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“I Think It Was A First Date”: Man Abandons His Date After Ordering A Top-Shelf Drink
Waiter in white shirt holding order notepad and pen, preparing to serve a first date in a restaurant setting.

“I Think It Was A First Date”: Man Abandons His Date After Ordering A Top-Shelf Drink

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Honesty is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. No matter how tempting it may be to bend the truth to impress someone you like, honesty is always the best policy. Even if you’re not interested in someone you’re on a date with, lying to get out of the situation is only going to make you look bad. And your server might end up making a TikTok about the situation…

Zeke Gomez recently shared a video online detailing what he witnessed on what he assumed was an awkward first date gone wrong. Below, you’ll find all of the details, as well as some of the comments viewers shared trying to get to the bottom of why this man abandoned his date.

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    This server witnessed what he assumed was an awkward first date while working

    Young man with messy hair wearing a black hoodie inside a car, sharing a story about a waiter serving first date disaster.

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    But he couldn’t help but feel bad for the woman who ended up getting stuck with the bill

    Server describes a first date disaster while serving a table and taking drink orders with a watermelon cocktail request.

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    Text showing a waiter awkwardly serves a first date, leading to an uncomfortable interaction between the couple.

    Text excerpt describing a waiter serving queso and water during a first date that ends in a disaster.

    Margarita cocktail with salted rim and lime slice on wooden table, waiter serves first date disaster setting.

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    Text excerpt showing a waiter serves first date disaster story about a no-tip family emergency excuse.

    Text excerpt from a first date where the waiter serves and a potential date disaster unfolds over a pricey order.

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    Waiter serves drinks awkwardly during a first date, creating an unexpected and uncomfortable dining experience.

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    Couple on a first date at a restaurant, smiling and interacting as a waiter serves them, capturing a potential date disaster.

    Image credits: Yunus Tuğ / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

    Unfortunately, it’s very common for people to bend the truth on a first date

    If you want to get out of a situation, your first impulse may be to lie. “Sorry, my mom’s calling!” Or maybe you’ll use the old, “Oh no! A family emergency!” There’s also the classic: “I’m really not feeling well; I think I need to stay home and rest.” We all know that we shouldn’t be lying, but we tend to forget that when we find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation that we’re itching to escape.

    If you’ve ever been on a bad date, you’ve likely felt the impulse to flee. According to research from Britannia Rescue, daters will typically only suffer through 51 minutes of an excruciating date before coming up with an excuse to leave. 

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    Over a fifth of those surveyed admitted that they’ve left a bad date halfway through, as it takes most of us only 25 minutes to decide whether we’re interested in the other person or not.

    But even if someone doesn’t want to run away from their date, there’s a good chance that they haven’t been completely honest with them. One survey found that a whopping 61% of people bend the truth when on a first date. Women are typically prone to lying about their age, whereas men tend to lie about their income.

    18% of men surveyed admitted that they’ve also lied about their previous relationships and/or marriages on first dates. So take everything that you hear with a grain of salt, ladies! 

    Meanwhile, 14% of women say that they’ve lied about their name. Perhaps that’s for safety reasons, or perhaps it’s because 68% of women would rather be hanging out with their friends than going on a date.

    Couple holding hands while walking outdoors, capturing a quiet moment before waiter serves first date disaster unfolds.

    Image credits: Crew / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

    If your date is hiding something, it’s possible that they’re already in a relationship

    As far as why this particular man skedaddled out of the date that Zeke was watching, we have no way of knowing the truth. But some viewers theorized that he may have been cheating, and he suddenly realized that he was going to be caught. Maybe he saw someone he knew in the restaurant, or he got a text from his wife asking where he was.

    We don’t know this man, but we do know that statistically, about 23% of men admit to cheating on their partner. However, it’s possible that more are guilty, they just aren’t reporting their behavior.

    If you’re ever suspicious that someone you’re seeing is already in a relationship or married, YourTango has some signs to look out for. First, they note that it’s suspicious if he won’t tell you his full name or divulge many details about where he works or his personal life.

    If he doesn’t save your number under your name in his phone, that’s also a huge red flag. He might also be extremely protective of his phone, never leaving it out when you’re around, if he has something to hide.

    He may be cheating if he’s hesitant to be with you in public or refuses to go public with your relationship. And if he barely ever talks about commitment or the future, that might be a sign that he’s envisioning a future with someone else.

    We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Why do you think this man suddenly left his date with the bill? Feel free to weigh in. Then, if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article discussing similar relationship drama, look no further than right here

    Viewers sympathized with the woman, and some theorized about why the man abruptly left

    Comment describing a waiter serving a first date disaster where the man leaves the woman with the bill after a refused number request.

    Comment criticizing someone for not feeling bad and not comping an expensive drink, reflecting a waiter-serves-first-date-disaster scenario.

    Commenters discuss a waiter serves first date disaster, highlighting entertaining and amusing reactions.

    Comment by Jay Lee expressing frustration over a first date where the waiter serves and the man leaves without paying.

    Comment saying she still had to pay with a shocked face, reacting to a waiter serves first date disaster story.

    Social media comment sharing a sad story about a waiter serving a first date disaster at a restaurant.

    Comment from Brandon explaining server bartenders start a tab with a card on first date disaster situations

    Commenter Copperhead_Kelly discusses responsibility in a first date disaster involving a waiter and unpaid tab.

    Comment about how many first dates are often disasters nowadays, reflecting on waiter serves first date disaster.

