With age comes wisdom. And stiff joints, less energy, worse eyesight, worse hearing and less tolerance for hangovers and technology that you don’t understand...
When I was a little kid, I couldn’t wait to turn 16 and get my driver’s license. Freedom, here I come! When I was 20, I couldn’t wait to be out of university. Even more freedom, here I come! But then one day I woke up and realized that not everything gets better with age. In fact, sometimes things get worse.
Reddit users have recently been sharing some of the things they enjoy less and less as they get older, and to be honest, some of the replies are a little sad. From being less enthusiastic about Christmas to dreading nights out in loud bars, we’ve gathered some of their most spot-on responses down below to see if you aging pandas agree with them. Keep reading to also find interviews we were lucky enough to receive from gerontologist and host of the Aging Greatfully podcast, Holley Kelley, and writer, editor and host of the B[OLDER] podcast, Debbie Weil.
Be sure to upvote the replies that make you feel less alone, as you realize that all of our preferences shift with age, and feel free to share anything else that has become less fun over the years in the comments section. Then, if you’d like to read a Bored Panda article highlighting the most hilarious parts of getting older, you can find that piece right here!
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Honestly leaving the house, I used to be a social butterfly and now I have to convince myself to go get basic necessities and go to work..
When it comes to vacation time, people think of travel... I think of staying at home and doing nothing :)
I'm all about travel to a relaxing beach vacation. I don't have enough time off to take a vacation where I'd want to explore. Relaxation has to come first.
Load More Replies...I developed agony at age 35, going out is so hard when my bed is nice and warm.
Pandemic lockdown was such a happy time for me, I didn't have to invent excuses to stay at home
Other than having no income, bills piling up and I maxed out all my credit cards. Not everyone was lucky to work from home or get government checks
Load More Replies...That happened to me too and I became extremely depressed. And agoraphobic. Quit my day job of 30 years on a whim with no planning whatsoever. Bad idea, don't do it, but I knew if I stayed a moment longer, I would end up with a stroke or heart attack at work. Now in my second career which I love and every minute is well spent - hint, I work with animals - but not every person has that luxury. All my family passed and I am the last one standing. So my actions only affect me and my pets. So I am winging it with a job I love with crappy pay, but my needs are few so I can get away with it.
Young people need to live their lives while they have stamina and good health in their 20s and 30s. Sometimes we rationalize not hanging with friends by saying that we are content to be in the basement all weekend playing music while attempting to teach ourselves a craft. It is good to do things alone so we can hear our thoughts. It is not good for years and decades to go by and we realize why we convinced ourselves to keep isolated from friends. By the time we get a different mindset health issues have reared their ugly heads. We find that we have adjust our lifestyle to aches and pains and lack of stamina. Rethink how to get social doses of life and still be relaxed in a new mindset. My opinions
I hate leaving the house and only do it to pick up a curbside grocery order, pick up medications or go to doctor's appts. That's it. It's too peopley out there.
Work from home + online groceries = you don't have to leave the house at all 😌
Being a certain level of presentable to be in public. Me in my 20s wouldn't have left the house in sweatpants unless I was deathly ill on my way to the doctors. And the idea of a family function without a full face of makeup was horrifying. F**k that noise. I'm grocery shopping in my sweats and y'all lucky if I show up to family functions at all, much less in a full face of makeup.
This needs to be higher! I won't dress in a trash bag, but I do NOT care what other people think of my dress sense in public. Girl bye.
Who said anything about a trash bag? Dressing up for the grocery story is just crazy. I've been going for over 40 years and I don't care who sees me food shopping. I'm there to finish a grocery list not get someone to look at me. Do you put on a face full of makeup everywhere you o?
Load More Replies...COVID has really given me the f**k-its when it comes to how I look in public. I was never the type to feel like I HAD to wear makeup and nice clothes when I left the house, but it was something I enjoyed a lot of the time and it gave me a bit of a mental boost. Now I usually just don't bother.
You described it perfectly. Covid completely changed my personality and attitude. Sweatpants rule
Load More Replies...I have started going out in leggings (proper ones, not see through c**p) very recently because of IBS flares up if I'm wearing anything non-elasticated and guess what, no one died from looking at my fat thighs!
Same here. I have my "good" sweats that I'll wear to the grocery store, and my "comfy" sweats with holes in them for watching TV.
Exactly this! I have "home" pajamas with cute designs and "going out" pajamas in solid colors or with minimal designs. I have convinced myself that anything without an obvious print is high fashion.
Load More Replies...Everyone should dress as they want as long as it’s not harmful to others. Who cared what others think anyway?
Well, I think I still want to look presentable, but I stopped caring what people might think about my fashion sense and I wear whatever I want.
I stopped wearing makeup during lockdown and working from home, and haven’t gone back. Never wore a lot of it anyhow, so no one seems to have noticed. I might apply a minimal amount of cover stick then powder my face very lightly if I was going to an event, but no eye makeup at all anymore. For everyday, what you see is what you get.
Kind of the same with me. Unless absolutely necessary I wear mascara and that's it. I'd ditch the mascara too but I'm blonde and therefore have blonde eyelashes so I feel self conscious when it looks like I don't have eyelashes. Big bonus is that not piling stuff on my face that I later have to remove has done wonders for my skin. I love the skincare and go life
Load More Replies...Apps. Everyone and their mother has to have an app to download for every little thing, especially if you wanna use a coupon, or earn rewards, or whatever. I'm tired of places asking me to download an app. I don't want your f*****g app, I just wanna buy your s**t and be done with it!
“I just wanna buy your s**t and be done with it! “ There's an app for that.
If I have to download an app, I´m not interested in your offer. Simple as that.
How else are they going to analyse your shopping patterns and throw even more ads in your face, huh?
Absolutely! I already know my phone spies on me; I don't need more apps doing that, too. Some of the permissions they need are ridiculous.
Oh hell yes...Why does my guitar tuner app need access to my camera, contact list, Bluetooth, and a laundry list of other things that have absolutely nothing to do with tuning a guitar...microphone is all it should need. So nope, not downloading the app.
Load More Replies...I hate them. They don't save any time and it's so pointless. Take going out to eat-rather than picking up a menu where you can easily compare and contrast what's for dinner, you end up screening through pages, up and down, backwards and forwards on a little screen, in dim light, with middle aged presbyopic eyes. Paper versions are so much more user friendly.
You get to the till and the queues are horrendous, because the till scanner needs 50 attempts to read the Apps code on someones phone.
Thats why i refuse to download a supermarkets app. I have a card. They can scan that
Load More Replies...I 200% agree with this. I don't want the app that's why I went to the site. Duh
Aging is inevitable, and there’s no reason to fight it. But it is fair to admit that, as we age, some things just don’t feel as enjoyable as they used to. I no longer want to wake up at 5am on Christmas morning, and I feel wrecked any time I stay up past midnight. Sitting in traffic is a lot more painful than it was for teenage me, and I no longer feel proud when I make a large purchase on my own. Spending money brings me more anxiety than excitement, and a busy weekend is something I often dread, as I know I won’t be able to feel refreshed on Monday morning.
To gain some insight on this topic, we reached out to gerontologist and host of the Aging Greatfully podcast, Holley Kelley. We asked Holley if there’s anything she has come to enjoy less and less with age, and she had an excellent answer: appointments. “I’m a huge advocate of everyone overseeing their best medical, health, preventative, and general well care,” Holley told Bored Panda. “The amount of these tend to increase as we grow older and spending more time at these various appointments isn’t something that is considered fun but they are still very important not to neglect.”
I haven't liked religion since i was 15, but I downright hate it now. Now that I see in even more ways the ridiculous hold it has over people, and how that affects everyone's lives. It's like this unquestionable monolith that prevents rational thought. And my beef isn't that people believe in deities and such, I don't care about that. I'm not one to make snide comments about "Sky daddy". I simply hate how religion dictates how everyone lives. How people are basing policy and votes on what their own misguided religious beliefs tell them. Add to that how straight up crooked and slimy so many churches are. Believe in God all you want. But quit standing in the way of science, psychology, and other people's well-being. That's all I damn ask.
This is a bit of a sideways move - but - people who have survived a medical trauma, they are thanking the lord, all down to Jesus, nooo!!! down to the hundreds of medical staff with years of training and experience, modern equipment and medicines. With age I lose my rag even faster to rage at these ********* (choose your own expletive)
I used to believe in god before I developed an autoimmune disease, now after every surgery and hospital admission I am praising the medical staff.
Load More Replies...The older I get, the more I'd rather be around animals than humans
One of my biggest beefs is that we don't really choose our own religion. It is dumped onto us and, depending on how religious our parents are, we are brainwashed into it. Hardly anyone leaves their birth religion after having had a hard think about it and converts. Most popular choice seems to be becoming an atheist though.
My wife moved away from her small white AF, hick town and met people. She suppressed being a lesbian, was racist, conservative, pro-life, went to church every Sunday. Even when we met she was hardcore. I introduced her to my trans friends, my atheist friends, friends from other races and parts of the world. Now she's out, proud, pro choice, and liberal AF.
Load More Replies...Are you saying that it's not okay to force people to live by the laws of my roach religion? But it's the bestest of them all!
It's sharing a home with a million other roaches that kinds of puts me off :)
Load More Replies...Many scientists and doctors believe in a god too. Their religion doesn't stand in their way at all.
Tell that to the doctors who refuse to treat trans kids on the basis of religion or perform life saving abortions on the basis of religion.
Load More Replies...Guys I'm a Christian who doesnt support trump, pro choice, part of and supports lgbtqia+, not an absolute a*****e who forces mt religion on others. I think god gave us free choice so we could choose him, if you know the message were trying to tell you and you dont choose, cool. Forcing it means NOTHING spiritually. Christianity is supposed to be a religion of love, why don't most of the people who folloe it actually love then? i love you guys. If i respect your beliefs, please respect mine, reading some of these comments made me feel a bit invalidated
I used to respect Christianity. I didn't like it, but I'd keep my mouth shut. Then Christians just kept doing awful stuff, to me and to the world, and I lost that respect. How can I respect a religion that doesn't even keep its own people in line? So I'm going to say this in the nicest way I can. I respect that you're trying to take a message in the best way possible. I just don't agree about the message when taken in context.
Load More Replies...I've said it before, but religion is the greatest evil ever forced onto the world. If people want to hold beliefs privately, have at it. As soon as you start organizing, congregating and trying to use your baseless beliefs as a means of judging or controlling anyone else, you're not only a horrible person, but you've missed the point of the thing you proclaim to live your life by. I get that people are trying to impart meaning into the chaos, but it's the wrong view to take. No one is watching, no one is waiting to hand out rewards or doll out punishment, this is all we get, and everyone needs to learn to take responsibility for that fact. Every choice, every success and failure is your own and chances are quite good that no one is going to know you existed in 100 years time. Our only collective goal should be to ensure we leave the planet, if not better than at least no worse. Humanity has spent centuries failing in that so hard that even in death we pollute one last time.
I loved reading this. My thoughts but expressed better than I could. Thank you.
