Guy Turns To The Internet After His Pregnant Wife Suddenly Disappears From The Airport And Texts Him To Never Look For Her
You never know what the other person is truly thinking, even when it’s your better half. Neither did the Reddit user Enclosed_Box, when his wife decided to flee right before a flight and leave him in the airport alone and confused.
The heartbroken man tried making sense of it all and contacting his pregnant wife. She eventually replied, but the message raised more questions than it provided answers. The guy, looking for some sympathy, poured his heart out to the ‘True Off My Chest’ community, where his post evoked controversial opinions.
A man was left confused after his pregnant wife abandoned him at the airport
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He tried getting in touch with her to find some explanation to the situation
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Eventually, she got back to him with one message, raising even more questions
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OP’s relationship coming to an end is unfortunate as it is, yet to make matters worse, his wife left the already baffled guy over a text message. According to Pew Research Center, only 14% of Americans think it’s acceptable to break up with someone over a text. The vast majority (97%) agree that ending a romantic relationship should be done face to face.
Breaking up in person allows the couple to talk it out if needed. When the end of a relationship is sudden and unexpected, the person with a broken heart might have quite a few unanswered questions, which prevent them from getting closure. Social psychologist Arie W. Kruglanski defined it as “a desire for definite knowledge on some issue”. When it comes to relationships, lack of closure might make it difficult to end the chapter and move on, let alone start a new relationship.
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Another distressing factor in the OP’s case was his wife’s pregnancy. By ending their relationship and disappearing at the airport, she cut his ties with the unborn child as well. Pregnancy might have had a strong role in the situation, too, as it might be a joyous yet difficult time for any couple. During that time, women feel a strong sense of responsibility for the well-being of both—herself and the baby. In addition to that, hormonal changes affect their emotions as well, and make it completely normal to feel more vulnerable and anxious during pregnancy. It might make the woman look at situations and relationships in a different light, whether there is a basis for worry or not.
The OP answered some commonly asked questions in the edits
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He then responded to some of the comments, as the community members tried to figure out what could have happened
If this guy is really innocent, I feel very sorry for him. *However*, no abusive partner ever describes themself as an abusive partner. I was in a relationship with someone who was extremely emotionally abusive, but he was sooo proud of himself that he "would never hit a woman like his stepfather did". Apparently he was under the impression that as long as he wasn't hitting me, treating me like s**t was just fine. Tbh a lot of the manipulative, please feel sorry for me, I am the victim here, I love her and I am so worried about her, language that OP uses reminds me way too much of my abusive ex. I find it very fishy.
Very sorry you can identify that through experience. You're right - So many things fit the pattern of what an abusive spouse would say. I wondered why they haven't looked at surveillance footage of her at the airport or leaving the airport. That would provide some answers right there. I can't imagine that airport police wouldn't take this seriously. Also, OP claims that "She was literally asking when we are going to have the next baby". 28 weeks pregnant and asking that? Unless she was using statements like that to lure him into a false sense of complacency, it just doesn't sound plausible.
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The last comment on the post seems pretty likely. With how quick and smooth her escape went, and the full cooperation of all of her family, this was very much planned ahead of time. Whatever her reasons, she needed out. I’m wondering if the airport police knew or realized what happened and were giving her more time to get away. (Honestly, I hope this is what’s going on and she is safe)
Now that you speak about airport police, can't they check up security cameras to see if she met with someone and their encounter looks or surprising or frightening to her or she looks whiling to go.
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This is 100% escape from an abuser. They all respond this way when the abused spouse leaves - drives them mad they lost control, go around telling everyone how perfect everything was and they don't understand, it came out of the blue etc, they'd never hurt them bla bla bla....exact same response from the abuser. Every time.
It could also be a case of avoiding local laws. in some countries, a woman can't leave her husband without losing her children to him.
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I am wondering if the country the OP was going back to had… how shall we say it… distinct views on the role of a woman in the relationship? My thought is that if this was the case and the possibility of having the child in the OP’s country presented possible future issues with regards to her ability to leave that country with her child, then she has probably pre arranged an ‘extraction’ to get her out. This is making me think of the events outlined in a book by Betty Mahmoody “Not Without my Daughter”
This is what I thought as well. Her story was terrifying.
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Like there is small chance she has psychosis triggered by pregnancy, but when her family is backing her too, there must be a reason.
