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Boyfriend Storms Off After Girlfriend Calls Out His Fragile Masculinity For Refusing To Buy Her Pads
For the privileged part of the world, buying menstrual pads is like buying chewing gum. You don’t think twice about it, and why would you? But even here, where sanitary pads are not considered a luxury, unlike it is in many not-so-fortunate countries, some people find themselves having ambivalent feelings about buying them in public.
In fact, this is what happened to a 23-year-old woman whose boyfriend refused to buy her pads at a store because “he didn’t want the cashier to see him buying pads.” The girlfriend, who found it ridiculous and couldn’t stop laughing at that point, shared the incident on Reddit in detail, where it amassed 31.2k upvotes.
Turns out, the guy was not joking and as you can imagine, the incident escalated. It all ended with the author calling him out for fragile masculinity, and asking people online if she was right to do so. Share your thoughts in the comment section below!
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After a woman got her period all of a sudden, she asked her boyfriend to buy her pads but he refused, sparking an argument between the two
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So she told her boyfriend that his masculinity was fragile and shared the whole incident on Reddit to ask people whether she was too harsh or not
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And this is what people had to say about it
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Trillian 4 years ago
Wow that escalated. She dodged a bullet there. WTF is wrong with these guys? My teenage son would buy that stuff for me. Not without complaints, but then he does nothing without complaining first.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Good grief, why are there so many men who think you can "hold in" the blood from a bleeding wound! That doesn't make any sense. I feel sorry for her for finding out he was such an uncaring guy this late in their relationship. The comments about birth make me afraid for any woman who might ever have kids with this guy.
Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 4 years ago
@Maria - sometimes life gets so busy you forget to stock up on things. Have you ever been cooking and realized you ran out of an ingredient? Your partner should be willing to help you out with things, and not expect someone to hold a period in! That would be somewhat like her telling him if he was having the runs really badly "just hold it in and go get your own pepto and toilet paper" or "you should have known this would happen at this moment and been prepared for it!" Periods don't happen like clockwork for every woman out there.
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Jihan Kim 4 years ago
I had no problem buying it for my ex. The only issue being a overwhelmingly wide range of products!
Anna Banana 4 years ago
You're not alone! I once spent 10 minutes looking for panty liners that didn't have some obnoxious scent, and I still made a mistake because I didn't notice the fine print... (I ordered a bunch of washable ones that day so it's actually all good)
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James016 4 years ago
The only issue I have had with buying pads for my wife is which ones to get as there are so many brands. Now I have a picture of the box so next time I can just get them.
Kiss Army 4 years ago
My husband has always said he has no problem buying feminine hygiene products for me (as long as I am very specific about which ones!). He says he feels like strutting through the store with them because it proves he has a women at home - he may not be "getting any tonight" but he ain't "a sad single dude" either!
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Annabelle 4 years ago (edited)
Major red flag. Besides being transphobic which is horrible. I think it is more about your partner not wanting to help you when it gets a little uncomfortable.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Yeah, he sounds like the type who will bolt when you need help the most, for example after a car accident or during chemo.
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Jeff Foxworthy did a bit about this years ago. He said he never minded buying feminine products for his wife, because it shows everybody in the store that he’s in a committed relationship with a woman. One of the best lines in the bit went something like, (proudly holding the box of tampons up) “I got a woman! What you got, Buddy? Playboy? I got a woman!”
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
Lmao!! Yes! That was my exact thought. Like, buying pads shows you are definitely getting laid. The first assumption would be that you were getting them for your wife or girlfriend.
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Donkey boi 4 years ago
I was 12 when I was first sent to the shop to get some for my sister. I remember the lady at the till say, 'Um, do you know what you have there darling?' I was a very sarcastic child and so my response was, 'Yeah, pads, it says so on the packet! They don't feel "heavy" though!'. She completely missed it and carried on, 'You don't know what they are for? They're not for you!'. Being the shite that I was, 'Yeah they are! I use them as wrist rests when I'm playing on the computer AND put them under my armpits when I get sweaty! Just give me my change!'.
sofacushionfort 4 years ago
If he was too embarrassed to buy pads, imagine how he feels now, standing there buying a fleshlight?
Mama Panda 4 years ago
I raised my son (almost 19) to not be ashamed or scared to buy tampons, pads or anything else feminine for his girlfriend. He was at his girlfriend's house and both she and her mom started their periods and were out of pads. He jumped up, asked them both what they needed and dashed to the store. He came back with pads, heating pads and chocolate. I am so proud of him!!!
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
That is so awesome, way to go for mama and son, you should both be proud :) this is how we break the cycle of shame etc, by educating both genders :) I hope my son (currently 10) will have the same attitude, it's what I'm aiming for in regards to him being aware of the unfair biases in the world
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TrickQuestion 4 years ago
If you're in a relationship with someone who needs pads, you get them pads if they need them. It's part of being in one. If you're not willing to get something they need not just regularly but as a basic health/hygiene item then it's likely you'll ignore other needs they may have.
Stille20 4 years ago
Agreed. My father is a good man, but when my mother was very ill he struggled to take care of her physical needs. I moved in and did it, but it changed who I was willing to date and who I decided to marry.
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JennyLaRue 4 years ago
My dad used to cackle to himself at the checkout as he buried tampons or pads in frozen items as he packed the bags. It was only recently (after about 25 years of doing this) that I mentioned that we don't go home and use them right away. He was so disappointed!
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
That's pretty amusing. I like your dad's spirit
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CatWoman312 4 years ago (edited)
I was a cashier through college and men, women, children, elderly. They all bought things not meant for them. Everything from period products to hemorrhoid cream I scanned and I didn’t care. I’m there to do my job not judge you for what you buy. Even if it was a man buying pads for himself, we don’t care. We aren’t paid to judge what people purchase we just scan and go. Guy has serious issues and will be doomed forever single if he keeps these sexist views. Girl dodged a bullet
deanna woods 4 years ago
That's what you are going to see in retail. People buying things that are not for them. I mean, I have bought adult diapers for relatives and I didn't have a panic attack wondering what the clerk thought.
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DC 4 years ago
What is it even with mentrual stuff in general and american men? Europeans don't care, we just buy that stuff if it is on the list, and no one ever cared about it.
John Louis 4 years ago
This kind of toxic masculinity will, in all likelihood, manifest in other worst ways the longer you stay with him.
Truth Monster 4 years ago
Huge red flag when a partner sees their significant other in distress and does not try to act. This is a person who needs to do some growing up so they realize their momentary discomfort is superseded by the actual need of their partner.
MellonCollie 4 years ago
Oh wow, I'm so glad the girl asked about "what about helping me if we'd have a kid" - because it is very likely this asshat BF will literally have to (help her) change her pads at some point!
Anibal Damiao 4 years ago
better find who the jerk was when you got your period than finding out after finding that your period wouldn't come :)
John C 4 years ago (edited)
As I guy, I've never been at all squeamish about buying hygiene products, for me or anyone else. I mean, what are they afraid of - the cashier thinking it was for them? Why would they think that? I honestly don't get it at all.
