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Woman Sparks Controversy After Refusing To Be Operated On By Room Of Men
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Woman Sparks Controversy After Refusing To Be Operated On By Room Of Men

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A woman went viral for refusing to let herself be operated on in a room of male doctors, drawing both support from female patients with negative experiences, as well as criticism citing sexism

Taking to her TikTok page on April 29, Lily Griffiths posted a video where she filmed herself in a blue hospital gown.

In the video, which has amassed nearly 13 million views, Lily appeared in the mirror of what is assumed to be her hospital’s bathroom.

Highlights
  • Woman goes viral for refusing surgery in a room full of male doctors, sparking debate on sexism.
  • Lily Griffiths shared her experience on TikTok, receiving nearly 13 million views and mixed reactions.
  • Supporters cited negative past experiences and bias in the medical field toward women.

“Sorry to the male doctors, I may have offended when I refused to be operated on in a room full of men,” the TikToker wrote in the text appearing in the clip.

“And cried and begged for a female to be in the room until she walked over to pin me down then sedated me,” the text further read.

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Lily Griffiths went viral for refusing to let herself be operated on in a room of male doctors

Image credits: lily_griffiths

Lily added some cryptic information in the caption, admitting: “Not sure how else to process the last 4 days tbh (to be honest) x.”

Many viewers responded in solidarity with the distressed patient, as a person commented: “Don’t be sorry. 

“I too was panicking until my nurse comforted me and said she would be there the entire time, she even held my hand when they sedated me because I was so scared.”

To this comment, Lily replied: “These nurses deserve the [planet Earth emoji].”

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Image credits: lily_griffiths

“Don’t ever apologize!” someone else penned. “The medical industry has always been barbaric towards women, you deserve to feel safe and [have] your needs [met].”

Throughout history, the medical field has exhibited instances of barbarism and sexism toward women, perpetuating harmful practices and biases. 

For instance, Dr. J. Marion Sims, who was often hailed as the “father of modern gynecology,” conducted experimental surgeries on enslaved Black women in the 19th century without anesthesia, History explains.

She drew support from female patients with negative experiences as well as criticism citing sexism

Image credits: lilyloveeeeee

According to Medical News Today, the pervasive belief in “hysteria” is another example of gender-based mistreatment in medicine, as it was a diagnosis exclusively applied to women that led to the dismissal of legitimate health concerns.

“I won’t forget my anaesthesiologist she was the only woman in the room,” a TikTok user wrote. “And I won’t forget how she had to tell one of the male surgeons to ‘just wait!’ And then proceeded to comfort me.”

Other observers mentioned their experience with the controversial “husband stitch,” an outdated medical practice involving an extra stitch during vaginal repair following childbirth, which, according to Healthline, is considered unethical, objectifying, and medically unnecessary.

@lilyloveeeeeenot sure how else to process the last 4 days tbh x♬ duvet – 🦇

One woman commented: “Got the husband stitch without knowing about it, I still flinch every time I’m intimate. 

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“The second baby fixed it for me tho, but I still remember the discomfort.”

Another female commentator added: “I got the husband stitch done to me without me knowing by my female midwife.”

Lily’s video further sparked divided reactions, as a netizen argued: “Oh, that’s just sexism.”

A separate individual chimed in: “You are a problem.”

Throughout history, the medical field has exhibited instances of barbarism and sexism toward women

Image credits: lilyloveeeeee

A previous video uploaded to TikTok on April 28 suggested that Lily had ended up in the hospital after sustaining an injury at her work.

Some women prefer female healthcare workers due to factors like comfort, communication, and shared experiences. 

Research suggests that women may feel more at ease discussing sensitive topics and undergoing intimate examinations with female providers, citing increased comfort and perceived understanding, according to the American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology.

Additionally, studies indicate that female patients often report better communication and satisfaction with female healthcare professionals, fostering a sense of trust and empathy.

Lily continued to receive supportive comments on TikTok

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Tamra
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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know what surgical procedure this woman was having, but it is common practice to be able to know the name and sex of your surgeon beforehand, and she apparently didn't ask. I'm assuming if her discomfort was this great, she would have made sure before the procedure. Looks to me like another attention-seeking TikTik idiot. But hey, she got a great shot of her off-the-shoulder hospital gown to share with everyone. 🙄

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Je souhaite
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's so concerned about modesty but poses half naked on Instagram LOL

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Stardarling
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s not ‘modesty’ it’s her being concerned about her body being violated without her knowing. It seems she just wanted a woman IN the room, not being the surgeon. And given that women have been violated during surgery or under anesthesia, I don’t blame her. These comments also totally disregard that she might have past sexual trauma that made her uncomfortable. Furthermore, it shouldn’t take crying and begging to get a female nurse or medical aide to be in the room with you. You should just be able to ask, and it doesn’t seem that her request was honored until she ‘made a scene’

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GEA
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

FFS. What a flake. Doctors don't give a cr@p. They are professionals. No doubt she is some bl@@dy influencer.

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Tamra
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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know what surgical procedure this woman was having, but it is common practice to be able to know the name and sex of your surgeon beforehand, and she apparently didn't ask. I'm assuming if her discomfort was this great, she would have made sure before the procedure. Looks to me like another attention-seeking TikTik idiot. But hey, she got a great shot of her off-the-shoulder hospital gown to share with everyone. 🙄

justinecaruso avatar
Je souhaite
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's so concerned about modesty but poses half naked on Instagram LOL

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Stardarling
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s not ‘modesty’ it’s her being concerned about her body being violated without her knowing. It seems she just wanted a woman IN the room, not being the surgeon. And given that women have been violated during surgery or under anesthesia, I don’t blame her. These comments also totally disregard that she might have past sexual trauma that made her uncomfortable. Furthermore, it shouldn’t take crying and begging to get a female nurse or medical aide to be in the room with you. You should just be able to ask, and it doesn’t seem that her request was honored until she ‘made a scene’

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GEA
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

FFS. What a flake. Doctors don't give a cr@p. They are professionals. No doubt she is some bl@@dy influencer.

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