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Guy Berates Girlfriend For Playing Hero And Saving A Girl’s Life, Rubs Her The Wrong Way
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Guy Berates Girlfriend For Playing Hero And Saving A Girl’s Life, Rubs Her The Wrong Way

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What would you do if you saw a woman who was clearly in danger? Some people might turn a blind eye, while others would call the cops. And then there are those who are willing to risk their own safety, and even lives, to jump right in and help.

A 24-year-old did exactly that when she witnessed two men taking a seemingly very drunk girl into a dark parking garage. Without hesitation, the woman raced to the rescue, and saved someone from a potentially terrible situation. She was shocked by how her boyfriend reacted when she told him what had happened.

The woman has shared the entire ordeal online. And it raises questions about people’s attitudes when it comes to the safety of girls and women.

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    But her boyfriend’s reaction to her bravery has her questioning their entire relationship

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    Text message exchange showing a conversation about pushing away and planning to FaceTime after a shower.

    She also explained how the text messages made her feel

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    Some safety tips for women who are planning a night out on the town

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    As much as we’d love to believe the world is a safe place for women and girls, the reality is—it isn’t. And until things change drastically, we need to look after ourselves and others.

    If you’re planning to paint the town red with your girlfriends, it’s best to opt for well-lit, reputable establishments with visible security measures, advises drink spike detector manufacturer CounterSpike.

    A place with good reviews and lots of security can help reduce the risk of you ending up in a dangerous situation. And if something does happen, there should be people there who can protect you.

    Other precautions to take are letting a friend or family member in on your plans. This includes where you’re going and what time you expect to return. You can go as far as sharing your location via your phone or an app as an extra layer of safety. I sometimes do this when taking an Uber by myself.

    There’s strength in numbers, says CounterSpike. “Being in a group significantly decreases the chances of becoming a target for crime,” notes the site, adding that you should always ensure no one is left alone in potentially vulnerable situations.

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    Of course, using reliable transportation options like licensed taxis is crucial. “Never accept a lift from a stranger, no matter how convenient it may seem,” warn the experts. If walking, choose a well-lit and familiar route.

    Self-defense courses are also a good investment, as are personal safety tools like pepper spray, personal alarms, or even whistles.

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    If you’re planning to go drinking, read this first

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    A girls’ night out often involves alcohol, and here’s where things can get dangerous… “Alcohol affects your judgment and awareness, making you more vulnerable to risky situations,” CounterSpike’s experts warn. And that’s why it pays to pace yourself.

    Keep track of drink sizes and their alcohol content to maintain moderation,” advises the site. “Alternating alcoholic beverages with drink water helps stay hydrated and reduce intoxication.”

    And then there’s the issue of your drink being spiked. The risk of this happening is very real, say the experts. “Always monitor your drinks and those of your friends,” they suggest. “Never leave your drink unattended. If you need to step away, ask a trusted friend to watch it.”

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    Remember, your drink can be spiked behind the bar, too. So keep a close eye on it while it’s being poured. And it goes without saying that accepting drinks from strangers increases the risk of drink tampering. 

    So, what do you do if you suspect your drink has been tampered with or spiked? “Do not consume it and seek assistance immediately. This could be the difference between a safe night and a dangerous situation,” warns CounterSpike.

    Some signs you’ve consumed a spiked drink include unusual sensations or dizziness. Inform a friend, or the establishment’s management/security and seek help if you feel something is wrong.

    Importantly, always trust your instincts; if something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. “Your intuition is a valuable tool for assessing safety, so always take it seriously,” warn the experts. “Being mindful of your environment allows you to enjoy your night with greater peace of mind.”

    “Girls gotta protect each other ’cause guys like him won’t”: people rallied behind the woman

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    mp7dvnrw85
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We spend our whole lives fully aware of the fact that men are bigger than us and stronger than us - they could easily overpower and/or harm us. We deal with that knowledge all day, every day. We also know that if we are attacked, it’s more likely to be by a male friend, partner, co-worker or acquaintance than by some random male stranger. We’re pretty much experts at extracting our friends and ourselves from potentially dangerous situations with men because if you’re female, existing in public is enough to attract unwanted attention. Turn a man down and you never know how he’ll react. It’s so patronising to suggest that the poster didn’t realise the situation was dangerous - that’s why she stepped in.

    Sue User
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He was concerned about her losing a fight. She was not trying to win. Like you said, OP was just trying to extract her from a dangerous sitiation.

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    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reading this made me so angry. OP is a g*****n hero.