Eslamala 4 years ago
Exactly! I assure you no woman, especially an overworked cashier, will even notice, let alone think it's for a guy...
Load More Replies... MAnahP 4 years ago
As a young teen I was embarrassed to buy pads. My older brother (also a teen) had no problems buying them. He ended up making a fun joke with me calling them my brake pads. I still call them that now lol.
Just a Marine Veteran 4 years ago
I don't understand that at all. I was totally fine buying them for my gf even as a teen in high school. What is embarrassing about it? The cashier might realize that you know someone who is female?
Viviane 4 years ago
And heaven forbid anyone find out your mother was female!
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Laura Dawson 4 years ago
Good she left him, hopefully her situation will be sorted & she will meet someone who is a more mature & decent man than her ex. You can’t just “hold it in” you just bleed & it’s continual like a tap dripping (sorry for the analogy but it’s really annoyed me what he said) what a div he is.
columbokateUK 4 years ago
How is it, in the Internet age, that young men are still so ignorant on female biology? We were taught this at school from about the age of 9 upwards. That was 30 years ago. Boys, Google is a thing, use it 🤷♀️
Monika Rhodes 4 years ago
Wow- that guy needs some basic education. Hold it in? Wtf? My husband has 0 problem buying me tampons when I need them. To be forced to result in using toilet paper and having to go yourself because your bf is a prick is pretty sad.
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago (edited)
Yeah it’s so loveless too. Like, men can grasp that a period is often painful and difficult. We want a partner who can help. My partner buys me pads and chocolates and flowers or anything to make me comfortable on my period. It makes me so happy to be taken care of when I don’t feel well. Who would want a partner that doesn’t care if you are in pain? That’s scary.
Load More Replies... Beto River 4 years ago
I'm a son, a brother of two sisters and a married man. I been buying pads and panty liners since I was 16 and had my license. Never ever did I stopped to think or care what other people thought of it.
Helen Haley 4 years ago
A friends husband always said he was proud to buy all feminine hygiene products for his wife. Visible, public proof, he had a woman.
Leo Sorits 4 years ago
She got super lucky. That she found about all this now and not after marriage and kids
Viviane 4 years ago
Or at the birth - he seems like the type who would turn green and walk out. Then complain, "The birth of my kid was soooo gross. I'm not touching diapers or burping them. What if it throws up on me?!"
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Hannah Edwards 4 years ago
I once had a bf who refused to buy tampons for me because he said the person in the shop would think he was putting them up his bum.
Viviane 4 years ago
Yup, because the second he's out of earshot, the cashier will gossip: "Third guy today who comes in to buy disposable butt plugs. Do we have him on camera?"
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Aunt Messy 4 years ago
She dodged a bullet there. There are times when the five minute 200 pound weight loss plan is perfect.
Cristi Fitzke 4 years ago
When are we going to stop treating menstruation & it's products as shameful? Obviously this idiot didn't pay attention in health class or he would know how periods work. Vaginal sphincters do not work the same as urethral sphincters. Bottom line if you love someone a little embarrassment wouldn't matter.
Shelley McKinney 4 years ago
My ex liked getting the groceries and that includes getting the femanine products. First time he had to get me something he called me and had be talk to a female employee he found to help him (pre facetime). He had no issues.
Pacifico Fernandez 4 years ago
This guy sound like the kind of a husband who cheats on his wife while she is in the hospital giving birth. Run away!
Heather Atwood 4 years ago
When I was a senior in high school, I asked my boyfriend to buy me some tampons and he even bought a few different brands/sizes and he was NINETEEN!!! Get over it men!
Lily Mae Kitty 4 years ago
What was his thought process?! "I look like a guy...but I'm buying pads...so I must look like I cross dress...and have my period... AAAHHHHHHHHH!" wtf
MrLoufoque 4 years ago
Whoa, the guy seems like a huge a-hole and she did good getting rid of him. If my girlfriend asked me to buy her pads, my only reflex would be to ask what brand and type, and get them the same way I do when she asks me to add some products (I once spent quite a long time looking for a very specific micellar cleansing water!) while I'm running errands.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Uh.... my hubby has always bought them. It felt odd to him the first time, but then, eh, it's just shopping, and who cares?
Viviane 4 years ago
My husband asked, "Doesn't she buy him condoms?" He really didn't see the difference between that and buying pads and tampons - "You do it because you love the person".
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If I could I would live under water 4 years ago
@elStiJneriNO probably a troll but since English is only my third language, I googled the term "differentabled" and found that it's usually better to say "disabled". Someone wrote: "To call me and other disabled people differently abled is to diminish what is a very real experience for all of us." But either way, at least I know not to call them "cripple ".
elStiJneriNO 4 years ago
it's my third too. But my point was : once cripple was okay to describe somebody unable to walk, then it becomes insulting and the correct word is another. But after a while people take offense to the new word and it continues. Since we are here with people who communicate in their 2nd or 3rd language, it's not nice to nitpick on words like that. and also very beside the point most of the times as we use the words we were taught in our 1st language. I just don't like that behavior where we always assume the worst of people. I think i actually also read such an article once about disabled people. Some don't even care about cripple because it's more specific to the disability to walk rather that the more generic disabled.
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Mjw Gjgema 4 years ago
In the fifties of the last century, menstruation was something you didn't mention. It was a woman's thing and men were supposed not to know anything about it. My fiancée at that time had a very irregular period and when it was there it was terrible. Onze were walking in town and suddenly she fainted and I saw blood stains on het skirt. I called a taxi and broght here home, telling my mother in law that she had e very bad period. What happened? She was outraged because I knew it and scolded my fiancée for a s**t beause her "secret" was now know to a man - as if she could have helped it. Thank God/Allah/Vishnu or whoever for the fact that circumstances now are different. If your girlfriend is good enough to have sex wit her, then why not for helping with her female problem. I would still have problems to buy condoms at the store, but when my granddaughter asked me tot take a package of Tampax because I had to go the supermarket anyway, it was no preoblem for me.
Justin Patel 4 years ago
I chopped the tip of my finger off and as much as I tried to hold in the blood, I couldn't. Can't imagine it's possible to hold in menstrual blood either? She completely dodged a bullet leaving that moron.
Pipe Kasuko 4 years ago
She should have packed up, picked up pads on the way home to her parents place! Definitely dodged a bullet.
Megzymonsta 4 years ago
I never get men like that. Seriously WTF!?!? When I see men buying pads and tampons in a shop I naturally assume they either have a girlfriend or are really nice guys getting them for a friend/relative. The young woman absolutely made the right choice to leave such a seriously immature and prejudiced partner. Every time I hear men whining about women "holding in their periods" I just want to punch them straight in their arrogant little faces
Endishere 4 years ago
At this pandemic time, it is my part to go out for shopping, bimonthly. I see no "look at this man" views from other shoppers when I select and pick pads for my wife. I also hear nothing from cashier when checking out and paying all the items I bought. That man needs to have that experience first. He is just an overthinking guy who does not have many experiences yet, thus immature suited him.
