Woman Continues To Enjoy Her Ice Cream In Peace As Entitled Mother Yells Profanities At Her For Not Sharing The Treat With Crying Toddler
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There is always something you’re looking forward to. The end of a long workday, the end of a lousy movie, the end of this article, or the sweet delight just inches away from your face. An ice cream—a gift from the gods! You feel the cold air against your lips, the scent of vanilla, the promise of the crunch of the cone, and then…
A child. Looking straight at your morsel of happiness, reaching their tiny hands toward it as if they’re drawn to it. The child, a mere stranger, may not be your worst enemy though; it’s their very entitled mother who believes that the ice cream is now the toddler’s rightful possession. This is the situation one person dealt with, describing it all in the subreddit r/AmIthe[Jerk].
A story full of twists, turns, satisfaction, and confusion. When Bored Panda reached out to cheesesandwitch96, who shared this story, the one thing she said about it all: “Be kind and civil but stand your ground if someone tries to cross your boundaries.”
Dear reader, I encourage you to stick around to the very end, leaving your opinions and potential ways to have solved this situation in the comments below. If by any chance you’re craving more afterward, here’s another article for you, sure to tickle your tastebuds. Now let’s get into it!
There’s nothing better than a cone of your favorite ice cream after a long and arduous day—that is until a toddler sets its gaze upon it
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Vanilla. Chocolate. Orange. Cookie Dough. Cherry Swirl. Mint Choco Chip. These are some of the potential flavors that we’ve all grown up with. They’re nostalgic, they’re refreshing, they’re comforting after a breakup, or after a sad movie, or just in any situation of life that is challenging. The last thing we want to happen to this morsel is for it to be stolen by none other than a stranger.
You’re gonna prevent that from happening at all costs, especially when that bit of joy was something you’d been looking forward to for most of the day. One Redditor named cheesesandwitch96 detailed this sort of situation in the r/AmIthe[Jerk] subreddit, where she wondered whether she was in the wrong for how she acted.
One woman was unexpectedly placed under harsh scrutiny for not submitting her ice cream to a fussy toddler by the child’s mother. Here is the full story:
Although one is always taught to never take candy (or in this case ice cream) from a stranger, this didn’t seem to stop the mom demanding it from the woman
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“Give it to my son and buy yourself a new one” are fighting words in my book. No one threatens my dessert and gets away with it! Now, to be the devil’s advocate, being a mother is no easy task. You will do anything it takes for your child to be healthy, happy, and content, even if that means asking strangers for their snacks.
The pressure and the social stigma, especially when it comes to the child crying in public, could drive the best of us to make some interesting choices in our lives. However, there is asking for help and there is demanding it.
Had the mother asked the stranger with some kindness if she could go to the shop and get her child a similar treat that she’d pay for afterward, I’m sure the original poster (OP) would have complied and we would not be speaking about this at all. You’d be off looking at a list of cats or something… But that ain’t the case now, is it?
Knowing what to do in said situations isn’t as ingrained in our minds as the fact that the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. Are you to do all it takes to fulfill the toddler’s wishes and help out a mother? They say that it takes a village for a reason… Or should you act the same way as this woman did? Let’s continue with the story.
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The mother didn’t continue to berate the woman for the rest of their trip; however, it did leave her wondering whether she was in the wrong for her actions
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One should strive to lead their life with kindness and grace, yet one can also argue that being allowed to be spoken down to and reduced to a mere pawn of entertainment and wish-fulfillment to a random child is an unkind act to oneself. We should never allow disrespectful people to make us act in ways that only benefit them.
In my eyes, the OP did nothing wrong in this situation. The child should not be blamed for wanting the ice cream, yet the mother, if she ever gets the chance to look at this situation from the side and take it as a learning experience, should never have approached a stranger with a demanding and entitled attitude, let alone berate them when she wasn’t getting her way.
It’s understandable that she wanted to prevent a temper tantrum from her child. According to KidsHealth, tantrums are a normal part of child development and they’re how young children show that they’re upset or frustrated, most often over not getting something they want. Learning to deal with frustration is a skill that children gain over time.
Dr. Linda Rubinowitz, a marriage and family therapist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, argues that the worst thing a parent can do when their child is having a tantrum is to react as violently as the child by yelling or through acts of physical violence.
Tactics such as bribing, begging, and giving in aren’t great either. “If you give in, you are rewarding the tantrum and ensuring that it will happen again and again,” says Dr. Rubinowitz. Kids need to know that “no” means “no,” even if they are upset about it. However, it is important to make it clear that while their feelings are OK, hurting others or themselves is not.
So, getting back to this situation, one thing is for certain—parenting is hard. Although the mother may have been tired from wandering the city for the full day and didn’t want another thing to add to her plate, shoving her problems onto another in such a rude way was definitely uncalled for, and it’s good that the OP decided to ignore the berating comments, rather than lashing back.
But let us know your thoughts on this! Do you agree with what happened? What would you have done differently? Write all your opinions down in the comments section below, and I shall wish you a much more calm day or evening than this person had to deal with. Adios!
People online have unequivocally agreed that she was right to have acted the way she did. Do you agree? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
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wtf? "It takes a village..." Nope. Your kids, your choice, but not my responsibility in any way, shape, or form.
It is my descision to be child free. If you want your kid to be my responsibility you have to be sure that I know you, like you and like your kid. I can be a part of a village but I don't want to be included in a random strangers village
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I just can't believe any parent would be like that,Never come across anything like it in all my 53 years .Where do these people exist??
Personally, if mum there demanded that of me, I'd bite a chunk of the ice cream (and bear with the brain freeze) just to spite her even more and rub it in her face (sorry, all these tales of entitlement have pretty much turned me into a monster). NTA by miles. Mum needs to get off her entitled behind and buy her kid the ice cream if he wants it that bad.
Look mom in the eye while licking the ice cream then saying on that's so yummy OMG I love ice cream this is the best.
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I would have fake coughed over it, then said “excuse me, what was it you asked?”
I had a similar thing on a plane. I got to my window seat. Mother and toddler take the next 2. I had my iPad out and started to read. Kid starts to try to grab the iPad from me, so I move it away and keep reading. Mother taps me on my leg to ask where she could check out one of the iPads. I told her that this was my iPad, there wasn’t s a supply onboard that you could check out. She then demanded that I let her child play with it. I said no way. She got a pissy and demanded louder that I allow her child to play with it. That the child needed something to play with. I told her that I didn’t care, not my problem and to leave me alone. She kept bitching at me, so I put my headphones on to block her out. Luckily it was a short flight.
My kiddo (a teen) and I were placed a few rows from one another during a trans-Atlantic flight and she had a mother _demand_ that she give her (apparently very rough, sticky-fingered) toddler her Switch for the duration of the flight. She refused and put her headphones in. "Did I do the right thing? I felt kind of bad..." "You absolutely did the right thing. The seats had screens for movies and I'm sure that the lady had a phone with her. There's no planet where someone trying to strongarm you into 'giving' their toddler your $300 piece of electronics is ok. 7 hour flights aren't generally a surprise. She could have planned better."
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Why are so many parents like this. I find it astounding that they expect others to give up everything for THEIR children. This is exactly how kids become so entitled in their nature. It is the same with parents who have children who will damage other peoples property etc and then say "they are only playing"
I think this is a report bias. The same phenomenon occurs in the perception of crime. Nobody reports when everything has gone well or rarely when someone has been successfully rehabilitated, because nobody is interested. But if it doesn't work out, then there is reporting. So you only get information about negative events and perceive everything as unsafe even though the data and statistics say the opposite.
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I have had this exact thing happen to me in a park. I leaned in towards the mom and said "I know this may be confusing for you, but I don't give a F**K about your kid.
Now that's worth repeating! And u didn't involve the child Very well done
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Ridiculous. It was up to the child's mother to either buy him a snack or to move to a different seat where he wouldn't have to watch someone else eating. But really, what mother doesn't travel with snacks?
No one travels with ice cream so that kid was going to mewl no matter what.
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If this story is true…. I would never let my child eat an ice cream covered in adult stranger's saliva 😳🤮
The only brat in this situation was the mother. Who was apparently intent upon raising another brat, sigh.
I'd say so are you going to pay me to give MY icecream to your screaming kid? No? Then p*ss off and quit demanding something that isn't yours
If that woman said to me "give it to my son and buy yourself a new one" I would have uncontrollably laughed in her face for a full minute and then said something like "That's the best impersonation of a self-entitled Karen I've ever seen! You should try stand-up comedy!". Then I would have gotten up and got a second ice cream, which I would ALSO eat in front of her, maintaining eye contact and smiling the entire time. 🫠
It was too bad she was so tired. If some stranger had said to me "give him your ice cream and go buy another," I would have responded with "YOU go buy him the ice cream. This is mine." I'm absolutely gobsmacked at the behaviour of this mother. I feel SO sorry for that toddler. He's going to have a miserable life because of his mom.
I would have sighed and said, "fine, give me your wallet." If she would actually have done that I would give the kid my ice-cream and then went and bought the biggest, most expensive ice-cream they had to replace mine, using the mother's money.
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I don't know why some of these things are even posted. Teach your child early that they cannot have anything they want. Teach the concept of "that does not belong to you."
I doubt the mother has the concept ,considering her behaviour.
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NTA and this was a teaching moment for the mom to her child that the world isn’t theirs and you can’t just take stranger’s food.
Agreed. Someone should tell that mother : Copernicus called. Confirmed that your child is not the center of the universe. lol
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It takes a village is more for a supporting role, like being understanding, taking action if a child is in danger or gets hurt.... Not for ppl to be like "hey my kid likes that give it to him!" Tf that's just ignorant and entitled b******t. Plus as a mom, I always have snacks with me and some form of entertainment especially on a longish trip, I don't know a mom that doesn't at least have candy on them at all times lol
In fact, I'd say that OP pulled the real weight of "it takes a village" by helping to reinforce that the kid isn't the center of the universe. "Don't be an entitled narcissist" is a good lesson no matter the age.
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teach your child some manners, respect for others and self control. and use the word no a tad more
WTH kids can’t have everything they want. That woman is raising a nightmare
How about tell the mother you are eating ice cream to sooth all the sores in your mouth from herpes? Still want to share my infection?
Moving the absurd entitlement to the side for a moment... I don't have kids, but I can't imagine wanting to give a toddler ice cream at 10PM. FFS.
I have *very occasionally* juked a young child with sugar knowing that the rush would lead to a crash (though the timing had to be _just right_). But ice cream? On a train? No. Toddlers - and I say with love - are little mess demons. No one needs the sticky horror that had better than even odds of happening.