Yeah. Her family is clearly in on whatever is happening since they'd be freaking out and helping the husband otherwise (or at least contacting the police). I guess she could just be sick of the guy and wanted a fresh start somewhere. Very weird situation.
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This has more red flags than a North Korean IKEA. I would bet a million pounds of you asked his wife, she'd say he was abusive. There's just no way this would happen without abuse being involved.
More red flags than a Noth Korean IKEA 🤣🤣🤣 this has now been added to my vocabulary, thank you
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Premeditated escape plan, but needing more history to figure out the why… sad on all accounts.
If he isn't an abusive partner (we can't asume he is just because many are), maybe her family IS, and they have more influence on her than OP knows.
Ohhh, plot twist! That's a scary idea in this situation
Load More Replies... This reminds me of my neighbour, She was on her late 30s, One day She left home to take the younger kid to school, the older One went Alone, and She never got home, the Next day her face was in the news papers, and on social media, the Police and her family asking if any One had seen her, She never apeared no One Saw her..... 3 weeks later, a post shows up in her family social media, asking for people to don't look for her any more because She had been found the papers also posted the same news, ( i only got to know the rest because we where neigbours, She was found, or rather She contacted her family, She had escaped to London with her lover because She couldn't stand her husbands abuse any more )
What about her kids though? Didn‘t he abuse them too? Did she leave them with him? I can‘t understand this.
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I love how a lot of folks are so quick to conclude that the OP just has to be an abuser and the wife a victim. Women do s****y things too you know. Men aren't always the bad guys. We have prisons full of women who've killed their own children and husbands. Before knowing any facts a bunch of you just assumned he had to have done something wrong.
While it is true that no nobody knows and she could be the jerk in this, I think commenters are going off the info about the family. She had a plan and she had help. A******s usually have many enablers but not so many collaborators. If she was being the a*****e in this you would think at least one member of the family would feel bad for the guy and tell him something
Load More Replies... Hmmm. I smell a rat here. He claims that this is their first baby, but if you look through his reddit history he claims to have had a baby that took its first steps in quarantine!
I don’t think he was the one who posted that. I looked through the Reddit too, and I saw that he commented on a post that says someone else saw their kid take steps.
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There's more to this story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/10lze2y/comment/j613z12/. A "friend" commented ...
"A friend"... Do you know how many messages I've gotten from numerous accounts on social media over the past 15 years from my abusive ex, pretending to be "one of his friends" who "wants me to know how much he misses me and how lost he is without me and how he's never gotten over me". The stories I've heard are quite something.
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I have a friend who is in an emotionally abusive relationship. She is currently planning her escape. Her partner also thinks everything is fine. Ignores her when she says it isn’t. Yes they’ve tried therapy. No he doesn’t see his role in the cycle of abuse. Yes their relationship looks fine from the outside. I’m willing to bet the OP in this story is an emotional abuser and because he never hits her, thinks he’s a great partner (spoiler, that’s less than even the bare minimum). Good for his wife. I hope she gets away and stays away safely. So happy her family is supporting her.
Mmmmm hmmmm. I’ve watched far too many episodes of Accident, Suicide or Murder to fall for this one. Dude straight up murdered her and is trying to cover for her disappearance. (only half joking)
This happened to my brother-in-law in 1998 and it was devastating to his entire family & nearly destroyed him. His work was opening a famous US chain restaurant in international tourist areas. From Asia to Eastern Europe. Met his future wife on the job in Seoul & they worked together for a few months. She hardly no English, him Korean he picked up. Married, came back to California where she wasn’t adjusting at all. Crying for home regularly. The family did best to be supportive, help her. She got pregnant & wanted to have baby in Seoul. They traveled there for 6 months. He flew home for work two weeks before her. That was the last he spoke to her for nearly a year. Her parents, family, friends shielded her. Many lawyers & trips finally met his son at age 3 after moving to Seoul. she eventually agreed to come back to US. Less than 3 months, she left her husband & son to return to parents, severed all contact. 25 years later & both have never met or seen her or her family.
Poor dad, and poor kid. I hope that they were able to recover and make a good life for themselves!
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Why isn't he naming his home country, my guess is he's a lot more controlling than he's letting on. Like many people have pointed out, abusers rarely think they've done anything wrong.