Paul Davis 4 years ago
That girl needs to get away from that boyfriend and consider herself lucky that she learned what a self-centered pile of garbage he was before they got married or had kids.
deanna woods 4 years ago
At one point, my dad lived in a house with a wife and three daughters who were all of menstruating age and if one of us needed him to buy pads, he went and bought pads. He didn't make stupid excuses and he certainly never said anything inappropriate about transgender people. This boyfriend sounds a little bit immature, sexist, and transphobic and she made the right move by leaving. Also he has some strange opinions about how women feel after giving birth.
Eslamala 4 years ago
Ugh, what a pathetic insecure douche! Downvote me to eternity, but I can't fkcn stand insecure people (adults). I can't deal with them.
Cristina Dal Zilio 4 years ago
I am an insecure adult (lack of self esteem and self love, issues I'm working on). Although it is your right to don't like whoever you want, insecurity not always mean racism, lack of respect and common sense
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Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich 4 years ago
I actually saw a guy at Wal-Mart yesterday taking pictures of different Monistat and similar products (yeast infection treatments, for those not in the know) and texting the pictures to his wife to see which one she wanted. His young son was with him and I heard him explain to the boy that he wanted to make sure to wait to hear from "mommy" because he wanted to make sure he bought what she wanted. Too cool.
Bellevue Jenkins 4 years ago (edited)
Immature selfish morons like this guy deserves to stay alone ... forever .... period :)
Roger Haywood 4 years ago
I buy my fiance feminine hygene products. No big deal. I don't care what the cashier thinks. lol
chiizkake 4 years ago
I kept waiting for the twist, like "awwww when he stormed out he went to just buy the pads and wasn't so bad after all!" or "awwww he said 'no' because he already got some knowing she'd need them when they moved in together!'..... but, nope, he's just a trashperson. Shame. She did it right kicking him to the bin.
Elle Malkamäki 4 years ago
Hold it in 😂 are there really grown ass men out there that believe it works that way??
Brent Hollett 4 years ago
Advice for Young Men: Even if you don't have a girlfriend, by a pack of maxi-pads and a pack of light tampons, and keep them in your bathroom. Every woman in your life will appreciate it even if they see it and never need it. You're literally buying a cardboard box, but it can mean the difference between a fun day or a ruined evening.
Tracy Costa 4 years ago
I don't know how well this aged, but this reminds me of college in the mid-90s. A guy friend worked at a drugstore and would happily buy my roommate and I pads and tampons because he said, "The implication here is that I know a vagina well enough that I'm allowed to buy it accessories."
Beans 4 years ago (edited)
Are these even real? They seem like click bait to me. How can someone live with someone so long and not know they are like this? The way he just dropped hate speech so easily... have these gross hateful views he has never come up even once? If real this lady had some thickas rose coloured glasses.
K1tt3n 4 years ago
Not click bait. Sadly, people like this do exist. It seems she didn't realize what a douche he was bc he hid it until the whole buying pads thing came up. Some people are really good at hiding how terrible they are. It's messed up.
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*hippie*witchy*bitch* 4 years ago
good thing she broke up with him. the more she found out the worse it got man.
Znaya 4 years ago
Allow me to approach this from a different point of view as I can understand both sides being a female. My ex husband did not have any problem buying pads for me because he grew up with sisters. You cannot change any male who felt like your ex did, you can't shame him into it. He has to want to change on his own. Don't assume because people love you, they will do anything for you, case in point! It's better to bring up these little situations before it gets too deep so you will each know who you are dealing with, don't take it for granted.
Lunar Bicycle 4 years ago
Will he not buy diapers for a child because someone will think he s***s his pants? A douchebag who’s afraid to buy pads. Go figure.
Amy Harrell 4 years ago
I can't count the number of times my husband had to go buy me tampons and pads after children were born and we live in a small town everyone knows everyone and everyone's business. He needs to grow up.
Magicalmarilyn 4 years ago
What an ass, my man has been getting mine for me for over 30 years. Now it's the other kind of pads
Gussi Gusii 4 years ago
Been buying pads for my mother and sis since I was a kid, buy them for my GF too. What's the big deal? zzzzz
Marnie 4 years ago
Any guy who's best guess is that women can "hold it in" and just choose to be gross instead - right there that is a reason to run, run, run and never look back. What sort of horrible mind do you have to have for you to just assume women are all disgusting creatures? You don't have to have ever been taught anything about it. If that is your guess, you have a very dark mind.
Random Anon 4 years ago
Definitely NTA and she needs to get out of that relationship IMO. The dude is too immature and ignorant. I've even taken a photo of the packaging to make sure I get the right one. What's the big deal?
Casey McAlister 4 years ago
The cashier and other customers probably won't bat an eye if you catch fire, let alone thinking something about a man buying pads.
Azziza 4 years ago
He's ridiculous for thinking people would think he's transsexual! Transsexuals don't need pads! Women changing to men are on testosterone which stops the period and men changing to women don't have uteruses or ovaries and thus no period either! She's lucky she saw this before they were even more entangled by marriage and children!
Abbella DiNoto 4 years ago
I just discovered “period panties”. They are under ware that can hold up to 4 tampons! I have horrible periods (finally my doctor after 30+ yrs of complaining, and filling a super absorbing tampon in less than an hour and me doubled over in her office crying hysterically). Is finally is going to order test! I swear people, men & doctors just do not get women’s menstrual cycles. They Are different and a woman can’t always be prepared especially when you bleed so heavily is like a deluge. Having accidents in public is a real thing! And a serious thing!
Ivana 4 years ago
I had a pregnancy scare shortly after switching birth control. My husband (then a still new boyfriend) stayed with me while our friend went to the store for us. I gave him a list, a chocolate bar, a bottle of wine, and a pregnancy test. He went and secured the provisions and I took the test. I came out and my boyfriend immediately panicked, I guess my face was still in that "Oh God No" state. I assured them that it was negative. We all watched a movie in our bed together, eating chocolate and drinking the wine. I asked if the clerk said anything to my friend when he bought everything. He laughed and told us the clerk asked if it was for celebrating or comforting, he said it would all depend on what the little pink stick showed but either way it wasn't his problem, that the possible parents were crying in the bathroom and he just wanted an excuse to get away from us. He and the clerk laughed for a good long time about it.
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago
Wow, definitely NTA, he sounds like someone you're better off without. I can't believe it. Dude, this is why I date girls. They understand things like this.
Susan Judd 4 years ago
I am totally mystified how he could think a trans person could have periods. Ignorant as all f--k, and is a selfish p--ck.
Deborah B 4 years ago
This is an example of why the 'Won't buy you period supplies' red flag is such a red flag. It is an indicator of distorted attitudes and beliefs. I'm glad OP took the time to have this discussion with her boyfriend and uncover the underlying issues. I've known girls who use this as a test before moving in with a guy - just in a 'can you stop in an pick up some tampons for me on your way over' casual request. If it's a hard no, it sparks a discussion. Other tests include the "I'm going out with a guy friend" and "I can't go out this weekend, would you like to hang with me while I do chores and run errands." It's not about being manipulative, it's seeing if the expressed reactions and behaviour are what you want them to be - and bringing it up casually can get you a more honest and accurate response than straight up asking.