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I can’t believe the parents in this situation. Can you imagine the gall to demand a stranger to give their child a half eaten ice cream. You’re poor planning and parenting isn’t anyone else’s problem but yours. And her mother? Wth? Saying she should have given her ice cream away because it was rubbing it in their face to eat it in front of them? She’s just a as unhinged as the demanding mother.
WTH? Are we responsible for everyone else's children now? Did the mother really want her child to have ice cream that some stranger had ALREADY LICKED? If AH momma had acted immediately, she would have had enough time to run out and gotten her child ice cream. Instead, she decided to waste that precious time and make someone else miserable. AH momma didn't see the ice cream stand herself? What if OP had a lollipop in her mouth, instead of the ice cream. Would she still have expected THAT to be shared as well? How about people talking to their kids about sometimes you can't always get what you want, when you want it. Yes, a toddler's brain isn't developed like an adults. But it's never too early to teach your child about what's appropriate, and not appropriate. Instead, child learns that it's ok to put on a tantrum in an attempt to get what you want.
The audacity of people demanding that they give you their food!! And OP's mother?? WTAF is wrong with her? Are these people for real or are they just looking to get reddit-famous?
What a weird mom. 1. Stranger danger, in a different way. 2. Shop is super close, buy your own kid their own ice cream 3. Mom wasted a teaching moment. I would have simply said to the toddler, "This is my ice cream and it had my germs on it. It can make you sick. You can ask your mommy to get you a new ice cream though!" Balls in her court.
I would have said that too, wtf is with these immature baby moms? 😖
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"she couldn't believe I would do that to a kid" I'm sorry, what? What did she do to the kid? Ate her own ice cream?
Other parents are seriously why my kids barely have playdates. We have a very small circle of friends who I will allow my kids to play with because their parents are good people and raise their kids in a similiar way we do our own. I cannot ever imagine saying or demanding anything from someone else for myself let alone my child that does not belong to us.
This is why I think it would be funny to have a bottle of salt/sugar (depending on the food you're eating), and label it as a kind of drug (doesn't matter what), and put it on whatever you're eating, right in front of any strangers. They probably won't ask you to share the food anymore. So in this case, pouring some sugar on your ice cream, from a bottle labeled something random like "tetrahypomine." using an old pill bottle would probably do the trick too.
NTA. People who have a sense of entitlement are unfortunately teaching their children to also be future AHs.
I actually work with people who act like that mother, except about themselves.
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I do agree that she didn’t give the ice cream to the child at the demand of the mother. I believe the child learned a listen, that not everyone is going to give him what he wants.
THAT child learned nothing that day except mom did not make the bad girl share that time. Don't delude yourself
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NTA - I can’t even believe she had the gall to demand that you give the toddler your ice cream. I think telling her where she could buy them was enough.
First of all that's really rude of the mother two who lets their kids like a stranger's ice cream cone not in this day and age.
She thinks if she goes to get an ice cream, she'll miss the train, but doesn't mind telling you to take the same chance? Chutzpah!
Not to get off the topic, but you can really tell the people who have never worked a retail or service job a day in their lives by how absolutely certain they are that a story like this must be "made up." I'm sorry, but if you think horrible, spoiled, entitled people like this mom from Hell *aren't* really out there making life miserable for everyone around them, then go work at a gas station or McDonald's, or hell, even go be a teacher for a month or two; I guarantee you'll quickly change your tune.
Personally i think that mother is absolutely insane. Even if she was the sweetest mom alive and offered thousands of dollars and begged at her feet. It's a stranger dude she might have diseases and your willing to murder your child by letting them eat other people's stuff. That's sick.
NTA. Also, she could have offered to buy you another snack or drink or something if there was enough time and you were willing to go buy her kid an ice cream. And if you didn't want to, that's not on you either. That kid is going to grow up a brat with a karen mom like that.
Is this a real thing where parents demand things from strangers for their children they refuse to teach manners to? Can’t be real or the world is truly doomed.
Work any service job for long, and you'd be surprised what kinds of demands people have.
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Um?? Eww. Why would a parent want their kid to have any kind of food that was already partially eaten by a COMPLETE STRANGER?! Think of the germs!! 🤢
Years ago, when my first child was almpst 2, I and a friend of mine were talking around lunchtime. She was eating a plate of Mac n cheese. My toddler reached his hands into her plate and she in a knee jerk reaction ( I guess) just narrowly missed stabbing his fingers with the fork. I was furious. He was only 2. She told me I needed to teach my child to not put their fingers in anyone's food. That was 1983. I never spoke to her again. He was just a baby but her actions did startle him. It pains me to say this but after thst incident. My son never ever has reached his hands into anyone's plate without their permission. It is a very bad habit to share food or expect strangers to share food it is one sure way to spread diseases, also there are people who will slap a child with wandering fingers and if necessary, slap their mother too. SOME people are territorial. ALSO an untrained child is easily enticed by offers of candy or ice cream from strangers. She is conditioning her kid.
Really? Covid taught people nothing? As if I'm going to share food, or come close to strangers. And for what? To be part of a liability law suit if the child becomes I'll or has allergies?
YOUR child ---> YOUR money. MY money ---> MY ice cream. Simple, isn't it?
I feel sorry for the child having such a drama queen for a mother. I forsee many problems ahead for this poor child. As to giving into the drama queen NO! No one has the right to demand another give anything to their child. The drama queen was totally out of line. If she wanted her child to have ice cream she should have gotten it herself. Just Me
Not my kid, not my problem. If the pretentious mom wants her kid to have ice cream, she can go buy it herself.
The way this SHOULD have gone: *Child cries about ice cream* Mother: "that's not your ice cream, sweetie, if you are good on the ride, I'll get you some at our station." OP: "if it's OK with you, I'll go grab the child one." Mother: "Please, don't, my child needs to learn patience, and boundaries. This is a perfect opportunity to work on that. Thanks, anyway. I hope that the small tantrum they are about to throw doesn't disturb you too much. I'll try to quiet the child quickly." *O.P. places headphones, and smiles at mom.*
NTA. As the daughter of a nurse I would have brought up how insanely thoughtless the mother was to suggest Igive the child my ice cream. The ice cream that now had my germs on it. Who know what germs. I could be carrying something that from a distance is fine, but put it your mouth at that age would sterilize your kid forever...or worse. What are you thinking? I'm probably not, but you don't know. Go buy your kid his own ice cream.
Buy your own kid an icecream. The other thing is every child needs to learn limits and that you can't always get what you want. The mother of this child must have had a spoilt childhood
Oh man I could’ve had fun with this one, first I would cough a few times, discreetly but loud enough for mom to hear, I would take a few licks and start to hand it to the kid while saying” oh, sure he looks hungry, I’m just getting over the flu/Covid/bad respiratory infection. That should be ok, right?” Heheh moms reaction would be epic
Seriously??? God forbid I ever acted that way as a child, let alone let my kids do something like that. Your are NTA here, she is, and her whiny snot goblin. I would have done the same. Stop teaching xhildren entitlement. Mom n kid need a lesson in manners. People like that make me hate people
Fck no you shouldn't give up ur ice cream. I would've cussed out that is entitled pos for talking to me in the first place. It's not ur job to do anything for this kid. Better be glad it wasn't me I would've thrown it right in her face and not cared.
The mother was irresponsible demanding that a stranger, whom she doesn't know what illness she may have, to give her ice cream to her screaming child! It's absolutely absurd and out of line. I'd laugh at the mom. I'd say go get your kid an ice cream and do not talk to me again. She threatened you, berated you, etc. That child will grow up to take what's not his,criminal, and will at the least be an entitled grown up brat!! NTA
I would have asked her if she would enjoy the COVID the comes with the ice cream?
Wow...just wow. That's a whole new level of crazy. I don't even know where to start...when I was a kid I was told not to talk to strangers, let alone not to take food from them. Kids also need to learn crying doesn't get you what you want - sadly, you don't always get what you want. What kind of lesson is she teaching her kid?! I would have lost it on her when she zsaid you were trying to make her miss the train, when all you did was tell her to do exactly what she told you to do FOR HER KID!! If she didn't have time to get off and get off and get it, how were you supposed to？I could go on for days on how crazy this lady is, but I'm gonna move on to your mom. How can every comment I have seen agree agree with your actions, but not your own mother? You bought ice cream, you should be able to eat it anywhere you damn please, if anyone gets jealous - tough, that's life
I’m more concerned about the OP’s mother’s berating her for this
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I feel bad for the kid too, however you were not traveling with mother and child. To me it is like ordering a milkshake and fries at a fast food joint then sitting to eat. What anyone else is or isn't having is not my problem. Good you had headphones.
So, in the time of The Coof, entitled mom wants her kid to swap spit with a stranger? Hmmmm...
Dude. My niece works in a restaurant, and it makes her mad because even with covid, people still put their sauces on the tray to dip the food in. It's a generic fast food place. That's like doing it at Wendy's or McDonald's. I have seen these teenagers wiping the trays. They wipe the top, and sort of give a cursory swipe to the bottom. Which means the dirty bottom of the tray that you stick on top of the other trays.. plus I usually have a gaggle of teenagers, and they hardly change the sanitized water in any of the major chains. Like, they all have weird floatys for hours.
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YTA.... to yourself, for eating ice cream and snacks for dinner. That's not healthy! (/j) 🤣😋
I don't believe this for a second. Most of these posts are made up.
You hadn't eaten all day, grabbing anything to tie you over until a more reasonable time to eat, is there a law that states you (particularly) have to feed something or share with others? You're good with kids -- yeah -- but you're under no obligation to feed someone else's kid. Personally, I wear glasses and bilateral Cochlear Implants; I've worn hearing aids for over four decades before getting the CI's. That doesn't mean that I will allow a kid or anyone else, for that matter, touch or hold them. For years, I had a Hearing Dog. People pet her without asking or do something else to distract her from her job with me. Why should I let anyone pet my dog? Lastly, what I have is for me alone. What you have is for you alone. If people don't like it, then call the police or file a lawsuit.
I AM SO SICK OF THAT "It takes a village" poo and that "well, you could choose to be kind" for other people's kids!!!! I heard it every time I was denied holiday leave because people with kids "need it more than you do" and when I had to take leave but parents could just walk out early for Little Sugarbun's ball game! Your village is YOUR friends and family.
If I cry and make a scene will you give me your house? I really want one.
Honestly, you did that child a favour. Learning that no is an acceptable answer and sounds like the child won't learn that from people "being nice".
Should’ve said “No can do, lady … I have MONO & my saliva has already contaminated this, so; I’m NOT giving your kid a diseased ice cream cone, because if your kid got sick, you could sue me!” 🍦🦠🙅♀️🤣
I might have got off the train if there was time and got myself a second cone.