I dated one man once, who told me his wife and children left the country and now he's unable to keep touch with his kids, and he's never done anything wrong. Then I started dating him, and he was a perfect example of a narcissist person. He abused me every day fysically and mentally, yet this all was my own fault, not his. So Im thinking of this case could be the same ; his wife got no way out of the relationship, but to leave him like that, because he keeps telling how he has ever done anything wrong, just like my ex abusive partner.
Could it be that she wanted to get an abortion. She told him the baby caused her pain. What kind of pain? Emotional, physical?
At 28 weeks, you can only get an abortion out of medical necessity pretty much everywhere in the world. If she wanted an abortion, she would have gotten one in the first trimester. 28 weeks is at the point the baby can survive with a lot of medical intervention
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Happened to a family member, she took the kids and left. He did the whole omg I'm the victim story and one day when ranting admitted he knew she was leaving him. He was abusive, controlling and using financial abuse to keep her with him. He had been cheating on her the whole and introduced the new gf less than a month after the first left. The OPs story sounds the same.
Just a couple days ago I watched a YouTube video where an American father was living in South Korea trying to get his children back from his wife that had abducted them. They met and were married in San Francisco, had two kids and one day his wife took them to visit family in South Korea and just never returned. The guy went through the U.S. court system and then the South Korean court system to get custody of his children (I don't remember if it was shared or full but he was given rights to see his own children). However, the South Korean police have not enforced this. They know where mom and kids are at but have made no effort to enforce the law even though this guy has been given those rights in both countries. No abuse was found whatsoever. It has been years since he has seen his kids and is living in SK and constantly tries to search for them. During the interview, the interviewer spoke with a South Korean lawyer and she explained that it apparently seems to happen quite often
continued: in Asian countries when an Asian woman marries a foreigner. If the husband was not abusive, seems to me like the wife decided to raise the baby in her home country (China from what the post mentions) and because they had discussed it before and it wasn't feasible for them as a family unit, she left on her own. Her family is obviously helping her. With him being a foreigner, culturally they probably feel like they don't owe him anything and would prefer to just have her return with the baby. It is s****y but it happens, more often than we think. If poster is genuine, I wish him luck because it is going to be a hard.
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OP never says what country he's from, or what his religion is. It's very possible he's from a country where women are oppressed and treated like objects, and the wife didn't want to go back to that... doubly so if she knew if she was having a daughter.
I wonder if all these accusations are because he's a guy. Would the same questions be asked if there was a gender swap. I'm just saying. Anyway, there could be another reason that might be heart breaking. She might have secretly wanted to leave as her feelings for them are no longer there and it's difficult to break apart while the hubby may have not done anything wrong. These are extreme feelings that can be hard to admit and might trigger a flight response.
If it was a woman, I can imagine the responses being along the lines of "She's needy/clingy/abusive (some men are more willing to speak up these days, let that trend continue!)" and "He had to get away/didn't want the baby" etc. Whether it's because she's being abused or not, she seems most likely to have done this as an escape plan from the relationship. I say this due to her family's response, and the non-specific nature of the airport staff (They mentioned they helped her cancel her ticket. They absolutely imo either knew ahead of time or she alerted them that she, for whatever reason, wanted their assistance to do this and they did. If they legitimately had concerns for a pregnant woman wandering away, and they didn't know why, they would have done more.)
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I want to know what he did to make her leave like that. Most people never take responsibility and are clueless to what they did wrong so I can’t see him admitting it in the comments.
IF he hasn't done anything, my first thought is that she was kidnapped BY HER FAMILY.
I just stalked his reddit, and my theory is - she lost the baby a few weeks back when he posted something about severe pain. Now that she's not pregnant, the family and her have decided that she doesn't want to go to Europe and ditched the husband, mainly because if she were to break up with him face to face, he would have an "episode". I'm probably completely wrong, but hey, I figure I'd put my 2 cents in. :D
This is sad if it's true...no one should have their child taken from them unless proven they are a danger by a court of law. If the wife wanted out fine. Separate but maintain contact between you have a child on the way and OP deserves to know the welfare of it. A letter a text message something.