I I 4 years ago
OMG , i have a wife and two daughters , iv'e bought female products for them all , all different pads , tampons , heavy flow , light flow , night time , with wings , i know the products by the packaging now ive done it that often , he needs to grow the fck up , ohh and trannies dont get periods ffs
El Dee 4 years ago
At first I tried to be charitable towards him (I know) I thought his obvious lack of knowledge on women had perhaps guided his decision (in part) But why would you refuse anyway? He is an asshole, hopefully this is a wake up call for him and he will learn from it. But she has been fortunate to find out what he's like before it's too late..
Keryl Cryer 4 years ago
That’s because you’re an adult. This guy isn’t. As several people put it, it’s a badge of (likely) heterosexuality. “I have a woman!” (Yes, I know it could be for his mother, his daughter, his sister, his roommate, whoever, but if the guy is between 20 and 70, people will probably assume it’s for a girlfriend or wife. That’s IF they think about it at all.)
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Jay Cee 5 months ago
First night in Egypt on a scuba diving holiday with my 2 daughters, older daughter comes to my room to say her sister's period had started early and she needed pads could I . . . ? Well you do what you need to do. So off I trot, found a pharmacy and came rushing back. Gold Star Dad but she missed the first 3 days of her scuba course and had to train with strangers.
Nadya Raymond 4 years ago
All these men who keep thinking women can hold in period blood...I take it U men are seeing ur periods too and are therefore holding it in...please do tell us ur secret...tell us how so we too can hold it in
Isabel Care 4 years ago
From the first lockdown, my brother, who lives with and helps our elderly mum, went to the supermarket (having phoned me for help) with the outer packaging for incontinence pads and panty liners. As I suggested, he asked for help from the pharmacy counter. Big, tough, scary looking bloke who will do anything for his loved ones. Proper man
anonymous 4 years ago
all these people leaving essay-sied comments about a fragile man afraid to buy pads for his gf. firstly, paper bags, renewable bags, even most plastic bags are pretty opaque, one bag for a few pads and no one will know he had them. secondly, nobody gives a s**t if a man buys pads, they'll prob assume it's for his gf or sis or whatever. so stfu and buy the damn pads
Lynne Monteith 4 years ago
My son Was working at a new Pizza place when the only girl working got a little upset. The guys got it out of her that her period had just started. The plazza they were in had just opened so there wasn't a drug store open yet. My son says " I have some tampons in my car I'll go get them for you." The other guys just stop and look at him "Dude! Why have you got tampons in your car?" He just looks at them like they are nuts and says "Duh. I have a GIRLFRIEND!" He said you could see the gears working on these guys.
Lori Reese 4 years ago (edited)
I don't know, I was never unprepared so much that I would have to ask my spouse to buy them for me. He would of course, but knowing that every moth it comes I would always have them on hand.
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
Why on earth would she post that question? His ego may be fragile, but so is her grip. He's outright refusing to help a human being while convenient to do so. It's a simple medical situation, give a 5min hand to bleeding human you claim to like without having to see or touch any blood... DTMA (Dump The Motherf* Already). Don't waste your breath on considering the situation.
Tuna Fish 4 years ago
OMG This is so much ado about nothing. I have a husband and three sons. When I had a hip replacement a couple of years ago my youngest son (22) was not working at the moment and agreed to stay home and help me after surgery. I told him I needed some pads and he did the whole OMG thing for a minute but went when I told him that no girl would think it was a big deal. He got home with a big smile on his face and said he liked the girl behind the counter and when he told her he was watching me and needed help buying my pads she was soooo happy to help and told him she thought it was so adult for him to do that like her dad buys them for her sometimes. He actually got a date out of it. Like I said not that big of a deal. FFS I buy boxer shorts and condoms for them, why can't they buy pads for me.
Duchess Raven Waves 4 years ago
Wow I feel so bad for her. My s.o was buying tampons for me when he was 16. We are in our 30s now. What a waste of organs.
Christel Nellemann 4 years ago
Wow, that guy had quite a few bad issues. Not helping his partner. Having really bad wrong ideas about female body is not good, but not being willing to listen to an actual woman telling you, that women cannot hold the blood back, thinking she is .. what.. lying?? Is right up disrespectfull , willfully ignorant and really stupid, a trait he will show in other subjects as well. The transfobia, the laziness, the fragile maculinity. Arg, run, run , and do not leave an adress behind.
SunofSpringtime 4 years ago
Thinking that you can hold period blood in is stupid, but kinda understandable. But still insisting on how that goes even after being explained how a period works by a girl who's experiencing it first-hand is..... I can't even. Totally dodged a bullet there.
Elio X 4 years ago
Not much to add but bullet dodged. That guy is the worst. I mean, he tries to argue with her about how a period works in the first place and cares more that a random person may judge him than he does about helping his girlfriend. No one really cares about your purchases and would probably assume that a guy buying pads is a nice person who is helping his friend/gf/wife/sister/whatever even they even bothered to think about it. He straight up admitted that he would not help her in anyway if they had a kid together even though she's the one who risks being maimed and dying from it. I recommend no kids personally but if you want them pick someone who isn't an insecure douchebag. Also, this is totally the kind of guy who leaves his wife if she becomes disabled, even temporarily.
Jane Alexander 4 years ago
Loved him?, No. You loved the illusion until he destroyed it by showing his real self. You're not the first woman/man to love someone because of who we thought he or she was.
Theodore Wolner 4 years ago
I am glad that you were able to see his true colors before he could weasel his way deeper into your life. A kid gave me a funny look once when I was picking up pads for my wife; I just told him that "they work GREAT for polishing the Corvette!" ( I was driving a 1951 Willys at the time. ) What a dip, he actually believed me!
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
Sounds like you transitioned very recently. I've read that it takes a few months for the testosterone and hormone blockers to stop menstruation. Anyways, congratulations. :) If it turns out you don't need the extra pads, you can donate the stockpile to a local charity.
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Martha Meyer 4 years ago
I agree that it surely didn't help. But seeing his commenst about her needing help after giving birth, just confirm to me that he's an uncaring person in general.
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Monika Rhodes 4 years ago
Nooo- first things first- get yourself sorted out with pads so you feel better. No worse thing than having unreliable toilet paper to keep the blood in. I'd do the same and then leave the prick.
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Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 4 years ago
He was still unwilling to help her take care of herself even if she had just had a baby... because she wasn't "crippled" (his word) and should be able to do it herself. He has no concept of the reality of being a woman. He assumed that if someone saw him buying pads they would think he was transgendered. There is more wrong with this guy then just being told to man up or having a bad childhood.
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Harry Lui 4 years ago
Everyone makes mistakes, and if your partner isn't willing to help you out after you made a mistake, what good is the partner? Might as well be single.
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Monika Rhodes 4 years ago
You obviously never had period and have no idea how it works so STFU!!!
