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Man Hides A Camera In The House To Prove His SAHM Wife Is Lazy And Worthless, Internet Takes His Side
Every couple has its own division of labor, but regardless of what it looks like, open and honest communication are key to actually making it work. Unfortunately, that’s often a lot easier said than done.
A woman shared how she decided to get a divorce after she discovered that her husband had put up a secret camera. As a stay-at-home mom, she felt uncomfortable in her own home, but some of the details she shared caused debates in the comments. We reached out to her via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
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But one woman ended up getting divorced when her husband thought she was being lazy
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OP appears to be lacking a good deal of self-awareness
At first glance, the idea of one’s spouse spying on them is a pretty big eyebrow-raiser. There are all sorts of messed up scenarios where something like this might happen. Indeed, even after it’s revealed that the wife is not keeping up her end of the bargain, it’s still a questionable action. While OP might not actually acknowledge that she is in the wrong, a spy camera is still a pretty extreme measure to take.
After all, a common thread in many, similar arguments, is the working partner complaining that the stay-at-home spouse does too little or does not contribute to the household. There are hundreds, if not thousands of stories out there of entitled and useless husbands. More often than not, this belief is misguided and ignorant, as cooking, cleaning, and looking after kids is a lot of responsibility. Except, as OP herself admits, they have a house cleaner.
On top of that, their kids are not toddlers who need constant supervision, one is old enough to drive and, presumably, babysit the other. A twelve-year-old needs to be looked after but isn’t so young that they can’t entertain themselves. As one comment noted, it’s pretty telling that the kids will call their father for help and not the mother, despite the fact that one of them is literally working throughout the day.
Browsing your phone all day is not exactly back-breaking work
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Indeed, OP does a great job of almost making us forget and forgive her husband for literally installing a secret camera. For example, she sees going to the post office as akin to working an entire daily shift. Yes, it might not be fun, but running a handful of errands is not a full-time job. Running an errand after working eight hours, however, is absolutely soul-crushing.
More egregiously, she also decided that sending out paychecks late was acceptable. Not only does this put employees at risk, but this also interferes with her husband’s business, the same business that allows her to not clean all day. To take a step back, it’s easy to see how the spying and feeling of underappreciation can be difficult.
If she wants a certain lifestyle, that is her right, but making entitled demands when someone else pays the bills and you have multiple kids is a pretty extreme level of delusion. Most unworkable relationships have a “last straw” moment, but it’s surprising that it would come from her and not her husband.
The husband has a lot more ground to stand on than OP
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While we do not see his side of the story, there is a decent chance that he hasn’t made any extreme moves precisely because they have children together. Splitting the family is difficult, even if, based on both kid’s behavior, they know which parent is the actual adult in the room.
Given the massive amount of popularity this story garnered on Reddit, it’s almost worth considering if the husband and, presumably, his lawyers, will stumble upon it. The details are specific enough. On the other hand, perhaps OP will read the comments, do some real soul-searching, and conclude that this marriage needs counseling and some more responsibility, not a divorce.
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Alexandra 2 days ago
Bwahaha! This is really a slap in the face of all those men and women who have multiple jobs, multiple children and still manage to keep their house in order. She sounds like she's permanently all over the place.
FranSinclair 2 days ago
One of those people that purposely walks quickly and huffs and puffs so people will notice they're soooo busy and working reeeal hard 😆
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Heffalump 2 days ago
Those forms take like 5 minutes. You give the kid a snack when they get home and do it do it straight away, then immediately put the completed forms back in their backpack. Seriously, this person sounds like she is capable of only one task per day.
Kristiina Männiste 2 days ago
Those children are 12 and older. Why does anyone have to "give" them a snack? In some countries they would be married with children by this age (not that I approve that practice), surely they would be able to at least grab a piece of bread or something.
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Cee Cee 2 days ago
Keeping track of bills and subscriptions? Why not set up direct debit for bills and subscriptions? No admin needed once they're set up or is this not a thing in the States?
