Bride Starts To Disinvite Guests Based On Moral Judgments, Her Maid Of Honor Decides To Drop Out
A lot of things tend to change with time, and the concept of family has also gone through some developments. While we live in times when people are more used to calling others their family members based on their relationships rather than because of legally binding rules (for example, marriage), there are people who still believe in “traditional family” and everything that it represents. It’s true that we all have the right to choose what to believe in and create our life around it, but what if these ideas are sudden and make no sense? Having this in mind, Reddit user @u/TAreligioussister decided to share the situation she recently encountered that involved her and her sister. The post that now has more than 12k upvotes soon became viral and got many users online to wonder what made OP’s sister change her mind.
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Everyone knows that family is one of the most important things in a person’s life. But how do you define what a family is?
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The 33-year-old author of the post started her story by sharing that she has lived with her boyfriend for more than 10 years now raising their 8-year-old twins. She also has an older sister, Nina, who is soon going to marry her boyfriend of 2 years, Dan. OP also shared that Nina has 2 kids from her previous relationship.
The woman revealed that she was her sister’s maid of honor and even had a special custom-made dress as the bride was very particular about certain details and looks during her wedding day. Everything seemed to go according to plan until the author of the post found out that her sister decided not to invite her boyfriend and their two kids to the wedding. The woman couldn’t understand what was the issue, knowing that it certainly wasn’t a child-free wedding.
Reddit user decided to reveal how she dropped out of being her sister’s maid of honor after she uninvited her family from the wedding
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After asking what was the reason her family was no longer invited to the wedding, Nina explained that since her sister is not married to her boyfriend, he is not allowed to come, and her kids who were born “outside marriage” aren’t welcome either. This came as a shock for the maid of honor, who knew that her own sister’s kids were from her previous relationship where she wasn’t married to the guy.
Only a few weeks before the celebration, the woman found out that her boyfriend and her two kids were disinvited from the wedding
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The woman was quick to remind her sister that she didn’t have a “traditional” family herself and even is getting married while pregnant. The bride replied that she “understood her sins and is working to redeem them”, but she wasn’t going to change her mind about her sister’s situation. Soon, OP found out that her boyfriend wasn’t the only one who was suddenly uninvited as a few other brides along with the maid of honor pulled out as their significant others and kids were no longer on the guest list.
The bride shared that she didn’t want to see the partners and kids of couples who weren’t married
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After being shocked by this decision, the woman decided to step down from being the maid of honor
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Once the bride found out that she was now missing a maid of honor and a few bridesmaids only a few weeks before the wedding, she wasn’t too upset by the fact that important members of her family wouldn’t be there, but rather that she wouldn’t be able to have another maid of honor on such short notice and make a custom-made dress fit the new person. It was revealed that Nina even asked their parents to convince OP not to back out for these reasons.
While the woman thought she was right in this situation, she shared this situation with people online to find out what they think about it. A lot of users agreed with the woman’s decision and were curious to know why her sister decided to change her mind at the last minute and not invite partners of unmarried party members. What do you think about this story? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
Despite being firm with her decision, the author of the post started doubting her decision and asked other users for their opinions
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How do we see “traditional” family now that we hear a lot about people having stepmothers/fathers, half-siblings, and people that they call family but who actually aren’t related to them by blood? If our parents aren’t married but live together for years, does this mean that we didn’t grow up in a family? According to Humanities Washington, a society that helps to understand various human experiences better, when it comes to understanding the concept of family, it’s important to understand that it’s forever evolving and changing. Even if we think that now with the “normalization” of unmarried couples, the rise of divorces, the rise of same-sex marriages, and the creation of “nontraditional families”, we’re reaching some new boundaries, it’s not true. As we’re living and breathing creatures, we can’t live within frames that don’t allow us to live a full and comfortable life with those we want to see in our lives constantly.
Many people agreed with the “ex” maid of honor and were curious to know why the bride changed her mind so suddenly
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So her parents think that she should still go to the wedding, because they're family. Are her parents forgetting that they have 2 grandchildren...Who are also family...But they still got uninvited! You can't have it both ways.
Likely that the parents have forked over a bunch of cash and would hate to see it "go to waste". Either that or they don't want to deal with the fall-out of this lunacy.