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she/they and probably gay 4 years ago
She is SO much better without him, he's transphobic, fragile and just an a-hole. You can't hold your period in, it feels like you're uterus is weighing you down, he should have got them for her.
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Beck(formerly Becca/Gizmo sq) 4 years ago
He cared more about what a random cashier thought than his girlfriend. And he wanted her to "hold it in." I guarantee he was raised in a super religious house that has never seen any sex except missionary. Probably thinks she will get pregnant random ways like kissing. I have met people like this.
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Trillian 4 years ago
Wow that escalated. She dodged a bullet there. WTF is wrong with these guys? My teenage son would buy that stuff for me. Not without complaints, but then he does nothing without complaining first.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Good grief, why are there so many men who think you can "hold in" the blood from a bleeding wound! That doesn't make any sense. I feel sorry for her for finding out he was such an uncaring guy this late in their relationship. The comments about birth make me afraid for any woman who might ever have kids with this guy.
Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 4 years ago
@Maria - sometimes life gets so busy you forget to stock up on things. Have you ever been cooking and realized you ran out of an ingredient? Your partner should be willing to help you out with things, and not expect someone to hold a period in! That would be somewhat like her telling him if he was having the runs really badly "just hold it in and go get your own pepto and toilet paper" or "you should have known this would happen at this moment and been prepared for it!" Periods don't happen like clockwork for every woman out there.
Load More Replies... Jihan Kim 4 years ago
I had no problem buying it for my ex. The only issue being a overwhelmingly wide range of products!
Anna Banana 4 years ago
You're not alone! I once spent 10 minutes looking for panty liners that didn't have some obnoxious scent, and I still made a mistake because I didn't notice the fine print... (I ordered a bunch of washable ones that day so it's actually all good)
Load More Replies... James016 4 years ago
The only issue I have had with buying pads for my wife is which ones to get as there are so many brands. Now I have a picture of the box so next time I can just get them.
Kiss Army 4 years ago
My husband has always said he has no problem buying feminine hygiene products for me (as long as I am very specific about which ones!). He says he feels like strutting through the store with them because it proves he has a women at home - he may not be "getting any tonight" but he ain't "a sad single dude" either!
Load More Replies... Annabelle 4 years ago (edited)
Major red flag. Besides being transphobic which is horrible. I think it is more about your partner not wanting to help you when it gets a little uncomfortable.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Yeah, he sounds like the type who will bolt when you need help the most, for example after a car accident or during chemo.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Jeff Foxworthy did a bit about this years ago. He said he never minded buying feminine products for his wife, because it shows everybody in the store that he’s in a committed relationship with a woman. One of the best lines in the bit went something like, (proudly holding the box of tampons up) “I got a woman! What you got, Buddy? Playboy? I got a woman!”
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
Lmao!! Yes! That was my exact thought. Like, buying pads shows you are definitely getting laid. The first assumption would be that you were getting them for your wife or girlfriend.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 4 years ago
I was 12 when I was first sent to the shop to get some for my sister. I remember the lady at the till say, 'Um, do you know what you have there darling?' I was a very sarcastic child and so my response was, 'Yeah, pads, it says so on the packet! They don't feel "heavy" though!'. She completely missed it and carried on, 'You don't know what they are for? They're not for you!'. Being the shite that I was, 'Yeah they are! I use them as wrist rests when I'm playing on the computer AND put them under my armpits when I get sweaty! Just give me my change!'.
sofacushionfort 4 years ago
If he was too embarrassed to buy pads, imagine how he feels now, standing there buying a fleshlight?
Mama Panda 4 years ago
I raised my son (almost 19) to not be ashamed or scared to buy tampons, pads or anything else feminine for his girlfriend. He was at his girlfriend's house and both she and her mom started their periods and were out of pads. He jumped up, asked them both what they needed and dashed to the store. He came back with pads, heating pads and chocolate. I am so proud of him!!!
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
That is so awesome, way to go for mama and son, you should both be proud :) this is how we break the cycle of shame etc, by educating both genders :) I hope my son (currently 10) will have the same attitude, it's what I'm aiming for in regards to him being aware of the unfair biases in the world
Load More Replies... TrickQuestion 4 years ago
If you're in a relationship with someone who needs pads, you get them pads if they need them. It's part of being in one. If you're not willing to get something they need not just regularly but as a basic health/hygiene item then it's likely you'll ignore other needs they may have.
Stille20 4 years ago
Agreed. My father is a good man, but when my mother was very ill he struggled to take care of her physical needs. I moved in and did it, but it changed who I was willing to date and who I decided to marry.
Load More Replies... JennyLaRue 4 years ago
My dad used to cackle to himself at the checkout as he buried tampons or pads in frozen items as he packed the bags. It was only recently (after about 25 years of doing this) that I mentioned that we don't go home and use them right away. He was so disappointed!
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
That's pretty amusing. I like your dad's spirit
Load More Replies... CatWoman312 4 years ago (edited)
I was a cashier through college and men, women, children, elderly. They all bought things not meant for them. Everything from period products to hemorrhoid cream I scanned and I didn’t care. I’m there to do my job not judge you for what you buy. Even if it was a man buying pads for himself, we don’t care. We aren’t paid to judge what people purchase we just scan and go. Guy has serious issues and will be doomed forever single if he keeps these sexist views. Girl dodged a bullet
deanna woods 4 years ago
That's what you are going to see in retail. People buying things that are not for them. I mean, I have bought adult diapers for relatives and I didn't have a panic attack wondering what the clerk thought.
Load More Replies... DC 4 years ago
What is it even with mentrual stuff in general and american men? Europeans don't care, we just buy that stuff if it is on the list, and no one ever cared about it.
John Louis 4 years ago
This kind of toxic masculinity will, in all likelihood, manifest in other worst ways the longer you stay with him.
Truth Monster 4 years ago
Huge red flag when a partner sees their significant other in distress and does not try to act. This is a person who needs to do some growing up so they realize their momentary discomfort is superseded by the actual need of their partner.
MellonCollie 4 years ago
Oh wow, I'm so glad the girl asked about "what about helping me if we'd have a kid" - because it is very likely this asshat BF will literally have to (help her) change her pads at some point!
Anibal Damiao 4 years ago
better find who the jerk was when you got your period than finding out after finding that your period wouldn't come :)
John C 4 years ago (edited)
As I guy, I've never been at all squeamish about buying hygiene products, for me or anyone else. I mean, what are they afraid of - the cashier thinking it was for them? Why would they think that? I honestly don't get it at all.
Eslamala 4 years ago
Exactly! I assure you no woman, especially an overworked cashier, will even notice, let alone think it's for a guy...
Load More Replies... MAnahP 4 years ago
As a young teen I was embarrassed to buy pads. My older brother (also a teen) had no problems buying them. He ended up making a fun joke with me calling them my brake pads. I still call them that now lol.
Just a Marine Veteran 4 years ago
I don't understand that at all. I was totally fine buying them for my gf even as a teen in high school. What is embarrassing about it? The cashier might realize that you know someone who is female?
Viviane 4 years ago
And heaven forbid anyone find out your mother was female!
