Guy Left Calling For Mommy’s Help For A Second Time As GF Refuses To Miss Trip

Another baby man who expects the women in his life to carry him. Very telling his mother was prepared to drive him hour to airport and then rectify his mistake for him by fetching his ID. The woman needs to cut the apron strings.

Oh BF is in for a HUGE surprise in Marine Boot Camp. No mommas there to coddle him. He will be his DI's favorite whipping boy if the doesn't't straighten up quick.

Drop the dead weight, geeeeeez. Reading these weaponized incompetence posts is making me tired.

This is not his first rodeo but apparently YTA crew can't see past the airport scene. And just this one scene has about 10 red flags. Good luck to him in the marines, he's about to get his a*s kicked into touch.

Lol!! OP's "boyfriend" umbilical cord is still attached to his mom at almost a quarter of a century. He is indeed a mama's boy who is the sole enabler & would climb a mountain to get his wallet too. She is clearly with a child instead of man.

I'll married to this, only his excuse is that he didn't grow up in the US. I reply that he has lived here for 30 YEARS and should be able to figure it out by now. And yes, you "didn't grow up with computers" - well neither did I as no one had a PC in the 80s unless you were rich or a techno geek who built one themselves.

Wow. A lot of dependent adults and their enablers have things to say. I say that OP is looking at a life playing mama to an adult who's been raised to believe other people have a duty to look after him. I hope the Marines can root that belief out of him.

This is why I hate traveling with people. Travel stresses me out so I like to have everything planned out and organized ahead of time. I start packing a week early because I never rememeber everything I want/need and starting a week early allows time for me to remember. And then I like to get to the airport early to save on a bunch of stress and I hate when people make me late to things. I'm fine with not having everything scheduled when I get to my destination but "figuring things out" like where we're going to sleep and how we're getting there is not fun at all to me.

I agree that a person can be right, but also still an a*****e. I disagree that setting boundaries, and letting people dig their own grave makes a GF or bystander responsible for the fallout, or an AH. It sounds like that guy needs to see consequences for his poor behavior, and she gave him ample grace to get his sh*t together. Is a parent an AH for letting their kids fail homework if the kid refuses to do it themselves? I'd say no. I would also say this man is acting like a child who thinks there are no consequences, and is blaming her for his poor behavior. I'd say that makes her NTA. She needs to leave him, though. He's not ready for a relationship.

Sister, move along and find yourself an adult male. As long as you are with this guy, you will be the only adult in the relationship. Don't ask me how I know. (Well, I am apparently still a little bitter.)

Seriously I bet the YTA people are just like this man-child. He's 24 years old and can't wake up on time and remember his ID? Nope she is NTA. Anyone that unprepared deserves what they get. And his mom had to go wake him up and then drive to get his ID? Again more nope. OP needs to seriously think about this relationship, in my experience men don't really change.

He's used to his mom fixing everything for him.

She needs to ditch this guy. He's unmotivated, he's lazy, and he's far too accustomed to others reminding him what to do and when to do it. She needs a much more mature and responsible guy.

Boot camp is going to chew him up and spit him out.

ok I will not say YTA but I will say you are the f*****g idiot for dealing with his s**t. He will not change because he doesn't have to and YOU are the one that has made sure he doesn't have to change. Get a f*****g life without him.

As someone who works for the Marines, I kinda wanna know if OP's BF made it to boot camp on time. That is one place you do not want to be late!

dump this child & his enabling mother and find a man

This man child is exhausting! Serious red flags! Rethink this relationship, unless you are ready to raise a full grown child, mama's boy. Your life will be one chaotic "mishap" after another. Exhausting and exasperating!

When I got fed up with managing/keeping track of my bfs (now husband) stuff and finally told him I wasn’t doing it anymore he also brought up how we were partners and supposed to help each other. But there’s a big difference between occasionally having to help your partner find their wallet and him defaulting to interrupting me and asking where something is before even trying to look for it himself because “it’s a waste of time to look for it when I can just ask you” (no, you’re just wasting my time instead of your own). I *want* to help and support my husband (that’s how things got to that point in the first place) but I don’t want managing his stuff to become my full-time job. Managing my own stuff is exhausting enough. Thankfully, he quickly realized how unfair his expectations were and figured out ways to manage things without relying on me. And now when he occasionally needs my help with something I can happily help him instead of feeling overwhelmed and frustrated all the time

The BF is showing passive aggressive behavior. Save yourself and LEAVE

She's NTA for going ahead, however it's shocking to me that no one seems to have realized that the boyfriend displayed some classic ADHD symptoms. It's up to him to get diagnosed and treated, but if he really does have ADHD, it's really ableist to tell him to "grow up and be an adult." I would give him the benefit of the doubt in terms of being more respectful of his difficulties while ensuring that I didn't allow myself to get into any more situations where I had to count on him to keep a commitment, especially with any time constraints.

List. Write one. Tick it off as you pack your bag. Have bag ready to go. I'm often late. But I can organise myself. I can and are organised if we're going on a trip. It's not that hard. What I don't understand is why he didn't stay at OP's house so he could leave early? Oh, well, the Marines should make him more organised and on time.

So she was suppoesed to be out 100@ to 1000@ in a trip cause he couldnt grab a wallet or have his phone in a secure place? As for "what if the roles were reversed?" Id expsct equal treatment. Leave without me if i messed up thats on ME ill have to figure out a plan B. Whats "sexist" is expecting the man to wait for the gf n be out that money.

Even as far back as when I was in my late teens, I NEVER had issues like that getting to or from the airport, all on my own, without mommy or daddy, and without excuses. And I'm a scatterbrained idiot! You know you have to travel, you know all the stuff you need to travel - prepare ahead of time, set more than one alarm, don't stay up all dang night.

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The marriage comment here is a perfect "tell me you're American without telling me you're American" moment.