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    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, she was the hero that woman needed and the entire “it could have gone south”…the guys were looking for a drugged, helpless victim and they got a woman unafraid of confrontation. The odds they would bail on a sober, coherent woman were actually not that bad. They were planning something with an entirely different victim profile. Hopefully they have both since been swallowed by a void in the universe. But holy red flag convention on his responses including repeatedly berating her like he’s in charge of her choices, and just almost every statement he made is concerning including his initial implication that he assumes someone in that situation is to blame. I don’t know, he’s not someone to try and keep around, the worst part was he needed her to see to his emotional needs (miss you,feel punished, not getting what I want made me tone switch) rather than her own after that ordeal . That guy might be just plain old problematic.

    Bewitched One
    Community Member
    Premium
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was my thing. Him ignoring her needs and basically making her call so he’d leave her alone and she COULD rest after that. The fact that he’s the same age as me and is dating someone that’s 24 and she is more mature sounding than he is is also not great

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    Robyn Hill
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All of the YTA men are the exact reason why women have to act in cases like this. Because for all of their Jack Reacher bluster, none of them would have the decency, let alone the balls, to save a woman in danger. She was supposed to call her boyfriend, who was in another country - to do WHAT, exactly? The men who prey on women are half the problem. The men like the boyfriend here - total wusses - are the other half.

    Caffeinated Ape
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Their replies really angered me. Reminds me of something I read that when it comes to the bear question, there are two types of (male) responses: Guys who get it, and guys who are the reason women choose the bear. I think we can all see which category that lot fall into.

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    Jorge Gonzalez
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The boyfriend is a coward. Had this happened to my gf I would be scared shitless and proud simultaneously, if that makes any sense. But the way he reacts and the language he uses means he doesn't respect courage nor valor. Another child posing as a man

    Bookworm
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Time to break up with bf. He's more dangerous than those two guys. Why? He repeatedly ignored her no. She wanted to drop it. He continued. She wanted to FaceTime tomorrow. He pushed until she agreed to today. You know he's going to keep pushing until he gets the admission of her being "wrong" and him being right. You can see how he continually wears her down until she does what he wants. This is the type of guy you have to watch out for. The other two are obviously bad people. BF is much sneakier.

    Mimi M
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very good point. On the bright side, she seems sharp enough not to fall for his BS. And in case that was even possible, all the comments on reddit definitely made things very clear.

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    Mimi M
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't read the YTA's. Save myself the aggravation. She did the right thing and her BF sounds like a controlling, condescending, self-absorbed wúss. Bleagh.

    Ashtophet
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You’re smart, I wish I hadn’t read them!

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    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That dude is a massive tw@t. She should dump his @ss. Men just don't get it do they? (not all of them of course!) Personally I couldn't stay with someone who wouldn't have acted during that situation. I could never be like "oh well I called the cops, too bad if she dies".

    Ejteh
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Trigger warning: femicide!! This girl is a hero! She saved a fellow girl from who knows what. I would like to say that i would always step in when a woman is in danger. I did not step in one time, because I was 7 months pregnant. I heard my neighbor scream, and i knew her ex was an a*****e who used to physically abuse her. I've been there for her and her son multiple times. I never heard her scream before, because of our very solid, medieval walls between the buildings, so I knew something was really, really wrong this time. Like i said, i would like to say i would always step in, but this time, i was 7 months pregnant and i could not put my baby in danger. I called the police, who took 20 minutes to show up. Of course, my neihgbor, just 30 years old, was long gone by that time. Let me spare you the details. Police told me she was dead when the first blow hit her, and that there was nothing i could do, it just went so fast this time. It really took time to get over the survivers guilt

    Ejteh
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He did this because she was doing well by the way. She took her meds and tried to get on stable grounds after a wobbly period. He was losing his power over her, so he decided to take her life. Her little kid was already living with family due to the unstable circumstances, he saw nothing this time. Not all men are not to be trusted, but they have shown me enough to always be aware. Like I said, I've helpt her before, and my husband talked to the guy in one of these situations. And he said the guy was an alright, fine young fellow!! She could have made it all up! I was floored when he said that. After the murder, he acknowledged how wrong he was, and that he clearly lacks gut instinct when it comes to guys and violence toward women. This girl did what I hope we all would do. We should have each others back, because we have noone else to count on. And OPs boyfriend is a p***k IMO.

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    Miriam Insidecor
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This boyfriend needs to be dumped. OP acted out of instinct but also made measured decisions. Women risk assess all the time because we live in a world with men.

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    mp7dvnrw85
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We spend our whole lives fully aware of the fact that men are bigger than us and stronger than us - they could easily overpower and/or harm us. We deal with that knowledge all day, every day. We also know that if we are attacked, it’s more likely to be by a male friend, partner, co-worker or acquaintance than by some random male stranger. We’re pretty much experts at extracting our friends and ourselves from potentially dangerous situations with men because if you’re female, existing in public is enough to attract unwanted attention. Turn a man down and you never know how he’ll react. It’s so patronising to suggest that the poster didn’t realise the situation was dangerous - that’s why she stepped in.

