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Husband Throws A Stomping Tantrum When He Realizes There’s No Thanksgiving Dinner
Thanksgiving can dish up all sorts of family drama. From where to host, what to serve, and who is invited… While it’s meant to be a time of gratitude and connection, we’ve seen far too many stories about fights breaking out around the table, or in the run-up to the big holiday.
One mom has shared how her husband expected the turkey to deliver and cook itself. Well, not really. But he did assume that his wife had made all the plans by herself. When she informed him that she hadn’t bought anything, hadn’t planned anything, and didn’t intend to, the husband completely lost it.
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Thanksgiving is a time for loved ones to gather and express gratitude
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But one mom has gone cold turkey on the holiday, after her family assumed she’d plan everything alone
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She followed up by schooling some netizens who had felt the need to judge her
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“I work as well”: people had questions and the mom was happy to answer
Some of the biggest mistakes you can make when hosting Thanksgiving, according to experts
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Planning, preparing and cooking for a big holiday like Thanksgiving can come with its fair share of stress. Especially if you’re hosting a big crowd. “Cooking Thanksgiving dinner is a marathon, not a sprint,” say the experts over at food blog Delish. And that’s why they advise getting as much done ahead of the big day.
Trying to do all your side dishes on the day of the gathering is likely to come back to bite you. So prepare things like cranberry sauce, stuffing and sweet potato casserole a day, or even a few days, before. This will free up time for you to spend on Thanksgiving cleaning your house, decorating, and handling any last-minute details that you might not have expected.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make on the day, according to Delish’s experts, is to not have snacks out for your guests when they arrive. You could opt for fancy, festive appetizers but if you don’t have time, why not consider a simple cheese board?
“Throw a couple blocks of cheese on a cutting board. Pour some roasted nuts into a serving dish. Open up a bag of chips,” they suggest. “It doesn’t have to be that deep—just have some sort of snack on deck.”
You’ll be spending a lot of time running the kitchen (and eating), do you really want to add bartender duties to your day as well? Delish advises having a couple of bottles of wine available (if you’ll be doing alcoholic drinks), as well as a pre-made, batched cocktail that guest can help themselves to.
You’ll want to make your table festive but don’t go overboard with decorations. “There are many important components that need to be there—like plates, wine glasses, water glasses, silverware, and serving dishes. You shouldn’t be wasting valuable real estate to make your table look like a department store display,” notes the food site.
The experts add that tall taper candles and floral arrangements block the view across the table and make it harder for guests to celebrate together. “Instead, opt for a nice tablecloth, some tea lights, and a couple flowers in small vases. Leave the decorative pine cones and gourds alone,” they say.
Etiquette site, Manners To Go notes that you shouldn’t feel bad asking your guests to chip in when it comes to Thanksgiving.
“It’s perfectly fine to ask guests to bring a dish or contribute to the meal, especially for casual gatherings,” reads the site. It adds that you should always use polite language to convey the message. For example, “It would be wonderful if you could bring a dish, but of course, if that’s not possible, your presence is more than enough.”
However you choose to celebrate or host Thanksgiving, remember it’s about gratitude and spending time with family and friends. Good luck!
Netizens rallied behind the woman and called out the dad for his childish behavior
Quite a few people agreed that the entire family should pull their weight
“Not fair to the kids”: some felt the mother could do better
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Gebidozo 4 weeks ago
He yelled at her and called her a f*****g b***h. I don’t understand why she’s even staying with that loser.
Melissa Harris 4 weeks ago
Serious lack of communication. His reaction and words are divorce worthy. If you're spouse starts calling you names they've lost all respect for you. Contempt is the death kneel of relationships.
Auntriarch 4 weeks ago (edited)
I agree with that entirely. But however much of an arsëhole he was, she seemed to enjoy the outcome far too much, which doesn't bode well. And their biggest problem is lack of communication, as you say. What was stopping her saying in October "none of us really likes thanksgiving food, why don't we knock it on the head since we're staying home this year" job done, simple. She was itching for a fight for whatever reason.
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Patrick Casavant 4 weeks ago
yta people are so wild, a good majority fell like they didn't read the og post at all. Or just read what they want to read. It is crazy.
Alexandra 4 weeks ago
If people don't really care about Thanksgiving, why should they celebrate it? There are people who don't care about Christmas and don't have a tree, decorations or fancy food: for them, it's just business as usual. What's wrong with that? OP's husband just assumed his wife would do all the work, which is on him. Never assume, KNOW. That is what communication is about. If the kids don't particularly care and OP neither, why doesn't husband go and have it with other family members? Live and let live, isn't that what Thanksgiving is about, theoretically at least?