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Why is there so many bridezilla posts of late. People are deadset crazy. God I'm glad our wedding had zero rules and took about a week to plan. If my better half turned into a sociopath like this I would have dropped her on the spot.
Maybe because so many weddings take place in June. Many articles on BP did not debut there, so it takes a few months for them to eventually migrate to this site.
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“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”
If my sister pulled this b******t on me, I would be casting stones...
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Your parents think you should still go to the wedding and are presumably still going to the wedding after Nina essentially called their grandchildren bastards born of sin who are too unclean to go to her wedding. I think your family has more problems than just Nina.
Oof, sounds like she (the bride) joined a cult, hopefully logic and basic human decency will prevail.
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I think you're right about the marriage not lasting but I hope the out of wedlock children from get previous relationship are safe. Once this "born to wedded parents" child comes, the other two are going to be treated as less than human.
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Hmm, being Christian apparently means to the sister and a lot of people to "be as UNLIKE Jesus, the most important dude in the bible as possible". Sad. Also kinda evil and completely illogical. Anyway, I like Disney with "Ohana Means Family, and Family Means Nobody Gets Left Behind or Forgotten." Screw related by blood or marriage, that's so overrated!
If i recall, Jesus spent his timewith prostitutes, lepers, tax collecters and the homeless and maimed. Apparently these were the ones who had need of ministry, love and compassion....
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Lemme guess, guy she's marrying is a religious right wing nut? Fun fun fun. Get out of there.
Could be. It is interesting that the bride is pregnant before this wedding.
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PLEASE. I'm religious and wouldn't pull this bull. Plus it's NEVER the kids' fault...that's the same as condemning the child of a mean teacher, for example. Bleh, people are dumb.
The bride to be is suffering from delusions of grandeur as my nan used to call it.
People have their reasons and it's no business of anyone else's. As someone who wasn't even allowed to get legally married until 2015, I don't see how a piece of paper from the state automatically makes a relationship more legitimate. Fun fact: Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been together, unmarried, for almost 40 years.
I've been with my partner for 20 years, can't imagine my life without him but have no interest in getting married, we're happy, our kids are happy that's all that matters.
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Your sister is a big AH for sure! Who does that? Let me send uninvited letters to the people who are not married and have kids outside of wedlock so I can rule supreme in my moral supreme-ness? Hah! Your sister is nuts and ridiculous and is quite literally getting her just deserts so to speak. I can’t imagine what went through her mind when she thought she was going to un-invite peoples partners/kids last minute. Did she also un-invite her kids? I just can’t comprehend what she thought would happen. 🤯 your def NTA and you should never feel otherwise.
The bridezilla is cleary a c*nt. And I won't be surprised if she ended up divorced within a year. NTA
If she'd taken that moral situation with me, I would have said "hypocrite much" and left her as well. Glad other bridesmaids backed her up.
I wonder if she belongs to a controlling church. It seems like someone may have talked her into this since she didn't have this attitude initially. I wonder if they talked her into the marriage as well? Getting married because "they had to" (pregnancy) rarely works out.
WTH is wrong with these wackadoodle brides? These stories about bridezillas on BP are like a train wreck, I can't look away. I have so much fun reading about how wacked out they can be!
They were always "wackadoodle" their true colours come out when they think it's "too latd" for people to back out
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I could hear this exploding in Sister's face from here. Yrs ago my mum planned a lg family reunion & didn't invite my live-in BF of 5 yrs & his children- for the same reason. Mum phoned me a few weeks prior asking if I'd bring some food. I told her I wasn't coming & of course she hit high-C & then cancelled the reunion. Poor OP- @ least I hadn't bought a dress. Who disinvites their wedding guests @ last minute? These sick people have the power you give them. Poor OP💙
If you're engaged to someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run. Run far. run fast.
These posts need to include updates of the outcome, or not post it if there aren't any updates.
As if anyone attending gives two shakes who the guests are. Immature women with apparently immature parents.
NTA - I can’t believe your parents are taking her side. And she is pregnant at her wedding! Hypocrite much!!! This whole thing is ridiculous. Maybe it’s coming from the groom but if so, she could have put her foot down. If it’s her, those baby hormones have done a number on her. I definitely would not go to that wedding and I would be dying to go someplace to west your gorgeous dress!
"Just do it, stop complaining, it's family what can you do, I know but you know what it's like." - these types of families, all the time.
