Woman Quietly Leaves A Wedding To Eat The ‘Safe’ Food She Brought, Gets Accused Of “Disrespecting The Caterer”

A wedding may be all about the bride and the groom. But it would be much less fun without guests to fill the dance floor! Couples want to have their closest friends and family members by their side when celebrating their nuptials, so these guests deserve to be considered when planning the big day. After all, the event should be a great memory for everyone involved!

But when one woman found out that the catering at her friend’s wedding wouldn’t be able to accommodate her medical condition, she decided to bring her own food. What she did not anticipate, however, was the backlash she would receive for bringing that meal. Below, you’ll find the full story that was recently posted on Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers shared.

This woman discreetly brought her own food to a friend’s wedding

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But she never expected her dinner to cause the uproar that it did

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Keeping wedding guests happy should be a priority for brides and grooms

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We all know that planning a wedding can be stressful. Zola reports that the average wedding nowadays costs around $36,000, and Brides.com notes that couples typically plan their big day for about a year. When you’re spending so much time and money on one event, it’s easy to feel like you deserve to turn the day into exactly what you’ve imagined.

You should have the perfect venue, live music, guest list, menu and more. But what if your guests’ preferences don’t align with your own? There are some decisions that brides and grooms can make by putting themselves first. If they don’t want to have kids running around the reception, they can choose to throw a child-free event. And if they’re both sober and aren’t interested in serving guests alcohol, that’s fine too.

But there are a few rules of thumb to follow to keep guests happy. Because you certainly don’t want your loved ones remembering your wedding as a miserable day where they were starving, exhausted and went home before the cake was even cut. According to Here Comes the Guide, having a short and sweet ceremony is the first thing the happy couple can do to keep their guests from getting bored.

It’s also important to have an event that flows. Don’t place any huge gaps in the itinerary, and don’t leave people waiting around without anywhere to sit or anything to eat and drink. Great music is also an easy way to keep guests engaged, as well as having plenty of games or activities for them.

And, of course, it’s important to make sure that your loved ones never get hangry. In fact, Hitched notes that being hungry is the number one thing that wedding guests hate. Whether it’s serving tiny meals, failing to put out snacks or making guests stand around for hours before dinner is served, this is an easy way to make your loved ones turn on you.

Accommodating dietary restrictions is possible with careful planning

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If you really love and care about your wedding guests, you’ll make sure that their stomachs aren’t grumbling during the cocktail hour. And if they have dietary restrictions or allergies, you’ll find a way to ensure that they get a delicious dinner too. 

Easy Weddings notes that there are a variety of different diets wedding caterers should be able to accommodate, including vegetarian, vegan, halal, gluten-free and nut-free. In fact, 17% of people in the United States follow a special diet, so there’s a good chance that a handful of guests at any wedding will have dietary restrictions. The good news, however, is that it’s actually not too challenging to cater to any one of them, as long as guests inform the couple ahead of time what kind of special meal they’ll need.

It’s also crucial that these dietary restrictions are taken seriously, especially if someone is following a special diet due to a medical condition or allergies. Food Allergy Research & Education notes that allergies are much more serious than a mild intolerance. They can cause hives, coughing, swelling of the face and tongue, difficulty breathing and sometimes even loss of consciousness.

Meanwhile, if a person with celiac disease eats gluten, they may experience diarrhea, stomach aches, bloating, indigestion and constipation. It’s dangerous to ignore dietary restrictions, not to mention that it’s simply rude to make a loved one feel like their medical condition is a burden or inconvenience.

We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this woman made the right choice by bringing her own food to her friend’s wedding? Feel free to weigh in, and then, you can find another Bored Panda article discussing wedding menu drama right here!  

Many readers assured the wedding guest that she had done nothing wrong, noting that she had a right to take care of herself

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However, a small minority thought that the author was in the wrong

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Later, she shared a brief update thanking readers for weighing in on her situation

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