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Women Shared 30 Comparison Pics Of Themselves Before And After They Thought They Could Change A Man
Don't hate the player, change the game... Whoever dished out that chaotic advice must surely be playing some mind games of their own. If you've ever tried to change someone you're dating, you might have found that often, it's less like a quick penalty shot, and more like a long, exhausting and painful boxing match where you're the one on the receiving end of most of the blows - before finally getting knocked out, or tapping out.
For every woman who ever uttered the words, "I can change him" is a guy laughing loudly while digging his heels firmly into the ground. A new viral TikTok challenge has people sharing their "then and now" photos, showing exactly what happened when they finally saw the light, surrendered, and focused on themselves instead.
Bored Panda has put together some of the best posts from the trend for you to scroll through should you ever need a reminder that sometimes quitting does pay off. Many of these pics prove that often, the real transformation happens the moment you stop trying to save someone who couldn't be bothered to save themselves.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 16 hours ago
Uh, so, I'm honestly not sure how to interpret this one. She... changed her makeup and fashion sense after the breakup? She got a ton more piercings? Are these good or bad things? I guess the article says that these before-and-after photos show "exactly what happened when they finally saw the light, surrendered, and focused on themselves instead", so I assume she's happier now!
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 16 hours ago
I've lost weight myself after moving back home/escaping my 24-year-long relationship! 30 lbs so far :) I don't feel the need to make myself "feel good" by eating too much food/unhealthy foods.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 16 hours ago
She does not actually have heterochromia. There are a lot of videos on her TikTok that show her natural eye color is the blue-gray color. Absolutely nothing wrong with wearing one colored contact as a fashion choice, but just wanted to let others know that she does not naturally have heterochromia.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 16 hours ago
Well, at least she got her neck and throat back after the breakup! (Otherwise not sure what's happening in the left photo - her face is sort of ... pasted onto another photo of her? I can see hair coming out from her under-chin area, so to speak.)
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Wanda Peachtree 2 hours ago
I don't understand the point of these. So, men are along all their woman thinner and more makeup? Great. Don't care and awful message.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 16 hours ago
This is the same girl posted in another entry. She does not actually have heterochromia. There are a lot of videos on her TikTok that show her natural eye color is the blue-gray color. Absolutely nothing wrong with wearing one colored contact as a fashion choice, but just wanted to let others know that she does not naturally have heterochromia. Not sure why someone (who is not OP) made this fake "before and after", since on OP's actual TikTok, this "before and after" is actually her in junior year of high school vs junior year of college, NOT before and after a relationship.
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Sly Schlang 10 hours ago
What a strange article. Just pictures of women who changed their looks. No text, so it is completely up for Interpretation, what it actually means. Pointless and superficial.
Multa Nocte 16 hours ago (edited)
This was a terrible article. Anyone who goes into a relationship with the intent of changing another person deserves what they get if things go badly. If the person isn't what you want, go somewhere else. There are a lot of people out there. That's fairly simple. The only person you can truly change is yourself. And if they do make changes due to your scheming and pressure, are you going to want them to change even more after that? What if the change is so successful that they then walk out on you? If the person actively requests assistance in making some sort of lifestyle changes, like quitting an addiction, or if they want to have someone cheer them on when they change their eating habits or something like that, that's one thing. But going in with the intent of changing another person is a bad idea from the get go. Fix yourself first and quit bothering other people.
Sly Schlang 10 hours ago
What a strange article. Just pictures of women who changed their looks. No text, so it is completely up for Interpretation, what it actually means. Pointless and superficial.
Multa Nocte 16 hours ago (edited)
This was a terrible article. Anyone who goes into a relationship with the intent of changing another person deserves what they get if things go badly. If the person isn't what you want, go somewhere else. There are a lot of people out there. That's fairly simple. The only person you can truly change is yourself. And if they do make changes due to your scheming and pressure, are you going to want them to change even more after that? What if the change is so successful that they then walk out on you? If the person actively requests assistance in making some sort of lifestyle changes, like quitting an addiction, or if they want to have someone cheer them on when they change their eating habits or something like that, that's one thing. But going in with the intent of changing another person is a bad idea from the get go. Fix yourself first and quit bothering other people.
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