Hey Pandas, AITA For Feeling Let Down By My Sister’s BF On Valentine’s?

Your sister needs to find her voice and advocate for herself. It's wonderful that you are upset for her and that she has such a supportive friend in you. But ultimately she is the one in the relationship. She cant tell him she 'is not into flowers' and remain upset without telling her boyfriend she was disappointed and that she had hoped for a little romance. If she does not speak up, she will get exactly the same thing next year. The best thing you can do is encourage her to communicate with her boyfriend.

You have every right to feel disappointed for your sister being deprived of celebrating Valentine. But I don't think you should insist about it if she's not willing to talk. Be there for her, listen to her, and if she's mentioning it again, perhaps say you think she deserves her boyfriend to make the effort for her, that she's deserving better. But you shouldn't confront the boyfriend or needle your sister. Especially as Valentine is long ago. Keep a watchful eye on her wellbeing though NTA

OP doesn't know the whole story, she doesn't know why the plans didn't happen. But it sounds like something the couple has to work out. I'm not a Valentines day person, and thankfully my partner isn't either. It's been awkward in other relationships when i was dating people who weren't on the same page. Sister has to talk to Trevor and sort things out before OP should start pushing.

We don't don Valentine's. Some people don't, just as they don't do any other manufactured festivals. It really is no-one's business but the couple: if she doesn't like it, dump him.

I'm too old now to be anything but extremely put out if this were my sister either being neglected by this lame man or, alternatively, not actually communicating her expectations to him, and just expecting it to movie it's way into being. They say your nose continues to grow your whole life, which I believe means there's a certain amount of license. In moderation. Either way I'd be having a talk with her and getting to the bottom of where this stalled out. If it happens to be HIS bottom? Boy howdy I don't come from a slipper throwing family line, but I've my own family and can make my own traditions.

Reminder that men are not mind readers. If you want something, YOU NEED TO TELL THEM. Either she's "not that into flowers", and "not really disappointed" and it's not actually a big deal, or she's essentially setting up a trap to be upset over something she never conveyed. Mind your own business on this.

NTA for being upset. You love your sister, and Trevor could have at least made SOME effort. Your feelings are totally legit. However, it *is* none of your business, and you WBTA if you took it further, whether by bringing it up to Trevor, or by trashing Trevor to Alice. Be loving, supportive, and validating to your sister, but let her make her own decisions. Good luck! You seem like a great sister, and I wish you both the best.

For a realization that he forgot, what if you got some cheap junky after Valentine’s Day candy and gave it to him and said, “it’s more than you did for my sister.” Better if you could get your sister to do it, but…