Spencer's slave no longer 2 days ago (edited)
I can't get my head around her needing to research meal plans, for delivery, to enable the daughter to do ballet! Why, when she's home all day, with a cleaner and gardener, not cooking for the family? She is bone idle, entitled, a cr@p wife and even worse mother.
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The_Nicest_Misanthrope 2 days ago
She's so scrëwed when she realises she'll have to get an ACTUAL job now
Trillian 2 days ago
How much cleaning and shopping can you do in a whole day? Let alone a week? Girlfriend needs a job.
Anne Edwards 1 day ago
Well she does have to fully investigate every item she's thinking about maybe buying and how many grapes should she buy...15, 60, it's just so hard.
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KatSaidThat 2 days ago (edited)
Giiiirllll, you're embarrassing yourself and the actual people who don't lie down to take a telly break while researching meals you aren't even going to cook. sit down, stfu. Also, how casual she is about not paying people who might be living payday to payday...
patricia patricia 2 days ago
If there were a Nobel prize for entitlement and imbecility, OP would win it effortlessly. Honestly, if you can't sign a piece of paper when you are supposed to, I don't think you are a suitable parent. What if your kids need medication, or an appointment with the doctor? Will you also forget, because you are dealing with bills and subscriptions? Didn't your child tell you that very same day they were going on a school trip? Just wait until you have to get a real job and earn a living.
JayWantsACat 1 day ago
The point about the kid calling their father, who they know is working, versus their mom who is a SAHM says everything about OP, I think. Also, who do "things happen" and that's why you missed out on filling out a permission slip. AFAIK, those things mostly just need the kid's name and a signature, maybe with some specific limitations or rules but not anything that would take more than a few minutes. And wouldn't these just be done online or over email at this point?
Michelle C 2 days ago
As a single mom that had to work 2 jobs and still make it to my daughters school functions...THIS is the kind of female that gets on my LAST nerve! This is the kind of rant that gives SAHMs a bad rep. She was on her phone "looking" for healthy food subscriptions...LMAO! You're a SAHM, why are you looking for a subscription instead of recipes!?! Then she files for divorce like it's a punishment. I hope hubby has a prenup
Daya 2 days ago
Who doesn't want to live in the country of pink clouds and unicorns where you spend your whole day with things you really like and no chores are in sight? Really, I am wondering how those children had grown up in this household. "Just a second, darling, mommy hast to watch the end of this episode!" Like this?
Rika 2 days ago
I feel sorry for her kids and husband but also the cleaner/gardener she "supervises". If it takes her so much time, she's probably following them around all day to point out they forgot to pick up a speck of dust under the couch or a leaf on the lawn and blaming them for giving her so much stress that she feels overwhelmed and needs to lie down for at least five hours to recover...
StumblingThroughLife 2 days ago (edited)
Her self-employed husband is probably working himself half to death to be able to pay for the house, bills, 3 teens needs/extra-curricular, housekeeper/gardener and her lifestyle after choosing to continue to stay at home rather than get a PT job, and at the very least support her husband. Most mums go back to work/PT once the kids are in school - esp when they hit their teens. If he felt the need to put a cam in, then things must have been so much worse than she admitted to. As one peep said, her daughter rang her DAD, not her mum, re: the school trip. Says it all. NTA: dad. YTA: mum. I bet the kids have demanded to spend a lot of time with their dad.
Anne Edwards 1 day ago
She's going to have a rude awakening. The children are old enough to decide who they want to live with and it sounds like they will be going with Dad. Can't wait for her next posting asking why she should have to pay child support.
JayWantsACat 1 day ago
I hope this is ragebait because this lady cannot be real. Maybe there's undiagnosed ADHD or mental health issue? Because this is wild.
Scott Rackley 1 day ago
Have they changed permission slips? It's like a check mark and a signature, 15 seconds tops. Or used to be. It's not an essay.