That mother is an entitled witch with a capital B. I raised two sons. Never once did I even request that someone share their food/snack/whatever with my boys. GROSS!! I either went and got them what they asked (note that they ASKED) for or explained that we did not have time right now and he would have to wait.
Most people would be intelligent enough to have some treats with them for their child on a trip!
Lol. I would have told the mother she had lost her mind and If I even thought her normal MO was to beg strange people share food with her baby in this time of Herpes, Hepatitis A, B and C, RSV, thrush, flu, etc I would report her to CPS for child endangerment. THEN as I began to eat I would tell her she was an unfit mother for demanding strangers who have all kinds of cooties also share food with her kid. THAT is the type of parent who leaves kids with abusive people they do not know because they are stupid and assume too much about others.
This story is soo unbelievable it sounds made up!! This is definitely in America, no? The child’s mother can buy her own toddler an icecream!!
NTA...Not your kid. You had no responsibility for their happiness. If Mom wanted the kid to stop crying she should have bought them some ice cream.
How dare anyone demand anything for their child from strangers. As a self-described misanthrope, our encounter would've been far less pleasant.
Who even does this? Who goes up to a perfect stranger and says Give me the food you're eating or Give me your expensive electronic device?!? And why would Anyone think they're the AH for saying No? Village be damned. Not my kid. Not my problem. We're not talking life or death, we're talking spoiled brat and if it takes a Village, my part of the village says No you can't have mine. Your mom needs to get you your own.
Some of the Karen & demon child stories are hard to believe anymore. For me, this is one I just can’t. What I do find believable is that people seek validation more & more online, and a predictable result is that the stories have to get crazier & crazier to garner likes/ attention. This just feels like a reach. Sorry.
I would have started to lick it verrrrrry slowwwwwly. Let you see all the white of my tongue as I ate my ice cream
I would have looked at that mother and said; this maybe the way you act and talk in your home. BUT your a*s is in public, you are simply NOT that important to me and my life THIS IS NOT EXCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!! DO NOT talk to me any longer!! And your child's temper tantrum is a reflection upon your parenting skills, no wonder he is acting this way, sooo entitled. Like mother, like son
No, you are NOT the butt, but SHE is!! She could have easily, very kindly asked if you would have minded getting one for her child & offering you the money of course. Maybe even offering to buy you another one. If she didn't have the money, then just tell her child no. If it was late he was probably sleepy anyway, but Mom should have planned ahead. She should have brought along treats for her child and not rely on others (strangers) to feed her child. But, you did the right thing by just listening to your music and not engaging her in any conversation at all. By her demanding that a stranger give her child whatever he desires, she's only teaching her child that he can get whatever he wants. Who knows what he'll be when he gets older if people cave in to his Mom.
NTA... I personally would have said to the mom before I went to the store (if I had the extra money and the fact of having been a single mom) I am getting me an ice cream would it be ok to get your kid one too. But otherwise sorry about your luck teach your kid what no means and the fact what strangers are.
I think the woman in the story did a wonderful job with the situation. The mother was a poor role model for the toddler. Kids are like sponges and all the mother has shown the toddler is to be rude and disparaging when you don't get your way. The woman was very mature to simply put on headphones and ignore the mother. It does "take a village to raise a child" and the woman showed the child what the mother didn't. You can't always get what you want by throwing a tantrum and to ignore someone who is being rude. As for not feeling guilty about eating ice cream in front of the child, why should the woman feel guilty. She is sitting in a public space and eating what she bought after having not eaten during the day. The mother could have moved away with her child if the ice cream was too disruptive. Apparently it was not, for the mother stayed near the woman.
It is not your kid and not your financial responsibility or social obligation. Your mom is as much of an idiot as the kids mom amd the kids mom is a neglectful parent for encouraging her kids behavior to want and cry as a demand to get things that don't belong to him. I hope this is a fake story and if not you 100% did the right thing. We need to stop this socialism BS plaguing the world. If your not taken care of yourself first Noone else matters.
This happened to me on a flight once. I packed a couple snacks so I could take my meds on the flight. I have stomach issues so most of my "snacks" aren't really kid friendly. They're not usually ice cream & cookies. I pulled out my stash of over priced protein bars & other stuff & this woman literally tried to grab my bag of snacks from my tray without asking. She said "my kid doesn't have snacks & doesn't like pretzels" (we were flying southwest) & I'm like "I literally couldn't care less... I don't have kids.. the f**k if I'm paying to feed someone else's" ... had she asked nicely I would have been more open to it. But the kicker is that her kid didn't even seem to be paying attention to my food. I think she was just one of those ppl who uses their kid to get s**t for themselves or to basically be a shield so she can act like a jerk & be like "bUt iM a MoM!" Having kids doesn't make you special. Idgaf about you or your kid. Go away
I truly believe some people are born missing parts of their brains. I ALWAYS made sure that I had snacks, juice boxes, books, and activities packed for my kids whenever we left the house. This idiot didn't plan ahead, and that isn't your problem. I simply would have quietly said, "A GOOD mother plans ahead for her child & brings the things he needs on a trip. She doesn't blame others when she drops the ball. If you want to get YOUR child ice cream, that is YOUR responsibility, not mine." Entitled people need to be told the truth bluntly. NTA for eating in front of the kid, either. I'd gently tell him that I'm sorry his mommy didn't get him one. He has to learn he can't just take what he wants from others. What if you had a phone he wanted? Not gonna happen!
NFW. That's your ice cream. You bought it. Not hers to give to her kid. She should have snacks for her kid. Period. The end.
Uh I read nothing about her money for the ice cream, or reasons why she could not do it herself, explanations why you should that might be plausible enough to allow, she brought no snacks, was not prepared herself but wanted You to feel fault? That poor kid will probably grow up a aeriel killer from lack of parenting. As for Your mother..I would have said I was setting the proper example nessacary which still shows compassion to the child And teaching mommy dearest a lesson in parenting for free. I didn't read anything about the mommy dearest doing anything about it still after . I never went anywhere without snacks or drinks for my kids. It helped a ton. That child's mom sounds like one that "forgets" children in a car
In hindsight, you could have negotiated with the entitled Mother. "If I do that for your sweet baby" what will you do for me....for the rest of the trip?" Put the ball in the Mother's court as to whether her baby gets the ice cream. You were under no obligation to be forced out of your ice cream. And forcing the Mother to understand that there is no free lunch in this world, was quite appropriate I think.
While I do understand the mother's position despite being childfree myself, I have to stand against leveraging children to empower absurd demands. The OP is the victim of gaslighting here, by the mother of the screaming child.
I feel like there has to be more to the story like something that's missing. My kids were bratty toddlers that couldn't even hear direction after they went into melt down mode but even so I wouldn't demand food from a fellow passenger lol. I have sighed and thought "oh great" when people eat candy ect out in public in front of my kids lol but it's always a teaching moment kids have to learn compromise and delayed gratification eventually.
That mom could've gotten up and bought her child some ice cream! I would've done the exact same thing, children need to learn that they can't have everything they want all the time life will have some disappointment. Now as for the mom's attitude I would've read wrote and erased here immediately and then proceeded to put my head phones on and if she persisted I would've told her to shut up and stop talking to me. Now if this didn't work I would've asked to be moved because of this woman's nasty attitude. You're not the a hole that entitled mom was. I wish someone would try that with me ooh wee would they get an ear ful. Trust me they would learn that day
As the mother of a toddler and a professional who has worked with children for almost 20 years, the OP is totally NTA. I would never expect, much less ask anyone, especially a stranger to give my child food, specifically food they were eating. That is rude and horrible behavior on that mother's part. I would have probably offered the child one of my other snacks in order to divert the situation. Had the mother scoffed at that, then sorry about their luck.
As a parent, I have dealt with MANY Ice Cream/Junk Food Tantrums (It’s actually very common)..If that rude, sorry a*s mom on the train can’t even handle a tantrum over ice cream, then she’s really in for a big surprise when her kid is a teenager. I think OP’s actions were perfect and hilarious. Being older than OP, I definitely wouldn’t have been so nice. I’m pretty much a misanthrope b/c of c**p like this. It fills my heart with joy that there are people out there that are nicer than I am.😊😁Good tidings to OP💖☮️
I have 8 children and only one acted like that(still does at 20something). We as parents set the tone on how our children act. They learn their behavior from us. I would have ignored the situation and concentrated on what lies ahead for me.
Anyone who's had a long day with a stressful agenda, especially if you haven't eaten and you want to a little "you" time just to sit back and relax with music & ice cream, I mean she was kind enough already to let the mom & child share the cabin with her; let alone her kid just yelling out that he/she wants the ice cream, that's disrespectful, no kid should even be asking a total stranger second the parent shouldn't be demanding because what makes her think that she has money to buy another ice cream for a kid that's not even relative, she could have at least asked politely, then maybe, i'll give you my ice cream for your I-phone, your mom can buy another one. what makes people think that everybody's made out of money? What if the train took off? a good amount of kids in general already get spoiled as it is, throwing a tantrum? Ask your mom kid, you want something you got to earn it; or "please & thank you, if you was poor then yea, maybe
That poor child...glad someone did not give in to the mother's self entitled tantrum...that poor child will grow up just like her....ugh
The OP P was NOT obligated to give a stranger her ice cream cone. I was raised to refuse treats from strangers,too!! The entitled mom showed a level of disrespect that was off the charts!!!! So,NTA for the OP's actions.
I usually would try desperately to deadpan "ma'am you don't want your kid to have this. It contains all of my antipsychotic medications mixed in it, and I'm eating it now so that I don't let my claustrophobia get the best of me on a train. Smile politely. Finish eating and try not to laugh watching mommy dearest pick her jaw off the floor.... But I'd probably crack up at the expression and ruin the effect. 🤦
I’ll never forget one day as I babysat 2 young brothers. One was very well behaved while the other wouldn’t mind for anything! I threatened him with ice cream. I said” if you don’t behave, your brother and I will have ice cream n you won’t get any.” Of course he didn’t believe me. We’ll later after their mom came home I went n bought some ice cream and as his brother n I enjoyed it, he screamed about me being mean n unfair n then his mom joined in n couldn’t believe I would eat ice cream in front of him without sharing. She wanted me to give him some. “Nope! He knew what the consequences of his behavior was.” After he dried his tears, he apologized. He still didn’t get any; that time but after that he was very well behaved for me!
What planet was that mother dropped off from? Please. We tell children not to accept things from strangers and she broke that rule. What kind of life does that woman live? Entitled to the hilt
The whole it takes a village is bs. When you have a child that child is your responsibility, no one else's. You're not entitled to someone else's stuff. Your children want ice-cream? Either get up and get it yourself or deal with your child. Seriously, this behavior is baffling.