Omg!! SO! That is not your child. She has left you for someone else. Sad but true. Women are awful.....no! People are awful! I hate all people, trust no one! Yet like all humans we need to have someone..something, I will be the first to admit, I need human interaction. Still some people suck... 😔
She had a reason for disappearing and it won't be for nothing. Her family is hiding her and I get the impression they aren't worried so I suggest he's done something that has either scared her or made her very angry. The method she's chosen suggests she scared. This post screams that he is an abusive partner, but he doesn't see it. Also if he's truly worried about her he wouldn't be posting on here asking if he's TA he would be at the police station insisting on something being done. I suggest he knows he's done something that's not right and is looking for affirmation. I'm very concerned for her, I mean really worried
I wonder about abuse. But I also wonder about possible peri-partum psychosis. Perhaps she's become very paranoid of him.
Let’s see, this smells super Indian. Arranged marriage backfires, wife gets blessing from nuclear family to end the arrangement. Unsuspecting husband deals with reality. While dude insists he’s not abusive, he also has “no” idea why she would leave. Major red flag. This should be one of those AITAH? Yes my dude you are the AH.
Perhaps the wife is undergoing some form of mental health issue. Or OP is a POS and is abusing her.
hmm. My guess is if their target country is hong kong (under chinese control) it suggests that he's chinese. That he says he doesn't understand the laws of "this country" (presumably her country, or the country they met in), suggests to me that her country of origin is one which doesn't approve of her marriage/having a child with him. So my guess is family helped her escape because they didn't approve of him and didn't want her to go to hong kong... which suggests it's a country which has some sort of relationship with hong kong, so... Taiwan, Singapore, China or UK would be my guess. Her not wanting him to know where she's gone is also weird, it suggests that her parents are in a 3rd country.
you cant cancel a flight on the day at the airport while its waiting to leave this story sounds fake
Red Flag-He states the airline staff told him his wife left the airport. They would have NO way of knowing that. Plot Hole.
Where is he from. Are women treated like a second class citizen? If so that's probably why she left.
I think he is from a middle eastern/Asian country is what I think. She got completely and utterly terrified. Butttt a child should be granted the possibility of being raised by both parents (even they are divorced). She needs to figure out through the legal system once the baby comes
It woudl be helpful to know some more detials especially about their nationality. In many countries a woman can't leave her husband without losing her children. As to the 'I don't know why she left'. I have met many guys who claimed their last wife left them 'all of a sudden'. Then I keep listening to thier plight, ask the occasional question and there were always such obvious signs, such a lack of care on his side about what she wants and needs. Some guys sut live so far up theri own a$$, their wifes can tell them outright 'I can't live like this!' and they still ignore it and then are 'so surprised' when she leaves. I am sorry for the guyy - he does sound heartbroken. And if it is his child, it is brutal to just snatch it away. I also don't want to go to default patterns and see the woman as a victim. But if her family really is 'loving and caring' and they are backing her like this, then I am back at my first guess: Local laws would give him the child.
Mommy MAYBE!... MARRAIGE? LEGAL? PROPERTY? INSURANCE? HOMESTEADER? DEAD MAN WALKING?
If the police are being unhelpful, don't report her missing, report theft. Claim she stole something, any little thing, and once she's located and confirmed safe, drop charges.
If this guy is really innocent, I feel very sorry for him. *However*, no abusive partner ever describes themself as an abusive partner. I was in a relationship with someone who was extremely emotionally abusive, but he was sooo proud of himself that he "would never hit a woman like his stepfather did". Apparently he was under the impression that as long as he wasn't hitting me, treating me like s**t was just fine. Tbh a lot of the manipulative, please feel sorry for me, I am the victim here, I love her and I am so worried about her, language that OP uses reminds me way too much of my abusive ex. I find it very fishy.
Very sorry you can identify that through experience. You're right - So many things fit the pattern of what an abusive spouse would say. I wondered why they haven't looked at surveillance footage of her at the airport or leaving the airport. That would provide some answers right there. I can't imagine that airport police wouldn't take this seriously. Also, OP claims that "She was literally asking when we are going to have the next baby". 28 weeks pregnant and asking that? Unless she was using statements like that to lure him into a false sense of complacency, it just doesn't sound plausible.
Load More Replies... The last comment on the post seems pretty likely. With how quick and smooth her escape went, and the full cooperation of all of her family, this was very much planned ahead of time. Whatever her reasons, she needed out. I’m wondering if the airport police knew or realized what happened and were giving her more time to get away. (Honestly, I hope this is what’s going on and she is safe)
Now that you speak about airport police, can't they check up security cameras to see if she met with someone and their encounter looks or surprising or frightening to her or she looks whiling to go.