Load More Replies...I've been brought up Christian, catholic, mormon and jehovah witness... depended on what family I lived with at that time. Been baptized jehovah and Christian....doubly baptized, 2 different religions. And....I am not religious. Being exposed to these different religions only turned me away from it all.
Here in the USA there are some that forget that their Guaranteed religious freedom ends at the point it encroaches on another person's freedom. (Non-belief or Agnostic is still a religious belief system that should be protected by law) Thus is why we are supposed to have separation of church & state.
If only there were an easier way to get the benefits of religion without actual religion and dogma. You know, community, belonging, hope, a social safety net, networking, ... I've ditched religion completely, but I do miss these aspects of it.
How fast time is slipping away from me rather than how slow it used to be as a kid
That’s one of the worst things about getting older. But you also value time so much more than you ever did.
This is just hitting me this year. My whole perspective changed.
Load More Replies...My theory is this. When I was 4, a year was a quarter of my life. When I was 10, a year was a tenth of my life. And suddenly how long a year seems in the scheme of my lifetime until, at 55, a year is a 55th of my life. That's why time seems to go by fast.
That theory is unequivocally legit 👍🏻 (I also just happen be 55 as well, but I flat refuse to grow up!)
Load More Replies...It's also the scariest. The years just wizz by and you're left counting down the time you've got remaining.
Don’t! It helps nothing to count down the time you’ve got left. You get old and die anyway, so you can as well enjoy the time remaining.
Load More Replies...Time could not go "faster enough" for me - until I retired. Now I wish it would slow down a bit.
Bam! Exactly! That’s why I retired 4 days after I turned 50🤪
Load More Replies...There's actually science to support this now. The short explanation of it (as I understand it) is that as we get older, we're able to processes and store fewer memories of each day. Given the brain then has less information about each day, we perceive the days as shorter and therefore that time goes faster. I hope that somewhat made sense but if not, here's a much better explanation: https://brain-sharper.com/science/science-time-faster-older/
The alternate theory is that it’s about pattern recognition and is related to why a trip to somewhere you’ve never been always feels longer than the way back. On the outbound leg, you have no points of reference with which to judge and estimate your arrival. On the way back, you do, so your brain is able to quantify it and make predictions, and it feels shorter because you can perceive the end before you get there. As you get older, your ability to discern patterns and predict outcomes becomes better and better. You get to the conclusion (in your mind) sooner and sooner. Scale this up to the whole of life and time starts running more and more quickly.
Load More Replies...Life is like a roll of toilet paper. It goes quicker towards the end.
Shopping. for anything... including groceries. Shopping used to be fun. Now it is a chore.
And then when your eyesight gets bad, reading the small print on the excessively ornate labels on grocery store products with thousands of labels to try and read to find what you want will become the hardest thing you do each week.
Omg...Trying to read the ingredients of something with aging eyes ☹. It hurts my eyeballs just thinking about it.
Load More Replies...I used to love going to shopping centre as an older teen. I'd have my Saturday job money and a couple hours browsing my fave centre. Now more than half the shops have gone online only. There's just so much tat or just empty shops. Covid killed trying on clothes. Online fast fashion is terrible for the environment
I really miss it. I hate online shopping, most of the clothes don't fit and have to pay to ship them back. It's much better to try it on before you spend the money.
Load More Replies...I totally understand. I'm on the edge of being agoraphobic because of it.
Too noisy, too crowded & 99% I dont need or even want
Load More Replies...Someone's parent apparently never sent them to the store with a wallet packed with coupons, an illegible list, and $80 for your house of 8-13 people, alone, on the bus, at 10. Shopping has never been fun to me, and even if I become ridiculously wealthy tomorrow I'd still find it boring at the very least.
You are cute to assume all countries are as developed as yours :( because many are not :(
Load More Replies...Always see shopping (in person Vs online) as a military / swat operation. Know where and when your going. Layout of the building, possible location of the items and best path to get all of them. Time to minimize contact with civilians. Then execute and try to get in and out as fast as humanly possible, ideally with minimal interactions while making mental notes on how to make things go faster next time. So yes, I do a lot more online shopping now. Mall security has gotten cranky about the camo and face paint to get groceries. ;-)
But according to Holley, it’s perfectly natural for our preferences to shift with age. “Our preferences can shift for a variety of reasons as we grow older. For example, if you’re referring to a shift in cuisine preferences, this can be due to the fact that our taste buds not only decrease but can become impaired with aging,” Holley told Bored Panda.
“These changes in taste can be due to medication, infection, medical treatments, smoking, or other injury, ailment or disease but are also a normal part of aging,” she explained. “My grandfather, who never enjoyed spicy food when he was younger, really enjoyed it later in life because it really stimulated his taste buds. We see older adults adding salt to their foods to activate taste. Similarly, our sense of smell can also tend to wane. So, taste tends to shift.”
Loud places. Like bars and parties and stuff like that.
After the first time I saw Motorhead live, there were no more loud places
don't think my ears ever recovered and that was 40 years ago
Load More Replies...Went to so many music festivals, concerts, nightclubs....glad I didn't wind up with tinnitus. Now that I'm older, it seems like a deafening nightmare. I now prefer to listen to the little birdies outside.
yikes. I'm going to my first concert next week. I'm now a bit worried if I made a good decision on doing this. I love the band but haven't really gotten into their music since I was a teen. The purchase of the tickets was impulsive, I'll admit, and based on nostalgia.
Get some earplugs and you will be fine. Enjoy the gig.
Load More Replies...A strange thing that occurs as one's hearing diminishes in old age is that you can hear all the room sounds behind you just fine by not the person talking to you right in front of your face.
This is me...my poor husband. 'What??, what?, sorry didnt hear, pardon, what? Can you repeat that?
Load More Replies...I have sensory issues. If sounds are loud they've got to be something I really want to listen to. I don't like having meltdowns-
I think it's a definitely a getting older thing, 20 years ago working in Media I had so many free tickets to Festivals and concerts that I made the most of it , now I find myself shouting at my daughter to turn her music down and think ...'wow when did I get so old?' :(
Feeling like I've done all the right things yet the goal posts keep moving farther out.
"Take your best shot. And whatever it hits, call it the target."
Load More Replies...You can plan all you want, life has a way of throwing you massive curve balls.
I do the right things and still get yelled at for doing anything. I basically just want to do nothing at home. Feels safer.
Have been winging it all my life (huge back story and it's all my own fault - I didn't put my foot down at an early age and paying the price now) and will continue to do so. I was so late to stand up for myself in some respects it was pathetic. Luckily I have a really good therapist. Just wish I could afford to see her more often. My insurance sucks.
Social events. The mental preparation beforehand followed by the wide range of personalities at said event.. exhausting.
It's like ya'll needed an extra 35 years to catch up to where I was by 5 with these things.
AND having to spend untold hours figuring out what to wear that's not stuffy, frumpy or old, worrying about your hair, then doing makeup-- it's much easier to stay home!
I'm an extra sensitive empath. I can't do large events, unless I get to somewhere where no one is standing. I can feel others emotion's so much, it affects me physically. Imagine, having 5 people standing around you, and all of their emotions are filling you up. I end up Bolting from the event. It didn't get this bad until I was 48 yo. I'm good with staying at home, it going somewhere that's outside.
On the other hand, it’s always so uplifting to spend time with good friends… maybe just one or two at a time is the answer!
OMG, OMG, OMG. What do I wear?? Is it dressy or business casual? Will I know anybody there? 50 years of that was enough. Ahhh...
"If you are referring to general preferences shifting as we grow older, I believe this is not only natural but indicative of the fact that we are growing in our life wisdom through the amazing process of becoming," Holley shared. "In youth, we are finding our way and it is a time of great discovery. Through life experience, we learn, grow, adapt, discover and blaze our own distinctive trail to the best of us that has been there the entire time just waiting to be unearthed!”
And if anyone out there is a bit scared of aging, Holley has a great perspective on the topic. "It beats the alternative! And, aging is happening to all of us, from newborn infants to supercentenarians. Aging is our gift of life, if we’re lucky enough to be doing it," she told Bored Panda. "With that, not only do we want to do it as long as we can, we want to do it with a positive attitude and with passion, vigor and vitality. As we grow older, there may be some things we cannot do as we once did. But with some childlike wonder and an optimistic mindset, we can find FUNdamental ways to mine our passion and purpose in creative ways to give life meaning and even make a positive difference in the world around us.”
The ultra wealthy.
I was never a fan to begin with, but seeing how the can grow their wealth by billions, live in extreme luxury, and pretty much never pay taxes, really makes me sick.
Elon Musk was able to increase his wealth by over $100 billion in less than a year, without paying taxes. He was able to buy twitter using a leverage scheme so that the majority of the $44 billion was money that was never taxed.
And he's far from the only person benefitting from tax laws that let the ultra wealthy pay little tax.
I've met the Duke of Westminster (richest man in UK, owns Mayfair, Kensington). Nicest person, his kids went to local schools and he funded all local shools whilst they were there.
I think philanthropy should return to the wealthy.
Load More Replies...I am not wealthy, but I am comfortable. I am very happy to pay my taxes. I really don't understand how I can pay tax on my earnings, tax on paying too much into my pension in a year, tax on having too much in my pension pot, tax on the pension when I take it. Yet the ultra wealthy seem to avoid tax altogether. If they paid their fair due, governments would not have to cut back on state services. Corporation tax needs to be sorted too. I loathe this capitalist hierarchy.
I believe that taxes are the price we pay to live where we do, with the services we depend on to make our lives better. But yes, I'm ticked off that millionaires, billionaires, and huge companies pay nothing or almost nothing in taxes.
Load More Replies...Musk is his own worst enemy. This Twitter fiasco is going to bankrupt him and it couldn't happen to a better billionaire. 🙄 It's time the ultra-wealthy (whether person's or companies) pay what the rest of us are paying in taxes.
This is why the republican party needs to be abolished. All they care about is guns and keeping the ultra rich even richer so they get their kickbacks.
You don't have to go far... You don't have to look at the lives of rich and famous. just compare your salary with the top execs of your company and see the difference...
Compare minimum wage of workers to 250k top executives...
Load More Replies...The Republican Party, aka the face of the oligarchy, has conned half the American population into thinking taxes are bad, so they can justify tax breaks for corporations and the ultra-wealthy. The big stink about estate taxes was a perfect example. The morons yelling the loudest about it were never going to have to pay them in the first place. Literally cutting off their own noses to benefit people who don't care at all if they live or die. If you are a Republican and you are not rich you are an idiot. Period.
For real, and all the low income republicans who are against taxes, especially for the wealthy, because "one day I'll be rich too" make me face palm so hard 😬
Load More Replies...That’s our bad for allowing it to slide. We protest obvious things on the streets but nobody ever protests not taxing the wealthy which I wonder why not. Do we maybe not think that some of the stuff were mad about could be paid for if we taxed the wealthy? Healthcare? College? 😬 Homelessness? Just saying..
But is protesting in the streets effective anyway? I haven't seen any real progress from them.
Load More Replies...I would chime in that it's not the wealth of a person that bothers me, it's if they use that weath to harm others and/or to benefit themselves at cost to many.