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For the sake of her two children, the fiancé should definitely be looked at as the possible reason for her nonsensical actions and hypocritical beliefs. How would the children born out of wedlock be treated by a zealot, especially one who doesn’t act according to his own beliefs.
I simply can't decide whether the bride is delusional, regarding her attitude to (other) kids born out of wedlock, or demented.
how long before mrs nutjob's 2 children are thrown into homes because they were born out of marriage and all proof of their existence is erased?
Wow, this has to be the dumbest bridezilla ever. First off, by the bride's own logic, she should not be invited to her own wedding. Secondly, you can't uninvite every other guests' +1 and expect the guest to still come. As for the family thing, the bride also sabatoged that logic when she uninvited family. Sounds like she literally ruined her own wedding and costing everyone, including herself, tons of $$.
yeah, what a POS why would the bride ever think her sister would still be MOH after this action
Has 3 pregnancies before wedlock but her sister with 2 deserves to go alone. More like she didn't want other guests to find out about how many unmarried people there were in this family. Jokes aside, this is a classic case of q person hammeroeging money on the wedding to they cut costs at every corner.
I don't think the op done the right thing though it's bad luck to have bridesmaids leave the weeding (Then again my country believes in different things like not being married but having kids anyway is considered good luck and families usually celebrate unmarried couple having kids especially if its triplets very lucky indeed and it also means our goddess gave them a blessing any blessings from our Goddess we celebrate with a big feast)
This has nothing to do with Christianity, but is a rejection of Jesus and His ways. Who did He hang out with? (a.o. murderers, debt collectors and whores.) And at a wedding party He elevates joy by turning water into wine, instead of turning wine into vinegar.
Well I'd do the same thing. U don't want my family there that in the future when your married to him don't invite her. I doubt her fiancé approved of this new invitation list. Or maybe it's a money thing too. But it's so rude of her. Stand your ground. Let her have her views but your kids would want to be there for their aunts wedding.
What's with all the wedding drama posts? Is it a new category in Bored Panda? I'm not whining, I'm actually asking: why?
They post one. Lots of people read it and comment on it, so they post more. It's all about numbers.
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She (Bridezilla) doesn't deserve anyone's presence that she has banned from her "religious" ceremony. She needs to look in the mirror and say aloud. " Those without sin cast the first stone". Down the road she will be shown what her true self is. It won't be pretty. She has lost a lot already. She just doesn't realize it yet.
You should have told her that Jesus ate and drank with sinners, but he did not sin with them. She is sadly out of touch with Christianity to think that she can't eat, drink, and celebrate with sinners/family/everybody! Redemption deals with the heart's relationship with God - not with suddenly becoming a so-called perfect person.
The sister is being an AH plain and simple, blaming this on religion or the fiancé is a cop out
I would tell my sister she is such a f*****g hypocrite and then I would tell her just how hard she could f**k herself. There is no way I would ever put my sister above my husband and my children. And in this situation, the boyfriend is the same as a husband, they are committed to each other and they have children and they have been together for years. The sister's a hypocrite And the fact that she waited until just 2 weeks before the wedding to let it get out that she was uninviting Denise and nephew and the boyfriend.... That tells me that she knows she's a f****n hypocrite and doesn't care.
Typical religious hypocrisy... you are wrong but I have excuses for my behavior, despite is the same behavior I'm condemning in you... f*ck her, do not give her the dress, do not even sell it to her, and cut all links with her, at least until she apologize to you AND you can see it's and ACTUAL heartfelt apology...
How much you wanna bet she overinvited what either could be accommodated or affordable and needed a subjective metric to uninvite guests? That she’s using hypocritical religious nonsense is a little less gross than whittling the guest list down based on body proportions or how photogenic she believes people to be. This way, she can use sanctimony as her defense rather than straight up bigotry.
Its a big world filled with questionable people. I dont put this type of behavior past anyone. I guess "truth is stranger than fiction" applies here.
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Doing "the right thing" means not telling others how to live their lives.
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So her parents think that she should still go to the wedding, because they're family. Are her parents forgetting that they have 2 grandchildren...Who are also family...But they still got uninvited! You can't have it both ways.
Likely that the parents have forked over a bunch of cash and would hate to see it "go to waste". Either that or they don't want to deal with the fall-out of this lunacy.