Load More Replies... This is 100% escape from an abuser. They all respond this way when the abused spouse leaves - drives them mad they lost control, go around telling everyone how perfect everything was and they don't understand, it came out of the blue etc, they'd never hurt them bla bla bla....exact same response from the abuser. Every time.
It could also be a case of avoiding local laws. in some countries, a woman can't leave her husband without losing her children to him.
Load More Replies... I am wondering if the country the OP was going back to had… how shall we say it… distinct views on the role of a woman in the relationship? My thought is that if this was the case and the possibility of having the child in the OP’s country presented possible future issues with regards to her ability to leave that country with her child, then she has probably pre arranged an ‘extraction’ to get her out. This is making me think of the events outlined in a book by Betty Mahmoody “Not Without my Daughter”
This is what I thought as well. Her story was terrifying.
Load More Replies... Like there is small chance she has psychosis triggered by pregnancy, but when her family is backing her too, there must be a reason.
Yeah. Her family is clearly in on whatever is happening since they'd be freaking out and helping the husband otherwise (or at least contacting the police). I guess she could just be sick of the guy and wanted a fresh start somewhere. Very weird situation.
Load More Replies... This has more red flags than a North Korean IKEA. I would bet a million pounds of you asked his wife, she'd say he was abusive. There's just no way this would happen without abuse being involved.
More red flags than a Noth Korean IKEA 🤣🤣🤣 this has now been added to my vocabulary, thank you
Load More Replies... Premeditated escape plan, but needing more history to figure out the why… sad on all accounts.
If he isn't an abusive partner (we can't asume he is just because many are), maybe her family IS, and they have more influence on her than OP knows.
Ohhh, plot twist! That's a scary idea in this situation
Load More Replies... This reminds me of my neighbour, She was on her late 30s, One day She left home to take the younger kid to school, the older One went Alone, and She never got home, the Next day her face was in the news papers, and on social media, the Police and her family asking if any One had seen her, She never apeared no One Saw her..... 3 weeks later, a post shows up in her family social media, asking for people to don't look for her any more because She had been found the papers also posted the same news, ( i only got to know the rest because we where neigbours, She was found, or rather She contacted her family, She had escaped to London with her lover because She couldn't stand her husbands abuse any more )
What about her kids though? Didn‘t he abuse them too? Did she leave them with him? I can‘t understand this.
Load More Replies... I love how a lot of folks are so quick to conclude that the OP just has to be an abuser and the wife a victim. Women do s****y things too you know. Men aren't always the bad guys. We have prisons full of women who've killed their own children and husbands. Before knowing any facts a bunch of you just assumned he had to have done something wrong.
While it is true that no nobody knows and she could be the jerk in this, I think commenters are going off the info about the family. She had a plan and she had help. A******s usually have many enablers but not so many collaborators. If she was being the a*****e in this you would think at least one member of the family would feel bad for the guy and tell him something
Load More Replies... Hmmm. I smell a rat here. He claims that this is their first baby, but if you look through his reddit history he claims to have had a baby that took its first steps in quarantine!
I don’t think he was the one who posted that. I looked through the Reddit too, and I saw that he commented on a post that says someone else saw their kid take steps.
Load More Replies... There's more to this story: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/10lze2y/comment/j613z12/. A "friend" commented ...
"A friend"... Do you know how many messages I've gotten from numerous accounts on social media over the past 15 years from my abusive ex, pretending to be "one of his friends" who "wants me to know how much he misses me and how lost he is without me and how he's never gotten over me". The stories I've heard are quite something.
Load More Replies... I have a friend who is in an emotionally abusive relationship. She is currently planning her escape. Her partner also thinks everything is fine. Ignores her when she says it isn’t. Yes they’ve tried therapy. No he doesn’t see his role in the cycle of abuse. Yes their relationship looks fine from the outside. I’m willing to bet the OP in this story is an emotional abuser and because he never hits her, thinks he’s a great partner (spoiler, that’s less than even the bare minimum). Good for his wife. I hope she gets away and stays away safely. So happy her family is supporting her.
