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Dentist Sparks Trouble For Mom After Autistic Kid Says He Doesn’t Like Braces, She’s Confused
Young boy receiving dental exam from dentist wearing blue gloves in a clinic setting focused on autism discrimination concerns

Dentist Sparks Trouble For Mom After Autistic Kid Says He Doesn’t Like Braces, She’s Confused

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When I was 12 years old, I had braces, and it was a time before Invisalign, so I got the full discomfort of the metal ones. I am not even kidding when I say that those 5 years felt like my teeth were stuck in a painful prison.

Even this possibly autistic 13-year-old is not a big fan of braces, but his mom somehow talked him into it. Little did she know that the dentist visit would quickly turn hostile as the man accused her of forcing her kid into it. Here’s what really happened…

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    The poster’s 13-year-old son has ADHD, and she also suspects autism, plus his teeth are quite crooked, so she convinced him to get braces

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    When the orthodontist asked him if he would like braces, the kid said no, so the man refused to treat him against his wishes

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    The mom tried to explain how the kid answered his literal question, but he is ready for braces; however, the dentist just refused to budge

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    In fact, he even threatened to report her if she visited again, and the kid said no, which left her utterly confused

    Today, we dive into quite a problematic story as the original poster (OP) tells us about how a dentist visit quickly turned sour. The thing is, her 13-year-old son has ADHD, but she also suspects autism, and is awaiting his assessment. The boy’s adult teeth are not straight, so someone recommended that he visit an orthodontist.

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    The problem is that the NHS wait list is so long that he finally got an appointment after 3 years. Like most of us, he didn’t really want braces, but the poster convinced him that it was the right time. However, things took a turn when the dentist asked him whether he would like braces, and the boy said, “No.” Lo and behold, the man asked them to visit him again after 2 years!

    OP tried to reason with him and tell him about her son’s condition. He just gave a literal answer to the question, but didn’t say no to braces. Her protest fell on deaf ears, and the dentist just refused to budge. In fact, he went so far as to threaten her that when they visited again, and if the boy said no, he would report her. Ugh, the poor poster must be so annoyed.

    She vented online and expressed that all kids in general are nervous when it comes to getting braces. Well, netizens immediately jumped to her defense and claimed the man was discriminating against the boy. Research also shows that autistic people are often subject to discrimination, including unjust deprivation of health care, so what they’re saying seems to be true.

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    Every patient deserves to get the proper treatment that they need, and they should not be treated unfairly in such a manner. Experts also warn that these practitioners should have the proper skills to interact with neurodivergent patients or communicate with their parents. It seems that this dentist is lacking in both areas, as he just couldn’t comprehend what the mom said.

    Almost all of the folks said that his lack of understanding about neurodivergent patients sounded unprofessional, and she should raise a complaint against him. However, there were just a few who claimed he was only doing his job. They said that, as per the NHS, competent minors can refuse treatment, but OP argued that he was fully prepared for it. 

    Sometimes, people fail to understand that neurodivergent kids communicate based on their intellectual and social development. Time and again, it has been observed how difficult it can be for them. In such a situation, don’t you think they need someone who understands them, instead of someone who has no awareness of them at all?

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    The poster also commented that the dentist made it seem like she was violently forcing her kid into something that he didn’t want. This made her feel truly awful, and she emailed the clinic about his behavior. Well, I hope she finds a solution soon and doesn’t have to wait for another 2 years to get an appointment, all thanks to an ignorant person.

    If you were in her shoes, what would you do? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!

    Netizens instantly said that the dentist was discriminating against her possibly autistic son, and she needs to raise a complaint against him

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    Rutuja Dumbre

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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    Rick Murray
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guy sounds grossly incompetent. You don't ask a minor, you ask their parents. When I was a child I would have said no to that sort of thing as well. Actually, I would have said no to all of my childhood vaccinations because needles give me the heebeegeebees, but nobody ever asked *me* because part of being a responsible caregiver is making those sorts of decisions in my place. This dentist is a díck.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you - exactly what I had in mind - vaccines.

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    Devin Schmitt
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was never asked if I wanted braces. Or fillings for that matter. Heck, my brothers and I (who all went to the same orthodontist) claim that the doctor only knew two words, "open" and "close".

    Brian Sherson
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think an orthodontist attempting to gauge whether or not an underage patient will be compliant with treatment is being responsible, because a child who does not want braces *can* be non-compliant in ways that undermine treatment *and* damage their teeth. But yes, that orthodontist was way to quick to turn down that patient simply because he was brutally honest and had assumed he would be non-compliant. But for all we know, maybe the orthodontist deemed treatment not medically necessary and won't take elective cases unless the kid says yes?

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    greenideas
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How odd. He's going to report the mom for a dental procedure to improve her child's quality of life? And he's declining, knowing that she'll lose 5 critical years waiting? What an AH.

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    Rick Murray
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guy sounds grossly incompetent. You don't ask a minor, you ask their parents. When I was a child I would have said no to that sort of thing as well. Actually, I would have said no to all of my childhood vaccinations because needles give me the heebeegeebees, but nobody ever asked *me* because part of being a responsible caregiver is making those sorts of decisions in my place. This dentist is a díck.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you - exactly what I had in mind - vaccines.

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    Devin Schmitt
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was never asked if I wanted braces. Or fillings for that matter. Heck, my brothers and I (who all went to the same orthodontist) claim that the doctor only knew two words, "open" and "close".

    Brian Sherson
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think an orthodontist attempting to gauge whether or not an underage patient will be compliant with treatment is being responsible, because a child who does not want braces *can* be non-compliant in ways that undermine treatment *and* damage their teeth. But yes, that orthodontist was way to quick to turn down that patient simply because he was brutally honest and had assumed he would be non-compliant. But for all we know, maybe the orthodontist deemed treatment not medically necessary and won't take elective cases unless the kid says yes?

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    greenideas
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How odd. He's going to report the mom for a dental procedure to improve her child's quality of life? And he's declining, knowing that she'll lose 5 critical years waiting? What an AH.

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