Woman Blamed For Ruining The Evening After Asking Partner’s Nephews Not To Play With Her Wheelchair, Asks The Internet If She Overreacted
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If you ever had your glasses or crutches treated as a toy for your friends’ entertainment, then you will probably relate to this one. Reaching almost 3k upvotes and 500 responses as of today, a 28-year-old with limited mobility was called “too sensitive” by her boyfriend after she did not allow his little nephews to play with her wheelchair.
In her defense, she feared that the boys could have hurt themselves or damage the chair. But all her attempts to politely tell those little rascals off were laughed off by her boyfriend’s mother who allowed them to continue with their shenanigans as if things could get any more awkward. Feeling in the right but not enough to calm down her heavy mind, the woman turned to the trusted AITA community to set her moral compass straight. Read on for the full story.
Woman with limited disability shared how she was blamed for ruining a family gathering after telling off boyfriend’s nephews
Image credits: Zachary Kyra-Derksen (not the actual photo)
The boyfriend got annoyed with her after his little nephews started playing with her wheelchair and she was not okay with it
Seems like everyone was on the same page saying she is clearly NTA here and adding some much-needed reminders to others
Some users even turned the tables around, questioning her boyfriend’s values
A lot of folks agreed that things like wheelchairs, canes and glasses should be treated as an extension of one’s body
This wheelchair is the legs of this lady. Pretty expensive and fragile legs. She is allowed to tell people not to play with her legs
I am a wheelchair user. Mobility equipment of any kind (crutches, canes, walkers, wheelchairs, whatever) is an extension of the body. Full stop. If you wouldn't do it to someone's body, you don't do it to someone's mobility equipment. That's all there is to it.
Even if you WOULD doesn't mean everyone would. The lack of respect from the family AND the bf is astounding.
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Kids need to be taught that not everything in the world exists for their entertainment and they can't get away with anything just because they are kids. Other people's property is not okay to play with if the owner doesn't give you their permission. It doesn't even matter, if the property in question is important and expensive, or just a stupid useless toy. If it's not yours - keep your hands off it.
Totally NTA. I wouldn't let children play with ANY assistive device - mine or anyone else's! Not a cane, not crutches, not an oxygen pack and certainly not the knee scooter i used for months when i broke my ankle (even if it's totally fun). What if they'd damaged it? Is the BF prepared to carry you home in his strong arms?
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This wheelchair is the legs of this lady. Pretty expensive and fragile legs. She is allowed to tell people not to play with her legs
I am a wheelchair user. Mobility equipment of any kind (crutches, canes, walkers, wheelchairs, whatever) is an extension of the body. Full stop. If you wouldn't do it to someone's body, you don't do it to someone's mobility equipment. That's all there is to it.
Even if you WOULD doesn't mean everyone would. The lack of respect from the family AND the bf is astounding.
Load More Replies... Kids need to be taught that not everything in the world exists for their entertainment and they can't get away with anything just because they are kids. Other people's property is not okay to play with if the owner doesn't give you their permission. It doesn't even matter, if the property in question is important and expensive, or just a stupid useless toy. If it's not yours - keep your hands off it.
Totally NTA. I wouldn't let children play with ANY assistive device - mine or anyone else's! Not a cane, not crutches, not an oxygen pack and certainly not the knee scooter i used for months when i broke my ankle (even if it's totally fun). What if they'd damaged it? Is the BF prepared to carry you home in his strong arms?
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