Tabitha 4 weeks ago (edited)
Cripes, my husband LOVES Thanksgiving dinner—-and he’s a Brit who never had sweet potatoes and pumpkin pie until we got married and he moved here to the US. HE is usually the one to mention it to me at the beginning of October, so we can write a list specifically for that meal, and buy one or two items ahead of time every week when we grocery shop. So yes, it is possible for a husband to share that mental load that is usually 100% dumped on the wife. Listen, if they live on their own between leaving their parents’ house and their wedding day, men have to balance the entire mental load. They have to remember to wash their clothes, buy food, cook, clean (usually when they’re anticipating having a date come to their house—-filth is a HUGE turn off), and do all the planning and attend to all the details on their own. So why does that all disappear once they get married? Why do they regress back to dependent childhood when they’re SUPPOSED to be one of the two grownups in the house? When they could end up having children of their own to raise?
Robin Roper 4 weeks ago
Don't know who cooks the Thanksgiving meals OP usually eat but the meals my family pull together are awesome.
Melissa Harris 4 weeks ago (edited)
Clearly the OPs relatives aren't good cooks if everything is beige and stoggie. There should be geen beans, carrots, squash, sweet potatoes, and maybe beets for a Thanksgiving spread. Not just mashed potatoes. One of my favorites to make are balsamic glazed pearl onions.
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Janelle Collard 4 weeks ago (edited)
Poor OP! Married to a toddler who has tantrums! And the kids don't like going to the relatives cuz the food tastes bad; how bad of a cook do you have to be for your food to taste bad? 🤔
Beth Wheeler 4 weeks ago
The best things are the dressing. mashed potatoes. gravy, green beans or greenbean casserole or squash casserole. The best part of the turkey is having turkey sandwiches the next day.
Boo 4 weeks ago
I gave you an updoot as some fànny down voted you for your country not celebrating?? Why would another country celebrate an American holiday?? That's just insane!! I'm an American and I've celebrated (as a kid and young adult)...not a big fan. Since emigrating to the UK, my in laws asked me to cook one the first year I was here. That was the one and only time I've celebrated in 29 years. I don't miss it at all.
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🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 4 weeks ago
The only way you could have reasonably been expected to know is if there were say 11 households and you'd had the last 10 Thanksgivings in the other households, in which case it would make sense that your household was next to host. But even then, yes your husband should still be pulling his weight and should not have expected you to magic up the whole Thanksgiving feast yourself.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 weeks ago
Who do you pay to clean up Thanksgiving?!? They must be paying their own family to clean while they are there, doing nothing! Not surprised they have no initiative or thoughts about other people.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 weeks ago
It doesn't sound like anyone likes the Thanksgiving food, why would you make it? Besides they have much bigger issues
M H 3 days ago
My kids do not like traditional Thanksgiving food and neither do I. I tried to add different sides but my big family is stuck in the past with same old, same old. The kids and I now do our own thing.We love it. No cooking, cleaning, or loud obnoxious family members. It's awesome!
Sheena Leversedge Wood 6 days ago
The only thing I've ever done for thanksgiving is share that scene from Addams Family Values.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 weeks ago
I (62f) and my husband of 18 years (67m) have morphed into a somewhat traditional marriage, he gives me all his money and I almost always take care of everything else. I was a professional bookkeeper for years, so I pay the bills and do the budgeting. I'm retired, so I almost always do the shopping, cleaning & cooking. BUT - I have a chronic illness and some days I just can't. He is a grown up, which means if I don't feel like cooking - he can fend for himself. He is never a pr*ck about it and has never once berated me for not getting something done - he LOVES having chips & salsa for dinner. We do have really good communication skills, though. I could never imagine him yelling at me, let alone calling me names. That's so uncool.