Load More Replies... Why is there so many bridezilla posts of late. People are deadset crazy. God I'm glad our wedding had zero rules and took about a week to plan. If my better half turned into a sociopath like this I would have dropped her on the spot.
Maybe because so many weddings take place in June. Many articles on BP did not debut there, so it takes a few months for them to eventually migrate to this site.
Load More Replies... “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”
If my sister pulled this b******t on me, I would be casting stones...
Load More Replies... Your parents think you should still go to the wedding and are presumably still going to the wedding after Nina essentially called their grandchildren bastards born of sin who are too unclean to go to her wedding. I think your family has more problems than just Nina.
Oof, sounds like she (the bride) joined a cult, hopefully logic and basic human decency will prevail.
To use such assets, one must first possess them.
Load More Replies... I think you're right about the marriage not lasting but I hope the out of wedlock children from get previous relationship are safe. Once this "born to wedded parents" child comes, the other two are going to be treated as less than human.
Load More Replies... Hmm, being Christian apparently means to the sister and a lot of people to "be as UNLIKE Jesus, the most important dude in the bible as possible". Sad. Also kinda evil and completely illogical. Anyway, I like Disney with "Ohana Means Family, and Family Means Nobody Gets Left Behind or Forgotten." Screw related by blood or marriage, that's so overrated!
If i recall, Jesus spent his timewith prostitutes, lepers, tax collecters and the homeless and maimed. Apparently these were the ones who had need of ministry, love and compassion....
Load More Replies... Lemme guess, guy she's marrying is a religious right wing nut? Fun fun fun. Get out of there.
Could be. It is interesting that the bride is pregnant before this wedding.
Load More Replies... PLEASE. I'm religious and wouldn't pull this bull. Plus it's NEVER the kids' fault...that's the same as condemning the child of a mean teacher, for example. Bleh, people are dumb.
The bride to be is suffering from delusions of grandeur as my nan used to call it.
People have their reasons and it's no business of anyone else's. As someone who wasn't even allowed to get legally married until 2015, I don't see how a piece of paper from the state automatically makes a relationship more legitimate. Fun fact: Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been together, unmarried, for almost 40 years.
I've been with my partner for 20 years, can't imagine my life without him but have no interest in getting married, we're happy, our kids are happy that's all that matters.
Load More Replies... Your sister is a big AH for sure! Who does that? Let me send uninvited letters to the people who are not married and have kids outside of wedlock so I can rule supreme in my moral supreme-ness? Hah! Your sister is nuts and ridiculous and is quite literally getting her just deserts so to speak. I can’t imagine what went through her mind when she thought she was going to un-invite peoples partners/kids last minute. Did she also un-invite her kids? I just can’t comprehend what she thought would happen. 🤯 your def NTA and you should never feel otherwise.
The bridezilla is cleary a c*nt. And I won't be surprised if she ended up divorced within a year. NTA
If she'd taken that moral situation with me, I would have said "hypocrite much" and left her as well. Glad other bridesmaids backed her up.
I wonder if she belongs to a controlling church. It seems like someone may have talked her into this since she didn't have this attitude initially. I wonder if they talked her into the marriage as well? Getting married because "they had to" (pregnancy) rarely works out.
WTH is wrong with these wackadoodle brides? These stories about bridezillas on BP are like a train wreck, I can't look away. I have so much fun reading about how wacked out they can be!
They were always "wackadoodle" their true colours come out when they think it's "too latd" for people to back out
Load More Replies... I could hear this exploding in Sister's face from here. Yrs ago my mum planned a lg family reunion & didn't invite my live-in BF of 5 yrs & his children- for the same reason. Mum phoned me a few weeks prior asking if I'd bring some food. I told her I wasn't coming & of course she hit high-C & then cancelled the reunion. Poor OP- @ least I hadn't bought a dress. Who disinvites their wedding guests @ last minute? These sick people have the power you give them. Poor OP💙
If you're engaged to someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run. Run far. run fast.
These posts need to include updates of the outcome, or not post it if there aren't any updates.
As if anyone attending gives two shakes who the guests are. Immature women with apparently immature parents.
NTA - I can’t believe your parents are taking her side. And she is pregnant at her wedding! Hypocrite much!!! This whole thing is ridiculous. Maybe it’s coming from the groom but if so, she could have put her foot down. If it’s her, those baby hormones have done a number on her. I definitely would not go to that wedding and I would be dying to go someplace to west your gorgeous dress!
