Woman Confronted By Ex Husband’s New GF After She Refuses To Watch Their New Baby

Some people have wild expectations. I cheated with your husband and stole him from you... can you watch our baby every day though? Doesn't affect your workday at all right?

OP is so NTA. I can't even believe she had to ask.

This is all sorts of wrong, but $200 a week that’s just the insult-cherry on top of this c**p cake??? Hahaha!! Yeah, hard pass on that!! That wouldn’t even cover food for an extra mouth to feed, let alone be some kind of extra income for OP.

She asked why I thought my kids were better than hers ... because they are! Even though she didn't say it, the girlfriend did, to the OP, her kids are my important (to her) just like the new baby will be more important (to girlfriend). OP doesn't have to treat the children on an equal basis just because they share the same sperm donor!

Ok.....F**K that stupid ex.-husband and his dumb-a*s knocked-up girlfriend for even thinking of asking her to be a babysitter. Wish I could tell them both to their stupid faces what pathetic losers they are.

1/2 This is just bonkers, I simply cannot believe the sheer audacity of that utter harpy. She was knowingly having an affair with a married man, which was the reason for the divorce, got pregnant while he was still married and asks the ex wife to babysit the result of their affair?? It's not the child's fault at all but good grief, that must've been the most painful question to be asked. And then not only does she herself but her friends and family act totally unhinged when, obviously, she's told no! I wouldn't want my children to be around a woman like that.

GF wants to know why her baby doesn't deserve the same things OP's kids got? Those "things" are love, care, and sacrifice from their mother. Nothing OP can do to help with that.

Sounds like he was cheating with amd on the new girl. She couldn't find him, what did she honestly think? He cheated with her he'll cheat on her

After all the drama went down the man disappeared? Dude's probably already got baby mama number 3 on the go. Once a cheat always a chest. Man acting like he's gonna repopulate after the apocalypse.

She needs to set firm boundaries with her ex husband. She needs space to move on from this piece of literal sewer waste and she needs to build some self confidence. You can coparent without being friendly. And I would be livid if my ex husband had my kids around fresh and immature girlfriends like that. I would save any and all negative interactions with the father and girlfriend in a log and bring it to court to petition for increased custody and limitations around visits.

Sure, I'll take care of your child. Teach them rhymes like "Daddy is a cheater and mommy is a meanie." Pretty soon the child will call me Unkie Bronzie and will always ask to stay over. Then I am the fun uncle and child will slowly learn to have mom and dad. Pretty they grow up and hate mom and dad and see me as their adoptive parent. /s

The audacity of him, and especially her, to demand you raise their child for them! That is so insulting! Neither one of them is willing to do it yet they expect you, of all people, to do it? They are horrible sociopaths with no ability to feel empathy. I wouldn't want a jerk like that anywhere near my kids.

He offered $200 a week? Oh, how generous of him! What professional wouldn't want to make $5 an hour to look after a newborn 40 hours a week while trying to work. /s

A dollar says he's currently cheated with new woman number 3. His total delusion about his current GF ending her career to be a stay at home wifey (when he's been playing poor broke dude!) and his self-absorbed callousness with how he treats both women as long as he gets what he wants, he seems like the type to totally bail the second a woman stops being convenient and focused on him.

"taking some time away" Wanna bet? I hope that baby mama is going to be happy to jump on the opportunity of babysitting his latest kid in the near future. For $200/week, obvs.

First of all, you need to get the idea that he's a 'great dad' out of your head. He put his d*ck ahead of them in every respect and doesn't pay child support, he's a deadbeat Disney dad. Secondly, he's a sexist pig - childcare is women's work and they need to do it, even whilst working in paid employment themselves, as you did, and for nothing or a pittance. Lastly, instruct your attorney to go full throttle about the GF's and her family's reviews and check about the legality of this AND go for full custody as your ex is now homeless and tbh, his new GF is not someone who should be around your kids. And to get proper child support in place.

Could you imagine if anything happened to that child if the OP was looking after it? Tiny things like a bruise or a graze that are natural parts of childhood. Mother of The Year would be calling the police saying the op neglected her child in favour of hers. Absolutely no way should they have even asked. The ex seems to like having his cake and eating it, as they say. Pop home to the woman he's divorcing and have a night of sex with her before bouncing back to the new model. What a delight he must be. Btw, can you imagine the conversation that went on between her and her friends and family? I need you to write totally made up stories about this business. Sure, Babe, what did she do? Well, just because I stole her husband after cheating with him behind her back, she won't babysit our kid. That's outrageous, I'll get right on it.....

NTA. Tell them you will babysit for their child for $1000 a day paid in advance for 30 days. In cash. Before you babysit the first time.

Totally on board that it's crazy of them to ask that and totally she's NTA because whatever, it's not her responsibility to care for anyone else's child she doesn't want to but...being with another person before divorce isn't cheating. You split up, divorce takes time and is simply a legal issue, emotionally your relationship is over as soon as you break up, then you're free to see anyone else you want, no matter how soon and no matter how your ex feels about it. Marriage isn't ownership, she has no grounds to be pissed that her ex moved on before she was ready or before the divorce was final, that's all she actually knows for a fact. She also has no grounds to be pissed that he chose the other women when she found she was pregnant, that was his choice, that woman was sleeping with a single guy, it's not her fault if he's a snake that's still going to string along his ex wife.

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He's paying you child support to watch his kids. Might as well pay you a little more and have you watch one more. Your kids and her kids are going to be family; this gives you a chance to help them all get along with each other. (My ex is still close with many of her half-sisters and half-brothers from her dad's polygamous marriages.)