income? Ol' mate deserves to get kicked to the curb. What a scunge-bucket.
I was sure I'd seen this one before. November 12 2023, man leaves gf over being landlord. Same story, same "not the actual photo". Are you just recycling posts now?
What an absolute [pinlike] of bf. Clearly doesn't understand that in such a situation the rent money goes to the upkeep of the building so that the owner can keep on living there. It's not like a career landlord that buys additional properties and the tenant pays the mortgage for them!
She let him live there for free and he says she's just in it for the money? And then wants half the profits? None of this is logical.
I would say that sure, you can have some of that money, but now you start paying me rent as I am actually your landlord too.
Her first mistake was moving in together after 6 months together. I don't believe in cohabitation until after 2 years of serious dating because by then you should've already sussed out all the red flags before you are stuck with them. Her next mistake was letting him move in and not making him contribute something financially. I don't care if I own the building you're not living with me for free, I'm not your mother! He's using water, electric, wifi, cable and she only hold him accountable for food. SMH
Wow he’s some deluded pos , she’s renting out an apartment,with two bedrooms ,one bath kitchen, sitting room ,plus another room , for $500 a mth THATS NOT MONEY GRABBING !thats bloody good tbh. Then he demands half the money ,or it makes her like other landlords ,hmmm so he’s money grabbing but thats ok , 😂right then , glad she kicked him out , now he can be homeless , like he said he wanted others to be instead of giving landlords rent his words . He’s got a s c r e w or ten loose , here’s hoping he leaves her alone now , x








































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