Load More Replies... Laura Dawson 4 years ago
Good she left him, hopefully her situation will be sorted & she will meet someone who is a more mature & decent man than her ex. You can’t just “hold it in” you just bleed & it’s continual like a tap dripping (sorry for the analogy but it’s really annoyed me what he said) what a div he is.
columbokateUK 4 years ago
How is it, in the Internet age, that young men are still so ignorant on female biology? We were taught this at school from about the age of 9 upwards. That was 30 years ago. Boys, Google is a thing, use it 🤷♀️
Monika Rhodes 4 years ago
Wow- that guy needs some basic education. Hold it in? Wtf? My husband has 0 problem buying me tampons when I need them. To be forced to result in using toilet paper and having to go yourself because your bf is a prick is pretty sad.
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago (edited)
Yeah it’s so loveless too. Like, men can grasp that a period is often painful and difficult. We want a partner who can help. My partner buys me pads and chocolates and flowers or anything to make me comfortable on my period. It makes me so happy to be taken care of when I don’t feel well. Who would want a partner that doesn’t care if you are in pain? That’s scary.
Load More Replies... Beto River 4 years ago
I'm a son, a brother of two sisters and a married man. I been buying pads and panty liners since I was 16 and had my license. Never ever did I stopped to think or care what other people thought of it.
Helen Haley 4 years ago
A friends husband always said he was proud to buy all feminine hygiene products for his wife. Visible, public proof, he had a woman.
Leo Sorits 4 years ago
She got super lucky. That she found about all this now and not after marriage and kids
Viviane 4 years ago
Or at the birth - he seems like the type who would turn green and walk out. Then complain, "The birth of my kid was soooo gross. I'm not touching diapers or burping them. What if it throws up on me?!"
Load More Replies... Hannah Edwards 4 years ago
I once had a bf who refused to buy tampons for me because he said the person in the shop would think he was putting them up his bum.
Viviane 4 years ago
Yup, because the second he's out of earshot, the cashier will gossip: "Third guy today who comes in to buy disposable butt plugs. Do we have him on camera?"
Load More Replies... Aunt Messy 4 years ago
She dodged a bullet there. There are times when the five minute 200 pound weight loss plan is perfect.
Cristi Fitzke 4 years ago
When are we going to stop treating menstruation & it's products as shameful? Obviously this idiot didn't pay attention in health class or he would know how periods work. Vaginal sphincters do not work the same as urethral sphincters. Bottom line if you love someone a little embarrassment wouldn't matter.
Shelley McKinney 4 years ago
My ex liked getting the groceries and that includes getting the femanine products. First time he had to get me something he called me and had be talk to a female employee he found to help him (pre facetime). He had no issues.
Pacifico Fernandez 4 years ago
This guy sound like the kind of a husband who cheats on his wife while she is in the hospital giving birth. Run away!
Heather Atwood 4 years ago
When I was a senior in high school, I asked my boyfriend to buy me some tampons and he even bought a few different brands/sizes and he was NINETEEN!!! Get over it men!
Lily Mae Kitty 4 years ago
What was his thought process?! "I look like a guy...but I'm buying pads...so I must look like I cross dress...and have my period... AAAHHHHHHHHH!" wtf
MrLoufoque 4 years ago
Whoa, the guy seems like a huge a-hole and she did good getting rid of him. If my girlfriend asked me to buy her pads, my only reflex would be to ask what brand and type, and get them the same way I do when she asks me to add some products (I once spent quite a long time looking for a very specific micellar cleansing water!) while I'm running errands.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Uh.... my hubby has always bought them. It felt odd to him the first time, but then, eh, it's just shopping, and who cares?
Viviane 4 years ago
My husband asked, "Doesn't she buy him condoms?" He really didn't see the difference between that and buying pads and tampons - "You do it because you love the person".
Load More Replies... If I could I would live under water 4 years ago
@elStiJneriNO probably a troll but since English is only my third language, I googled the term "differentabled" and found that it's usually better to say "disabled". Someone wrote: "To call me and other disabled people differently abled is to diminish what is a very real experience for all of us." But either way, at least I know not to call them "cripple ".
elStiJneriNO 4 years ago
it's my third too. But my point was : once cripple was okay to describe somebody unable to walk, then it becomes insulting and the correct word is another. But after a while people take offense to the new word and it continues. Since we are here with people who communicate in their 2nd or 3rd language, it's not nice to nitpick on words like that. and also very beside the point most of the times as we use the words we were taught in our 1st language. I just don't like that behavior where we always assume the worst of people. I think i actually also read such an article once about disabled people. Some don't even care about cripple because it's more specific to the disability to walk rather that the more generic disabled.
Load More Replies... Mjw Gjgema 4 years ago
In the fifties of the last century, menstruation was something you didn't mention. It was a woman's thing and men were supposed not to know anything about it. My fiancée at that time had a very irregular period and when it was there it was terrible. Onze were walking in town and suddenly she fainted and I saw blood stains on het skirt. I called a taxi and broght here home, telling my mother in law that she had e very bad period. What happened? She was outraged because I knew it and scolded my fiancée for a s**t beause her "secret" was now know to a man - as if she could have helped it. Thank God/Allah/Vishnu or whoever for the fact that circumstances now are different. If your girlfriend is good enough to have sex wit her, then why not for helping with her female problem. I would still have problems to buy condoms at the store, but when my granddaughter asked me tot take a package of Tampax because I had to go the supermarket anyway, it was no preoblem for me.
Justin Patel 4 years ago
I chopped the tip of my finger off and as much as I tried to hold in the blood, I couldn't. Can't imagine it's possible to hold in menstrual blood either? She completely dodged a bullet leaving that moron.
Pipe Kasuko 4 years ago
She should have packed up, picked up pads on the way home to her parents place! Definitely dodged a bullet.
Megzymonsta 4 years ago
I never get men like that. Seriously WTF!?!? When I see men buying pads and tampons in a shop I naturally assume they either have a girlfriend or are really nice guys getting them for a friend/relative. The young woman absolutely made the right choice to leave such a seriously immature and prejudiced partner. Every time I hear men whining about women "holding in their periods" I just want to punch them straight in their arrogant little faces
Endishere 4 years ago
At this pandemic time, it is my part to go out for shopping, bimonthly. I see no "look at this man" views from other shoppers when I select and pick pads for my wife. I also hear nothing from cashier when checking out and paying all the items I bought. That man needs to have that experience first. He is just an overthinking guy who does not have many experiences yet, thus immature suited him.
Paul Davis 4 years ago
That girl needs to get away from that boyfriend and consider herself lucky that she learned what a self-centered pile of garbage he was before they got married or had kids.
deanna woods 4 years ago
At one point, my dad lived in a house with a wife and three daughters who were all of menstruating age and if one of us needed him to buy pads, he went and bought pads. He didn't make stupid excuses and he certainly never said anything inappropriate about transgender people. This boyfriend sounds a little bit immature, sexist, and transphobic and she made the right move by leaving. Also he has some strange opinions about how women feel after giving birth.