FranSinclair 2 days ago
Imo being a truly devoted parent full time is harder and at the time...can feel less rewarding BUT this woman is not devoted to being a parent and her childrens/husbands needs. She is selfish, she is lazy and she is pretentious. You dont get to "take a break" in this situation when you are holding multiple people's rent money, when your child needs a paper signed so they arent sitting in the office alone all day bc their class is out having fun. She's not even doing the bare minimum to be a good home maker&in total denial. Shes chilling, living off a man's money&disappointing her family. I think the home will be much more relaxed after the divorce without everyone having to worry if moms gonna pull through this time. Without wondering why they're not important enough to sign permission forms or not worthy of a hand for a partner that's feeling overwhelmed
K Barnes 1 day ago
You don't need to supervise cleaners and landscapers. Those who do are indicating that they don't trust the hired hands to do their job properly. If they prove they can't do their job properly, replace them. IMO it takes a special kind a*****e to watch their cleaners do the cleaning, one who gets off on watching someone labour for them. If you have time to supervise the cleaners do it yourself. What a ridiculous woman.
IYAAYAS64 1 day ago
Geez… lady… I worked 2 jobs most of the time 7 days a week. I mean I was a single mom with 3 kids their pitiful excuse for a father provided a big fat zero of support and d**n if I didn’t find time to fill out paperwork, do housework and do everything a parent is supposed to do for their children. The entitlement with this woman is ridiculous! Divorce will be a game changer for her poor husband. I wish him and his children all the best
Niki 1 day ago
I wanted to side with her, but seriously?! I have ADHD, work full-time, have three kids from 18 down to 2, they are into multiple activities, I have to manage the household etc. If I am paying you to landscape or clean, I ain't supervising you. Frozen food? Pre-planned meals?! Girl, do you even know how to cook?! What exactly does she do?! I thought most modern people have automatic payments? Not sure why you are managing subscriptions, and why you have to mail employee checks.
Sparky Hughes 2 days ago
This woman sounds extremely lazy and entitled. She’s either a raging narcissist or has untreated ADHD. I’m leaning towards the former because most people with ADHD care how it affects others. I had an adverse reaction to the vaccine and it really amplified my ADHD, which is something that had been mild and helped me compartmentalize and multi-task, with my brain always snapping back. It caused me severe anxiety and stress because I was falling behind in my work which cascaded into my life. I broke down in tears to my husband that I couldn’t do anything right because I forgot to schedule the dog’s grooming. He took the reins for a while for things like that and helped as I dealt with it. I got medical help temporarily and researched how to manage it. We worked as a team. This woman just is over the top. The most I do for our yard guys is open the garage to give them access to our drink fridge.
Kate Johnson 2 days ago
They definitely sound like they're not compatible and divorce is probably best.
Crystalwitch60 2 days ago (edited)
Wait she’s a sahm, and has a f king cleaner n gardener ,erm , that’s the very definition of a spoilt lazy brat, do your own cleaning n guarding ffs as for forgetting to post the employees cheques UNFORGIVEABLE !! the permission slip does not need @00% focus 🤣u look at them decide can they go yup, right check how much it is, write a cheque if needs be, n mark the date on the calendar sign slip DONE not rocket science, I used to do my kids ones as son as they got him from school ,n I’ve been a lone mum with no help for 14 yrs !! And disabled, to no cleaners either, oh how the other half live, I hope the kids stay with the father cos you lady are useless !! Oh n lean to cook from scratch to, get a sodding recipie book, not buy ready made food, talk about entitled !
Papa 2 days ago
You really need to get over your hang-up with the US. First, did it say this happened in the US? Second, even if it did, I haven't received a paper paycheck in close to 30 years. Did you miss the part about her husband being a self-employed HVAC tech? It sounds like he owns his own business and likely has only a few employees. It's reasonable that he still pays them with checks instead of direct deposit.
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Alexandra 2 days ago
Bwahaha! This is really a slap in the face of all those men and women who have multiple jobs, multiple children and still manage to keep their house in order. She sounds like she's permanently all over the place.
FranSinclair 2 days ago
One of those people that purposely walks quickly and huffs and puffs so people will notice they're soooo busy and working reeeal hard 😆
Load More Replies... Heffalump 2 days ago
Those forms take like 5 minutes. You give the kid a snack when they get home and do it do it straight away, then immediately put the completed forms back in their backpack. Seriously, this person sounds like she is capable of only one task per day.
