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Boyfriend Storms Off After Girlfriend Calls Out His Fragile Masculinity For Refusing To Buy Her Pads
For the privileged part of the world, buying menstrual pads is like buying chewing gum. You don’t think twice about it, and why would you? But even here, where sanitary pads are not considered a luxury, unlike it is in many not-so-fortunate countries, some people find themselves having ambivalent feelings about buying them in public.
In fact, this is what happened to a 23-year-old woman whose boyfriend refused to buy her pads at a store because “he didn’t want the cashier to see him buying pads.” The girlfriend, who found it ridiculous and couldn’t stop laughing at that point, shared the incident on Reddit in detail, where it amassed 31.2k upvotes.
Turns out, the guy was not joking and as you can imagine, the incident escalated. It all ended with the author calling him out for fragile masculinity, and asking people online if she was right to do so. Share your thoughts in the comment section below!
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After a woman got her period all of a sudden, she asked her boyfriend to buy her pads but he refused, sparking an argument between the two
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So she told her boyfriend that his masculinity was fragile and shared the whole incident on Reddit to ask people whether she was too harsh or not
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And this is what people had to say about it
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Trillian 4 years ago
Wow that escalated. She dodged a bullet there. WTF is wrong with these guys? My teenage son would buy that stuff for me. Not without complaints, but then he does nothing without complaining first.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Good grief, why are there so many men who think you can "hold in" the blood from a bleeding wound! That doesn't make any sense. I feel sorry for her for finding out he was such an uncaring guy this late in their relationship. The comments about birth make me afraid for any woman who might ever have kids with this guy.
Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 4 years ago
@Maria - sometimes life gets so busy you forget to stock up on things. Have you ever been cooking and realized you ran out of an ingredient? Your partner should be willing to help you out with things, and not expect someone to hold a period in! That would be somewhat like her telling him if he was having the runs really badly "just hold it in and go get your own pepto and toilet paper" or "you should have known this would happen at this moment and been prepared for it!" Periods don't happen like clockwork for every woman out there.
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Jihan Kim 4 years ago
I had no problem buying it for my ex. The only issue being a overwhelmingly wide range of products!
Anna Banana 4 years ago
You're not alone! I once spent 10 minutes looking for panty liners that didn't have some obnoxious scent, and I still made a mistake because I didn't notice the fine print... (I ordered a bunch of washable ones that day so it's actually all good)
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James016 4 years ago
The only issue I have had with buying pads for my wife is which ones to get as there are so many brands. Now I have a picture of the box so next time I can just get them.
Kiss Army 4 years ago
My husband has always said he has no problem buying feminine hygiene products for me (as long as I am very specific about which ones!). He says he feels like strutting through the store with them because it proves he has a women at home - he may not be "getting any tonight" but he ain't "a sad single dude" either!
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Annabelle 4 years ago (edited)
Major red flag. Besides being transphobic which is horrible. I think it is more about your partner not wanting to help you when it gets a little uncomfortable.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Yeah, he sounds like the type who will bolt when you need help the most, for example after a car accident or during chemo.
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Jeff Foxworthy did a bit about this years ago. He said he never minded buying feminine products for his wife, because it shows everybody in the store that he’s in a committed relationship with a woman. One of the best lines in the bit went something like, (proudly holding the box of tampons up) “I got a woman! What you got, Buddy? Playboy? I got a woman!”
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
Lmao!! Yes! That was my exact thought. Like, buying pads shows you are definitely getting laid. The first assumption would be that you were getting them for your wife or girlfriend.
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Donkey boi 4 years ago
I was 12 when I was first sent to the shop to get some for my sister. I remember the lady at the till say, 'Um, do you know what you have there darling?' I was a very sarcastic child and so my response was, 'Yeah, pads, it says so on the packet! They don't feel "heavy" though!'. She completely missed it and carried on, 'You don't know what they are for? They're not for you!'. Being the shite that I was, 'Yeah they are! I use them as wrist rests when I'm playing on the computer AND put them under my armpits when I get sweaty! Just give me my change!'.
sofacushionfort 4 years ago
If he was too embarrassed to buy pads, imagine how he feels now, standing there buying a fleshlight?
Mama Panda 4 years ago
I raised my son (almost 19) to not be ashamed or scared to buy tampons, pads or anything else feminine for his girlfriend. He was at his girlfriend's house and both she and her mom started their periods and were out of pads. He jumped up, asked them both what they needed and dashed to the store. He came back with pads, heating pads and chocolate. I am so proud of him!!!