Eslamala 4 years ago
Ugh, what a pathetic insecure douche! Downvote me to eternity, but I can't fkcn stand insecure people (adults). I can't deal with them.
Cristina Dal Zilio 4 years ago
I am an insecure adult (lack of self esteem and self love, issues I'm working on). Although it is your right to don't like whoever you want, insecurity not always mean racism, lack of respect and common sense
Load More Replies... Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich 4 years ago
I actually saw a guy at Wal-Mart yesterday taking pictures of different Monistat and similar products (yeast infection treatments, for those not in the know) and texting the pictures to his wife to see which one she wanted. His young son was with him and I heard him explain to the boy that he wanted to make sure to wait to hear from "mommy" because he wanted to make sure he bought what she wanted. Too cool.
Bellevue Jenkins 4 years ago (edited)
Immature selfish morons like this guy deserves to stay alone ... forever .... period :)
Roger Haywood 4 years ago
I buy my fiance feminine hygene products. No big deal. I don't care what the cashier thinks. lol
chiizkake 4 years ago
I kept waiting for the twist, like "awwww when he stormed out he went to just buy the pads and wasn't so bad after all!" or "awwww he said 'no' because he already got some knowing she'd need them when they moved in together!'..... but, nope, he's just a trashperson. Shame. She did it right kicking him to the bin.
Elle Malkamäki 4 years ago
Hold it in 😂 are there really grown ass men out there that believe it works that way??
Brent Hollett 4 years ago
Advice for Young Men: Even if you don't have a girlfriend, by a pack of maxi-pads and a pack of light tampons, and keep them in your bathroom. Every woman in your life will appreciate it even if they see it and never need it. You're literally buying a cardboard box, but it can mean the difference between a fun day or a ruined evening.
Tracy Costa 4 years ago
I don't know how well this aged, but this reminds me of college in the mid-90s. A guy friend worked at a drugstore and would happily buy my roommate and I pads and tampons because he said, "The implication here is that I know a vagina well enough that I'm allowed to buy it accessories."
Beans 4 years ago (edited)
Are these even real? They seem like click bait to me. How can someone live with someone so long and not know they are like this? The way he just dropped hate speech so easily... have these gross hateful views he has never come up even once? If real this lady had some thickas rose coloured glasses.
K1tt3n 4 years ago
Not click bait. Sadly, people like this do exist. It seems she didn't realize what a douche he was bc he hid it until the whole buying pads thing came up. Some people are really good at hiding how terrible they are. It's messed up.
Load More Replies... *hippie*witchy*bitch* 4 years ago
good thing she broke up with him. the more she found out the worse it got man.
Znaya 4 years ago
Allow me to approach this from a different point of view as I can understand both sides being a female. My ex husband did not have any problem buying pads for me because he grew up with sisters. You cannot change any male who felt like your ex did, you can't shame him into it. He has to want to change on his own. Don't assume because people love you, they will do anything for you, case in point! It's better to bring up these little situations before it gets too deep so you will each know who you are dealing with, don't take it for granted.
Lunar Bicycle 4 years ago
Will he not buy diapers for a child because someone will think he s***s his pants? A douchebag who’s afraid to buy pads. Go figure.
Amy Harrell 4 years ago
I can't count the number of times my husband had to go buy me tampons and pads after children were born and we live in a small town everyone knows everyone and everyone's business. He needs to grow up.
Magicalmarilyn 4 years ago
What an ass, my man has been getting mine for me for over 30 years. Now it's the other kind of pads
Gussi Gusii 4 years ago
Been buying pads for my mother and sis since I was a kid, buy them for my GF too. What's the big deal? zzzzz
Marnie 4 years ago
Any guy who's best guess is that women can "hold it in" and just choose to be gross instead - right there that is a reason to run, run, run and never look back. What sort of horrible mind do you have to have for you to just assume women are all disgusting creatures? You don't have to have ever been taught anything about it. If that is your guess, you have a very dark mind.
Random Anon 4 years ago
Definitely NTA and she needs to get out of that relationship IMO. The dude is too immature and ignorant. I've even taken a photo of the packaging to make sure I get the right one. What's the big deal?
Casey McAlister 4 years ago
The cashier and other customers probably won't bat an eye if you catch fire, let alone thinking something about a man buying pads.
Azziza 4 years ago
He's ridiculous for thinking people would think he's transsexual! Transsexuals don't need pads! Women changing to men are on testosterone which stops the period and men changing to women don't have uteruses or ovaries and thus no period either! She's lucky she saw this before they were even more entangled by marriage and children!
Abbella DiNoto 4 years ago
I just discovered “period panties”. They are under ware that can hold up to 4 tampons! I have horrible periods (finally my doctor after 30+ yrs of complaining, and filling a super absorbing tampon in less than an hour and me doubled over in her office crying hysterically). Is finally is going to order test! I swear people, men & doctors just do not get women’s menstrual cycles. They Are different and a woman can’t always be prepared especially when you bleed so heavily is like a deluge. Having accidents in public is a real thing! And a serious thing!
Ivana 4 years ago
I had a pregnancy scare shortly after switching birth control. My husband (then a still new boyfriend) stayed with me while our friend went to the store for us. I gave him a list, a chocolate bar, a bottle of wine, and a pregnancy test. He went and secured the provisions and I took the test. I came out and my boyfriend immediately panicked, I guess my face was still in that "Oh God No" state. I assured them that it was negative. We all watched a movie in our bed together, eating chocolate and drinking the wine. I asked if the clerk said anything to my friend when he bought everything. He laughed and told us the clerk asked if it was for celebrating or comforting, he said it would all depend on what the little pink stick showed but either way it wasn't his problem, that the possible parents were crying in the bathroom and he just wanted an excuse to get away from us. He and the clerk laughed for a good long time about it.
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago
Wow, definitely NTA, he sounds like someone you're better off without. I can't believe it. Dude, this is why I date girls. They understand things like this.
Susan Judd 4 years ago
I am totally mystified how he could think a trans person could have periods. Ignorant as all f--k, and is a selfish p--ck.
Deborah B 4 years ago
This is an example of why the 'Won't buy you period supplies' red flag is such a red flag. It is an indicator of distorted attitudes and beliefs. I'm glad OP took the time to have this discussion with her boyfriend and uncover the underlying issues. I've known girls who use this as a test before moving in with a guy - just in a 'can you stop in an pick up some tampons for me on your way over' casual request. If it's a hard no, it sparks a discussion. Other tests include the "I'm going out with a guy friend" and "I can't go out this weekend, would you like to hang with me while I do chores and run errands." It's not about being manipulative, it's seeing if the expressed reactions and behaviour are what you want them to be - and bringing it up casually can get you a more honest and accurate response than straight up asking.
I I 4 years ago
OMG , i have a wife and two daughters , iv'e bought female products for them all , all different pads , tampons , heavy flow , light flow , night time , with wings , i know the products by the packaging now ive done it that often , he needs to grow the fck up , ohh and trannies dont get periods ffs
El Dee 4 years ago
At first I tried to be charitable towards him (I know) I thought his obvious lack of knowledge on women had perhaps guided his decision (in part) But why would you refuse anyway? He is an asshole, hopefully this is a wake up call for him and he will learn from it. But she has been fortunate to find out what he's like before it's too late..
