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Woman Questions Her Sanity After Military Boyfriend Marries Someone Else And Calls It “Normal”
When we really love someone, it can feel like there’s almost nothing we wouldn’t do for them. We might even go to the ends of the earth just to make them happy. But that doesn’t always mean we should.
One woman found herself facing that question when her boyfriend came to her with an unusual proposal. Because of military rules, he was not allowed to live off base unless he was married. Desperate to get out, he decided the solution was to marry someone else—not her—simply for convenience. The idea left her blindsided and heartbroken, but convinced he was the one, she chose to stay.
So she turned to Reddit and asked: would she be an idiot for standing by him through it all? Read the full story below.
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The woman’s boyfriend was tired of living on base, but military rules meant he couldn’t move out unless he got married
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So he came to her with a shocking proposal: he would get married, just not to her
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Readers had plenty of questions for the author, and she answered them in the comments
Many urged her to leave the relationship, saying her boyfriend’s behavior was awful
Later, the woman returned with an update revealing what happened next
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Readers shared words of support and were relieved that she was able to get out
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Bumpuff 2 hours ago
I was reading this and thinking, 'why the F would a Canadian want US citizenship'?? I've checked and the story pre-dates Trump. It is from 12 years ago.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 hour ago
Even if it were curent there are reasons. If she's made a life in the US and wants to stay without fear of deportation. If she wants to buy property - it's much harder to get a mortgage now even with a green card because of the deportations. She could have kids who are citizens or a partner that isn't, and doesn't want to chance separation. She can always move back to Canada, she's just looking for the option to stay
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KatSaidThat 22 minutes ago
Yeah, sorry but she really does come off as thick AF - why would you stay with someone who is actively marrying someone to help them with a visa, while screwing over immigration laws. "But I love him" is a b******t excuse. Grow a spine. It was 8 months, not 8 years. If this is a real post, then I hope the next update was that he lost his military career for trying to defraud the government and he and his new wife lived unhappily ever after.
Bumpuff 2 hours ago
I was reading this and thinking, 'why the F would a Canadian want US citizenship'?? I've checked and the story pre-dates Trump. It is from 12 years ago.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 hour ago
Even if it were curent there are reasons. If she's made a life in the US and wants to stay without fear of deportation. If she wants to buy property - it's much harder to get a mortgage now even with a green card because of the deportations. She could have kids who are citizens or a partner that isn't, and doesn't want to chance separation. She can always move back to Canada, she's just looking for the option to stay
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 22 minutes ago
Yeah, sorry but she really does come off as thick AF - why would you stay with someone who is actively marrying someone to help them with a visa, while screwing over immigration laws. "But I love him" is a b******t excuse. Grow a spine. It was 8 months, not 8 years. If this is a real post, then I hope the next update was that he lost his military career for trying to defraud the government and he and his new wife lived unhappily ever after.
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