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
That is so awesome, way to go for mama and son, you should both be proud :) this is how we break the cycle of shame etc, by educating both genders :) I hope my son (currently 10) will have the same attitude, it's what I'm aiming for in regards to him being aware of the unfair biases in the world
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TrickQuestion 4 years ago
If you're in a relationship with someone who needs pads, you get them pads if they need them. It's part of being in one. If you're not willing to get something they need not just regularly but as a basic health/hygiene item then it's likely you'll ignore other needs they may have.
Stille20 4 years ago
Agreed. My father is a good man, but when my mother was very ill he struggled to take care of her physical needs. I moved in and did it, but it changed who I was willing to date and who I decided to marry.
Load More Replies... Trillian 4 years ago
Wow that escalated. She dodged a bullet there. WTF is wrong with these guys? My teenage son would buy that stuff for me. Not without complaints, but then he does nothing without complaining first.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Good grief, why are there so many men who think you can "hold in" the blood from a bleeding wound! That doesn't make any sense. I feel sorry for her for finding out he was such an uncaring guy this late in their relationship. The comments about birth make me afraid for any woman who might ever have kids with this guy.
Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 4 years ago
@Maria - sometimes life gets so busy you forget to stock up on things. Have you ever been cooking and realized you ran out of an ingredient? Your partner should be willing to help you out with things, and not expect someone to hold a period in! That would be somewhat like her telling him if he was having the runs really badly "just hold it in and go get your own pepto and toilet paper" or "you should have known this would happen at this moment and been prepared for it!" Periods don't happen like clockwork for every woman out there.
Load More Replies... Jihan Kim 4 years ago
I had no problem buying it for my ex. The only issue being a overwhelmingly wide range of products!
Anna Banana 4 years ago
You're not alone! I once spent 10 minutes looking for panty liners that didn't have some obnoxious scent, and I still made a mistake because I didn't notice the fine print... (I ordered a bunch of washable ones that day so it's actually all good)
Load More Replies... James016 4 years ago
The only issue I have had with buying pads for my wife is which ones to get as there are so many brands. Now I have a picture of the box so next time I can just get them.
Kiss Army 4 years ago
My husband has always said he has no problem buying feminine hygiene products for me (as long as I am very specific about which ones!). He says he feels like strutting through the store with them because it proves he has a women at home - he may not be "getting any tonight" but he ain't "a sad single dude" either!
Load More Replies... Annabelle 4 years ago (edited)
Major red flag. Besides being transphobic which is horrible. I think it is more about your partner not wanting to help you when it gets a little uncomfortable.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Yeah, he sounds like the type who will bolt when you need help the most, for example after a car accident or during chemo.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Jeff Foxworthy did a bit about this years ago. He said he never minded buying feminine products for his wife, because it shows everybody in the store that he’s in a committed relationship with a woman. One of the best lines in the bit went something like, (proudly holding the box of tampons up) “I got a woman! What you got, Buddy? Playboy? I got a woman!”
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
Lmao!! Yes! That was my exact thought. Like, buying pads shows you are definitely getting laid. The first assumption would be that you were getting them for your wife or girlfriend.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 4 years ago
I was 12 when I was first sent to the shop to get some for my sister. I remember the lady at the till say, 'Um, do you know what you have there darling?' I was a very sarcastic child and so my response was, 'Yeah, pads, it says so on the packet! They don't feel "heavy" though!'. She completely missed it and carried on, 'You don't know what they are for? They're not for you!'. Being the shite that I was, 'Yeah they are! I use them as wrist rests when I'm playing on the computer AND put them under my armpits when I get sweaty! Just give me my change!'.
sofacushionfort 4 years ago
If he was too embarrassed to buy pads, imagine how he feels now, standing there buying a fleshlight?
Mama Panda 4 years ago
I raised my son (almost 19) to not be ashamed or scared to buy tampons, pads or anything else feminine for his girlfriend. He was at his girlfriend's house and both she and her mom started their periods and were out of pads. He jumped up, asked them both what they needed and dashed to the store. He came back with pads, heating pads and chocolate. I am so proud of him!!!
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
That is so awesome, way to go for mama and son, you should both be proud :) this is how we break the cycle of shame etc, by educating both genders :) I hope my son (currently 10) will have the same attitude, it's what I'm aiming for in regards to him being aware of the unfair biases in the world
Load More Replies... TrickQuestion 4 years ago
If you're in a relationship with someone who needs pads, you get them pads if they need them. It's part of being in one. If you're not willing to get something they need not just regularly but as a basic health/hygiene item then it's likely you'll ignore other needs they may have.
Stille20 4 years ago
Agreed. My father is a good man, but when my mother was very ill he struggled to take care of her physical needs. I moved in and did it, but it changed who I was willing to date and who I decided to marry.
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