Bride’s Family Turns Against Her After She Refuses To Give Up Her Wedding Date For Brother’s Shotgun Wedding

They treat their own daughter like that and most likely go to church every Sunday thinking they are the best Christians in the world, while judging everyone else.

For those wondering "Is this true?"... IN 1991, my sister's funeral was scheduled for a Friday. Our cousin, whose wedding was the next day, *complained loudly at the funeral* that my sister's death "took attention off (her) special day". Yes, these people exist. I still remember her voice, gnawing through our grief, whining about her wedding, while my sister lay there in her coffin. Yeah, they exist. No, I have not spoken to that creature since that day, and no, I don't feel regret. She sure as he** didn't.

my mom has a simple solution, you are going to the event you were invited first.

Their loss. The fact that her fiance did not go to her family with her about this shows how they consider him, let alone how they consider her. Toxic family can and should be pruned from your life. Just be careful not to prune any family branches that aren't toxic in the process.

Perhaps she shouldn't bother talking to her parents in the future, if they show her so little care and concern. You do not have to have a relationship with toxic family members solely because they're family.

Where these stories come from... But easy solution. Keep the date. It's yours. Don't feel sorry for not having your family there, it's their choice. I wish you all the best, trust me, it's better to have people on your wedding who want to be there, not those who are obligated to attend because they're family.

Where TF are people getting all these shitty families from? Like seriously. I am disgusted. Mine might not be the most perfect family either, we are all quite different, temperamental and can get into heated arguments but hell we'll have each others' back and support each other to the grave despite our differences...

It's hard to comprehend as my family, for all their weirdness, are decent people. But if anyone pulled that s*** on me, they'd be gone.

Seems like an easy choice. She should not change her wedding date and she should go on to exclude the family members who sided with her asshole brother from her life until they can prove that they deserve to be included. I'm sorry that her family is so shitty and just because they're blood doesn't mean she should be subjected to their selfishness. She's better off without them.

It's so clear which child they favor and it's always the disappointment kid. I don't get it. How could the brother be this spiteful?

This sounds exactly like the kind of crap fundamentalist Christians would do.

First of all WHY do you want your "family" at your wedding? They, obviously, don't want to be there. Get married without them, you are NOT losing anything but a bunch of control freaks. This has, like just about everything else, come down to POWER and CONTROL. Ignore them. They, obviously, don't consider you important so why are you wasting a moment on them? They are all assholes. The ONLY important thing is your groom and YOUR life. Your "family" doesn't care about you. You are so lucky to find this out now. I would be there and bless you. ON THE OTHER HAND, if you really, really want to get back at them, show up at your brother's wedding wearing YOUR wedding dress and bringing all your wedding guests.

On one hand, spreading the word about the fact that "Tim"'s wedding is a shotgun wedding would just cause more drama, but on the other hand, the repercussions for "Tim" would be well deserved because he's a bitchy little brat.

They're 'very' Christian so to them lying is the obvious way forward (fiancée: "your parents chose the date")? Well OK then. Time to loose ballast.

This is so ridiculously horrible that I'm having trouble believing it. If it's true, it's just so awful. The parents want an October wedding, but can't see how literally any other day of the month would work. If they said that she shouldn't blame them for not attending her wedding if she doesn't change the date, then the cold truth is probably that they're not worth having at the wedding in the first place. But then, that's easy for me to say. It's her bloody parents.

ESH. She uninvited brother from her wedding. He decides to ruin her wedding. The parents play favorites. These people clearly hate each other

The definition of a shot gun wedding is not being planned. this is planned

I blame global warming. It’s those radioactive soda cans.

If OP can wait 2yrs, Timmy can also do the same. God her family is awful.

Wow. Worst family in the entire world. She need to cut them all out of her life.

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Her family is c**p. Best to have nothing to do with those nasty, hypocritical freaks.

I've never really understood the point of a shotgun wedding, people can do the math and figure out the baby was conceived before they were married. Also, isn't it usually the girl's parents demanding it so that there's a man to provide for their daughter?

Cut them all off forever, f**k 'em and congratulations on your wedding.

Since it's such a rush there is a weekend before her date and the brother should take that day.

Her wedding is booked and paid for a year+ in advance by her, his is a shotgun. If the parents are paying for his, then surely the weekend before or after hers makes no odds. If her parents seriously expect her to move her date and lose a shed load money in the process - her money, not theirs - then she needs to seriously think whether she want her blood family in her future. This is incredibly disrespectful to her on so many levels. I really hope her in-laws are nice, because her blood family is horrible. Absolutely certain this is not the first time she has had to play second fiddle to golden boy (who can't keep it wrapped)

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This should serve as a life lesson. You need to cut toxic people out of your life or they'll poison you. This event shows pretty clearly who is toxic. I also highly recommend that if you have children you severely limit their exposure to this crew.

She'd be better off not having any family at her wedding if they are thinking like that. What times do they think they are living in? :Like anyone is going to care if their son and his GF have a baby out of wedlock? Most everyone does that now and nobody cares!

The is is why it bothers me so much when those who go to church ( not gonna s say Christian ) act like it's such a huge deal to hide the truth.. They are in no way acting the way they should, and would be the first to judge others, and unfortunately it's done more to harm true Christians than anything else.

She should stick to her original wedding date. If her parents won't come, so be it. Time to cut toxic people out of her life, even if blood relatives. If anyone asks about the clashing date, spill the beans. And if/when her family confronts her for it, she could say it's not her problem he got his girlfriend pregnant, just like how her brother responded to her.

My son commited suicide and there she was acting like the bereaved grandmother when I spoke to my son's wife to make arrangements to pay oh don't worry about it Nana Moon had paid up front my only son and my daughter asked where the wake was only to be told we are all going to Nana's so my only son she took all that was our families away from me the three of us where standing in an unfamiliar graveyard my husband and my daughter and myself I felt my heart was going to break some families have the worst people in them

I lived with parents like this untill I was 17 and left. My mother is a right piece of work I just didn't know someone could be evil like her I found out later she never wanted me because I was a girl anyway jump fo

Hurts, but your wedding is going to be better then with them I guess.

Let's face it the brothers marriage is not going to last. Stick to your guns and go ahead with your wedding.

Whole family sounds nuta

You DON'T need to have a wedding to get married, BUT you do need to get married to have a wedding. If it is ASAP, go to the courthouse and get hitched. My sister was knocked up when she got married 40 years ago. The priest said he'd bless a marriage in one year if they were still married, but would not effectuate one in the church. They never had it blessed and ironicly 7 years to the day, they divorced. The spiteful couple could have the 'wedding' one year from Oct. 9th. She needs to go ahead with her plans. Let her family grovel later if they choose to attend the 'wrong' horserace.