Kristiina Männiste 2 days ago
Those children are 12 and older. Why does anyone have to "give" them a snack? In some countries they would be married with children by this age (not that I approve that practice), surely they would be able to at least grab a piece of bread or something.
Load More Replies... Cee Cee 2 days ago
Keeping track of bills and subscriptions? Why not set up direct debit for bills and subscriptions? No admin needed once they're set up or is this not a thing in the States?
Spencer's slave no longer 2 days ago (edited)
I can't get my head around her needing to research meal plans, for delivery, to enable the daughter to do ballet! Why, when she's home all day, with a cleaner and gardener, not cooking for the family? She is bone idle, entitled, a cr@p wife and even worse mother.
Load More Replies... The_Nicest_Misanthrope 2 days ago
She's so scrëwed when she realises she'll have to get an ACTUAL job now
Trillian 2 days ago
How much cleaning and shopping can you do in a whole day? Let alone a week? Girlfriend needs a job.
Anne Edwards 1 day ago
Well she does have to fully investigate every item she's thinking about maybe buying and how many grapes should she buy...15, 60, it's just so hard.
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 2 days ago (edited)
Giiiirllll, you're embarrassing yourself and the actual people who don't lie down to take a telly break while researching meals you aren't even going to cook. sit down, stfu. Also, how casual she is about not paying people who might be living payday to payday...
patricia patricia 2 days ago
If there were a Nobel prize for entitlement and imbecility, OP would win it effortlessly. Honestly, if you can't sign a piece of paper when you are supposed to, I don't think you are a suitable parent. What if your kids need medication, or an appointment with the doctor? Will you also forget, because you are dealing with bills and subscriptions? Didn't your child tell you that very same day they were going on a school trip? Just wait until you have to get a real job and earn a living.
JayWantsACat 1 day ago
The point about the kid calling their father, who they know is working, versus their mom who is a SAHM says everything about OP, I think. Also, who do "things happen" and that's why you missed out on filling out a permission slip. AFAIK, those things mostly just need the kid's name and a signature, maybe with some specific limitations or rules but not anything that would take more than a few minutes. And wouldn't these just be done online or over email at this point?
Michelle C 2 days ago
As a single mom that had to work 2 jobs and still make it to my daughters school functions...THIS is the kind of female that gets on my LAST nerve! This is the kind of rant that gives SAHMs a bad rep. She was on her phone "looking" for healthy food subscriptions...LMAO! You're a SAHM, why are you looking for a subscription instead of recipes!?! Then she files for divorce like it's a punishment. I hope hubby has a prenup
Daya 2 days ago
Who doesn't want to live in the country of pink clouds and unicorns where you spend your whole day with things you really like and no chores are in sight? Really, I am wondering how those children had grown up in this household. "Just a second, darling, mommy hast to watch the end of this episode!" Like this?
Rika 2 days ago
I feel sorry for her kids and husband but also the cleaner/gardener she "supervises". If it takes her so much time, she's probably following them around all day to point out they forgot to pick up a speck of dust under the couch or a leaf on the lawn and blaming them for giving her so much stress that she feels overwhelmed and needs to lie down for at least five hours to recover...
StumblingThroughLife 2 days ago (edited)
Her self-employed husband is probably working himself half to death to be able to pay for the house, bills, 3 teens needs/extra-curricular, housekeeper/gardener and her lifestyle after choosing to continue to stay at home rather than get a PT job, and at the very least support her husband. Most mums go back to work/PT once the kids are in school - esp when they hit their teens. If he felt the need to put a cam in, then things must have been so much worse than she admitted to. As one peep said, her daughter rang her DAD, not her mum, re: the school trip. Says it all. NTA: dad. YTA: mum. I bet the kids have demanded to spend a lot of time with their dad.
Anne Edwards 1 day ago
She's going to have a rude awakening. The children are old enough to decide who they want to live with and it sounds like they will be going with Dad. Can't wait for her next posting asking why she should have to pay child support.
JayWantsACat 1 day ago
I hope this is ragebait because this lady cannot be real. Maybe there's undiagnosed ADHD or mental health issue? Because this is wild.