We live in a world where the rich buy up more resources and are rewarded with tax write offs.
I can do without the ultra-wealthy, but can we talk about their fanbases? I think young folk refer to them as "armies" these days. All the little dudes queuing up to shove Elon's dingdong in their mouths and give it a good once over... gross.
It looks like a fanboy downvoted you. These people make me sick.
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Going to theaters to watch movies. They're more enjoyable to watch at home now.
Theater speakers so so loud! Talkers, cellphones, seat kickers, litterbugs, that guy who's 7 feet tall who sat in front of me. I'll just stay home, thanks.
Load More Replies...Not to mention paying $20 for an experience that might be ruined by someone else that you have little control over
Load More Replies...New movie theater seats are awesome. They are roomy, they recline and you can buy ahead and pick your seat. I started going to movies again. I highly recommend trying it again if you haven't since seats looked like the photo above.
They have to be more comfortable. When you consider how many people are posting on agreement to this, theaters have to do whatever they can to attract customers, and they're still struggling. Modern technology has made it possible to do what the theaters do, without all the things we hate (high prices, no pausing, replaying when you didn't hear what the actor said, and all the "people" related annoyances we gripe about). AND, we get our own comfy sofa, blanket if we want it, cheaper snacks, and the ability to replay the last point in the movie we remember before falling asleep!
Load More Replies...They seem to have become much louder over the last decades, or is it just me?
Such a different experience though! It's not about just watching the movie, it's about being immersed in it. Especially the IMAX experience can't be compared with your screen and crappy speakers at home.
Wish they'd reintroduced intermissions and ushers who enforce a quiet audience though
Load More Replies...I can't stand going to the movies and some AHs have their phones out, are talking, moving about. I get too easily distracted despite the giant film right in front of me. It's aggravating and takes all of the fun out of it.
I haven't been to a movie theater since the 1980s and it was all because too many people just can't stop talking during the show.
Load More Replies...Social Media It’s a literal biblical level plague
That is the main issue with social media. If people just used it to be social it would be fine. Nothing wrong with chatting with aunt Carol on Instagram and showing off the project little Jimmy made in school.
Load More Replies...Better yet, never start - I appear not on Facebook, Twitter, etc
Load More Replies...Don’t have TikTok, Snapchat, Twitter, Insta or any of the other platforms. Do still have a Facebook account with 11 friends just so we can share pics and arrange events. Everyone I seem to meet always want to “add me” to something or other and look genuinely horrified when I say I don’t have accounts. Try giving them a phone number and suggest they actually call me and you’d think I was speaking a different language.
Antisocial media is more like it. Algorithms are designed to get us to keep watching and "engaging" and enraging us all is the easiest way to achieve that
I've been off social media for nearly 3 months. I still have my Facebook account I just don't use it right now. It's been rather freeing.
"literal"? As the first-born in my family, you're making me nervous.
Aging isn’t all bad. According to Holley, the best part of getting older is “Being able to answer ‘PRESENT’ to the roll call of life.” And as she shared with Bored Panda, there are plenty of things she actually enjoys more now than she used to. “With age comes a deeper appreciation for life and the opportunity to experience grand living by design,” Holley says. “I believe attitude plays a big role in our life experience. That doesn’t mean every day is rainbows and roses. Because as we know, life is full of surprises for all of us. It simply means choosing to take nothing for granted and cherish life’s special “whatisness” – big and small, in the spirit of gratitude.”
The world in general, it feels less and less like it has anything to do with me, more alien and absurd with each passing year. Perhaps that's natural for a creature that is closer to death than birth.
I'm not close to death but I feel more and more foreign to this planet. Kinda expecting aliens to come get me back home.
I feel like the everyone in the world is moving forward and I'm being left behind. I was medically retired from working at 30 so I watch the lives of my friends going from one step forward to the next. It's why I have a lot of comments on here, this site is my morning entertainment.
Similar thing happened to me, too. I find that volunteering helps me feel better. Just remind yourself that life isn't a competition, and it sucks that we've all been trained to think it is. Do something that makes you happy.
Load More Replies...Go out into nature. Reconnect with the Earth. Being chronically digitally distracted has broken all of us.
To be fair, while this is a natural phenomenon, the world is legitimately batshit right now. Like birth rates are falling pretty much everywhere because the world is literally and metaphorically on fire. It's a weird time to be alive.
Yeah I'm 50 and now I read the news and I'm wondering who tf 75% of the people are that they mention ...
I know exactly what you mean. It seems everything surpasses us, as we grow older. What we once held cool, is now uncool. We try to keep up, but younger people laugh at it. What was easy to do, because our bodies was young and fit,. Is now harder, and for me, a new illness each year. But, I still try to keep up with the slang, and try to fit in. But, it's like being an alien.
Opposite, here. I'm 62 and have never felt more connected. The closer I move to death the more I appreciate this beautiful, absurd planet we live on, in all it's complexity.
Maybe it's because the media paints an unreal picture of the world, so you think your fellow human is an unrecognizable person, and everyone is walking around believing that, but really we are much more similar than the picture painted by Media and no, we don't think "They/Them" is a grammatical succes when it comes to clarity of communication.
Junk food! I can tell when I’m malnourished and it feels good to eat vegetables
I have started craving salad. It is weird. But after a day filled with junk food and sugary treats all I want is a nice salad.
I love salad, but it gives me massive upset stomach every time. I wish I could just go through salads like a wood chipper.
Load More Replies...I've made a rule that if I eat a small portion of a junk food to eat clean the rest of the day in an attempt to lessen the effect on my body. Doesn't always work, but at least it helps clean me out afterwards.
I try the same. It's certainly not perfect, but at least ensures some level of balance.
Load More Replies...I eat salads in the middle of the night. I can't afford junk food so it's a rare treat. Plus my post menopausal happy a*s doesn't need the calories!
I remember, I once couldn't really cook for a while, so I ate mostly fast food because it was cheap. After about a month, I couldn't stand it any longer, bought one of those bagged salad bases from a grocery store, and ate it straight out of the bag. It was... a formative experience.
Ultra-processed food is literally killing people. It's the main reason cancer is increasing alarmingly among the under 50. It's really not that hard to stop unless you're seriously poor and living in a food desert. For most of us, it's a choice. The idea that eating a healthy diet is too expensive for most people is a myth propagated by the food industry. Getting cancer or diabetes is a hecka lot more expensive than buying beans, chicken thighs, and frozen vegetables.
Anything with a lot of hype that requires me to stand in a long a*s line.
In other news; that shop has to have the least inspired banner I've ever seen.
This is in Littlehampton in the UK and it’s the best fish n chips in the world!
That picture of Fred's is a chip shop in my little town called Littlehampton. How funny.
I don't do lines. After failed back surgery, both knees replaced, and my right ankle and shoulder reconstructed.... (Long ago work injuries that attacked me as I became older.) It makes me wonder why I spent 35+ years as a nurse, except that was what I was and wanted since age 6. Discovered in the last 5 years that I have had a horrible genetic condition my entire life, that makes it so easy to destroy joints that I can sprain my ankle turning over in bed. Had I known, there are a lot of things I'd probably not have done. Would I have missed out? Would I have done different things not impacting my joints? I know if not have let patients fall (the back injury source.) I don't know. It just seems so unfair that they'd wait until I REALLY need everything to work, to "attack" me.
OMG!! Almost my story verbatim!! I feel your pain, Sister!' :(
Load More Replies...I've never done that. If I have to wait more that 5 minutes for anything, I'm outta there.
“I remind my listeners to be active stakeholders in their growing older journey and design life on their terms to discover meaning, purpose and passion over and through the years,” Holley told Bored Panda. “Sure, growing older can have its share of challenges; it can serve up lemons we didn’t want.”
“But I love seeing how with resilience, grit and passion that bitter lemon can be sowed, and the next thing you know there’s an entire grove of lemon trees capable of serving lemontinis to the entire world. In other words, we can take that unfortunate circumstance and transform it into something greater than we ever realized was imaginable.”
"We continually fill our Virtual Treasure Trunks with the many Gems we collect along life’s way making us rich with Pearls of Wisdom, Emeralds of Empathy, Garnets of Gratitude and so many more. What fun we have mining for each of them in our life-long journey of self-discovery," Holley says. "With that, I invite everyone to love the st’AGE’ they’re in!”
If you'd like to hear more wise words from Holley, be sure to check out her podcast, Aging Greatfully, right here!
I hate losing interest in things I used to love.
It's worse when you physically can't do things you used to love. I love horses but my hips won't allow me to ride anymore. I want a dog but I couldn't walk it. I used to climb mountains in Scotland and the Lake District. My fingers hurt when I do crafting... But I still really love K-pop!
Amen! Just turned 80. Moved back to Utah 7 yrs ago when I retired so I cld hike the red rock country, x_country ski, garden & read. In the 7yrs, both knees need replacing, macular degeneration is taking away my reading & driving & it's getting harder to do the carrying & digging in garden. What do I do for the next 10 years?
Load More Replies...It's a real bummer when physical ailments keep you from doing the things you used to love.
Can't run anymore or ride a bike since I got bad neuropathy and Rheuma (two for one). Crawling down the street with my cane, each step painful, and I hate it. Humbly accepting it my a..
I have RA. It is a daily struggle to accept my limitations and stay hopeful for a more effective treatment. I'm sorry you have compounding illness.
Load More Replies...I'm feeling you on this... My body, just doesn't like being as active as it used to. I love walking! Put in my air buds, Pandora, and just walk for hours sometimes. But, now plantars fascitis had taken over, a long with many other illnesses. Our bodies suck when it gets old.
I look at my craft supplies. So many of them. I have so many projects planned, yet the desire to do them? And I hate it, because when I get going I genuinely feel better. I feel good.
People that drive loud cars/trucks.
My neighbor was a sweetheart but I was so glad whem she moved out because her boyfriend drove one of those insanely loud, diesel-fume spewing Dodge Ram trucks that he would let idle for 20 minutes at 6am before tearing off.
I will make exceptions for nicely restored classic cars that are a little loud. But cars/trucks that are loud just so you can rev your engine like some kind of redneck mating call drive me nuts.
Always hated that, always will. There's no reason for it but complete, absolute selfishness. I guess in a way it's good though. Anybody that obliviously selfish is not to be trusted, so at least they're giving out a very clear signal to others to stay the f*ck away.
Yep, always gives me a giggle... those young males are only attracting other young males, young females simply want comfortable transport!
Look at me! My self esteem is so low I drive a loud gas-guzzling monstrosity that breaks eardrums! Yeah!
Small talk
I cannot, I cannot stand pointless yapping! So much so that I have become the quiet one that goes to work to do my work and go home to my bed and cat.
Small talk at work with people I barely know. Ugh. No, Susan, I do not want to see pictures of your cat. I've got c**p to do! Go away!
Whoa, wait a minute. You DON'T want to see pictures of a cat? Are you ok? I WISH everyone wanted just to show me cat pictures all the time! No talking, just cat pictures, thanks.
Load More Replies...I've always detested small talk, but at least with age and experience, I got somewhat better at it - so I hate it less.