As someone who raised two kids to adulthood, I say NTA in big screaming letters. That mom, on the other hand, was a major AH. You did the right thing. Your mom had a brain lapse with her answer. Good for you!! What would happen if you were playing a video game and her child wanted it? Nope, nope, nope.
I agree with Dr Linda!!! You responded correctly!!! It is Not your fault nor your responsibility to cater to someone else's kid because they want something that doesn't belong to them. Toddler or otherwise. The mother was ABSOLUTELY out of line! Parenting skills ZERO!!! Ihave 3 grown kids and 6 grands (3)toddlers and I be darn if I leave my home ill prepared. She was just dead wrong!!! You are to always take any possible item with you for ANY trip regarding infants and toddlers, if she doesn't know this...she shouldn't have one!!! And maybe your mom just didn't understand the entirely of the scenario.
I have a hard time buying this one. I know people are entitled and crazy these days, but literally taking food from a stranger's mouth to put in the toddler's mouth? The extremes just don't compliment each other. I may be wrong, but it's way more likely a lonely person wanted some internet attention after feeling unnecessarily guilty when a toddler cried over watching her eat her ice cream cone. People without kids are way more bothered by it than a seasoned mother. Toddlers get fussy and test boundaries.
Dang, what a missed opportunity. "Your child can have my ice cream... for $100. What a horrible parent you are" lol
Idk I feel like this situation happened but not the way op said. Maybe the mom demanded "give my kid your snacks, you can go buy more" and then got pissy when op didn't. But a parent seeing someone actively eating food and then tell that person to give the food to their kid?? Especially an entitled parent?? That just doesn't happen,,, They only want "the best" for their kids, they wouldn't give them something already being eaten. (Or did I misunderstand op and the food wasn't actually open yet?)
I have three kids, and I wouldn't have dreamt of asking someone to give them their food when they were little or at any time, especially food they were already eating. It's so bizarre people do this sort of thing.
And this is exactly how you bring up a thief or a liar or yet another super entitled person. That kid will just learn that whatever it wants it will get, regardless of the consequences. It probably is one of those kids in school now that just takes things off others maliciously without question. Really c**p parenting here and disgustingly rude request of a total stranger 'give your ice cream to my child now' ??? FFS what a total nutjob.
Not hygienic for the child to eat food of strangers anyway who knows what diseases they could be carrying also to quote mick jagger you can’t always get what you want should be tabby early
On top of all the other VERY VALID points people have made; it was after 10PM!!! Who would even give permission to give that much sugar to a toddler at that hour, in a confined space?? Not a chance. I'd be pissed off if you even offered it to my kids at that time of night.
I was sitting at a picnic table in a park reading a book one time. I had my water bottle sitting on the table near the edge. This guy comes along trailing a small child, four years old perhaps. The kid comes over and starts reaching for my water bottle. So the dad picks up the bottle and moves it to the centre of the table. I turn and look right at him with a "what the hell are you doing?" expression on my face. He says "If I didn't move it, he was going to take it." This neutered nancy thought it was easier and more appropriate to handle a stranger's property than to move his brat away or tell him not to touch it. I just stared the gelding in the eyes with the same expression till his boss had enough of me and my table and led him away. He heard me call him a re+@rd as he was walking away.
I just want to draw a big circle stars around the part where it talks about children's tantrums, your feeling are okay but hurting people is not. Fast forward to today's adults that are still mentally children throwing a tantrum saying, you don't have a right to your own feelings. I hate people that chew with their mouth open. So I'm hateful, and I should lose my job and home and be homeless and suffer. Some of you people with jobs and expensive cell phones reading this article are still this toddler.
F that kid and its mother. I would've enjoyed that ice cream in the loudest and most ostentatious way possible. Then, I would have made a huge display of not being able to eat another bite, and thrown half of it in the trash, just to watch the lady and her brood lose their minds.
NTA and you were not rubbing it in. Psycho mom was a conplete AH.
Lmao what the f**k. As a parent, that's some serial-killer s**t right there.
Same as a mother of a teen who does something messed up and horrific..."They are such a good child; I can't imagine how they could be responsible. Someone else must have done something to them to cause this. "
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Worst mother ever!!! No boundaries teaching her child he has the right to take what he wants because he wants it. Do you think that is a great idea to teach your child this? Don’t R and abusers feel entitled to take what they want when not offered to them? Hope her son gets good counseling that covert narcist mother teaching how mom how to berate women and maybe more if he can’t get what he wants. I’ve taught my kids you do not get what you want just because you get upset But also if a child is playing w a toy and you want it you can ask but asking isn’t getting so if they say no you need to deal with it. They are not obligated to give you what they have. Hope the mom saves up for attorneys and bail money for her sons future if he doesn’t make good choices.
NTA The mother is even more spoiled than her child, and she is raising a little mini version of herself. Scary. Manners are gradually disappearing because of people like that mother.
Unfortunately, I would have gotten way too much satisfaction smashing that cone into the betch’s whining face (the big one, not the little hag she’s forming.)
The hag mom (who is creating a hag child) would be wearing that ice cream cone.
After what we all went through with covid I call B.S. on this story. Another "evil older person story" to boot.
"It takes a village"... Well someone go to this mother's village and tell them we found their idiot.
She was def NTA, however that comment that a child's tears make it taste so much sweeter?!? THAT was an AH remark!!
what kind of dumb f**k expects a stranger to give their child something to eat, she can go f**k herself
I would have told the woman and child ; that even though it takes a village to raise a child. I sadly for them but thankfully I was moving to a NEW village!!
It would be you can k I s s my @$$. I don't care if the brat is fussy or not, not my problem
It could be that I'm just really tired or that I have been dealing with this B of a mother at my daycare bit if this happened to me, I would have straight up asked if she was the one who birth the child or if it was me. Unless you are my family or friends I don't need to give you sh*t. NTA
I would just tell them it’s a “medicated” item. That unless you want to poison your child, step off. Like the saying goes, “lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.”
I'd tell her to go buy him his icecream and that he's not getting mine. I'd also tell her to quit thinking she is going to run everyone over and that everyone is not going to put up with her b.s. and be told what to do,and one day she will run into the wrong person,because you don't ever know who you are talking to like that
This is some next level BS right here... I'm having a hard time understanding how anyone would want their child to have an already licked/bitten into or opened treat that belongs to someone else. Who does that? I'm a Mom myself and I would never and have never demanded that anyone give their food [whatever it may be] to my kids. I'm their Mom and if they ask for the same treat, then we get it... simple as that. I guess I can't get over that... she demanded???? Oooo Lordy I would have told her toddler to cover their ears while I have a nice conversation with Mommy...
I would have said "Sure, that'll be 20 bucks for the ice cream, delivery fee, entitled mom fee, and brat fee.
NTA she expected you a stranger to hand over your ice cream to her child. Not even offer to buy it from you. S**t cones are expensive. Not to mention gross to eat someone else's ice cream after they licked it. Ewww
This just didn't happen. Entitled parents are everywhere. You don't need to make one up.
Just no. I eat ice cream in front of my grandson if he throws a tantrum instead of saying please or just tries to grab it without saying please. He is a toddler at 2 years old. Never to young to set boundaries and teach manners.
I would not have given my ice cream to the kid either. I don't think eating it, was rubbing it in the kids face. The kids mom could have went and bought their kid some ice cream or simply told the kid no and put an end to him pitching a fit. A lot of nerve to expect a stranger, to just give your child something, because they are throwing a fit. I never had to deal with my kids behaving that way because they wanted something and didn't get it, when they were little. They knew better
This is how disease gets spread....someone already licked the ice cream, might be sick (probably not in this case, but you never really know), then an entitled person starts demanding the already half-eaten food. My kids know better than to whine for what someone else has. They will get their own, even if they have to wait for whatever it is. Also, I always have snacks with me for my kids to eat, just in case they get hungry while we are out. Mom Life is only difficult if you have no idea what you're doing.
I have a daughter, she knows the score, other people sometimes have nice stuff, sometimes it’s her that has nice stuff. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose but the mark of a decent human being is being polite and respectful no matter which side of the deal you are on. FFS it’s my job to be Dad to my child, it’s my job to ensure life goes as smoothly as possible, if I rely on you for calm then I’ve royally messed up. Enjoy your ice cream but beware my daughter will try to engage you in a game of UNO and despite her young age she’s ruthless. 😀
I'd been mortified if the ride was dealing with those kind. I'd hacked sneezed, blew my nose all that said , oh that's the best ice cream as I Wait my covid & flu results.
I can't believe that I have to say this, but you don't allow your children to eat after complete strangers. You never know what illnesses they have and whether they can be passed to your child. Also, it is just plain rude to demand that a stranger give up whatever they have to your child. If your child wants something, it is your responsibility to get it for them. The entitlement of some parents today is so unreal.
How is this toddler the responsibility of this 25 year old strange girl?? How about mom buy her own kids an ice cream? I would have called the train car agent and asked that one of the parties be reassigned as the mom is clearly belligerent and harassing this strange girl.
I'd have told her to go f*ck herself while proceeding to eat it slowly in front of them both. That kid is most likely going to grow up to be as sh*tty and entitled as his crazy a** mother. This one really got under my skin, lol where tf do you find these ridiculous humans??
"Sure, you can have it. After your mommy goes and buys me another one. Oh mommy won't do that? Sorry little one. Your self absorbed, lazy, cheap mommy doesn't want you to enjoy this wonderful, delicious ice cream." And boom goes the dynamite.
YTA...for even posting something so obviously not your bad. I find it hard to believe that somewhere in your head you are actually wondering whether you were wrong to not do what a stranger ordered you to do. Dumb post. Dumber on BP for reposting this.
Some guy chopped my head off but I got his axe pretty bloody, am in the a*****e. Please random internet people tell me your opinions quick cause as a severed head I don't have long as you can imagine
Slap the child. Punch the mother, and then come home and slap your mom for her reaction.