Scott Rackley 1 day ago
Have they changed permission slips? It's like a check mark and a signature, 15 seconds tops. Or used to be. It's not an essay.
FranSinclair 2 days ago
Imo being a truly devoted parent full time is harder and at the time...can feel less rewarding BUT this woman is not devoted to being a parent and her childrens/husbands needs. She is selfish, she is lazy and she is pretentious. You dont get to "take a break" in this situation when you are holding multiple people's rent money, when your child needs a paper signed so they arent sitting in the office alone all day bc their class is out having fun. She's not even doing the bare minimum to be a good home maker&in total denial. Shes chilling, living off a man's money&disappointing her family. I think the home will be much more relaxed after the divorce without everyone having to worry if moms gonna pull through this time. Without wondering why they're not important enough to sign permission forms or not worthy of a hand for a partner that's feeling overwhelmed
K Barnes 1 day ago
You don't need to supervise cleaners and landscapers. Those who do are indicating that they don't trust the hired hands to do their job properly. If they prove they can't do their job properly, replace them. IMO it takes a special kind a*****e to watch their cleaners do the cleaning, one who gets off on watching someone labour for them. If you have time to supervise the cleaners do it yourself. What a ridiculous woman.
IYAAYAS64 1 day ago
Geez… lady… I worked 2 jobs most of the time 7 days a week. I mean I was a single mom with 3 kids their pitiful excuse for a father provided a big fat zero of support and d**n if I didn’t find time to fill out paperwork, do housework and do everything a parent is supposed to do for their children. The entitlement with this woman is ridiculous! Divorce will be a game changer for her poor husband. I wish him and his children all the best
Niki 1 day ago
I wanted to side with her, but seriously?! I have ADHD, work full-time, have three kids from 18 down to 2, they are into multiple activities, I have to manage the household etc. If I am paying you to landscape or clean, I ain't supervising you. Frozen food? Pre-planned meals?! Girl, do you even know how to cook?! What exactly does she do?! I thought most modern people have automatic payments? Not sure why you are managing subscriptions, and why you have to mail employee checks.
Sparky Hughes 2 days ago
This woman sounds extremely lazy and entitled. She’s either a raging narcissist or has untreated ADHD. I’m leaning towards the former because most people with ADHD care how it affects others. I had an adverse reaction to the vaccine and it really amplified my ADHD, which is something that had been mild and helped me compartmentalize and multi-task, with my brain always snapping back. It caused me severe anxiety and stress because I was falling behind in my work which cascaded into my life. I broke down in tears to my husband that I couldn’t do anything right because I forgot to schedule the dog’s grooming. He took the reins for a while for things like that and helped as I dealt with it. I got medical help temporarily and researched how to manage it. We worked as a team. This woman just is over the top. The most I do for our yard guys is open the garage to give them access to our drink fridge.
Kate Johnson 2 days ago
They definitely sound like they're not compatible and divorce is probably best.
Crystalwitch60 2 days ago (edited)
Wait she’s a sahm, and has a f king cleaner n gardener ,erm , that’s the very definition of a spoilt lazy brat, do your own cleaning n guarding ffs as for forgetting to post the employees cheques UNFORGIVEABLE !! the permission slip does not need @00% focus 🤣u look at them decide can they go yup, right check how much it is, write a cheque if needs be, n mark the date on the calendar sign slip DONE not rocket science, I used to do my kids ones as son as they got him from school ,n I’ve been a lone mum with no help for 14 yrs !! And disabled, to no cleaners either, oh how the other half live, I hope the kids stay with the father cos you lady are useless !! Oh n lean to cook from scratch to, get a sodding recipie book, not buy ready made food, talk about entitled !
Papa 2 days ago
You really need to get over your hang-up with the US. First, did it say this happened in the US? Second, even if it did, I haven't received a paper paycheck in close to 30 years. Did you miss the part about her husband being a self-employed HVAC tech? It sounds like he owns his own business and likely has only a few employees. It's reasonable that he still pays them with checks instead of direct deposit.
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