    Sue User
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He was concerned about her losing a fight. She was not trying to win. Like you said, OP was just trying to extract her from a dangerous sitiation.

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    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reading this made me so angry. OP is a g*****n hero.

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    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, she was the hero that woman needed and the entire “it could have gone south”…the guys were looking for a drugged, helpless victim and they got a woman unafraid of confrontation. The odds they would bail on a sober, coherent woman were actually not that bad. They were planning something with an entirely different victim profile. Hopefully they have both since been swallowed by a void in the universe. But holy red flag convention on his responses including repeatedly berating her like he’s in charge of her choices, and just almost every statement he made is concerning including his initial implication that he assumes someone in that situation is to blame. I don’t know, he’s not someone to try and keep around, the worst part was he needed her to see to his emotional needs (miss you,feel punished, not getting what I want made me tone switch) rather than her own after that ordeal . That guy might be just plain old problematic.

    Bewitched One
    Community Member
    Premium
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was my thing. Him ignoring her needs and basically making her call so he’d leave her alone and she COULD rest after that. The fact that he’s the same age as me and is dating someone that’s 24 and she is more mature sounding than he is is also not great

    Load More Replies...
    Robyn Hill
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All of the YTA men are the exact reason why women have to act in cases like this. Because for all of their Jack Reacher bluster, none of them would have the decency, let alone the balls, to save a woman in danger. She was supposed to call her boyfriend, who was in another country - to do WHAT, exactly? The men who prey on women are half the problem. The men like the boyfriend here - total wusses - are the other half.

    Caffeinated Ape
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Their replies really angered me. Reminds me of something I read that when it comes to the bear question, there are two types of (male) responses: Guys who get it, and guys who are the reason women choose the bear. I think we can all see which category that lot fall into.

    Load More Replies...
    Jorge Gonzalez
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The boyfriend is a coward. Had this happened to my gf I would be scared shitless and proud simultaneously, if that makes any sense. But the way he reacts and the language he uses means he doesn't respect courage nor valor. Another child posing as a man

    Bookworm
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Time to break up with bf. He's more dangerous than those two guys. Why? He repeatedly ignored her no. She wanted to drop it. He continued. She wanted to FaceTime tomorrow. He pushed until she agreed to today. You know he's going to keep pushing until he gets the admission of her being "wrong" and him being right. You can see how he continually wears her down until she does what he wants. This is the type of guy you have to watch out for. The other two are obviously bad people. BF is much sneakier.

    Mimi M
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very good point. On the bright side, she seems sharp enough not to fall for his BS. And in case that was even possible, all the comments on reddit definitely made things very clear.

    Load More Replies...
    Mimi M
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't read the YTA's. Save myself the aggravation. She did the right thing and her BF sounds like a controlling, condescending, self-absorbed wúss. Bleagh.

    Ashtophet
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You’re smart, I wish I hadn’t read them!

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    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That dude is a massive tw@t. She should dump his @ss. Men just don't get it do they? (not all of them of course!) Personally I couldn't stay with someone who wouldn't have acted during that situation. I could never be like "oh well I called the cops, too bad if she dies".

    Ejteh
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Trigger warning: femicide!! This girl is a hero! She saved a fellow girl from who knows what. I would like to say that i would always step in when a woman is in danger. I did not step in one time, because I was 7 months pregnant. I heard my neighbor scream, and i knew her ex was an a*****e who used to physically abuse her. I've been there for her and her son multiple times. I never heard her scream before, because of our very solid, medieval walls between the buildings, so I knew something was really, really wrong this time. Like i said, i would like to say i would always step in, but this time, i was 7 months pregnant and i could not put my baby in danger. I called the police, who took 20 minutes to show up. Of course, my neihgbor, just 30 years old, was long gone by that time. Let me spare you the details. Police told me she was dead when the first blow hit her, and that there was nothing i could do, it just went so fast this time. It really took time to get over the survivers guilt

    Ejteh
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He did this because she was doing well by the way. She took her meds and tried to get on stable grounds after a wobbly period. He was losing his power over her, so he decided to take her life. Her little kid was already living with family due to the unstable circumstances, he saw nothing this time. Not all men are not to be trusted, but they have shown me enough to always be aware. Like I said, I've helpt her before, and my husband talked to the guy in one of these situations. And he said the guy was an alright, fine young fellow!! She could have made it all up! I was floored when he said that. After the murder, he acknowledged how wrong he was, and that he clearly lacks gut instinct when it comes to guys and violence toward women. This girl did what I hope we all would do. We should have each others back, because we have noone else to count on. And OPs boyfriend is a p***k IMO.

    Load More Replies...
    Miriam Insidecor
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This boyfriend needs to be dumped. OP acted out of instinct but also made measured decisions. Women risk assess all the time because we live in a world with men.

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