bElLa sTairZz 3 weeks ago
neither communicating feels shortsighted at best, however husbands reaction is disgusting and childish
Crystalwitch60 2 weeks ago
Eugh thank the hell in English lmao ,cos all this thanksgiving c**p is ott !! I mean it’s just a roast dinner🤷♀️,like Xmas dinner is ,why does everyone make such a huge deal to em , husbands a childish t**t lol, n as they don’t celebrate Xmas I assume they Jewish or something like , but I’m bloody glad we don’t got thanksgiving here in uk ,jeez we ain’t that stupid 😂
Annie Sprague 3 weeks ago
I can't imagine how those kids grow up will be like. How parents especially the moms handle the holidays has tremendous impact on the kids. Holidays isn't about if you like the food or not. American holidays are all new to me. I came to the country when I was 33. But I learn to love all the holidays and how to cook the traditional meals. Even we don't have kids. It's only me and my husband. This is life is about. It's just like I learn to watch the Football and love it just as much. If you don't have interests in these kind of things in life, it's truly deplorable. As a woman, we're and should naturally be the leader at home and we're who hold the family together. Otherwise why do men even need you? I enjoy living life, planning for the holidays is a big part of it.
tee-lena 3 weeks ago
Just cuz you like doing a holiday that whitewashes genocide doesn't mean the rest of us do. We don't actually need men to need us either.
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The Starsong Princess 4 weeks ago
Esh here. The husband for calling ing her an effing b***h. That’s divorce worthy in my book - I don’t talk like that and I don’t tolerate from a partner. Op for her orthorexia- From her comments, Thanksgiving food is unclean and therefore bad for her and her kids. I
LookASquirrel 4 weeks ago
Another fake rage bait Reddit post written by a bored teenager. Why does BP keep posting this junk? Go to Reddit for weird AITA things.
Melissa Harris 4 weeks ago
Who throws out leftovers at home? My husband and I willl spends days eating the leftovers for lunches (turkey sandwiches) or dinners and if you have guests they'll often happily take as much food as you're willing to part with. I have to guard the stuffing to make sure I have some left for myself.
Load More Replies... Gebidozo 4 weeks ago
He yelled at her and called her a f*****g b***h. I don’t understand why she’s even staying with that loser.
Melissa Harris 4 weeks ago
Serious lack of communication. His reaction and words are divorce worthy. If you're spouse starts calling you names they've lost all respect for you. Contempt is the death kneel of relationships.
Auntriarch 4 weeks ago (edited)
I agree with that entirely. But however much of an arsëhole he was, she seemed to enjoy the outcome far too much, which doesn't bode well. And their biggest problem is lack of communication, as you say. What was stopping her saying in October "none of us really likes thanksgiving food, why don't we knock it on the head since we're staying home this year" job done, simple. She was itching for a fight for whatever reason.
Load More Replies... Patrick Casavant 4 weeks ago
yta people are so wild, a good majority fell like they didn't read the og post at all. Or just read what they want to read. It is crazy.
Alexandra 4 weeks ago
If people don't really care about Thanksgiving, why should they celebrate it? There are people who don't care about Christmas and don't have a tree, decorations or fancy food: for them, it's just business as usual. What's wrong with that? OP's husband just assumed his wife would do all the work, which is on him. Never assume, KNOW. That is what communication is about. If the kids don't particularly care and OP neither, why doesn't husband go and have it with other family members? Live and let live, isn't that what Thanksgiving is about, theoretically at least?
Tabitha 4 weeks ago (edited)
Cripes, my husband LOVES Thanksgiving dinner—-and he’s a Brit who never had sweet potatoes and pumpkin pie until we got married and he moved here to the US. HE is usually the one to mention it to me at the beginning of October, so we can write a list specifically for that meal, and buy one or two items ahead of time every week when we grocery shop. So yes, it is possible for a husband to share that mental load that is usually 100% dumped on the wife. Listen, if they live on their own between leaving their parents’ house and their wedding day, men have to balance the entire mental load. They have to remember to wash their clothes, buy food, cook, clean (usually when they’re anticipating having a date come to their house—-filth is a HUGE turn off), and do all the planning and attend to all the details on their own. So why does that all disappear once they get married? Why do they regress back to dependent childhood when they’re SUPPOSED to be one of the two grownups in the house? When they could end up having children of their own to raise?
Robin Roper 4 weeks ago
Don't know who cooks the Thanksgiving meals OP usually eat but the meals my family pull together are awesome.
Melissa Harris 4 weeks ago (edited)
Clearly the OPs relatives aren't good cooks if everything is beige and stoggie. There should be geen beans, carrots, squash, sweet potatoes, and maybe beets for a Thanksgiving spread. Not just mashed potatoes. One of my favorites to make are balsamic glazed pearl onions.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 4 weeks ago (edited)
Poor OP! Married to a toddler who has tantrums! And the kids don't like going to the relatives cuz the food tastes bad; how bad of a cook do you have to be for your food to taste bad? 🤔
Beth Wheeler 4 weeks ago
The best things are the dressing. mashed potatoes. gravy, green beans or greenbean casserole or squash casserole. The best part of the turkey is having turkey sandwiches the next day.