Please please stop the fancy writing and get to the point, it was tiring to read the article to reach the story and understand what happened. There was too many unnecessary writing and examples. Please write in a simpler more direct way. As for the story, she was in the right since it's not her job to satisfy strangers demands, the mom is a child herself she didn't deal with the situation correctly
I think OPs mom was given more details and was disappointed that she was a cruel in how she ate it in front of the kid first thing and put headphones on when she is normally more tactful. IF she usually does in the past. For all we know there was more than the sad toddler but also a baby in a stroller and a bunch of c**p to lug to go get an ice cream and OP mom gets that. The issue to most of us is the way in which the toddler's mom was demanding instead of asking nicely for a favor. That was rude yet I do not commend the OP for her own response actions. She did not have to give up any items but she didn't have to be passive -aggressive in front of the kid. She just taught that kid,in her village how to be cruel to older people in a jam and kids is how he may see it! One day, will be cruel and not give a thought to her or those like her, maybe when she is old, needs help, has no kids of her own, and is frail, needs a snack, or place to sit, he will scoff, ignore and turn up his musi
He's a *toddler.* You really think 35 years from now he's going to remember that time some lady was (justifiably) somewhat rudish to his mom on a train and tell some poor old woman to go to hell when she asks him to help her to her car with her groceries? C'mon, let's not blow this up into something it isn't. He probably forgot all about it 15 minutes later; that's how toddlers are. Besides, what else should OP have done? The mom was already cussing her out by that point, so should OP just have to sit there taking her abuse? What valuable lesson would *that* have taught the child? OP had every right to turn up her music and tune out the mom after she began verbally assaulting her for not giving into her unreasonable demands, and OP's own mother comes off as completely unreasonable for trying to guilt her for that.
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I think you are correct as for your choice of not being demanded to do something and that you don't have to share your snacks. I kind of agree with your mom. Did you already know there was a toddler in your room before you went to go get snacks? Did you ask the mom if there was something she needed from snack bar before you left? That could've saved the toddler from a meltdown and a more enjoyable ice cream.
There are two individuals other than you and I would say that you were NTA to the mom, but out of anger and hunger, you were kind of an AH to the kid. Along with “never take food from strangers”, I was also taught that if you didn’t bring enough for all, you shouldn’t eat it in front of all. It wouldn’t have been giving in to the mom if you had your treat in another space, but the toddler may not have been so upset. It was also 10pm and they were likely tired too. I agree with your mom.
"If you didn't bring enough for all, you shouldn't eat it in front of all." You cannot possibly be serious right now. That's a fine rule for the classroom, but that doesn't mean it applies to literally *everywhere* else on the planet. Imagine walking up to someone eating lunch in a restaurant and invoking this line of reasoning. "But... I bought this food for myself." "Oh, you didn't buy enough for everyone here? Well you shouldn't be eating it then." That would be absolutely insane. Seriously, was OP supposed to buy a bunch of extra ice cream just incase everyone else in her train car wanted some? Is that how public transportation etiquette works, now? And why *should* OP have to get up and move to a different car just because the kid was upset? If the mom had done her job and said no, or just gotten him his own ice cream, then that would have been the end of it, but no, she acted like an entitled jerk then tried to put the onus on OP for not giving into her demands.
Load More Replies... wtf? "It takes a village..." Nope. Your kids, your choice, but not my responsibility in any way, shape, or form.
It is my descision to be child free. If you want your kid to be my responsibility you have to be sure that I know you, like you and like your kid. I can be a part of a village but I don't want to be included in a random strangers village
Load More Replies... I just can't believe any parent would be like that,Never come across anything like it in all my 53 years .Where do these people exist??
Personally, if mum there demanded that of me, I'd bite a chunk of the ice cream (and bear with the brain freeze) just to spite her even more and rub it in her face (sorry, all these tales of entitlement have pretty much turned me into a monster). NTA by miles. Mum needs to get off her entitled behind and buy her kid the ice cream if he wants it that bad.
Look mom in the eye while licking the ice cream then saying on that's so yummy OMG I love ice cream this is the best.
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I had a similar thing on a plane. I got to my window seat. Mother and toddler take the next 2. I had my iPad out and started to read. Kid starts to try to grab the iPad from me, so I move it away and keep reading. Mother taps me on my leg to ask where she could check out one of the iPads. I told her that this was my iPad, there wasn’t s a supply onboard that you could check out. She then demanded that I let her child play with it. I said no way. She got a pissy and demanded louder that I allow her child to play with it. That the child needed something to play with. I told her that I didn’t care, not my problem and to leave me alone. She kept bitching at me, so I put my headphones on to block her out. Luckily it was a short flight.
My kiddo (a teen) and I were placed a few rows from one another during a trans-Atlantic flight and she had a mother _demand_ that she give her (apparently very rough, sticky-fingered) toddler her Switch for the duration of the flight. She refused and put her headphones in. "Did I do the right thing? I felt kind of bad..." "You absolutely did the right thing. The seats had screens for movies and I'm sure that the lady had a phone with her. There's no planet where someone trying to strongarm you into 'giving' their toddler your $300 piece of electronics is ok. 7 hour flights aren't generally a surprise. She could have planned better."
Load More Replies... Why are so many parents like this. I find it astounding that they expect others to give up everything for THEIR children. This is exactly how kids become so entitled in their nature. It is the same with parents who have children who will damage other peoples property etc and then say "they are only playing"
I think this is a report bias. The same phenomenon occurs in the perception of crime. Nobody reports when everything has gone well or rarely when someone has been successfully rehabilitated, because nobody is interested. But if it doesn't work out, then there is reporting. So you only get information about negative events and perceive everything as unsafe even though the data and statistics say the opposite.
Load More Replies... I have had this exact thing happen to me in a park. I leaned in towards the mom and said "I know this may be confusing for you, but I don't give a F**K about your kid.
Now that's worth repeating! And u didn't involve the child Very well done
Load More Replies... Ridiculous. It was up to the child's mother to either buy him a snack or to move to a different seat where he wouldn't have to watch someone else eating. But really, what mother doesn't travel with snacks?
No one travels with ice cream so that kid was going to mewl no matter what.
Load More Replies... If this story is true…. I would never let my child eat an ice cream covered in adult stranger's saliva 😳🤮
The only brat in this situation was the mother. Who was apparently intent upon raising another brat, sigh.
I'd say so are you going to pay me to give MY icecream to your screaming kid? No? Then p*ss off and quit demanding something that isn't yours
If that woman said to me "give it to my son and buy yourself a new one" I would have uncontrollably laughed in her face for a full minute and then said something like "That's the best impersonation of a self-entitled Karen I've ever seen! You should try stand-up comedy!". Then I would have gotten up and got a second ice cream, which I would ALSO eat in front of her, maintaining eye contact and smiling the entire time. 🫠
It was too bad she was so tired. If some stranger had said to me "give him your ice cream and go buy another," I would have responded with "YOU go buy him the ice cream. This is mine." I'm absolutely gobsmacked at the behaviour of this mother. I feel SO sorry for that toddler. He's going to have a miserable life because of his mom.
I would have sighed and said, "fine, give me your wallet." If she would actually have done that I would give the kid my ice-cream and then went and bought the biggest, most expensive ice-cream they had to replace mine, using the mother's money.
Load More Replies... I don't know why some of these things are even posted. Teach your child early that they cannot have anything they want. Teach the concept of "that does not belong to you."
I doubt the mother has the concept ,considering her behaviour.
Load More Replies... NTA and this was a teaching moment for the mom to her child that the world isn’t theirs and you can’t just take stranger’s food.
Agreed. Someone should tell that mother : Copernicus called. Confirmed that your child is not the center of the universe. lol
Load More Replies... It takes a village is more for a supporting role, like being understanding, taking action if a child is in danger or gets hurt.... Not for ppl to be like "hey my kid likes that give it to him!" Tf that's just ignorant and entitled b******t. Plus as a mom, I always have snacks with me and some form of entertainment especially on a longish trip, I don't know a mom that doesn't at least have candy on them at all times lol
In fact, I'd say that OP pulled the real weight of "it takes a village" by helping to reinforce that the kid isn't the center of the universe. "Don't be an entitled narcissist" is a good lesson no matter the age.
Load More Replies... teach your child some manners, respect for others and self control. and use the word no a tad more
WTH kids can’t have everything they want. That woman is raising a nightmare
How about tell the mother you are eating ice cream to sooth all the sores in your mouth from herpes? Still want to share my infection?
Moving the absurd entitlement to the side for a moment... I don't have kids, but I can't imagine wanting to give a toddler ice cream at 10PM. FFS.
I have *very occasionally* juked a young child with sugar knowing that the rush would lead to a crash (though the timing had to be _just right_). But ice cream? On a train? No. Toddlers - and I say with love - are little mess demons. No one needs the sticky horror that had better than even odds of happening.
Load More Replies... I can’t believe the parents in this situation. Can you imagine the gall to demand a stranger to give their child a half eaten ice cream. You’re poor planning and parenting isn’t anyone else’s problem but yours. And her mother? Wth? Saying she should have given her ice cream away because it was rubbing it in their face to eat it in front of them? She’s just a as unhinged as the demanding mother.
WTH? Are we responsible for everyone else's children now? Did the mother really want her child to have ice cream that some stranger had ALREADY LICKED? If AH momma had acted immediately, she would have had enough time to run out and gotten her child ice cream. Instead, she decided to waste that precious time and make someone else miserable. AH momma didn't see the ice cream stand herself? What if OP had a lollipop in her mouth, instead of the ice cream. Would she still have expected THAT to be shared as well? How about people talking to their kids about sometimes you can't always get what you want, when you want it. Yes, a toddler's brain isn't developed like an adults. But it's never too early to teach your child about what's appropriate, and not appropriate. Instead, child learns that it's ok to put on a tantrum in an attempt to get what you want.
The audacity of people demanding that they give you their food!! And OP's mother?? WTAF is wrong with her? Are these people for real or are they just looking to get reddit-famous?
What a weird mom. 1. Stranger danger, in a different way. 2. Shop is super close, buy your own kid their own ice cream 3. Mom wasted a teaching moment. I would have simply said to the toddler, "This is my ice cream and it had my germs on it. It can make you sick. You can ask your mommy to get you a new ice cream though!" Balls in her court.
I would have said that too, wtf is with these immature baby moms? 😖
Load More Replies... "she couldn't believe I would do that to a kid" I'm sorry, what? What did she do to the kid? Ate her own ice cream?
Other parents are seriously why my kids barely have playdates. We have a very small circle of friends who I will allow my kids to play with because their parents are good people and raise their kids in a similiar way we do our own. I cannot ever imagine saying or demanding anything from someone else for myself let alone my child that does not belong to us.
This is why I think it would be funny to have a bottle of salt/sugar (depending on the food you're eating), and label it as a kind of drug (doesn't matter what), and put it on whatever you're eating, right in front of any strangers. They probably won't ask you to share the food anymore. So in this case, pouring some sugar on your ice cream, from a bottle labeled something random like "tetrahypomine." using an old pill bottle would probably do the trick too.
NTA. People who have a sense of entitlement are unfortunately teaching their children to also be future AHs.
I actually work with people who act like that mother, except about themselves.
Load More Replies... I do agree that she didn’t give the ice cream to the child at the demand of the mother. I believe the child learned a listen, that not everyone is going to give him what he wants.
THAT child learned nothing that day except mom did not make the bad girl share that time. Don't delude yourself
Load More Replies... NTA - I can’t even believe she had the gall to demand that you give the toddler your ice cream. I think telling her where she could buy them was enough.