With the right person. Other than that, I have reached my c**p quotient for life. And my psych classes have been well used past their expiration. . .
I've actually said on a few occasions to people just going on and on that they were talking for the sake of talking. They usually get offended and say they were just trying to make small talk. How is that any different? You don't need to fill the silence.
I don't mind small talk...when I'm trying to get to know the person or it's relevant to the situation.
Omg I have been pretty anti social for a long time for reasons and other than work which was customer service I still didn't kno how to be in social situations anymore. Lmao I just got married and I'm meeting alot of his family and going to more functions recently and I'm realizing how freaking awkward I am anymore 😅
While this can be a chore, I think I'm more used to it now as an adult. It is often meaningless, but it also serves to help build a connection.
We also reached out to host of the B[OLDER] podcast, Debbie Weil, to hear her insight on the topic as well. Debbie is a 71-year-old former journalist, story designer, podcaster and grandmother of 6 who divides her time between the coast of Maine and New Haven, CT.
When it comes to things she's noticed she enjoys less over the years, Debbie told Bored Panda, "Going out to a nightclub or a party, staying up late, and then sleeping late the next AM. Much prefer to skip the party, go to bed at 9ish to read, and then get up the next morning at 6:30. I realized this about 10 years ago," she noted. But she also think it's natural for our preferences to shift as we age. "Partially because one’s tastes change and partially because one starts to be clearer about what’s important."
Capitalism. F**k working until I die for profit I don't get to enjoy.
At least you won't go bankrupt from going to a hospital. And that's a big plus for me :)
Load More Replies...Hmmm... capitalism in general or capitalism in the USA? Don't know if you traveled enough in your life, but if you have, you would have known that people in the US work much more for less than in many first world countries.
I just love living in a world where 4 old guys get all the money while the rest of us get to die at our desks.
Isn't "work until you die" a feature of all of the socio-economic-political models out there?
Pretty much but it's still looked upon as being cool to only b***h and moan about capitalism. It really doesn't matter which socio-economic-political model is in play, it all comes down to the core of humanity which is that each of, to some degree, will always want what the other person has and there will always be those few who have a lot and those many who have little,
Load More Replies..."But we hired you to work for the company. We expect our employees to put the company first above their own financial gain." Oo
SWEDEN, NORWAY, AND MANY OTHER DEMOCRATIC SOCIALIST NATIONS, CANADA, even. (You said to shout.)
Load More Replies...Thanks to Republican tax breaks for the rich, I paid more taxes than Elon Musk. And I'm on social security. This is why our country will eventually come apart.
Try running your own business, in a socialist country. My wife and i run a successful online business. We work 10-18 hours a day, 7 days a week and while we are doing it from the comfort of our home while watching movies all day, it's still a slog. Now the way that taxes for business work, is you either pay about 50% of earnings and can do whatever you want with the rest, or you can pay 15% so long as your deductible spending (materials, shipping, and investments into your business) and that 15% tax total up to the same near 50% AND you don't have personal spending (as in paying yourself or employees) that exceed the minimum wage, which is a bit shy of $1000 a month. And anything you import costs 20% more than it does anywhere else, and the most you can spend on a single item is $525, because anything more means it won't be deductible until the following year. Does that sound better?
Then the fact that an enormous business doesn't have to worry about any of that and pays even less in taxes than you do should pi$$ you off even more. You sound like you're trying to argue with the poster, but your gripe is essentially the same.
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The way the internet is in 2022.
Ads, subscriptions, pay walls, unhelpful sites with more pictures than words, and streaming service content split up between around 200 platforms, and most of the good content is exclusive to one, and never available elsewhere.
On browsers, you have to have multiple extensions or the like to tell Cookies, Trackers, and Ads to go away. For people in Australia, we're also Geo-Blocked, so we have to use VPN to get around it or turn to other means.
Commercial radio is unlistenable, with the same 25 songs on repeat at the only five I can remember the channel for, and even that is preferable to the afternoon talk show of cackling, squawking gossip. (I'm happy to pay a contribution to my group's spotify; I can have that going on my phone, instead of listening to any of that c**p; I can have long playlists, *my* kind of music, and I don't have to pull over to change CDs).
Changing phone service provider is simple enough on the surface, but then you also have to update your 2-factor authentication, and if it's tied to the old number, which is out of service, you have to go in person to a store or office, or call customer support. For each instance.
Those are the most prevalent grips I have with modern life. It's all in regards to what I watch, listen, or read, and the devices I do so on. It's this tangled web of inter-dependant, exclusive-pushing, paywall-blocking, subscription-requiring noise that really does distract from more important, more healthy, use of time, energy and money.
Having to pay bills online. Our gas bill requires about five windows to open to first see the darn bill, then to download it, then the only way to pay is by using a specific pdf reader that can link to the payment website, then after paying, you spend ten minutes trying to figure out how to locate the receipt and print it.
Great music website at radio.garden (yes, that's the address). They give you a map of the world & you can pick from thousands of radio stations. I love NJ classical, Paris jazz, & Brooklyn hiphop.
My husband (61M) is addicted to his phone. In fact he has two phones. Add that to the Tom Tom sat nav and the built in car sat nav and I'm at my wit's end. If I see his pointy finger jabbing any screen one more time I'ma gonna scream!!
I dislike that so many news sites want you to watch a video of a story. No, I just want to READ the news, thank you. If the only format offered is video for that story, I'm going elsewhere.
You hit the nail on the head. I got fed up wasting time even though I hired an IT guy to come help simplify the process. When my computer died I never replaced it. My cell is about 4 years old and no longer supported so I can see my days are numbered and trying to decide how to save my thousands of photos 75% are work and 25% personal. My tablet is about the same or even a year or two older. Better not be in a hurry, it churns slowly . . . And not planning to replace anything other than the phone. I would rather clean my house than deal with electronic gadgets. I have no patience anymore for them.
Amen to radio broadcasts...Its exactly as described in the post...same damn songs over and over and over and over...and the ads...holey c**p, can someone.please make an ad blocker for radio? Yeah, I realize it's not.possible and they gotta make money to stay on, but dayum...Its like they play 1 to 3 songs and then 10 ads.
"We play the greatest hits of all time!!" No you don't, you play like 27 of the greatest hits of all time. It's cool to hear a song on the radio you haven't heard in 30 years but not cool to hear it again in two days then two days after that. The stations around me play music for 50-52 minutes then fill out the hour with commercials. Like anyone is going to listen to 8 minutes of commercials. As a advertiser, I wouldn't but radio unless my commercial was the first one in the break.
Load More Replies...Wikipedia...anyone can edit it and it's not all truthful info. The actual encyclopedia has gone the way of the dodo and it's sad
I'm in IT, if I need more than my phone and its browser....not worth the hassle
Huge gatherings of people. Parties are cool. But like festivals, concerts, anything where people are shoulder to shoulder and packed in somewhere, no thanks.
As someone who wears glasses 24/7, crowds always make me fear that I might lose or break them... and I'm blind as a bat without them.
It's always nice to hear from another member of the Velma faction!
Load More Replies...This! To me there is nothing more miserable than large crowds. I even grocery shop at 6 or 7 am to avoid the crowds. I am so torn between hating delivery services because of the wasted packaging and fuel to have one or two things delivered and loving them because I absolutely hate crowded places.
Heck no! I am disgusted by crowds! COVID is still here, so is bad breath and all sorts of c**p that humans excrete. Home, bed, cat, book - good enough!
Have done the festivals (100k+ people), now just a quiet walk with the dog is good
Too many nuts with guns, done with all festivals and its pisses me off
Just curious, how many times have you been shot so far? That's what I thought.
Load More Replies...I last went to Inningsfest 2022. The headliner was Foo Fighters. People lost their F_¢king minds. I backed my happy a$$ way way back. Glad no one actually died that night from the crush. I've been to numerous Inningsfests and I'd never seen everyone go that bonkers. Next year's headliner is Green Day. Think I'm going to skip it this time...
I should mention that the next day I went to wash my clothes out and my sweater was splattered with blood. It wasn't mine.
Load More Replies...As an adult who is 5’ tall, I have never liked crowded events. I get stepped on without apologies or hear “I didn’t see you” as an excuse.
In America these days, no way I'm going to a crowd event. Too many nuts with guns. It's amazing how making guns so much easier to get would lead to more people shooting at each other with them. It's almost like there's a correlation there! Who could have foreseen that? Freaking nitwit Republicans. Honest to God.
Just curious, how many times have you been shot so far? That's what I thought.
Load More Replies...We also asked Debbie if she has any wise words for anyone who might be scared of getting older. "As they say, getting old is not for the faint of heart," she shared with a laugh. "You have to be 'bolder' in order to keep trying new things, going new places, and meeting new people. I’ve taken up the cello because a wonderful teacher lives a few blocks away and because it’s satisfying as well as very challenging. AND I’m okay that I’ll never be very good. Who cares?!"
Contrarians. A lot of people dislike stuff simply because it's popular, they think it makes them edgy and cool but they just seem like defiant teenagers to me nowadays.
I think this is just normal. When you are young you usually don't know yourself as well as when you are older. It's easier going with the flow, following trend and so on. When you are older you realize it's pointless. You know better what you like and what you dislike and you realize that you shouldn't change yourself or your opinion just for others people's sake. Of course this is not something that happens to everyone, but imo this is just the normal process that becoming more mature entails (still there are very mature 20yo and very immature 40yo, so it's not a golden rule)
Getting older has definitely increased the frequency of me doing an internal eye-roll and sarcastically thinking, "My, aren't you deep."
I don't dislike it because it's popular...but because I just don't like it ...Crazy huh?
As a high school teacher, the defiant teenagers were often the ones who made the job exciting and worthwhile. (Okay, and I saw myself in them.)
Oh, so people have to like something popular and if we don't we're just "defiant teenagers"? If that's how people want to think then by all means. I'll continue avoiding overly-hyped stuff to my heart's content.
I am a contrarian myself, but I hate other contrarians at the same time.
I call them "bandwagon haters", but same thing. I'm with you on this one.
I guess that makes me a defiant teenager then if it means keeping my ability to think and analyse information for myself.
Crowds. I’m the guy at house parties that sits outside by the fire pit all night.
Mosquitoes is what is wrong about that. But I guess I'm just delicious.
Load More Replies...If we can relate, and I know a lot of us do, that's gonna be one crowded firepit. I guess I'll be sneaking back in the house. With the dog
Same, only if the host/hostess has a dog or cat, where you find their pet, you’ll find me too. Guaranteed.
Loud noises in general.
I lost my hearing due to loud music.. it does Suck!
Load More Replies...I have to wear headphones all the time because my ears are too sensitive.
Don't you just hate it when someone starts shouting at you to take them out because they think you're listening to music?
Load More Replies...Same here. Inversely, I listen to loud music; however, I see this as a way of me controlling my listening experience. It isn't a sudden, unexpected loud noise.
In the car, I can hear the siren, but cannot determine the direction it comes from. Makes me so nervous.
