“Finally Snapped”: Woman Can’t Handle Husband’s Incompetence, Stops Taking Care Of Him

Traditional gender roles often portray women as the primary nurturers. And based on a belief many consider outdated, wives are expected to take care of their husbands, who, in turn, are expected to provide for the family. 

Such arrangements can be problematic, especially when the woman begins to coddle her man to the point where he relies on her for literally everything. It’s the exact story you’re about to read, where the lady described her spouse as a “preschooler who suddenly stops because he sees an interesting rock.” 

Scroll through to read the entire text and see how this unfolded. 

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But between this couple, the wife realized she had been coddling her husband

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She shared exact instances when her man couldn’t seem to function without her doing the most basic things for him

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The woman finally snapped and saw the cracks in their relationship

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Many who allow themselves to be “mothered” by their wives are rooted in their learned roles

There is no question that the husband should man up and carry his end of the couch, so to speak. His wife, after all, is not his mother or caretaker, and continuing the cycle would only do more harm to their relationship. 

However, part of his behavior is also due to the learned roles between men and women. As psychotherapist William Berry explains, it all goes back to the mother-child dynamic, in which the mother takes on the day-to-day caregiving responsibilities, such as making doctor appointments, cooking, and checking to ensure everything is running smoothly. 

Fathers, on the other hand, are associated with play. And as Berry noted, it’s a trait he may embody as he enters relationships with women. According to him, the same mother-child dynamic may repeat, even through marriage. 

“(Wives) may encourage less play (hanging out with friends, heavy drinking) and behave in a more grown-up fashion,” Berry wrote, adding that many men may express discontent over how their significant others “had fun” before marriage, then suddenly took on the adult role after tying the knot. 

Berry says throwing blame may not help, as he encourages focusing on having a clear understanding of the roots of their behaviors, then addressing them with compassion and dialogue. Mom blogger Mellissa Edgington shared a similar sentiment, along with actionable tips to address such a problem. 

“Tell him that you are worried that he feels you treat him like a child, and that’s the very last way you want him to feel because you respect and honor him as the love of your life,” she wrote.  

However, the woman had grown fed up with her husband’s refusal to “adult up,” which is understandable. At that point, her other option was to put her foot down and set boundaries, which is another way to handle the situation. 

People lauded the woman for how she handled the situation

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