First of all that's really rude of the mother two who lets their kids like a stranger's ice cream cone not in this day and age.
She thinks if she goes to get an ice cream, she'll miss the train, but doesn't mind telling you to take the same chance? Chutzpah!
Not to get off the topic, but you can really tell the people who have never worked a retail or service job a day in their lives by how absolutely certain they are that a story like this must be "made up." I'm sorry, but if you think horrible, spoiled, entitled people like this mom from Hell *aren't* really out there making life miserable for everyone around them, then go work at a gas station or McDonald's, or hell, even go be a teacher for a month or two; I guarantee you'll quickly change your tune.
Personally i think that mother is absolutely insane. Even if she was the sweetest mom alive and offered thousands of dollars and begged at her feet. It's a stranger dude she might have diseases and your willing to murder your child by letting them eat other people's stuff. That's sick.
NTA. Also, she could have offered to buy you another snack or drink or something if there was enough time and you were willing to go buy her kid an ice cream. And if you didn't want to, that's not on you either. That kid is going to grow up a brat with a karen mom like that.
Is this a real thing where parents demand things from strangers for their children they refuse to teach manners to? Can’t be real or the world is truly doomed.
Work any service job for long, and you'd be surprised what kinds of demands people have.
Load More Replies... It could be, but there are people out there who are that entitled, so I can see it happening. I had a neighbor like that.
Load More Replies... Um?? Eww. Why would a parent want their kid to have any kind of food that was already partially eaten by a COMPLETE STRANGER?! Think of the germs!! 🤢
Years ago, when my first child was almpst 2, I and a friend of mine were talking around lunchtime. She was eating a plate of Mac n cheese. My toddler reached his hands into her plate and she in a knee jerk reaction ( I guess) just narrowly missed stabbing his fingers with the fork. I was furious. He was only 2. She told me I needed to teach my child to not put their fingers in anyone's food. That was 1983. I never spoke to her again. He was just a baby but her actions did startle him. It pains me to say this but after thst incident. My son never ever has reached his hands into anyone's plate without their permission. It is a very bad habit to share food or expect strangers to share food it is one sure way to spread diseases, also there are people who will slap a child with wandering fingers and if necessary, slap their mother too. SOME people are territorial. ALSO an untrained child is easily enticed by offers of candy or ice cream from strangers. She is conditioning her kid.
Really? Covid taught people nothing? As if I'm going to share food, or come close to strangers. And for what? To be part of a liability law suit if the child becomes I'll or has allergies?
YOUR child ---> YOUR money. MY money ---> MY ice cream. Simple, isn't it?
I feel sorry for the child having such a drama queen for a mother. I forsee many problems ahead for this poor child. As to giving into the drama queen NO! No one has the right to demand another give anything to their child. The drama queen was totally out of line. If she wanted her child to have ice cream she should have gotten it herself. Just Me
Not my kid, not my problem. If the pretentious mom wants her kid to have ice cream, she can go buy it herself.
The way this SHOULD have gone: *Child cries about ice cream* Mother: "that's not your ice cream, sweetie, if you are good on the ride, I'll get you some at our station." OP: "if it's OK with you, I'll go grab the child one." Mother: "Please, don't, my child needs to learn patience, and boundaries. This is a perfect opportunity to work on that. Thanks, anyway. I hope that the small tantrum they are about to throw doesn't disturb you too much. I'll try to quiet the child quickly." *O.P. places headphones, and smiles at mom.*
NTA. As the daughter of a nurse I would have brought up how insanely thoughtless the mother was to suggest Igive the child my ice cream. The ice cream that now had my germs on it. Who know what germs. I could be carrying something that from a distance is fine, but put it your mouth at that age would sterilize your kid forever...or worse. What are you thinking? I'm probably not, but you don't know. Go buy your kid his own ice cream.
Buy your own kid an icecream. The other thing is every child needs to learn limits and that you can't always get what you want. The mother of this child must have had a spoilt childhood
Oh man I could’ve had fun with this one, first I would cough a few times, discreetly but loud enough for mom to hear, I would take a few licks and start to hand it to the kid while saying” oh, sure he looks hungry, I’m just getting over the flu/Covid/bad respiratory infection. That should be ok, right?” Heheh moms reaction would be epic
Seriously??? God forbid I ever acted that way as a child, let alone let my kids do something like that. Your are NTA here, she is, and her whiny snot goblin. I would have done the same. Stop teaching xhildren entitlement. Mom n kid need a lesson in manners. People like that make me hate people
Fck no you shouldn't give up ur ice cream. I would've cussed out that is entitled pos for talking to me in the first place. It's not ur job to do anything for this kid. Better be glad it wasn't me I would've thrown it right in her face and not cared.
The mother was irresponsible demanding that a stranger, whom she doesn't know what illness she may have, to give her ice cream to her screaming child! It's absolutely absurd and out of line. I'd laugh at the mom. I'd say go get your kid an ice cream and do not talk to me again. She threatened you, berated you, etc. That child will grow up to take what's not his,criminal, and will at the least be an entitled grown up brat!! NTA
I would have asked her if she would enjoy the COVID the comes with the ice cream?
Wow...just wow. That's a whole new level of crazy. I don't even know where to start...when I was a kid I was told not to talk to strangers, let alone not to take food from them. Kids also need to learn crying doesn't get you what you want - sadly, you don't always get what you want. What kind of lesson is she teaching her kid?! I would have lost it on her when she zsaid you were trying to make her miss the train, when all you did was tell her to do exactly what she told you to do FOR HER KID!! If she didn't have time to get off and get off and get it, how were you supposed to？I could go on for days on how crazy this lady is, but I'm gonna move on to your mom. How can every comment I have seen agree agree with your actions, but not your own mother? You bought ice cream, you should be able to eat it anywhere you damn please, if anyone gets jealous - tough, that's life
I’m more concerned about the OP’s mother’s berating her for this
Load More Replies... I feel bad for the kid too, however you were not traveling with mother and child. To me it is like ordering a milkshake and fries at a fast food joint then sitting to eat. What anyone else is or isn't having is not my problem. Good you had headphones.
So, in the time of The Coof, entitled mom wants her kid to swap spit with a stranger? Hmmmm...
Dude. My niece works in a restaurant, and it makes her mad because even with covid, people still put their sauces on the tray to dip the food in. It's a generic fast food place. That's like doing it at Wendy's or McDonald's. I have seen these teenagers wiping the trays. They wipe the top, and sort of give a cursory swipe to the bottom. Which means the dirty bottom of the tray that you stick on top of the other trays.. plus I usually have a gaggle of teenagers, and they hardly change the sanitized water in any of the major chains. Like, they all have weird floatys for hours.
Load More Replies... YTA.... to yourself, for eating ice cream and snacks for dinner. That's not healthy! (/j) 🤣😋
I don't believe this for a second. Most of these posts are made up.
You hadn't eaten all day, grabbing anything to tie you over until a more reasonable time to eat, is there a law that states you (particularly) have to feed something or share with others? You're good with kids -- yeah -- but you're under no obligation to feed someone else's kid. Personally, I wear glasses and bilateral Cochlear Implants; I've worn hearing aids for over four decades before getting the CI's. That doesn't mean that I will allow a kid or anyone else, for that matter, touch or hold them. For years, I had a Hearing Dog. People pet her without asking or do something else to distract her from her job with me. Why should I let anyone pet my dog? Lastly, what I have is for me alone. What you have is for you alone. If people don't like it, then call the police or file a lawsuit.
I AM SO SICK OF THAT "It takes a village" poo and that "well, you could choose to be kind" for other people's kids!!!! I heard it every time I was denied holiday leave because people with kids "need it more than you do" and when I had to take leave but parents could just walk out early for Little Sugarbun's ball game! Your village is YOUR friends and family.
If I cry and make a scene will you give me your house? I really want one.
Honestly, you did that child a favour. Learning that no is an acceptable answer and sounds like the child won't learn that from people "being nice".
Should’ve said “No can do, lady … I have MONO & my saliva has already contaminated this, so; I’m NOT giving your kid a diseased ice cream cone, because if your kid got sick, you could sue me!” 🍦🦠🙅♀️🤣
I might have got off the train if there was time and got myself a second cone.
That mother is an entitled witch with a capital B. I raised two sons. Never once did I even request that someone share their food/snack/whatever with my boys. GROSS!! I either went and got them what they asked (note that they ASKED) for or explained that we did not have time right now and he would have to wait.
Most people would be intelligent enough to have some treats with them for their child on a trip!
Lol. I would have told the mother she had lost her mind and If I even thought her normal MO was to beg strange people share food with her baby in this time of Herpes, Hepatitis A, B and C, RSV, thrush, flu, etc I would report her to CPS for child endangerment. THEN as I began to eat I would tell her she was an unfit mother for demanding strangers who have all kinds of cooties also share food with her kid. THAT is the type of parent who leaves kids with abusive people they do not know because they are stupid and assume too much about others.
This story is soo unbelievable it sounds made up!! This is definitely in America, no? The child’s mother can buy her own toddler an icecream!!
NTA...Not your kid. You had no responsibility for their happiness. If Mom wanted the kid to stop crying she should have bought them some ice cream.
How dare anyone demand anything for their child from strangers. As a self-described misanthrope, our encounter would've been far less pleasant.
Who even does this? Who goes up to a perfect stranger and says Give me the food you're eating or Give me your expensive electronic device?!? And why would Anyone think they're the AH for saying No? Village be damned. Not my kid. Not my problem. We're not talking life or death, we're talking spoiled brat and if it takes a Village, my part of the village says No you can't have mine. Your mom needs to get you your own.
Some of the Karen & demon child stories are hard to believe anymore. For me, this is one I just can’t. What I do find believable is that people seek validation more & more online, and a predictable result is that the stories have to get crazier & crazier to garner likes/ attention. This just feels like a reach. Sorry.
I would have started to lick it verrrrrry slowwwwwly. Let you see all the white of my tongue as I ate my ice cream
I would have looked at that mother and said; this maybe the way you act and talk in your home. BUT your a*s is in public, you are simply NOT that important to me and my life THIS IS NOT EXCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!! DO NOT talk to me any longer!! And your child's temper tantrum is a reflection upon your parenting skills, no wonder he is acting this way, sooo entitled. Like mother, like son
No, you are NOT the butt, but SHE is!! She could have easily, very kindly asked if you would have minded getting one for her child & offering you the money of course. Maybe even offering to buy you another one. If she didn't have the money, then just tell her child no. If it was late he was probably sleepy anyway, but Mom should have planned ahead. She should have brought along treats for her child and not rely on others (strangers) to feed her child. But, you did the right thing by just listening to your music and not engaging her in any conversation at all. By her demanding that a stranger give her child whatever he desires, she's only teaching her child that he can get whatever he wants. Who knows what he'll be when he gets older if people cave in to his Mom.