I have an issue with sensory overload now. It produces temper, explosive outbursts, and I don't always have my meds and a drink handy if not at home. I remember being able to talk on the phone, read, and watch TV all at the same time. So this is really frustrating.
I know a couple people who are gonna be deaf by the time they're 45 and it's just gonna be like 🤷♀️
But getting older certainly isn't all bad. Debbie says, "The best part of getting older is that you care less about a lot of things (whether you’re good at something, for example). At the same time, you gradually, very gradually, start to appreciate the simplest things: getting outside for a walk on a fall day when the sky is blue and the leaves are yellow. Or walking down the street holding your partner’s hand (in my case, a husband of almost 50 years)."
If you'd like to hear more wise words from Debbie, be sure to check out her podcast about making the most of getting older, B[OLDER], right here!
Kids.
I can't wait to get a cane so I can shake it at them while yelling to get off my lawn.
I bet my generation was worse as kids... because we actually spent a lot of time outside, causing all sorts of trouble ;)
Same! I can't stand them at all, even now at the age of 34, so I can't imagine what it will be like even further down the line. I really wish there are apartment complexes where only people without children may live - I'm sure there's an unheard market for it!
Try a retirement village, fake your age as older.
Load More Replies...We would run through backyards and across lawns without a thought. We'd walk into each others houses without thinking as well. Our parents put up with a lot.
Playing kick the can in the dark, running through and hiding in peoples yards...so much fun. (Small town, no crime, folks all knew each other)
Load More Replies...Truth. I was a kid I the 60's and I guarantee we were little assholes.
Load More Replies...Trust me, you don't want to need a cane. It's more fun squirting them with a hose, anyway.
I like having kids around. It's real life happening. I like hearing them outside, shooting hoops or playing soccer or baseball. So much better than picturing them inside sitting in front of a screen of some kind. But then, I don't have any really obnoxious ones around me, so maybe that's why.
You don't have to yell at kids to get them off your lawn if you have an underground sprinkler system.
LOL Kids love sprinklers. My daughter would go on walks and love it when she found the house with the sprinkler. Of course she wouldn't go on the lawn, as I've raised her to mind other people's property, but she would walk by slowly waiting for the fountain of water to sprinkle over the sidewalk.
Load More Replies...Ignorance. It's almost always harmful and, at sone point, seems willful.
My daughter is a teacher and the amount she gets paid for educating our kids is a total crime. Pay a guy who hits a baseball hundreds of millions but pay a teacher slightly more than a burger flipper will eventually lead to disaster. Look how ignorant the citizens of this country have become. Shameful!!!
Weaponized ignorance is the absolute worst. "I don't know and I know I don't know, and I have no intention of learning!"
I can accept that some people are just ignorant. What gets to me are people who desperately cling to their ignorance, sometimes even becoming militant about it.
Yep. Anti-vaccine madness. Started with the Corona vaccine now somehow all vaccines are witchcraft and the go to excuse is allergic reaction from people who dont have allergies of any kind.
It's never a bliss! Sit down with that person, and explain it to them. It gives them understanding, and helps them in the long run. This person,, may come back for more lessons. That's ok! At least, their wanting to learn.
Where do I find people like you out here in the real world? 🥺
Load More Replies...This is the worst part of living in the US right now. We need to prioritize education. If every school, grade,and class prioritized logic and critical thinking then we would not be in the mess of lies and abuse we are in now.
Going to work. Working in general.
I totally feel incompetent to do any job now days. Why does everything have to be "fast paced, multi-tasker, blah blah blah"? I don't want to be a multi-tasker anymore.
doing much more with less people... getting paid for one while doing a job of three... enough said...
Load More Replies...I don't mind going to work, but I absolutely hate getting up early. I'm a "night owl" and the period before noon is my least productive time of the day.
I have this bad, insomnia meds only help so much. F**k chronotypicals
Load More Replies...I think some of it has to do with perspective. You don’t have to love your job but if it allows you to have most of the things you want and need in life, it can be viewed as a net positive. That’s not to say you should stay at a job you hate or one that is causing harm to others even if it pays well (that can be soul-crushing) but if you can free yourself from believing it needs to be “fun” or “fulfilling,” that can help a bit so long as you find fun and fulfillment elsewhere.
This is not an age thing. In fact, I don’t know many people who love going to work unless they’re doctors or artists. Never heard an office worker say they’re happy about their job.
100%. I hate my job. It’s soul destroying. However, I’m reasonably good at it and it pays well. If I wanted to change careers I’d need to take a huge pay cut, take an entry level post and probably go back to college to retrain. There comes a point when you’re trapped and just can’t afford to get out. Making children decide what they want to do with their lives when they’re 17/18 is ridiculous.
Load More Replies...2 years from retiring and I could not agree more. It is a struggle just to get up now. Short timer attitude is VERY strong.
That happened to me. And quit in a whim with no planning. Not recommended. I have no family so my actions only affect me and my pets. Now I have a second career that I chose, but it pays diddly squat. But my needs are few so I get by.
If I'm lucky, I still have 30 years of labor left. If not, I'll be working till I die.
Nobody can stay young forever, so we might as well embrace the beautiful process of aging. But that doesn’t mean we have to enjoy everything as much as we used to! Keep upvoting the responses noting things that don’t feel the same as they used to, and feel free to mention any more you think of in the comments below. But we’re also curious, what do you pandas think gets better with age? Christmas might not feel the same, but I’m guessing a cozy night in and the satisfaction of having a clean house are a lot more enjoyable now than they were to teenage you. We’d love to hear your thoughts!
Deciding what to cook for dinner. You want chicken and chips great, 3 course meal great just tell me what you want to eat
This is so true. I swear if they say " I don't care, whatever" they are getting a can of cat food and crackers.
Only that doesn't work. They don't know what they want but they know what they DON'T want.
Load More Replies...I hated having to plan and cook meals. And I had a house-husband who would greet my return from work with the question "What's for dinner?" I learned to answer, "I don't know. You've had all day to plan and prepare a meal. What IS for dinner?" He NEVER got the message. We are no longer a couple.
Wasn't really a house husband; more like a a lay about. Being a homemaker is about taking up the home part of the division of labor.
Load More Replies...I started enjoying dinnertime a lot more once I stopped trying to always answer the question, "Whats for dinner?" from my husband, every night. About twice a week I look him dead in the eye and say, "I dont know. Im not cooking anything," and he"ll start making suggestions about what HE can cook and then he does it. Was a real game changer for us! 😂
One-pot meals are quick and easy. Just make what you want, if they are not in the mood for that. Oh well.
I don't want to cook and eat it myself, but I have to feed family
Load More Replies...I don't mind cooking, but I hate having to figure out what to make that will satisfy everyone. 🙄
You can find a meal randomizer online. It can help if you're in a rut.
New music, I don't have the time to care about what's relevant or "in" anymore. I'm sure it's great, but it's just so much easier to stay in my comfort zone with all the to-dos of life.
You shouldn't I think. I'm the same. I know which music I like and which I don't. I'm only looking for new music when I'm listening for something that I've never heard before and I really like it (for example in a movie or in a tv show).
That's what I like about Pandora or similar. Listen to what I like and its algorithm is pretty good about pulling in music that is new to me that I actually like and wouldn't have known about otherwise.
Load More Replies...As a a jazz pianist and composer, finding music I like is impossible on the radio. I thank Spotify for having an algorithm that finds music similar to what I previously selected. I have discovered hundreds of unknown artists who create fantastic intelligent music!
But I love finding new music I like. That's what the music discovery algorithms on streaming services are for. Just put in some stuff you know you like, and it plays new stuff based on that. It's easy.
I probably will disagree with you on this... To me it is simple - if the melody and lyrics resonate with you, then just enjoy it. If not, tune to something else. You don't have to be crazy about new music, just be yourself
There is a lot of great new music out there, you just have to dig really deep to find it. Spotify is pretty good at suggesting new metal bands for me based on what I listen to, and I've discovered some really amazing bands.
I can't truly agree with this one. There's always amazing new music out there. Just don't expect to hear it on the radio. I read blogs and zines about the kinds of music I like and check it out on YouTubeMusic. There is a ton of amazing new metal bands out there. Bandcamp is also a great resource.
I usually surface every so often and listen to new music. Some of it is wonderful, but some I don’t really care for—-not that it’s awful, per se, it’s just maybe not my taste. When I find new music I really like, I buy it.
Waking up at 5 am to p**s.
Right??? If I make it all the way to 5:00 am without being woken by some bodily function or other, it feels like a magical event!
Load More Replies...But it gets worse. My schedule is 3 times during sleep, that is if do not consume liquid before bed, and during sleep. I love drinking water and that's difficult. My cat has it worse lol, I wake her up thrice at night, if we are lucky :)
My cats refuse to move when I fall out of bed for the loo. Then I have to wriggle back under the covers so I don't disturb them.
Load More Replies...Well, you can skip waking up. But, be assured, you will not enjoy that either, and no healthcare insurance will pay your pads or diapers to be used at night. Even bedwetting costs you money.
... if one could chose before going to sleep, that would be fine. Some days, the extra sleep for not waking up would be worth more to me than not wearing a diaper. After all, there's worse ... seen a train toilet lately?
Load More Replies...Or going to sleep nice and early because you’re exhausted, and being awakened from what feels like the best damn sleep of your entire life at 1am by a loudly whining dog, by the side of the bed less than 12 inches from your face, whose bladder is about to burst all over your rug-covered wood floor. Even though you took him out at 9:30 pm before you got into bed, and he peed the River Jordan.
Can't relate to that. I am nearing 60 and can drink a litre of water before bed and never get up to pee........but I am female and have never had children. Could be the reason......thank you kegels......😁😁
I’m over 70, female with no kids and wake every night after roughly five hours, whether I drink or don’t drink before bed. Nothing makes a difference, just miserably awake in the wee small hours…
Load More Replies...3am, 4.30am, 7.30am. Oh sh*t gotta get up in half an hour... and I never had but a sip of water the whole night!
Try multiple times at night. Part of my insomnia issues. I take meds that dry my mouth out. I am never without a jumbo water jug. It's gotta come out sometime!
Holidays. As kids it's about opening presents and eating, but as adults you need to be the one to cook the big meals all day and buy the presents for everyone. Halloween was getting excited about dressing up and getting free candy but now it's about buying candy to give away and maybe buying an expensive costume
Don't pay attention to most but I no longer enjoy anything about xmas. Some of the damn stores start putting out xmas stuff in August. Its all Buy! Buy! Buy! I don't give gifts. I don't want gifts. The *only* good thing about it is that by the end of december - it all stops.
As a jazz musician I dread being subjected to insipid Christmas music in public places. Can;t wait until it all ends.
Load More Replies...Hi, I'd just like to share what the holidays are about for me. The changing of the seasons, paying attention to the whispers of the earth, cuddling up with soft animals, lighting candles. Being with people I love. Staying indoors and sipping hot beverages or going for cold winter walks. Life if beautiful. We can't let corporate america take away the pleasures of the earth from us. The holidays are for everyone.
I honor Christmas for those who celebrate it but put my focus on the Solstice. Holiday Cards and festive clothing are about lights and greenery rather than Santa and snowflakes.