Mmmmm hmmmm. I’ve watched far too many episodes of Accident, Suicide or Murder to fall for this one. Dude straight up murdered her and is trying to cover for her disappearance. (only half joking)
This happened to my brother-in-law in 1998 and it was devastating to his entire family & nearly destroyed him. His work was opening a famous US chain restaurant in international tourist areas. From Asia to Eastern Europe. Met his future wife on the job in Seoul & they worked together for a few months. She hardly no English, him Korean he picked up. Married, came back to California where she wasn’t adjusting at all. Crying for home regularly. The family did best to be supportive, help her. She got pregnant & wanted to have baby in Seoul. They traveled there for 6 months. He flew home for work two weeks before her. That was the last he spoke to her for nearly a year. Her parents, family, friends shielded her. Many lawyers & trips finally met his son at age 3 after moving to Seoul. she eventually agreed to come back to US. Less than 3 months, she left her husband & son to return to parents, severed all contact. 25 years later & both have never met or seen her or her family.
Poor dad, and poor kid. I hope that they were able to recover and make a good life for themselves!
Load More Replies... Why isn't he naming his home country, my guess is he's a lot more controlling than he's letting on. Like many people have pointed out, abusers rarely think they've done anything wrong.
I dated one man once, who told me his wife and children left the country and now he's unable to keep touch with his kids, and he's never done anything wrong. Then I started dating him, and he was a perfect example of a narcissist person. He abused me every day fysically and mentally, yet this all was my own fault, not his. So Im thinking of this case could be the same ; his wife got no way out of the relationship, but to leave him like that, because he keeps telling how he has ever done anything wrong, just like my ex abusive partner.
Could it be that she wanted to get an abortion. She told him the baby caused her pain. What kind of pain? Emotional, physical?
At 28 weeks, you can only get an abortion out of medical necessity pretty much everywhere in the world. If she wanted an abortion, she would have gotten one in the first trimester. 28 weeks is at the point the baby can survive with a lot of medical intervention
Load More Replies... Happened to a family member, she took the kids and left. He did the whole omg I'm the victim story and one day when ranting admitted he knew she was leaving him. He was abusive, controlling and using financial abuse to keep her with him. He had been cheating on her the whole and introduced the new gf less than a month after the first left. The OPs story sounds the same.
Just a couple days ago I watched a YouTube video where an American father was living in South Korea trying to get his children back from his wife that had abducted them. They met and were married in San Francisco, had two kids and one day his wife took them to visit family in South Korea and just never returned. The guy went through the U.S. court system and then the South Korean court system to get custody of his children (I don't remember if it was shared or full but he was given rights to see his own children). However, the South Korean police have not enforced this. They know where mom and kids are at but have made no effort to enforce the law even though this guy has been given those rights in both countries. No abuse was found whatsoever. It has been years since he has seen his kids and is living in SK and constantly tries to search for them. During the interview, the interviewer spoke with a South Korean lawyer and she explained that it apparently seems to happen quite often
continued: in Asian countries when an Asian woman marries a foreigner. If the husband was not abusive, seems to me like the wife decided to raise the baby in her home country (China from what the post mentions) and because they had discussed it before and it wasn't feasible for them as a family unit, she left on her own. Her family is obviously helping her. With him being a foreigner, culturally they probably feel like they don't owe him anything and would prefer to just have her return with the baby. It is s****y but it happens, more often than we think. If poster is genuine, I wish him luck because it is going to be a hard.
Load More Replies... OP never says what country he's from, or what his religion is. It's very possible he's from a country where women are oppressed and treated like objects, and the wife didn't want to go back to that... doubly so if she knew if she was having a daughter.
I wonder if all these accusations are because he's a guy. Would the same questions be asked if there was a gender swap. I'm just saying. Anyway, there could be another reason that might be heart breaking. She might have secretly wanted to leave as her feelings for them are no longer there and it's difficult to break apart while the hubby may have not done anything wrong. These are extreme feelings that can be hard to admit and might trigger a flight response.
If it was a woman, I can imagine the responses being along the lines of "She's needy/clingy/abusive (some men are more willing to speak up these days, let that trend continue!)" and "He had to get away/didn't want the baby" etc. Whether it's because she's being abused or not, she seems most likely to have done this as an escape plan from the relationship. I say this due to her family's response, and the non-specific nature of the airport staff (They mentioned they helped her cancel her ticket. They absolutely imo either knew ahead of time or she alerted them that she, for whatever reason, wanted their assistance to do this and they did. If they legitimately had concerns for a pregnant woman wandering away, and they didn't know why, they would have done more.)