NTA... I personally would have said to the mom before I went to the store (if I had the extra money and the fact of having been a single mom) I am getting me an ice cream would it be ok to get your kid one too. But otherwise sorry about your luck teach your kid what no means and the fact what strangers are.
I think the woman in the story did a wonderful job with the situation. The mother was a poor role model for the toddler. Kids are like sponges and all the mother has shown the toddler is to be rude and disparaging when you don't get your way. The woman was very mature to simply put on headphones and ignore the mother. It does "take a village to raise a child" and the woman showed the child what the mother didn't. You can't always get what you want by throwing a tantrum and to ignore someone who is being rude. As for not feeling guilty about eating ice cream in front of the child, why should the woman feel guilty. She is sitting in a public space and eating what she bought after having not eaten during the day. The mother could have moved away with her child if the ice cream was too disruptive. Apparently it was not, for the mother stayed near the woman.
It is not your kid and not your financial responsibility or social obligation. Your mom is as much of an idiot as the kids mom amd the kids mom is a neglectful parent for encouraging her kids behavior to want and cry as a demand to get things that don't belong to him. I hope this is a fake story and if not you 100% did the right thing. We need to stop this socialism BS plaguing the world. If your not taken care of yourself first Noone else matters.
This happened to me on a flight once. I packed a couple snacks so I could take my meds on the flight. I have stomach issues so most of my "snacks" aren't really kid friendly. They're not usually ice cream & cookies. I pulled out my stash of over priced protein bars & other stuff & this woman literally tried to grab my bag of snacks from my tray without asking. She said "my kid doesn't have snacks & doesn't like pretzels" (we were flying southwest) & I'm like "I literally couldn't care less... I don't have kids.. the f**k if I'm paying to feed someone else's" ... had she asked nicely I would have been more open to it. But the kicker is that her kid didn't even seem to be paying attention to my food. I think she was just one of those ppl who uses their kid to get s**t for themselves or to basically be a shield so she can act like a jerk & be like "bUt iM a MoM!" Having kids doesn't make you special. Idgaf about you or your kid. Go away
I truly believe some people are born missing parts of their brains. I ALWAYS made sure that I had snacks, juice boxes, books, and activities packed for my kids whenever we left the house. This idiot didn't plan ahead, and that isn't your problem. I simply would have quietly said, "A GOOD mother plans ahead for her child & brings the things he needs on a trip. She doesn't blame others when she drops the ball. If you want to get YOUR child ice cream, that is YOUR responsibility, not mine." Entitled people need to be told the truth bluntly. NTA for eating in front of the kid, either. I'd gently tell him that I'm sorry his mommy didn't get him one. He has to learn he can't just take what he wants from others. What if you had a phone he wanted? Not gonna happen!
NFW. That's your ice cream. You bought it. Not hers to give to her kid. She should have snacks for her kid. Period. The end.
Uh I read nothing about her money for the ice cream, or reasons why she could not do it herself, explanations why you should that might be plausible enough to allow, she brought no snacks, was not prepared herself but wanted You to feel fault? That poor kid will probably grow up a aeriel killer from lack of parenting. As for Your mother..I would have said I was setting the proper example nessacary which still shows compassion to the child And teaching mommy dearest a lesson in parenting for free. I didn't read anything about the mommy dearest doing anything about it still after . I never went anywhere without snacks or drinks for my kids. It helped a ton. That child's mom sounds like one that "forgets" children in a car
In hindsight, you could have negotiated with the entitled Mother. "If I do that for your sweet baby" what will you do for me....for the rest of the trip?" Put the ball in the Mother's court as to whether her baby gets the ice cream. You were under no obligation to be forced out of your ice cream. And forcing the Mother to understand that there is no free lunch in this world, was quite appropriate I think.
While I do understand the mother's position despite being childfree myself, I have to stand against leveraging children to empower absurd demands. The OP is the victim of gaslighting here, by the mother of the screaming child.
I feel like there has to be more to the story like something that's missing. My kids were bratty toddlers that couldn't even hear direction after they went into melt down mode but even so I wouldn't demand food from a fellow passenger lol. I have sighed and thought "oh great" when people eat candy ect out in public in front of my kids lol but it's always a teaching moment kids have to learn compromise and delayed gratification eventually.
That mom could've gotten up and bought her child some ice cream! I would've done the exact same thing, children need to learn that they can't have everything they want all the time life will have some disappointment. Now as for the mom's attitude I would've read wrote and erased here immediately and then proceeded to put my head phones on and if she persisted I would've told her to shut up and stop talking to me. Now if this didn't work I would've asked to be moved because of this woman's nasty attitude. You're not the a hole that entitled mom was. I wish someone would try that with me ooh wee would they get an ear ful. Trust me they would learn that day
As the mother of a toddler and a professional who has worked with children for almost 20 years, the OP is totally NTA. I would never expect, much less ask anyone, especially a stranger to give my child food, specifically food they were eating. That is rude and horrible behavior on that mother's part. I would have probably offered the child one of my other snacks in order to divert the situation. Had the mother scoffed at that, then sorry about their luck.
As a parent, I have dealt with MANY Ice Cream/Junk Food Tantrums (It’s actually very common)..If that rude, sorry a*s mom on the train can’t even handle a tantrum over ice cream, then she’s really in for a big surprise when her kid is a teenager. I think OP’s actions were perfect and hilarious. Being older than OP, I definitely wouldn’t have been so nice. I’m pretty much a misanthrope b/c of c**p like this. It fills my heart with joy that there are people out there that are nicer than I am.😊😁Good tidings to OP💖☮️
I have 8 children and only one acted like that(still does at 20something). We as parents set the tone on how our children act. They learn their behavior from us. I would have ignored the situation and concentrated on what lies ahead for me.
Anyone who's had a long day with a stressful agenda, especially if you haven't eaten and you want to a little "you" time just to sit back and relax with music & ice cream, I mean she was kind enough already to let the mom & child share the cabin with her; let alone her kid just yelling out that he/she wants the ice cream, that's disrespectful, no kid should even be asking a total stranger second the parent shouldn't be demanding because what makes her think that she has money to buy another ice cream for a kid that's not even relative, she could have at least asked politely, then maybe, i'll give you my ice cream for your I-phone, your mom can buy another one. what makes people think that everybody's made out of money? What if the train took off? a good amount of kids in general already get spoiled as it is, throwing a tantrum? Ask your mom kid, you want something you got to earn it; or "please & thank you, if you was poor then yea, maybe
That poor child...glad someone did not give in to the mother's self entitled tantrum...that poor child will grow up just like her....ugh
The OP P was NOT obligated to give a stranger her ice cream cone. I was raised to refuse treats from strangers,too!! The entitled mom showed a level of disrespect that was off the charts!!!! So,NTA for the OP's actions.
I usually would try desperately to deadpan "ma'am you don't want your kid to have this. It contains all of my antipsychotic medications mixed in it, and I'm eating it now so that I don't let my claustrophobia get the best of me on a train. Smile politely. Finish eating and try not to laugh watching mommy dearest pick her jaw off the floor.... But I'd probably crack up at the expression and ruin the effect. 🤦
I’ll never forget one day as I babysat 2 young brothers. One was very well behaved while the other wouldn’t mind for anything! I threatened him with ice cream. I said” if you don’t behave, your brother and I will have ice cream n you won’t get any.” Of course he didn’t believe me. We’ll later after their mom came home I went n bought some ice cream and as his brother n I enjoyed it, he screamed about me being mean n unfair n then his mom joined in n couldn’t believe I would eat ice cream in front of him without sharing. She wanted me to give him some. “Nope! He knew what the consequences of his behavior was.” After he dried his tears, he apologized. He still didn’t get any; that time but after that he was very well behaved for me!
What planet was that mother dropped off from? Please. We tell children not to accept things from strangers and she broke that rule. What kind of life does that woman live? Entitled to the hilt
The whole it takes a village is bs. When you have a child that child is your responsibility, no one else's. You're not entitled to someone else's stuff. Your children want ice-cream? Either get up and get it yourself or deal with your child. Seriously, this behavior is baffling.
As someone who raised two kids to adulthood, I say NTA in big screaming letters. That mom, on the other hand, was a major AH. You did the right thing. Your mom had a brain lapse with her answer. Good for you!! What would happen if you were playing a video game and her child wanted it? Nope, nope, nope.
I agree with Dr Linda!!! You responded correctly!!! It is Not your fault nor your responsibility to cater to someone else's kid because they want something that doesn't belong to them. Toddler or otherwise. The mother was ABSOLUTELY out of line! Parenting skills ZERO!!! Ihave 3 grown kids and 6 grands (3)toddlers and I be darn if I leave my home ill prepared. She was just dead wrong!!! You are to always take any possible item with you for ANY trip regarding infants and toddlers, if she doesn't know this...she shouldn't have one!!! And maybe your mom just didn't understand the entirely of the scenario.
I have a hard time buying this one. I know people are entitled and crazy these days, but literally taking food from a stranger's mouth to put in the toddler's mouth? The extremes just don't compliment each other. I may be wrong, but it's way more likely a lonely person wanted some internet attention after feeling unnecessarily guilty when a toddler cried over watching her eat her ice cream cone. People without kids are way more bothered by it than a seasoned mother. Toddlers get fussy and test boundaries.
Dang, what a missed opportunity. "Your child can have my ice cream... for $100. What a horrible parent you are" lol
Idk I feel like this situation happened but not the way op said. Maybe the mom demanded "give my kid your snacks, you can go buy more" and then got pissy when op didn't. But a parent seeing someone actively eating food and then tell that person to give the food to their kid?? Especially an entitled parent?? That just doesn't happen,,, They only want "the best" for their kids, they wouldn't give them something already being eaten. (Or did I misunderstand op and the food wasn't actually open yet?)
I have three kids, and I wouldn't have dreamt of asking someone to give them their food when they were little or at any time, especially food they were already eating. It's so bizarre people do this sort of thing.
And this is exactly how you bring up a thief or a liar or yet another super entitled person. That kid will just learn that whatever it wants it will get, regardless of the consequences. It probably is one of those kids in school now that just takes things off others maliciously without question. Really c**p parenting here and disgustingly rude request of a total stranger 'give your ice cream to my child now' ??? FFS what a total nutjob.
Not hygienic for the child to eat food of strangers anyway who knows what diseases they could be carrying also to quote mick jagger you can’t always get what you want should be tabby early
On top of all the other VERY VALID points people have made; it was after 10PM!!! Who would even give permission to give that much sugar to a toddler at that hour, in a confined space?? Not a chance. I'd be pissed off if you even offered it to my kids at that time of night.