Load More Replies...I can only speak for myself, but I found that the reason the holidays lost much of their magic for me, was because I was the one doing all the work to make it happen. All the planning, shopping, cooking, cleaning, sending cards and invitations, decorating...it all got so exhausting. I think a lot of women find themselves in this position. I simply stopped. I'm happy to purchase gifts for my closest loved ones, but I stopped doing all the extra stuff so I can enjoy holidays again.
Same. I'm not buying Christmas presents for every Tom, D**k, and Harry that I had minimal contact with. I'm not cooking and hosting big parties for anyone (I'll show up to other people's and bring a dish to pass.) I'll put in effort to celebrate with my houshold and my parents but that’s it. Maybe it's different if you have kids, but I think the holidays are what you make of them.
Load More Replies...I don't mind Christmas. In fact I look forward to it. I've got grandkids and I love it when the whole family gets together (I also love it when they leave!). My kids help with the cooking and I love planning things like treasure hunts around the house, quizzes and just general fun stuff (like getting the kittens out of the tree for the 50th time). We're not big on presents, just having great food and family time.
I don't have kids but my interests also switched from loving to get presents to looking forward to people's reactions when they open the presents I picked out for them. I'm definitely not a holiday enthusiast anymore, but I'm managing to hold on to enjoyable parts!
Load More Replies...I wish I had that problem. I would love nothing more than to spend the holidays with my family. It's been decades. Be careful what you wish for, and I mean this in the friendliest and most caring way possible, try to count your blessings. It'll make you feel better about things, trust me ❤ Life's too short
By contrast, I still LOVE holidays! I love getting to see the kids in their costumes and how their faces light up seeing our decorations and the handfuls of candy we’re giving them. I love the compliments I get on my cooking. And we give a collection of “useful” smaller gifts to our grown kids and parents… things we know they’ll use, but won’t necessarily buy for themselves. My daughter loves them so much that she tells me I “win Christmas” every year. And now that my partner has a grandbaby, we’re enjoying putting together a collection of smaller gifts to act as an advent calendar box for December. She’ll have a gift to open every day from us, until her bigger one on Christmas Day. I love making the holidays fun for other people!
Why should only one person do all the work for a large Xmas or whatever meal? Share the work, you bring the vegetables, you the dessert or a dessert, you the meat, some else the breads, etc etc. And if you don't bring food you wash up!
I enjoy Christmas, but because time has sped up as I've gotten older, I've come to feel less excitement about it. It's like, "Geez! Is it Christmas again already?" So I've switched to only decorating and doing a lot of baking every other year, instead of every year, and that's made it more enjoyable.
Mostly what I dislike about holidays in my neck of the world (USA) is the way they now get aggressively flexed to proselytize and enforce beliefs. Thanksgiving? A lie concocted to seal the myth concerning manifest destiny. The actual event never took place. The Wompananaug natives were too busy being dead from the European gift of smallpox. Christmas? Me: Happy Holidays! Them: Officer, that man just brutally attacked me with his atheist words!
Dating. I just turned 40 and I feel like I may never find someone
I understand this one to the core of my soul. Before meeting the beautiful woman I'm with now, I was single for over 6 years (I'm 44). I had gone out on dates and 99% of those dates, the check couldn't get there fast enough and I couldn't wait to get out of there. I can truly appreciate what you're saying and feeling, because I thought my heartbreak and loneliness was just going to be it for me, for the rest of my life. I found a great woman though who took a chance on me, and me with her and I've haven't smiled and laughed so much in such a very long time. My heart finally fills good again. I'm not hurting and feeling hollowed out inside any longer. I finally feel love again in my heart. I know it's difficult, please don't give up. I know I almost did, I was so close to giving up. Please hang in there.
That's so sad. I can't begin to imagine being on my own at my age (69). My husband of 41 years and I were involved in a car accident recently- no one was hurt thankfully- but it seemed to reinforce how much we mean to each other. I can't bear the thought of losing him.
I married the best guy ever in my 40s. Me, him, my 4 children and 1 grandchild stood at the altar that day as we said our vows. That was 19 years ago and every year on our anniversary I say, "Well, it's worked out pretty well so far. You wanna try it for another year?" He always says yes. 😊 Marriage is NOT the path for everyone, but I'm sure glad it's been mine.
Hahaha that's what we do on our anniversary! Changed your mind yet? No, you? No.
Load More Replies...I'm 34 and feel like this. Wasted the past five years of my life on my first ever boyfriend, and in the end I'm not sure how much he lied to me (or didn't tell me), not to mention all the compromises I made while he made little to none. Part of me really wants to find someone - that part of me that once truly believed in love. But there's a far bigger part now that cannot fathom putting faith in a person again, fearing that it will all be for naught again. I don't how how to trust someone again. I miss the nice things about a relationship, but am too afraid to go look for it again. Probably gonna end up as a crazy old cat lady once I get cats, but hey, better than heartbreak, deception and disappointment...
Find your own happiness do your own healing and you never know what might happen. But I understand that it is also ok to be on your own. I took my time to heal from my past and I would never have got involved with anyone if I wasn't ready. The relationship that I'm in now, will be my last one; I can't face going through everything all over again, especially when I've met somebody who is perfect for me.
Load More Replies...Same. Then I worry that if I do find someone I'll be too set in my ways for it to work out anyway.
Yes, particularly that I don't want to change some of my ways. After being in a 4 year abusive relationship, there's less I am willing to change.
Load More Replies...As an asexual, I cannot fathom these types of people. Dating is just not the end-all-be-all...
Everyone is different...some are looking for a partner to share their life wih, others prefer to be on their own. No one is wrong in what they want.
Load More Replies...Please know that your pain can end without notice, in the most unexpected way. I divorced at age 44, fully expecting to be single for the rest of my life. But guess what? I met my second spouse in a most unlikely way. I finally got laughter back. We've been happy for 24 years now.
I’m deeply sorry for all those desperately looking for a partner to spend the rest of their lives with and relying on apps like Tinder. It’s downright crazy what “material” is out there and how people get treated like things you just get rid of if you’ve no use for them anymore. Also, it seems like that behind every second or third profile there’s a romance scammer.
Having social interactions, even going out with my friends is tiring.
I'm supposed to take part in my university bazillionth graduation anniversary tomorrow and the closer it gets, the less interested I am.
What friends? Seem I'm childless, not by choice, and no grandchildren to brag about, I have no friends in our very rural community.
That's why there's booze and treats. Never leave home without something
Going out with my "friends" is tiring too, but that's for a totally different reason than apathy.
Unnecessary noise.
Same but.. I can't seem stop talking :'( , my anxiety won't let me. The whole time i just keep thinking, "shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up!" But i keep going.. Any1 else have this issue?
Load More Replies...Necessary noise too. Like truck back up signals. Very useful, but I want to drop a forklift on the driver.
And for extra context: I work in a warehouse, and we have trucks in and out most days. A few years ago a driving school opened up right next door, giving Class 1 and 2 training, meaning semi trucks and a school bus. Now it's almost impossible to tell when someone's backing in, or if they're just training (and often blocking our bays). All day, endless beeping.
Load More Replies...This. I'm very introverted and noise clutter gets on my nerves something bad. As it happens my older boy's got asperger and he just loooves emergency vehicles, and my younger boy's got ADHD and NEVER EVER shuts up. Mindless yammering out of tune singing stomping around kicking furniture, just an endless wall of noise all.the.time. I usually have to wear bluetooth hearing protectors at home and blast music or sth just so I don't go postal on them.
With tinnitus, there is always noise. I like to choose what noise I hear.
My grandsons... Have started this thing, were they like to scream, constantly! My upstairs neighbor, thought I was beating them! Called the landlord on me! Plus, telling everyone I was beating on them! I went to her door, and confronted her. I told her, to please stop calling the landlord on me, she doesn't know what's going on. It's just them playing. She told me she understands, but, she want the one doing it. I Heard her in the stairs on the phone after that saying; oh, it's ok! She's not hurting them, their just screaming really loud. Ugh!
That's why I where silicone earplugs about 75% of the time. Having tinnitus is bad enough without blaring TVs.
Lack of leisure time. When I was younger, it wasn’t a oh deal to go from work to gym to home to right back out half an hour later to bar hop or movie or something.
Now it’s like work…. Aw hell, gym? Not even half an hour to chill? No? F*ck. After gym I’m not doing sh*t the rest of the night.
And the "rest of the night" is like two hours to 1. Make dinner 2. Eat dinner 3. Make lunch for work tomorrow because payday is 3 days away and you're broke. 4. Do the laundry you skipped doing over the weekend and now you're out of clean underwear. Oh, and if you have kids...
When my kids were young, until they were 15+. I worked 15-18 hours a day. I held four jobs at a time. Housekeeping, cashier, stock person, and detail cars out of my car. I would: come home, feed my kiddo, bathe them, put them to bed, and I'd shower and go to bed. 6 days a week. Sunday, was church day, and anything goes to bed with my kids. Parks, city pool, movies, or camping. Most times, take two days for camping every third moni. I missed out on so much with my kids growing up .. I was a single mom, and I wanted my kids to have whatever they needed, or wanted. My house, was paid for, and living on top of a mountain, I had a well connected to my electric. So, the only bills I had was; electric, and phone for the computer. I guess, I really didn't need to work that much. But, I didn't live off the state. I eventually, dropped all but housekeeping, and started my own business. It cut me down to 8-9 hours, and weekends off. It's not worth it being a workaholic.
And feel guilty that I am ignoring daily tasks at home. There is always something to clean or repair. And felt left out when other people made all sorts of weekend plans while I was home scrubbing toilets and washing windows. Did they have housekeepers?
During COVID I built the gym at my house. Now the problem is having the motivation after work drains me.
I work very physical job, I don't need gym 😅 But when I go home, I have zero desire to leave - no bread, shīt, I'm eating pasta tonight.
People with huge "look at me!" life-of-the-party personalities who have no off switch. I spent my younger years seeking friendships/relationships with this type of person, maybe because I wished to be more like that, but after years of being the supporting sidekick bestie to a series of main characters, I find them exhausting.
my other answer was "doing anything at all" but that's probably depression.
Yes and also feeling like you have to shrink yourself back for these people because they get jealous if any attention is taken away from them.
Don't. Don't ever lessen yourself because someone is so insecure that they need all eyes on them at all times.
Load More Replies...I don't mind people like that. Everybody's different. Makes life interesting. What's really great is you get to choose the kind of people you actually like to hang out with to be your friends. A lot of "look at me" type people are honestly very insecure inside and think they need outside validation to feel good about themselves. I feel sorry for them
I'm a bit more like that person. I always tell people that the quiet ones are possibly bitterly angry that no one is holding their hands and drawing them into the conversation, begging for their input, so I do try to do that for people. When I give you your opening, Be ready with something to say!!! :)
Extroverts suck the energy from introverts. Maybe they don't want to say anything, especially to you. They owe you nothing. They might get bitterly angry that you are intruding.