Load More Replies... I want to know what he did to make her leave like that. Most people never take responsibility and are clueless to what they did wrong so I can’t see him admitting it in the comments.
IF he hasn't done anything, my first thought is that she was kidnapped BY HER FAMILY.
I just stalked his reddit, and my theory is - she lost the baby a few weeks back when he posted something about severe pain. Now that she's not pregnant, the family and her have decided that she doesn't want to go to Europe and ditched the husband, mainly because if she were to break up with him face to face, he would have an "episode". I'm probably completely wrong, but hey, I figure I'd put my 2 cents in. :D
This is sad if it's true...no one should have their child taken from them unless proven they are a danger by a court of law. If the wife wanted out fine. Separate but maintain contact between you have a child on the way and OP deserves to know the welfare of it. A letter a text message something.
Omg!! SO! That is not your child. She has left you for someone else. Sad but true. Women are awful.....no! People are awful! I hate all people, trust no one! Yet like all humans we need to have someone..something, I will be the first to admit, I need human interaction. Still some people suck... 😔
She had a reason for disappearing and it won't be for nothing. Her family is hiding her and I get the impression they aren't worried so I suggest he's done something that has either scared her or made her very angry. The method she's chosen suggests she scared. This post screams that he is an abusive partner, but he doesn't see it. Also if he's truly worried about her he wouldn't be posting on here asking if he's TA he would be at the police station insisting on something being done. I suggest he knows he's done something that's not right and is looking for affirmation. I'm very concerned for her, I mean really worried
I wonder about abuse. But I also wonder about possible peri-partum psychosis. Perhaps she's become very paranoid of him.
Let’s see, this smells super Indian. Arranged marriage backfires, wife gets blessing from nuclear family to end the arrangement. Unsuspecting husband deals with reality. While dude insists he’s not abusive, he also has “no” idea why she would leave. Major red flag. This should be one of those AITAH? Yes my dude you are the AH.
Perhaps the wife is undergoing some form of mental health issue. Or OP is a POS and is abusing her.
hmm. My guess is if their target country is hong kong (under chinese control) it suggests that he's chinese. That he says he doesn't understand the laws of "this country" (presumably her country, or the country they met in), suggests to me that her country of origin is one which doesn't approve of her marriage/having a child with him. So my guess is family helped her escape because they didn't approve of him and didn't want her to go to hong kong... which suggests it's a country which has some sort of relationship with hong kong, so... Taiwan, Singapore, China or UK would be my guess. Her not wanting him to know where she's gone is also weird, it suggests that her parents are in a 3rd country.
you cant cancel a flight on the day at the airport while its waiting to leave this story sounds fake
Red Flag-He states the airline staff told him his wife left the airport. They would have NO way of knowing that. Plot Hole.
Where is he from. Are women treated like a second class citizen? If so that's probably why she left.
I think he is from a middle eastern/Asian country is what I think. She got completely and utterly terrified. Butttt a child should be granted the possibility of being raised by both parents (even they are divorced). She needs to figure out through the legal system once the baby comes
It woudl be helpful to know some more detials especially about their nationality. In many countries a woman can't leave her husband without losing her children. As to the 'I don't know why she left'. I have met many guys who claimed their last wife left them 'all of a sudden'. Then I keep listening to thier plight, ask the occasional question and there were always such obvious signs, such a lack of care on his side about what she wants and needs. Some guys sut live so far up theri own a$$, their wifes can tell them outright 'I can't live like this!' and they still ignore it and then are 'so surprised' when she leaves. I am sorry for the guyy - he does sound heartbroken. And if it is his child, it is brutal to just snatch it away. I also don't want to go to default patterns and see the woman as a victim. But if her family really is 'loving and caring' and they are backing her like this, then I am back at my first guess: Local laws would give him the child.
Mommy MAYBE!... MARRAIGE? LEGAL? PROPERTY? INSURANCE? HOMESTEADER? DEAD MAN WALKING?
If the police are being unhelpful, don't report her missing, report theft. Claim she stole something, any little thing, and once she's located and confirmed safe, drop charges.
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