How do you know when is the right time to marry your significant other? Do you wait until your third anniversary? Or do you pay off your student loans first? No, wait. Let’s just forget the latter and focus on this lifetime.

According to Twitter user @cxkenobxkerry, however, a much more important question we should be asking ourselves is if we really should marry them in the first place.

On July 23, she posted a thread titled ‘Don’t Get Married Before‘ where the woman listed all the things we should know about ourselves and our partner before we tie the knot with them. From religion to sexuality, @cxkenobxkerry listed questions, touching on a wide range of themes that should reveal whether two people are compatible or not.

As of this article, the thread has over 220K likes and 60K retweets, and some commenters are even suggesting additional questions as well. Continue scrolling, check it out and who knows, maybe it’ll provide you with some answers, too.

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Dr. Joshua Klapow, a clinical psychologist and host of the podcast The Kurre and Klapow Show, defines romantic compatibility as “the degree to which each person’s view of love, intimacy, and attraction (and the expression of these experiences) work together for mutual benefit.”

Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, expanded on this, saying that romantic compatibility happens when two people are “equally attracted to each other.” But more than feeling butterflies and being emotionally intimate, according to Susan, romantic compatibility happens when they’re both “on the same page about where you want the relationship to go.”

When it comes to romance, it’s all about the details, like doing activities the two of you can enjoy together. This gets to the heart of romantic compatibility the way Jessmina “Minaa B.” Archbold, psychotherapist, social worker, and author of Rivers Are Coming: Essays and Poems on Healing, defines it. For Archbold, romantic compatibility is when two partners respect each other and are interested in learning more about each other. “You don’t necessarily have to share the same interests,” Archbold told Elite Daily. “But it means caring enough to learn about each other in order to strengthen the relationship bond, while also learning about each other’s needs.”

The thread continues to evolve to this day

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All of this doesn’t mean that opposites can’t attract one another. If one person is, for example, really interested in theater and the arts, and their partner is really immersed in sports and fitness, that doesn’t mean that they can’t be in a healthy, happy relationship. Opposites on the outside can attract, but similarities in values and morals on the inside are what’s necessary for a good match.

And here’s what other people have been saying about it

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