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Going to the damn grocery store
I still love a good grocery store. But toy stores lost most of their luster by the time I hit my 30s.
Maybe you should try going there late in the evening when noone else is around shopping. Always enjoyed Tesco before midnight.
Where I live in Georgia I call the local grocery store Ghettomart simply because of the lack of manners people have. Where did the phrases "excuse me" "please?" Or "thank you" go?
Grocery stores are fine, it's the other people in them that's the issue. I know you drove here so why can you not figure out how to drive a shopping cart? Who parks them sideways across the entire aisle? And why do stores keep moving items or don't put logical things together? Seriously crackers go in the same isle as soup not in with cookies! And why have salsa in a different aisle as the nacho chips?
I can't stand when stores move the entire stock of an item to some random endcap of an aisle that has nothing to do with it just because it's on sale for that week. The number of times I would deliberately look for the sale item, only to not find it where it USUALLY is, is just so frustrating.
Load More Replies...It seems, every time I go in, the prices are way higher than the week before. People standing in the way,I say excuse me, and I get the "why" look. I moved over for someone to go around me, and they look at me disgusted, especially when I say, you're welcome. I hate going!
Not when they’re crowded, since they only ever open two aisles and leave the other 12 closed, even when the line at each of the two practically reaches all the way to the back of the store.That’s what I like about WFH. Since I don’t have to waste time commuting, I can take that time to do stuff like grocery shopping—-early morning during the week when there’s no one else there. In and out quickly. Love it.
Rollercoasters. The more I see how little people care about their jobs, the more I questions how well put together those things are—especially at fairs and carnivals 😬
I lost the ability to ride most carnival rides in my mid 20s. I used to love them but these days my motion sickness is so easily triggered I can't even use a regular swing set for more than 5 minutes :(
I used to love roller coasters but maybe thirty years ago I went on Star Tours at Disneyland. It's not an especially fast ride but my contact lenses blew out & I felt sick. That was my last -- and they're ten times as scary now!
Load More Replies...I'm getting old, but I still love rollercoasters. I just don't like walking around in the amusement parks. If I just had a little hoveround to get from one ride to the next. 🤔
Load More Replies...I read a while back that carnival rides are usually safer than rides at theme parks. This is because the same people are constantly assembling the rides and taking them down afterwards; they are more likely to notice when parts are getting worn out and other maintenance issues. Also, traveling carnival rides are always inspected by a government agency ( Consumer Product Safety Commisssion). Theme park regulations are left to the state and not inspected as frequently.
I used to be a roller coaster junkie. I was the one who loved to go on the craziest rides I could find. However, once I turned 50 every time I went on a ride a roller coaster I felt like throwing up. I used to love it so much and I hate the fact that I can't do it anymore
I used to love carnival rides but I take so many meds now they upset my stomach.
Gotta say, at 61 years old, I do still love a good roller coaster, especially one that gives you lots of really good “air time”.
Driving. I used to drive to do fun stuff like pick up my friends, go places I wanted to be, or just cruise during the night and enjoy the air.
Now I drive to work. Even though my car is a million times more fun to drive, Im perpetually annoyed.
Former rally driver here. I've realised that I'm quite happy being a passenger these days.
Lol, you v sound like my SO... Before we moved here, he was almost always the one to drive. The last two years however he just loves to be driven around. The only time he'll enjoy the drive is when he gets to drive around our "middle of nowhere" fields with all the hills, cow trails and if the road terrain... We both enjoy where we drive ;)
Load More Replies...I used to love the absurdity loud radio and the speed. Now I'm quite happy at home in my pajamas wearing ear plugs.
... only exception of that that I had was, when I had inherited Grandpa's Mercedes and had a long Autobahn way weekly - although I never got to make the 284 km in less than 100 minutes, 100 minutes straight was possible, averaging at 170 kph. THAT was fun. But ... it had downsides, of course - that car drank 16 liters on 100 km then. OTOH, in Berin, averaging at like 17 kph, it drank the same (streamlined body and underside, heavy weight - relatively low thirst on Autobahn, too much in town...).
I still love driving. I live out in the country and some Sundays I'll just pick a direction and go for a scenic drive.
I'd love to still do that... I live in Southern California and I used to be able to drive for an hour and I could get to ANY climate/land type I wanted. Now gas is $7 a gallon here and I don't even turn on my AC or heater to try and save gas :(
Load More Replies...We retired recently and moved from a large city to a small rural town. I love the minimal traffic! The longest wait at a traffic light here has been about two minutes.
It's mostly too damn crowded to really DRIVE anymore. At best we motor but mostly we wait in line.
The rush hour is terrible but I do like to go out for a drive, no destination, just go out and back
Motorbike - yes. Mini - yes. But, some old beater that carries you over the Autobahn, without wasting too much time - just wanna arrive...
Load More Replies...Not to mention the high gas prices. All you can do is go to work you can't afford anything else. It's stupid.
When I was younger I used to drive all the time. Loved to drive I'd put on over 20000 miles a year (which is not so unusual nowadays but was when I was in my 20s). I've owned my car 7 years and have driven 22000 miles in that time. I don't hate to drive but now I only drive when I need to.
I love to drive especially long trips alone. Can listen to what I want as loud as I want. Absolutely refreshing
Alcohol. It’s getting harder for me to bounce back on Sunday Fundays. So much so that I moved them to Saturday.
18-19 at uni - party every night study every day. 30's - 2 beers on a Friday, hungover till Tuesday. Now 60 - have to cross the road not to walk past pub, fumes will kill me ;o)
Too funny! But I hear you! Used to be a trained professional. Now a couple drinks does me in.
Load More Replies...I gave it up years ago. I will have the odd one occasionally especially a cold beer on a hot day. But otherwise I just can't see the point. Drinking excessively only leads to heartache. And it's expensive.
Amen. I've been teetotal (bar one night where I gave in) for five months and I don't miss it at all.
Load More Replies...Maybe give yourself a 2 drink limit. You don’t have to drink till you pop.
When I was young, I learned my limits fast. I have a rather delicate stomach, and I get so miserably sick if I drink too much. It’s unpleasant to the point where it’s just not worth drinking too much and getting that sick—-so sick I swear I’m going to puke up my damn shoes. I never got to be a heavy drinker because of it, which isn’t such a bad thing, really.
The agendas of institutions and corporations. Realizing that my partner and I are the only people that have our best interest at heart. Every other entity wants to exploit us for our attention, our money, and our will. We are more than just pawns in someone’s agenda. It seems as if more and more people are mindless pieces in someone else’s game.
Going out to have fun lol I rather a quiet night in
That my parents are getting older.
That my parents are dead. They died when they were elderly and I still can't comprehend they are no longer here.
This. My Dad died a couple of years ago at the age of almost 66, and now I'm more scared than ever of losing my mother. She is so very, very important to me... After she's gone, I'll literally be all alone (well, I have a brother, but we're alienated from each other). I don't know how to make it without her... the grief might be too much :'(
I know what you mean. My Mom lived with my husband and me the last 17 years of her life and when she died, it shattered both of us. We love each other's parents like they're out own and it's a tough situation when you watch the people who raised you suddenly needing you to care for *them*. It took us awhile to figure out how to live together as adults, but we did it. It took a lot of prayer and working out way through things, but we got there.
This. It's hard to acknowledge. I think about moving somewhat regularly, but I don't want to leave my parents. They're such awesome people, I really don't want to miss time with them. I'm also the only child without children, so I feel a duty to be close should they require care.
This is the hardest and most relevant thing for me on the list. I didn't even think about that one because thinking about it destroys me so so I don't let myself think about it. Like ever! Whether thats healthy or not is irrelevant. But this one is at the very top of my list. Now I need to go clear my head. My heartfelt condolences to all who have lost parents
Concerts. They used to be the thrill of my life. Now I hate the prices, the parking, the road tripping to get there. I’ve skipped out on even bucket list bands and I do t even care.
I have come to a point where the bigger the venue, the less likely I am to go. Yeah, it means missing some bucket list bands, but it means keeping myself safe and un-irked.
There's no point really, I personally would be so annoyed/panicky with all the people around I wouldn't enjoy seeing the band
Load More Replies...As a tech who repaired pro-audio equipment, I never attend pop or rock live performances anymore because the people controlling the mixing console have no idea what they are doing. They adjust the equalization to sound like a car stereo with overwhelming bass, no midrange, and piercing high treble. The sound system's tone is so unbalanced and un-natural sounding. Classical concerts are the exception.
Replace concert with sporting event for me. You can still get a decent seat at a baseball game for not-too-much money but the drive, the cost of parking, the cost of food, the crush of people leaving the stadium after the game, exiting the parking lot. Not worth it anymore
I think Smart HD big screen TV's and replays have made it infinitely better to just watch games at home...!!! Missed entire cricket match final due to rude people and overcrowding - that was it for me.
Load More Replies...I really wanted to see Genesis on their farewell tour but even just the "nose-bleed section" seats started out at $350.
Dating scene and overall toxicity in it.
At this point I would rather invest in coziness and every animal I can give a happy time to :)
Yes! I like to think that I am "in a relationship" with my two cats, my puppy, and a tank full of isopods XD
Load More Replies...People. Do not stay in the service industry longer than 10 years. It really changes your perspective of how we live and the system we are in (USA).
Any job where you have to deal with the general public is going to make you realise the sheer number of incredibly stupid, entitled, and crazy people there are in the world, and thus make you never want to leave your house.
New movies. Especially since the movie theater experience has really fizzled out. I used to get so hyped up for premieres. Now it’s just a release date on whatever streaming service. And a lot of new movies are just reboots of old stuff. Yawn.
At first, I didn't mind reboots, but there are so many more, with the same characters regurgitated again and again. Come on! Get it together!
Working. Getting drunk. Politics. People.
Getting out of bed!
Hallelujah. Worked late shifts and nights for years so we could feed our kids. Now they've left the nest and I'm a free bird. I refuse to get up early if I don't have to. My little luxury.
Getting up early feels like a slow death. Made even worse by not getting enough sleep due to having nightmares and other sleep-related disorders (which appear and disappear at random)...
I feel for you. The only time I willingly get up early is when I'm afraid to go back to sleep because of the nightmares. Or when I've given up on lying down, vainly hoping to fall asleep.
Load More Replies...Not sure why you're being downvoted.... very valid point. I don't know why I need to live with it, despite trying not to be like this.
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As much as I hate to say it, video games. Not that I like them less inherently, but it feels like as an adult, I'm entering into a long term relationship every time I start a new video game that I don't have time for.
The pile of shame for unfinished videogames is real.
As an old gamer, I can only see the oncoming backache.
Load More Replies...I'm strictly a retro gamer, and one of the reasons is exactly all the extra "baggage" that modern games involve - from nandatory internet access, through grinding to unlock stuff, to hunting achievements. Thanks, I'd rather play some low-res game from the 90's than endure all this.
Same. Every time I get tired of a game and stop playing, I'm stuck in the terrible in-between, the indecisive scroll, "Do I have the energy to play that?" "Am I feeling like playing that?" "Do I have the self discipline to pull myself away from that when I need to get ready for work?".