Boo 4 weeks ago
I gave you an updoot as some fànny down voted you for your country not celebrating?? Why would another country celebrate an American holiday?? That's just insane!! I'm an American and I've celebrated (as a kid and young adult)...not a big fan. Since emigrating to the UK, my in laws asked me to cook one the first year I was here. That was the one and only time I've celebrated in 29 years. I don't miss it at all.
Load More Replies... 🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 4 weeks ago
The only way you could have reasonably been expected to know is if there were say 11 households and you'd had the last 10 Thanksgivings in the other households, in which case it would make sense that your household was next to host. But even then, yes your husband should still be pulling his weight and should not have expected you to magic up the whole Thanksgiving feast yourself.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 weeks ago
Who do you pay to clean up Thanksgiving?!? They must be paying their own family to clean while they are there, doing nothing! Not surprised they have no initiative or thoughts about other people.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 weeks ago
It doesn't sound like anyone likes the Thanksgiving food, why would you make it? Besides they have much bigger issues
M H 3 days ago
My kids do not like traditional Thanksgiving food and neither do I. I tried to add different sides but my big family is stuck in the past with same old, same old. The kids and I now do our own thing.We love it. No cooking, cleaning, or loud obnoxious family members. It's awesome!
Sheena Leversedge Wood 6 days ago
The only thing I've ever done for thanksgiving is share that scene from Addams Family Values.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 weeks ago
I (62f) and my husband of 18 years (67m) have morphed into a somewhat traditional marriage, he gives me all his money and I almost always take care of everything else. I was a professional bookkeeper for years, so I pay the bills and do the budgeting. I'm retired, so I almost always do the shopping, cleaning & cooking. BUT - I have a chronic illness and some days I just can't. He is a grown up, which means if I don't feel like cooking - he can fend for himself. He is never a pr*ck about it and has never once berated me for not getting something done - he LOVES having chips & salsa for dinner. We do have really good communication skills, though. I could never imagine him yelling at me, let alone calling me names. That's so uncool.
bElLa sTairZz 3 weeks ago
neither communicating feels shortsighted at best, however husbands reaction is disgusting and childish
Crystalwitch60 2 weeks ago
Eugh thank the hell in English lmao ,cos all this thanksgiving c**p is ott !! I mean it’s just a roast dinner🤷♀️,like Xmas dinner is ,why does everyone make such a huge deal to em , husbands a childish t**t lol, n as they don’t celebrate Xmas I assume they Jewish or something like , but I’m bloody glad we don’t got thanksgiving here in uk ,jeez we ain’t that stupid 😂
Annie Sprague 3 weeks ago
I can't imagine how those kids grow up will be like. How parents especially the moms handle the holidays has tremendous impact on the kids. Holidays isn't about if you like the food or not. American holidays are all new to me. I came to the country when I was 33. But I learn to love all the holidays and how to cook the traditional meals. Even we don't have kids. It's only me and my husband. This is life is about. It's just like I learn to watch the Football and love it just as much. If you don't have interests in these kind of things in life, it's truly deplorable. As a woman, we're and should naturally be the leader at home and we're who hold the family together. Otherwise why do men even need you? I enjoy living life, planning for the holidays is a big part of it.
tee-lena 3 weeks ago
Just cuz you like doing a holiday that whitewashes genocide doesn't mean the rest of us do. We don't actually need men to need us either.
Load More Replies... The Starsong Princess 4 weeks ago
Esh here. The husband for calling ing her an effing b***h. That’s divorce worthy in my book - I don’t talk like that and I don’t tolerate from a partner. Op for her orthorexia- From her comments, Thanksgiving food is unclean and therefore bad for her and her kids. I
LookASquirrel 4 weeks ago
Another fake rage bait Reddit post written by a bored teenager. Why does BP keep posting this junk? Go to Reddit for weird AITA things.
Melissa Harris 4 weeks ago
Who throws out leftovers at home? My husband and I willl spends days eating the leftovers for lunches (turkey sandwiches) or dinners and if you have guests they'll often happily take as much food as you're willing to part with. I have to guard the stuffing to make sure I have some left for myself.
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