Aita In Wanting To Separate

My SO(50M) and I(47F) have been married 25 years. During these years my SO has been out of work for long periods of time. First time 5 years, then 2 years, and this time it is 3 years. First time was mutual agreement for our daughter (child care cost), second time was out of work and this time, injury at work. Each time he does the bare minimum around the house. He does laundry, dishes, and dinner. I am grateful, but I have become resentful over the years. There is more to taking care of a house, yard, and family then the basics. Example, mow the yard, weed the yard, trim the bushes, make appts for the pets, and vacuum. We have recently started remodeling our home(1953 built). He has done nothing to help unless I specifically start something and tell him exactly what needs to be done. I am tired of telling him what else needs to be done around the house, yard, pets, everything. He states that he "does not see it; does not think of it". I work full time and come home to a cluttered house because of the work. I do not believe I should have to tell him to vacuum, move the boxes around, take items to second hand stores, clean the counters in the kitchen and dust. He is a grown adult and I resent the fact I have to tell him what to do to take care of a house while I work full time. His injury does not stop him from doing any of these items. This is the third time he is off and I am working. I am thinking of a separation/divorce. He says I am over reacting, being emotional. Am I wrong in thinking he should do additional things? AITA to expect him to do items without telling him? AITA to be resentful and want to separate because I expect him to do additional items around the home without having to tell him.