Keryl Cryer 4 years ago
That’s because you’re an adult. This guy isn’t. As several people put it, it’s a badge of (likely) heterosexuality. “I have a woman!” (Yes, I know it could be for his mother, his daughter, his sister, his roommate, whoever, but if the guy is between 20 and 70, people will probably assume it’s for a girlfriend or wife. That’s IF they think about it at all.)
Load More Replies... Jay Cee 5 months ago
First night in Egypt on a scuba diving holiday with my 2 daughters, older daughter comes to my room to say her sister's period had started early and she needed pads could I . . . ? Well you do what you need to do. So off I trot, found a pharmacy and came rushing back. Gold Star Dad but she missed the first 3 days of her scuba course and had to train with strangers.
Nadya Raymond 4 years ago
All these men who keep thinking women can hold in period blood...I take it U men are seeing ur periods too and are therefore holding it in...please do tell us ur secret...tell us how so we too can hold it in
Isabel Care 4 years ago
From the first lockdown, my brother, who lives with and helps our elderly mum, went to the supermarket (having phoned me for help) with the outer packaging for incontinence pads and panty liners. As I suggested, he asked for help from the pharmacy counter. Big, tough, scary looking bloke who will do anything for his loved ones. Proper man
anonymous 4 years ago
all these people leaving essay-sied comments about a fragile man afraid to buy pads for his gf. firstly, paper bags, renewable bags, even most plastic bags are pretty opaque, one bag for a few pads and no one will know he had them. secondly, nobody gives a s**t if a man buys pads, they'll prob assume it's for his gf or sis or whatever. so stfu and buy the damn pads
Lynne Monteith 4 years ago
My son Was working at a new Pizza place when the only girl working got a little upset. The guys got it out of her that her period had just started. The plazza they were in had just opened so there wasn't a drug store open yet. My son says " I have some tampons in my car I'll go get them for you." The other guys just stop and look at him "Dude! Why have you got tampons in your car?" He just looks at them like they are nuts and says "Duh. I have a GIRLFRIEND!" He said you could see the gears working on these guys.
Lori Reese 4 years ago (edited)
I don't know, I was never unprepared so much that I would have to ask my spouse to buy them for me. He would of course, but knowing that every moth it comes I would always have them on hand.
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
Why on earth would she post that question? His ego may be fragile, but so is her grip. He's outright refusing to help a human being while convenient to do so. It's a simple medical situation, give a 5min hand to bleeding human you claim to like without having to see or touch any blood... DTMA (Dump The Motherf* Already). Don't waste your breath on considering the situation.
Tuna Fish 4 years ago
OMG This is so much ado about nothing. I have a husband and three sons. When I had a hip replacement a couple of years ago my youngest son (22) was not working at the moment and agreed to stay home and help me after surgery. I told him I needed some pads and he did the whole OMG thing for a minute but went when I told him that no girl would think it was a big deal. He got home with a big smile on his face and said he liked the girl behind the counter and when he told her he was watching me and needed help buying my pads she was soooo happy to help and told him she thought it was so adult for him to do that like her dad buys them for her sometimes. He actually got a date out of it. Like I said not that big of a deal. FFS I buy boxer shorts and condoms for them, why can't they buy pads for me.
Duchess Raven Waves 4 years ago
Wow I feel so bad for her. My s.o was buying tampons for me when he was 16. We are in our 30s now. What a waste of organs.
Christel Nellemann 4 years ago
Wow, that guy had quite a few bad issues. Not helping his partner. Having really bad wrong ideas about female body is not good, but not being willing to listen to an actual woman telling you, that women cannot hold the blood back, thinking she is .. what.. lying?? Is right up disrespectfull , willfully ignorant and really stupid, a trait he will show in other subjects as well. The transfobia, the laziness, the fragile maculinity. Arg, run, run , and do not leave an adress behind.
SunofSpringtime 4 years ago
Thinking that you can hold period blood in is stupid, but kinda understandable. But still insisting on how that goes even after being explained how a period works by a girl who's experiencing it first-hand is..... I can't even. Totally dodged a bullet there.
Elio X 4 years ago
Not much to add but bullet dodged. That guy is the worst. I mean, he tries to argue with her about how a period works in the first place and cares more that a random person may judge him than he does about helping his girlfriend. No one really cares about your purchases and would probably assume that a guy buying pads is a nice person who is helping his friend/gf/wife/sister/whatever even they even bothered to think about it. He straight up admitted that he would not help her in anyway if they had a kid together even though she's the one who risks being maimed and dying from it. I recommend no kids personally but if you want them pick someone who isn't an insecure douchebag. Also, this is totally the kind of guy who leaves his wife if she becomes disabled, even temporarily.
Jane Alexander 4 years ago
Loved him?, No. You loved the illusion until he destroyed it by showing his real self. You're not the first woman/man to love someone because of who we thought he or she was.
Theodore Wolner 4 years ago
I am glad that you were able to see his true colors before he could weasel his way deeper into your life. A kid gave me a funny look once when I was picking up pads for my wife; I just told him that "they work GREAT for polishing the Corvette!" ( I was driving a 1951 Willys at the time. ) What a dip, he actually believed me!
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
Sounds like you transitioned very recently. I've read that it takes a few months for the testosterone and hormone blockers to stop menstruation. Anyways, congratulations. :) If it turns out you don't need the extra pads, you can donate the stockpile to a local charity.
Load More Replies... Martha Meyer 4 years ago
I agree that it surely didn't help. But seeing his commenst about her needing help after giving birth, just confirm to me that he's an uncaring person in general.
Load More Replies... Monika Rhodes 4 years ago
Nooo- first things first- get yourself sorted out with pads so you feel better. No worse thing than having unreliable toilet paper to keep the blood in. I'd do the same and then leave the prick.
Load More Replies... Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 4 years ago
He was still unwilling to help her take care of herself even if she had just had a baby... because she wasn't "crippled" (his word) and should be able to do it herself. He has no concept of the reality of being a woman. He assumed that if someone saw him buying pads they would think he was transgendered. There is more wrong with this guy then just being told to man up or having a bad childhood.
Load More Replies... Harry Lui 4 years ago
Everyone makes mistakes, and if your partner isn't willing to help you out after you made a mistake, what good is the partner? Might as well be single.
Load More Replies... Monika Rhodes 4 years ago
You obviously never had period and have no idea how it works so STFU!!!
Load More Replies... she/they and probably gay 4 years ago
She is SO much better without him, he's transphobic, fragile and just an a-hole. You can't hold your period in, it feels like you're uterus is weighing you down, he should have got them for her.
Load More Replies... Beck(formerly Becca/Gizmo sq) 4 years ago
He cared more about what a random cashier thought than his girlfriend. And he wanted her to "hold it in." I guarantee he was raised in a super religious house that has never seen any sex except missionary. Probably thinks she will get pregnant random ways like kissing. I have met people like this.
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