Load More Replies...I like video games, but I've always been absolutely horrendous at them. I can manage Pokemon, but that's about it.
Teenagers. I can't believe I turned into that guy who peeks out the window whenever he hears a skateboard.
I reckon, in evolutionary terms, the older people became sentries, watching-out for attacking raiders out at night to steal food, etc. Make them alert to outside noises, or even sit outside at night on watch, and allow the younger folk to rest. If they get attacked they will probably be able to scream an alarm to wake them up!
My partner is like a dog, every car that goes by he has to get up from the couch to look "if they're up to something"
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Being in a relationship. It was so easy to walk away from my last one. I remember being so upset when a relationship ended even just five or six years ago.
I have cancer now, so it'll be pretty hard to find someone else, but it's so weird...I don't even care. It's so much more peaceful being single. It may not be as fun, but the fun parts of my last relationship weren't worth nearly as much as having peace of mind most days.
I'm also fantastic at masturbation, so, that helps.
Edited: spelling error. Corrected for the chode who is definitely single!
I always thought it meant a penis that's wider than it is long.
Load More Replies...Asexual and A romantic quit forcing myself to have sex 40 years ago. Life is so much better when ya don't have to pretend all is so wonderful ugh. I have never ever masturbated and never will. I have never had any interest in sex my whole life. I am female with 7 sisters and they just cannot fathom being like me.
b******t i mean this in a blanket way which i think applies to all of us; the older we get, the less patience we have for things that we don’t agree with, or naturally aggravate us, or just plain out dislike for whatever reason. we classify it as “b******t” and shuffle it to the curb which is why it’s always important to keep a critical mindset; why do i dislike the things i do? why do i disagree with this thing/argument/person? i definitely feel myself getting into an “old man yells at clouds” mindset the older i get, which i think is natural, but not necessarily a good thing
Fake friendships.
Star Wars. It was so much better when it was basically just 3 movies and some books.
Whoever came up with the idea of "Jar Jar Binks" needs to be condemned to a North Korean labor camp.
There are some good new Star Wars Stories which I love like Andor, but what I hate is the ‘Disneyfication’ of everything. A large corporation which owns so many popular franchises; they turn out product for profit rather than creativity which then results in franchises like Star Wars losing what made them special in the first place. There are exceptions of course with directors or producer who have a passion for that original creativity to build on those ideas with their own. For example Gareth Edwards and Rogue One.
Andor is good! I felt like the films went horribly wrong after The Force Awakens.
Load More Replies...I watched the original Star Wars at least 10 times and the director's cut about halfway through. There's a reason scenes get cut from a movie. I saw the Empire Strikes Back once and when I drove past a fast food restaurant marquee that read "Return of the Jedi glasses are here" I decided I didn't care anymore.
The nice thing about movie and book franchises is that they're complete whenever you say they're complete.
I stopped enjoying so many franchises because they became way too oversaturated. We don't need a backstory for everything. (Although I understand pointless spinoffs are easy money grabbing machines)
And action movies in general. Boring watching another variation on a car chase, people who get punched sixty times before they go down or even bleed, an endless fight with the villain at the end. And idiotic plots.
The world in general. I still have a passion for helping others (hence why I’m studying physiotherapy & trying to go to medical school after that) but I also have disdain for people in general, especially stupid, ignorant people. Alcohol, just don’t enjoy drinking like I did when I was young.
How I look.
The mirror reminds me how old I am twice a day. My bladder does it every couple of hours.
I never cared. In my 20s I had some bad times when I thought I HAD to care because it was expected of me/expected by my boyfriend/etc. that I care about my appearance. Now I'm 40 and I'm happily back to not caring AND not worrying about what others think! And, because I never bothered with most of the "feminine" appearance stuff like dyeing/bleaching/styling my hair, or troweling on loads of makeup, or getting a tan, or getting plastic surgery/permanent makeup/etc., most people don't believe that I'm 40. I still look like I'm in my 20s. And I STILL don't care XD
Modern day social* politics I'm an older guy, not boomer age but older than most people I've met online. Point is, when I was younger, I fought the fight, I signed petitions, supported protests, mainly because when I was younger it was the new fight to be there for gay people, which I am. (Bi but I married a man so everyone just assumes I'm gay) But as I get older I see these things being more and more radicalized to the point where things that were very progressive and liberal when I was younger are now making me seem more and more conservative as time goes on And istg this makes me sound ancient, I'm pretty young but also old. Edit: social
Every cause, even the noblest one, can be soured by going into extremes. Example - the recent cases of environmentalists throwing soup/sauce at paintings. I am absolutely in favor of fighting climate change and reducing fossil fuel usage as much as possible (I've had this mindset since childhood), but attacking works of art is taking it way too far. It crosses the line.
Yes. I wish these t**ts would get booked for their crime w/o journalists chiming in to highlight the "cause." You hate something environmentally or socially awful? What's wrong with chaining yourself to a tree or a fencepost? Or take the front line in a social protest demonstration? Oh? That's uncomfortable? Might get hurt? So much for your credibility as a protester.
Load More Replies...Let me guess you’re Gen X without saying you’re Gen X. Lol Me too buddy. Me too.
I think were all just going in one big circle from generation to generation. Characters change, issues pretty much stay the same.
People under the age of 30. Not that there’s anything wrong with youth, it’s just that I’ve been there and it’s hard not to cringe seeing the next generation loudly doing all the cringy things my generation did loudly too. It’s nicer hanging out with people who have some maturity under their belts.
For me, the annoying thing is when the youngsters mock us for doing certain things and thinking in certain ways... even though it's quite obvious they would also start doing these things when they reach our age :P
Yeah. The next one who says "Hey, Boomer" to me is going to get an earful. Who exactly do they think built the early internet, without which, they all say, they could not live without? Yes, there WERE tech jobs in the 70's, 80's and 90's.
Load More Replies...Angry, depressing music. I used to listen to metal and hard rock all the time, but as time has gone on, it doesn’t have the same appeal. The loudness hurts my ears. The screaming is just… grating. I want music I can just relax and chill with. The lyrics even seem juvenile to me. After working as a firefighter for years, hearing people romanticize morbid subjects just seems, well… dumb. Every time I hear a metal singer talk about death and dead bodies, I just feel like… ew. Probably smells. I’m more mature, I’m a happier person. Give me some alt rock or EDM now and I’m happy.
There are many sub-genres of metal, by the way. Not all of it is "screaming", "depressing" or "angry". Symphonic metal, for example, is very beautiful when done right. Choose the sub-genre that fits you best :)
Bob Seger such a great artist also Tina Turner and Dr. Hook, The Eagles. Yes my age is showing
Social media. I’ve already pared it down to Reddit and Instagram YEARS ago but honestly could do without IG too now.
Going out drinking and clubbing. What used to be a fun way to end the week/an escape from work now actually feels LIKE work. Time to find a new hobby I guess 😭
TV
I absolutely extremely dislike TV. Quit watching years ago because commercials are so so mind numbing.
And all reality tv programs especially. Why do I want to watch someone else’s drama on tv? Hard pass.
Movies. I was already losing any desire to go to a movie theater before Covid hit, what with the prices of admission & food. It felt outrageous to blow fifty or sixty dollars for the two of us to see a movie (or *much* more than that back when we needed a babysitter.) Nowadays, there just aren't many movies that interest me much. Movies are more formulaic and less interesting than ever. Star-power seems to have faded over the last couple decades. And at a certain age, you feel like you've seen multiple versions of the same stories being told over and over. Once in a while something comes along that pushes those boundaries, but not very often (Fury Road was that movie for me).
Movies nowadays is only unnecessary sequels/prequels/spin-offs, marvel, 2 or 3 pretentious, broody-gloomy oscar bait slog fests and a occasional pearl in between everything...
"The King's Speech" for me. Accurate dramatization of historical fact does it for me. The human condition is an infinite pool of arcana, and fact is usually far stranger (and more interesting) than fiction. Historical rip-offs like "The Crown," not so much.
Load More Replies...Now in theaters: "Totally Completely Original (it's true) Movie part 4" (the reboot)
I hate that when I am looking for information on the internet that the first thing in a search is a video. If I wanted a video I know where to look. I can read ffs and it's not my fault people can not. Especially in public I do not want a video of someone teme an answer just give me the information ffs.
At last put captions if it's a video, I'm always already listening to something and don't want to pause it. No captions, I don't even bother.
Load More Replies...Society, as a whole, is ageist. I hate that I'm looked on as middle-aged when I don't feel it deep inside. People of my age and older can be treated differently in stores. People in positions of authority are mostly younger than me, eg, doctors, police, accountants, they used to be older!
I’ve always wondered what age people really feel like inside. I’m 42 and I think I’ll feel like I’m 25 forever-mentally anyways. It really changed my perspective when I realized that for the first time
Load More Replies...The older you get the less likely you are doing something for the very first time. Whatever experience it is, you habe probably witnessed something similar before. That can make life a bit less exciting than it used to be when you were younger. Less excitement isn't necessarily a bad thing, though...
I miss my sense of wonder. I'm so busy trying to survive, the magic of things are lost to me now.
Makeup. Most makeup. I have hypothyroidism, and lost my eyebrows my last year in HS. I draw them on and have for all time.... now? To do grocery shopping, errands, etc. i do not fracking care they are not on anymore.. I look strange? Then don't look. I could care less now. Sunscreen id what i put on now. For protection!
I used to love long distance road trips. Now, if it talkes longer than 3 hours, this girl flies
Or finally getting a chance to get on the internet and cannot read the story because of all the overlap in ads, and hit Next page puts it in another ads.
I hate that when I am looking for information on the internet that the first thing in a search is a video. If I wanted a video I know where to look. I can read ffs and it's not my fault people can not. Especially in public I do not want a video of someone teme an answer just give me the information ffs.
At last put captions if it's a video, I'm always already listening to something and don't want to pause it. No captions, I don't even bother.
Load More Replies...Society, as a whole, is ageist. I hate that I'm looked on as middle-aged when I don't feel it deep inside. People of my age and older can be treated differently in stores. People in positions of authority are mostly younger than me, eg, doctors, police, accountants, they used to be older!
I’ve always wondered what age people really feel like inside. I’m 42 and I think I’ll feel like I’m 25 forever-mentally anyways. It really changed my perspective when I realized that for the first time
Load More Replies...The older you get the less likely you are doing something for the very first time. Whatever experience it is, you habe probably witnessed something similar before. That can make life a bit less exciting than it used to be when you were younger. Less excitement isn't necessarily a bad thing, though...
I miss my sense of wonder. I'm so busy trying to survive, the magic of things are lost to me now.
Makeup. Most makeup. I have hypothyroidism, and lost my eyebrows my last year in HS. I draw them on and have for all time.... now? To do grocery shopping, errands, etc. i do not fracking care they are not on anymore.. I look strange? Then don't look. I could care less now. Sunscreen id what i put on now. For protection!
I used to love long distance road trips. Now, if it talkes longer than 3 hours, this girl flies
Or finally getting a chance to get on the internet and cannot read the story because of all the overlap in ads, and hit Next page puts it in another ads.