"Just do it, stop complaining, it's family what can you do, I know but you know what it's like." - these types of families, all the time.
Load More Replies... For the sake of her two children, the fiancé should definitely be looked at as the possible reason for her nonsensical actions and hypocritical beliefs. How would the children born out of wedlock be treated by a zealot, especially one who doesn’t act according to his own beliefs.
I simply can't decide whether the bride is delusional, regarding her attitude to (other) kids born out of wedlock, or demented.
how long before mrs nutjob's 2 children are thrown into homes because they were born out of marriage and all proof of their existence is erased?
Wow, this has to be the dumbest bridezilla ever. First off, by the bride's own logic, she should not be invited to her own wedding. Secondly, you can't uninvite every other guests' +1 and expect the guest to still come. As for the family thing, the bride also sabatoged that logic when she uninvited family. Sounds like she literally ruined her own wedding and costing everyone, including herself, tons of $$.
yeah, what a POS why would the bride ever think her sister would still be MOH after this action
Has 3 pregnancies before wedlock but her sister with 2 deserves to go alone. More like she didn't want other guests to find out about how many unmarried people there were in this family. Jokes aside, this is a classic case of q person hammeroeging money on the wedding to they cut costs at every corner.
I don't think the op done the right thing though it's bad luck to have bridesmaids leave the weeding (Then again my country believes in different things like not being married but having kids anyway is considered good luck and families usually celebrate unmarried couple having kids especially if its triplets very lucky indeed and it also means our goddess gave them a blessing any blessings from our Goddess we celebrate with a big feast)
This has nothing to do with Christianity, but is a rejection of Jesus and His ways. Who did He hang out with? (a.o. murderers, debt collectors and whores.) And at a wedding party He elevates joy by turning water into wine, instead of turning wine into vinegar.
Well I'd do the same thing. U don't want my family there that in the future when your married to him don't invite her. I doubt her fiancé approved of this new invitation list. Or maybe it's a money thing too. But it's so rude of her. Stand your ground. Let her have her views but your kids would want to be there for their aunts wedding.
What's with all the wedding drama posts? Is it a new category in Bored Panda? I'm not whining, I'm actually asking: why?
They post one. Lots of people read it and comment on it, so they post more. It's all about numbers.
Load More Replies... She (Bridezilla) doesn't deserve anyone's presence that she has banned from her "religious" ceremony. She needs to look in the mirror and say aloud. " Those without sin cast the first stone". Down the road she will be shown what her true self is. It won't be pretty. She has lost a lot already. She just doesn't realize it yet.
You should have told her that Jesus ate and drank with sinners, but he did not sin with them. She is sadly out of touch with Christianity to think that she can't eat, drink, and celebrate with sinners/family/everybody! Redemption deals with the heart's relationship with God - not with suddenly becoming a so-called perfect person.
The sister is being an AH plain and simple, blaming this on religion or the fiancé is a cop out
I would tell my sister she is such a f*****g hypocrite and then I would tell her just how hard she could f**k herself. There is no way I would ever put my sister above my husband and my children. And in this situation, the boyfriend is the same as a husband, they are committed to each other and they have children and they have been together for years. The sister's a hypocrite And the fact that she waited until just 2 weeks before the wedding to let it get out that she was uninviting Denise and nephew and the boyfriend.... That tells me that she knows she's a f****n hypocrite and doesn't care.
Typical religious hypocrisy... you are wrong but I have excuses for my behavior, despite is the same behavior I'm condemning in you... f*ck her, do not give her the dress, do not even sell it to her, and cut all links with her, at least until she apologize to you AND you can see it's and ACTUAL heartfelt apology...
How much you wanna bet she overinvited what either could be accommodated or affordable and needed a subjective metric to uninvite guests? That she’s using hypocritical religious nonsense is a little less gross than whittling the guest list down based on body proportions or how photogenic she believes people to be. This way, she can use sanctimony as her defense rather than straight up bigotry.
Its a big world filled with questionable people. I dont put this type of behavior past anyone. I guess "truth is stranger than fiction" applies here.
Load More Replies... Doing "the right thing" means not telling others how to live their lives.
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