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Every marriage has its ups and downs, but some rough patches hit like a full-on rollercoaster and leave people genuinely rattled. This Redditor learned that the hard way when his wife gave him an ultimatum: open the marriage or get a divorce. Not wanting to lose her, he agreed—reluctantly at first.
But once he started settling into the arrangement and even met someone new, his wife suddenly couldn’t handle it and demanded they close the relationship again. That sparked a whole new conflict, and it didn’t stop there. Before long, it became clear it was only the tip of the iceberg, with much more going on underneath the surface. Read the full story below.
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What exactly is a marriage? Aside from s****l exclusivity, which can be agreed upon, but they seem to be bartering about everything in a very transactional way. Sounds more like a job than a partnership. Also, SAHM to a 12 and 14 year old? Too lazy to work and not willing to give up her meal ticket.
The comment spam is cus I was trying to write something, and it instantly gets suppressed. I have no idea what is even getting automatically flagged and suppressed...
If the NKVD were still around, ohh how proud they would be of BP and the way they do things...
Well that makes a change that it's the wife wanting to open things up instead of the husband, ultimately ended the same way though it seems with the one that wanted to open up being bitter their partner had someone else and they didn't.
What exactly is a marriage? Aside from s****l exclusivity, which can be agreed upon, but they seem to be bartering about everything in a very transactional way. Sounds more like a job than a partnership. Also, SAHM to a 12 and 14 year old? Too lazy to work and not willing to give up her meal ticket.
The comment spam is cus I was trying to write something, and it instantly gets suppressed. I have no idea what is even getting automatically flagged and suppressed...
If the NKVD were still around, ohh how proud they would be of BP and the way they do things...
Well that makes a change that it's the wife wanting to open things up instead of the husband, ultimately ended the same way though it seems with the one that wanted to open up being bitter their partner had someone else and they didn't.
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