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19-Year-Old Trans Man Makes His Traditional Family Regret Making Him Wear A Dress For Graduation
As graduation day approaches, one of the main things on a student’s mind is their attire and how they want to present themselves during this significant milestone. After all, with countless pictures being taken, why not celebrate your accomplishments in style?
However, Reddit user Flashy_Imagination83r couldn’t wear the suit he wanted. The trans man has what he calls a traditional family, and they pressured him into putting on a dress.
But as he explained in the subreddit ‘Malicious Compliance,’ this eventually worked out really well, as the graduate used the opportunity to send his folks a message they wouldn’t forget.
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This trans man picked out a nice suit for his graduation, but his family wanted him to wear a dress
Image credits: ASphotostudio / Envato (not the actual photo)
So he maliciously complied
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Image credits: AnnaStills / Envato (not the actual photo)
Image credits: Flashy_Imagination83
Our clothes are a crucial aspect of self-expression
Image credits: Godisable Jacob / Pexels (not the actual photo)
Clothes are more than just about the look. Especially for teens, who often use their wardrobe to explore their identity.
“While the infant was unintentionally adorable, and the child learned how to act appealing, now the teenager intentionally strives to look attractive,” psychologist Dr. Carl E Pickhardt writes.
“Social acceptance, attention, approval, and affiliation can sometimes feel at stake. Physical appearance is social identification — how you are identified, and sometimes treated.”
The largest survey of transgender Americans ever conducted has showed trans people continue to suffer discrimination, harassment and even violence at work, in medicine, and at school – but that people who transition have much higher satisfaction in life.
The 2022 US Trans Survey found that 94% of transgender individuals who live at least part of the time in a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth – in other words, who “transitioned” – were either “a lot” (79%) or “a little more satisfied” (15%) with their lives.
So the fact that Flashy_Imagination83 couldn’t even wear what he wanted had no doubt made it even harder for him to navigate an already difficult period.
However, it’s probably worth mentioning that stories of such dismissive families aren’t that common. The aforementioned report also found that 43% of trans individuals aged 16-17 said their families were, in fact, supportive.
As people reacted to his story, many supported the man
But some believe he could’ve handled things better
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Diolla 1 year ago (edited)
HAHAHA love this one, well played!!!! I'm not trans but a masculine woman, 6ft and do weight lifting these days. And I've always hated dresses with a vengeance. They forced me to get a dress one time, for a wedding, when I was around 15. No conditions, "just find a dress, any dress, ffs!". Picked some muumuu hippy something which looked horrible in all pictures. That was the last time. Was sooo happy to get back into my dungarees the next day. I do wear dresses sometimes nowadays. Because I spend a lot of time in West Africa and sometimes feel the need to fit in LOL
T'Mar of Vulcan 1 year ago
Again with the talking about Africa like it's one country. NOT all countries in Africa have anti-LGBT+ laws. In fact my African country has a constitution which specifically prohibits discrimination based on sexual orientation (as well as other things like pregnancy). No wonder people think we all wear grass skirts and live in mud huts when people speak about Africa like it's one country instead of a continent with 54 countries.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
Maybe you might have mentioned the country, then.
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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
My aunt, who is CIS, has always hated dresses. She's only five years older than I, and I have absolutely no memories of her in a dress, ever. We were intensely curious as to whether she would choose to wear a dress to her wedding. She did, but it was extremely simple, without any bells or geegaws. She's 60 now. Hasn't worn a dress yet.
whineygingercat 1 year ago (edited)
'I looked like a man in a dress.' Now I keep getting images of guys like Sylvester Stallone and Denzel Washington wearing tight-fitting dresses.
Freya the Wanderer 1 year ago
I suggest looking for pictures of Patrick Stewart in drag. He looks good!
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Not-a-Clue (she/her) 1 year ago
I'm a cis woman and also hate dresses. I didn't even wear one for my own wedding. It's ridiculous that any clothing is gendered, especially given how fashions change so much and historically what was socially acceptable for men and women was entirely different. People should just be able to wear what they like whatever their gender.
Diolla 1 year ago (edited)
HAHAHA love this one, well played!!!! I'm not trans but a masculine woman, 6ft and do weight lifting these days. And I've always hated dresses with a vengeance. They forced me to get a dress one time, for a wedding, when I was around 15. No conditions, "just find a dress, any dress, ffs!". Picked some muumuu hippy something which looked horrible in all pictures. That was the last time. Was sooo happy to get back into my dungarees the next day. I do wear dresses sometimes nowadays. Because I spend a lot of time in West Africa and sometimes feel the need to fit in LOL
T'Mar of Vulcan 1 year ago
Again with the talking about Africa like it's one country. NOT all countries in Africa have anti-LGBT+ laws. In fact my African country has a constitution which specifically prohibits discrimination based on sexual orientation (as well as other things like pregnancy). No wonder people think we all wear grass skirts and live in mud huts when people speak about Africa like it's one country instead of a continent with 54 countries.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
Maybe you might have mentioned the country, then.
Load More Replies... Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
My aunt, who is CIS, has always hated dresses. She's only five years older than I, and I have absolutely no memories of her in a dress, ever. We were intensely curious as to whether she would choose to wear a dress to her wedding. She did, but it was extremely simple, without any bells or geegaws. She's 60 now. Hasn't worn a dress yet.
whineygingercat 1 year ago (edited)
'I looked like a man in a dress.' Now I keep getting images of guys like Sylvester Stallone and Denzel Washington wearing tight-fitting dresses.
Freya the Wanderer 1 year ago
I suggest looking for pictures of Patrick Stewart in drag. He looks good!
Load More Replies... Not-a-Clue (she/her) 1 year ago
I'm a cis woman and also hate dresses. I didn't even wear one for my own wedding. It's ridiculous that any clothing is gendered, especially given how fashions change so much and historically what was socially acceptable for men and women was entirely different. People should just be able to wear what they like whatever their gender.
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