Rich Lady Disgusted By Gift, Says She’ll Toss It Later, Flips Out When Friend Wants It Back

Gift-giving is basically a sport – some people are gold medalists, effortlessly nailing the perfect present every time, while others fumble hard. And then, there’s the wildcard: the recipient. Some beam with joy no matter what they unwrap, while others act like you just handed them a used napkin. Because let’s be real, nothing stings quite like watching your carefully chosen gift get the side-eye treatment or, worse, get tossed.

That’s exactly what one Redditor faced after her “fancy” friend turned her nose up at a heartfelt birthday gift but flipped out when she asked for it back.

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One woman thinks she found the perfect birthday gift for her friend but asks for it back when she overhears her saying she plans to throw it away

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The woman finds a beautiful set of vintage crystal glasses and buys them for her friend, thinking they would match her lavish lifestyle

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The friend is disgusted by the secondhand gift, telling the other guests she will throw them away after the party

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The woman asks her friend for the glasses back, saying she would love to use them, but her friend flips out, saying what she does with them is none of her business

The OP (original poster), a 27-year-old woman, was invited to her high school friend’s birthday lunch. Excited about catching up with her old besties, the OP scoured the earth (okay, maybe just an estate sale) to find the perfect gift – gorgeous, high-quality crystal glasses, that were also budget-friendly. Score! Our OP thought they were perfect for her fancy friend Mary and her lavish lifestyle.

So, she wrapped them up, headed to the party, and waited to bask in the glory of her gift-giving brilliance. But instead of gratitude, she got a passive-aggressive side-eye. And, instead of appreciation? Well, she overheard whispers of horror. It turns out Mary, who lives for the finer things in life, wasn’t feeling the whole “pre-loved” vibe. In fact, she found it so offensive she was already planning to get rid of the gift.

Instead of letting those stunning glasses meet their landfill fate, the OP did something that many would hesitate to do – she asked for them back. Seems reasonable, right? If someone doesn’t want a gift, why not return it to the person who actually wants it? But Mary wasn’t having it. She called the OP rude for asking and insisted that what she did with her gifts was none of the OP’s business.

I get it; receiving something you won’t use is not as much fun as getting something you love. But that doesn’t mean you have to mock the person who gave it to you. It’s true that once a gift is given, it is up to the recipient to decide what to do with it. But see, there’s an unspoken rule when it comes to receiving gifts—unless it’s a literal insult wrapped in a bow, you smile, say thank you, and keep any judgment to yourself.

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Gift-giving isn’t a transactional exchange where you’re owed something straight off your designer wishlist; it’s about thoughtfulness and the effort someone put into choosing something for you, as the OP did. Even if it’s not your style, you fake it like an Oscar-winning actor and move on. Regifting is totally acceptable if you know for a fact the person wants or needs the gift.

You probably didn’t know this, but pre-loved gifts have become increasingly popular in the past years, especially with environmentally-conscious people. Secondhand gifts often come with a charm that brand-new items just can’t replicate—they have history, character, and sometimes even a little mystery. That vintage crystal glassware? It probably witnessed countless toasts, celebrations, and maybe even a dramatic breakup.

Plus, buying secondhand isn’t just about finding unique, high-quality pieces; it’s also a win for the planet. Instead of feeding into the endless cycle of mass production and waste, secondhand shopping gives beautiful, well-crafted items a second life. And let’s be honest—if Mary had no idea where the glasses came from, she’d probably be raving about how “elegantly timeless” they were.

Let’s be real; our OP did nothing wrong. She put thought into a meaningful, classy gift that aligned with Mary’s tastes (or so she thought). It’s not her fault Mary reacted like she had been handed a lump of coal instead of stunning glassware. When someone openly disrespects your kindness, maybe it’s time to take that crystal-clear hint and rethink who you’re clinking glasses with.

What do you think of this story? Would you have asked for the gift back, or just let it go? Drop your thoughts below!

Netizens were divided on this one, some siding with the woman, saying she is not a jerk, while others argue she shouldn’t have asked for her gift back

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