I was sitting at a picnic table in a park reading a book one time. I had my water bottle sitting on the table near the edge. This guy comes along trailing a small child, four years old perhaps. The kid comes over and starts reaching for my water bottle. So the dad picks up the bottle and moves it to the centre of the table. I turn and look right at him with a "what the hell are you doing?" expression on my face. He says "If I didn't move it, he was going to take it." This neutered nancy thought it was easier and more appropriate to handle a stranger's property than to move his brat away or tell him not to touch it. I just stared the gelding in the eyes with the same expression till his boss had enough of me and my table and led him away. He heard me call him a re+@rd as he was walking away.
I just want to draw a big circle stars around the part where it talks about children's tantrums, your feeling are okay but hurting people is not. Fast forward to today's adults that are still mentally children throwing a tantrum saying, you don't have a right to your own feelings. I hate people that chew with their mouth open. So I'm hateful, and I should lose my job and home and be homeless and suffer. Some of you people with jobs and expensive cell phones reading this article are still this toddler.
F that kid and its mother. I would've enjoyed that ice cream in the loudest and most ostentatious way possible. Then, I would have made a huge display of not being able to eat another bite, and thrown half of it in the trash, just to watch the lady and her brood lose their minds.
NTA and you were not rubbing it in. Psycho mom was a conplete AH.
Lmao what the f**k. As a parent, that's some serial-killer s**t right there.
Same as a mother of a teen who does something messed up and horrific..."They are such a good child; I can't imagine how they could be responsible. Someone else must have done something to them to cause this. "
Load More Replies... Worst mother ever!!! No boundaries teaching her child he has the right to take what he wants because he wants it. Do you think that is a great idea to teach your child this? Don’t R and abusers feel entitled to take what they want when not offered to them? Hope her son gets good counseling that covert narcist mother teaching how mom how to berate women and maybe more if he can’t get what he wants. I’ve taught my kids you do not get what you want just because you get upset But also if a child is playing w a toy and you want it you can ask but asking isn’t getting so if they say no you need to deal with it. They are not obligated to give you what they have. Hope the mom saves up for attorneys and bail money for her sons future if he doesn’t make good choices.
NTA The mother is even more spoiled than her child, and she is raising a little mini version of herself. Scary. Manners are gradually disappearing because of people like that mother.
Unfortunately, I would have gotten way too much satisfaction smashing that cone into the betch’s whining face (the big one, not the little hag she’s forming.)
The hag mom (who is creating a hag child) would be wearing that ice cream cone.
After what we all went through with covid I call B.S. on this story. Another "evil older person story" to boot.
"It takes a village"... Well someone go to this mother's village and tell them we found their idiot.
She was def NTA, however that comment that a child's tears make it taste so much sweeter?!? THAT was an AH remark!!
what kind of dumb f**k expects a stranger to give their child something to eat, she can go f**k herself
I would have told the woman and child ; that even though it takes a village to raise a child. I sadly for them but thankfully I was moving to a NEW village!!
It would be you can k I s s my @$$. I don't care if the brat is fussy or not, not my problem
It could be that I'm just really tired or that I have been dealing with this B of a mother at my daycare bit if this happened to me, I would have straight up asked if she was the one who birth the child or if it was me. Unless you are my family or friends I don't need to give you sh*t. NTA
I would just tell them it’s a “medicated” item. That unless you want to poison your child, step off. Like the saying goes, “lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.”
I'd tell her to go buy him his icecream and that he's not getting mine. I'd also tell her to quit thinking she is going to run everyone over and that everyone is not going to put up with her b.s. and be told what to do,and one day she will run into the wrong person,because you don't ever know who you are talking to like that
This is some next level BS right here... I'm having a hard time understanding how anyone would want their child to have an already licked/bitten into or opened treat that belongs to someone else. Who does that? I'm a Mom myself and I would never and have never demanded that anyone give their food [whatever it may be] to my kids. I'm their Mom and if they ask for the same treat, then we get it... simple as that. I guess I can't get over that... she demanded???? Oooo Lordy I would have told her toddler to cover their ears while I have a nice conversation with Mommy...
I would have said "Sure, that'll be 20 bucks for the ice cream, delivery fee, entitled mom fee, and brat fee.
NTA she expected you a stranger to hand over your ice cream to her child. Not even offer to buy it from you. S**t cones are expensive. Not to mention gross to eat someone else's ice cream after they licked it. Ewww
This just didn't happen. Entitled parents are everywhere. You don't need to make one up.
Just no. I eat ice cream in front of my grandson if he throws a tantrum instead of saying please or just tries to grab it without saying please. He is a toddler at 2 years old. Never to young to set boundaries and teach manners.
I would not have given my ice cream to the kid either. I don't think eating it, was rubbing it in the kids face. The kids mom could have went and bought their kid some ice cream or simply told the kid no and put an end to him pitching a fit. A lot of nerve to expect a stranger, to just give your child something, because they are throwing a fit. I never had to deal with my kids behaving that way because they wanted something and didn't get it, when they were little. They knew better
This is how disease gets spread....someone already licked the ice cream, might be sick (probably not in this case, but you never really know), then an entitled person starts demanding the already half-eaten food. My kids know better than to whine for what someone else has. They will get their own, even if they have to wait for whatever it is. Also, I always have snacks with me for my kids to eat, just in case they get hungry while we are out. Mom Life is only difficult if you have no idea what you're doing.
I have a daughter, she knows the score, other people sometimes have nice stuff, sometimes it’s her that has nice stuff. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose but the mark of a decent human being is being polite and respectful no matter which side of the deal you are on. FFS it’s my job to be Dad to my child, it’s my job to ensure life goes as smoothly as possible, if I rely on you for calm then I’ve royally messed up. Enjoy your ice cream but beware my daughter will try to engage you in a game of UNO and despite her young age she’s ruthless. 😀
I'd been mortified if the ride was dealing with those kind. I'd hacked sneezed, blew my nose all that said , oh that's the best ice cream as I Wait my covid & flu results.
I can't believe that I have to say this, but you don't allow your children to eat after complete strangers. You never know what illnesses they have and whether they can be passed to your child. Also, it is just plain rude to demand that a stranger give up whatever they have to your child. If your child wants something, it is your responsibility to get it for them. The entitlement of some parents today is so unreal.
How is this toddler the responsibility of this 25 year old strange girl?? How about mom buy her own kids an ice cream? I would have called the train car agent and asked that one of the parties be reassigned as the mom is clearly belligerent and harassing this strange girl.
I'd have told her to go f*ck herself while proceeding to eat it slowly in front of them both. That kid is most likely going to grow up to be as sh*tty and entitled as his crazy a** mother. This one really got under my skin, lol where tf do you find these ridiculous humans??
"Sure, you can have it. After your mommy goes and buys me another one. Oh mommy won't do that? Sorry little one. Your self absorbed, lazy, cheap mommy doesn't want you to enjoy this wonderful, delicious ice cream." And boom goes the dynamite.
YTA...for even posting something so obviously not your bad. I find it hard to believe that somewhere in your head you are actually wondering whether you were wrong to not do what a stranger ordered you to do. Dumb post. Dumber on BP for reposting this.
Some guy chopped my head off but I got his axe pretty bloody, am in the a*****e. Please random internet people tell me your opinions quick cause as a severed head I don't have long as you can imagine
Slap the child. Punch the mother, and then come home and slap your mom for her reaction.
Please please stop the fancy writing and get to the point, it was tiring to read the article to reach the story and understand what happened. There was too many unnecessary writing and examples. Please write in a simpler more direct way. As for the story, she was in the right since it's not her job to satisfy strangers demands, the mom is a child herself she didn't deal with the situation correctly
I think OPs mom was given more details and was disappointed that she was a cruel in how she ate it in front of the kid first thing and put headphones on when she is normally more tactful. IF she usually does in the past. For all we know there was more than the sad toddler but also a baby in a stroller and a bunch of c**p to lug to go get an ice cream and OP mom gets that. The issue to most of us is the way in which the toddler's mom was demanding instead of asking nicely for a favor. That was rude yet I do not commend the OP for her own response actions. She did not have to give up any items but she didn't have to be passive -aggressive in front of the kid. She just taught that kid,in her village how to be cruel to older people in a jam and kids is how he may see it! One day, will be cruel and not give a thought to her or those like her, maybe when she is old, needs help, has no kids of her own, and is frail, needs a snack, or place to sit, he will scoff, ignore and turn up his musi
He's a *toddler.* You really think 35 years from now he's going to remember that time some lady was (justifiably) somewhat rudish to his mom on a train and tell some poor old woman to go to hell when she asks him to help her to her car with her groceries? C'mon, let's not blow this up into something it isn't. He probably forgot all about it 15 minutes later; that's how toddlers are. Besides, what else should OP have done? The mom was already cussing her out by that point, so should OP just have to sit there taking her abuse? What valuable lesson would *that* have taught the child? OP had every right to turn up her music and tune out the mom after she began verbally assaulting her for not giving into her unreasonable demands, and OP's own mother comes off as completely unreasonable for trying to guilt her for that.
Load More Replies... I think you are correct as for your choice of not being demanded to do something and that you don't have to share your snacks. I kind of agree with your mom. Did you already know there was a toddler in your room before you went to go get snacks? Did you ask the mom if there was something she needed from snack bar before you left? That could've saved the toddler from a meltdown and a more enjoyable ice cream.
There are two individuals other than you and I would say that you were NTA to the mom, but out of anger and hunger, you were kind of an AH to the kid. Along with “never take food from strangers”, I was also taught that if you didn’t bring enough for all, you shouldn’t eat it in front of all. It wouldn’t have been giving in to the mom if you had your treat in another space, but the toddler may not have been so upset. It was also 10pm and they were likely tired too. I agree with your mom.
"If you didn't bring enough for all, you shouldn't eat it in front of all." You cannot possibly be serious right now. That's a fine rule for the classroom, but that doesn't mean it applies to literally *everywhere* else on the planet. Imagine walking up to someone eating lunch in a restaurant and invoking this line of reasoning. "But... I bought this food for myself." "Oh, you didn't buy enough for everyone here? Well you shouldn't be eating it then." That would be absolutely insane. Seriously, was OP supposed to buy a bunch of extra ice cream just incase everyone else in her train car wanted some? Is that how public transportation etiquette works, now? And why *should* OP have to get up and move to a different car just because the kid was upset? If the mom had done her job and said no, or just gotten him his own ice cream, then that would have been the end of it, but no, she acted like an entitled jerk then tried to put the onus on OP for not giving into her demands.
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