    Comment from a waitress expressing empathy about a waiter serving disaster on a first date, including crying and prayer emojis.

    User comment expressing sympathy and reflection on rejection as a protective response, with emojis and engagement shown.

    Comments discussing trust issues after waiter serves first date disaster in a social media thread.

    Comment on social media about a first date disaster with a waiter serving, warning about getting caught cheating.

    Comment expressing refusal to pay for someone's items, suggesting calling the cops and providing information for collection.

    Comment on social media about the struggles of being a server when customers stand them up before the bill, highlighting waiter serves first date disaster.

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    Tabitha
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good rule to have is to put a hold on the card for more than the average bill first—-hotels do that to see if there’s enough in it to cover your room costs, so why shouldn’t restaurants, especially the ones with the expensive “top shelf” items, start that practice as well? That way, no one gets stuck with the check for food and drinks they never consumed. Would definitely put the kibosh on a******s like the guy in this case leaving their unsuspecting date with the check—-especially if he’d run up the bill by ordering the most expensive stuff on the menu.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The date isn't responsible, any cop will tell you that. He ordered it before she got there. All she has to do is say "call the cops". Dine and dash is common, that's why most places take your cash when they deliver your drink.

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    Papa
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, like, that was painful to read . . . like.

    Corvus
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not nearly enough information here. Sounds like the server is jumping to conclusions.

    azubi
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny idea to me that she'd have to pay what she did not order.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm not paying. "Split the queso from the drink and box it up." If you want money for the drink you'd best get to hoofing after a*****e.

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    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Legally she wasn't responsible for his drink. I would have said give his photo from the security camera to the cops, I'm not paying. I'm wondering though. If she was drinking water she wouldn't get tipsy, so she'd be able to tell if she suddenly felt like alcohol was on her system. Did he leave because he couldn't roofie her?

    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm betting he was cheating and recognized her from somewhere.

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Couldn't she have said/shown messages that it was a first date and that he'd ordered his drink before she'd even arrived? The server could have verified that.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get what you're saying, but she was the last person in the party/group (so to speak) who was left at the table, so the "responsibility" for the bill is on her. It sùcks, but that's how a lot of restaurants act. And some restaurants will actually punish the servers/waiters if customers skip out on a bill, so if the guy left and the girl refused to pay or if she also just walked out, it's possible that the manager would have taken the cost of the bill out of OP's pay. It's happened many times before in the serving business, unfortunately.

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    Crystalwitch60
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    1 day ago

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    Erm ordered food no food was apparently eaten lol ,as someone who’s worked in hospitality since I was 16 till 14 yrs ago when shite happened ,n working life over , so 35 plus yrs I spose n my 24 yr old daughter has for 8 yrs from 16 , in our very busy village pub ,I can h*e stay say never has this ha opens to either of us in uk lol. Is it a USA thing 🤔 it might I spose happen in London ,or big cities like that no idea but dam , men cut this out !, do not order stuff n leave woman to pay for it ,

    Roberta Surprenant
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Didn't you learn how to write comprehensible English in UK schools?

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    Tabitha
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good rule to have is to put a hold on the card for more than the average bill first—-hotels do that to see if there’s enough in it to cover your room costs, so why shouldn’t restaurants, especially the ones with the expensive “top shelf” items, start that practice as well? That way, no one gets stuck with the check for food and drinks they never consumed. Would definitely put the kibosh on a******s like the guy in this case leaving their unsuspecting date with the check—-especially if he’d run up the bill by ordering the most expensive stuff on the menu.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The date isn't responsible, any cop will tell you that. He ordered it before she got there. All she has to do is say "call the cops". Dine and dash is common, that's why most places take your cash when they deliver your drink.

    Load More Replies...
    Papa
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, like, that was painful to read . . . like.

    Corvus
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not nearly enough information here. Sounds like the server is jumping to conclusions.

    azubi
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny idea to me that she'd have to pay what she did not order.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm not paying. "Split the queso from the drink and box it up." If you want money for the drink you'd best get to hoofing after a*****e.

    Load More Replies...
    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Legally she wasn't responsible for his drink. I would have said give his photo from the security camera to the cops, I'm not paying. I'm wondering though. If she was drinking water she wouldn't get tipsy, so she'd be able to tell if she suddenly felt like alcohol was on her system. Did he leave because he couldn't roofie her?

    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm betting he was cheating and recognized her from somewhere.

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Couldn't she have said/shown messages that it was a first date and that he'd ordered his drink before she'd even arrived? The server could have verified that.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get what you're saying, but she was the last person in the party/group (so to speak) who was left at the table, so the "responsibility" for the bill is on her. It sùcks, but that's how a lot of restaurants act. And some restaurants will actually punish the servers/waiters if customers skip out on a bill, so if the guy left and the girl refused to pay or if she also just walked out, it's possible that the manager would have taken the cost of the bill out of OP's pay. It's happened many times before in the serving business, unfortunately.

    Load More Replies...
    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    1 day ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    Erm ordered food no food was apparently eaten lol ,as someone who’s worked in hospitality since I was 16 till 14 yrs ago when shite happened ,n working life over , so 35 plus yrs I spose n my 24 yr old daughter has for 8 yrs from 16 , in our very busy village pub ,I can h*e stay say never has this ha opens to either of us in uk lol. Is it a USA thing 🤔 it might I spose happen in London ,or big cities like that no idea but dam , men cut this out !, do not order stuff n leave woman to pay for it ,

    Roberta Surprenant
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Didn't you learn how to write comprehensible English in UK schools?

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