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Woman Gets Cheated On, Alters Her Wedding Dress To Something Wearable, Sister Can’t Believe It
Interview With ExpertBlood relations aren’t a license to entitlement. It never was, and never will be. Yet, some people seem to subscribe to the notion that they can demand anything from a sibling without repercussions.
This is what two sisters went through after one of them decided to cut up her wedding gown. It was her way to exorcise the ghost of a supposed marriage shattered by infidelity. However, it didn’t sit well with her sister, who called dibs on the dress and took offense because she wasn’t consulted first.
Their argument escalated into a rift, causing their mother to take sides and worsen the situation.
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It happened between two sisters, all because of a wedding dress
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It ended up causing a rift within the family, and their mother got involved
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Sibling entitlement is a learned behavior primarily shaped by the environment at home
While it does not justify her behavior, the sister’s actions are more a result of her upbringing, specifically the enabling by her parents.
According to licensed psychotherapist and author Christina Steinorth-Powell, parents encourage this kind of attitude, whether they realize it or not.
“They’ve either forgiven the mistreatment the entitled sibling has displayed toward their victim sibling, or they’ve allowed the entitled sibling to act entitled in other ways,” she told Bored Panda.
New Jersey-based psychologist Dr. Carolina Estevez shared a slightly different insight. According to her, the close relationship between siblings often fosters long-lasting habits that can go unchallenged and encourage a sense of entitlement.
Dr. Estevez adds that parents may unintentionally reinforce these behaviors by taking sides, much like the author’s mother seemed to have done.
“Sometimes it’s simply old childhood dynamics playing out long after everyone has grown up,” she stated.
Most experts would advise setting boundaries when dealing with a sibling’s sense of entitlement. However, many people simply don’t know where to begin. Steinorth-Powell provided practical tips, starting with explaining your feelings to eliminate the “he said/she said/they said” dynamic.
She emphasized the importance of addressing behaviors and avoiding bringing up prior infractions, noting that the message must be concise and accurate. And if none of that works, she advises putting things in writing.
“It gives you the opportunity to make sure you’re saying exactly what you want to say, and you’re not leaving anything out.”
Meanwhile, therapist and Balanced Psychotherapy PLLC owner Dallais Bernaix says it all boils down to one important question: “What can I live with in my life?”
“Then work toward setting boundaries. If this becomes too much, seeking support from a licensed mental health professional may be warranted,” she continued.
It doesn’t look like the sister’s entitlement is going away anytime soon. For her sake, the author may want to consider distancing herself from her toxic family, if not cutting ties.
The woman added more information to her story
Many commenters took her side
Others thought everyone had their share of mistakes
And a few people had their reasons why they thought she was being the jerk
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Lee Gilliland 1 month ago
Pretty insensitive to think your sister would enjoy seeing you wear her wedding dress at your wedding.
Tyke 1 month ago
^^^ Exactly this! Just want I came to say. Sister is so self-centred. And the YTA's as always are unhinged
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Ellinor she/they/elle 1 month ago (edited)
NTA. It's your dress so you're free to do whatever you want with it. And to the people who said she was the AH for breaking up, I don't want to know what the fùck is wrong with you.
tori Ohno 1 month ago
Altering the dress was cathartic and healing for her, and was never offered to her entitled sister. Why would you want to wear your sister's wedding dress anyway? Grandma's dress, okay, but not sister's. And since when is it not cheating because it's the bachelor party? In my almost 60 years, I've never once heard that. Those commenters need to go back to their Mommy's basement.
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Lee Gilliland 1 month ago
Pretty insensitive to think your sister would enjoy seeing you wear her wedding dress at your wedding.
Tyke 1 month ago
^^^ Exactly this! Just want I came to say. Sister is so self-centred. And the YTA's as always are unhinged
Load More Replies... Ellinor she/they/elle 1 month ago (edited)
NTA. It's your dress so you're free to do whatever you want with it. And to the people who said she was the AH for breaking up, I don't want to know what the fùck is wrong with you.
tori Ohno 1 month ago
Altering the dress was cathartic and healing for her, and was never offered to her entitled sister. Why would you want to wear your sister's wedding dress anyway? Grandma's dress, okay, but not sister's. And since when is it not cheating because it's the bachelor party? In my almost 60 years, I've never once heard that. Those commenters need to go back to their Mommy's basement.
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