Woman Upset Stepson Won’t Accept His Growing Up Gift, Gives Her A Taste Of Reality

Are you ESH and AH agree-ers delulu or high on some ganja with moronic side-effects? OP had all the reason in the world to not just cut but destroy all contacts with his "family"! They tried to erase his mother, his pillar of strength! If anything OP should've dumped that album in his sperm donor's face and tell him to keep it because that's "his" family, not OP's. OP being spiteful? I like to call that deserved spitefulness to his sperm donor and the pathetic imposter parading around as a "mother figure". Sheesh!!!

"It was very upsetting and disrespectful when you forced the photo album on me, but now that I reflect on it, it was very cathartic to dump it the way you dumped my mother's things. A big thank you!"

Am I the only one to think the mother's death was very convenient and by a means easily and surreptitiously achievable?

Yeah, the mom dying of a known allergy and dad just erasing her and marrying again in such a short time frame is way suspicious. Normally you'd at least save the photo albums and some jewelery or a favorite dress.

NTA, move on and consider things closed. Keep contact with mom's family if possible. Congrats on moving out, sounds like things are finally getting better. Long may it continue.

That last comment - "It sounds like your dad's wife isn't a bad person". What did that commenter read, because it can't have been this post. I mean, I can see how SHE thinks she's a good person, because most people think that about themselves, but she is deluded if that's the case.

People don't throw away the belongings of the one they lost, and they don't allow pictures to be destroyed. Is the kid sure it was an accidental "poisoning"?

I have a slight suspicion that dad killed mom... sorry

Dad was seeing stepmom before OP's mom died. Probably for a long time, given how much she wants to "replace" OP's mom in every role.

"I learned from you guys how to keep family pictures" I sorely wish I had the balls to do a similar gesture when I left home

No negative reaction is too much if someone takes your deceased mother's belongings to the dump, especially PHOTOS. He was fully justified to throw that album in the trash right in front of her. I'd have told her to F herself for good measure and dad too. What they did was equally or more traumatic than even getting hit. I'd have take punches in place of losing photos of someone I loved that is gone.

I mean, let's state the obvious - dad was definitely banging wife no. 2 prior to his first wife's death. Not surprised they both wanted to erase her.

My mom died, June 16, 1971, I was 8, my father married his mistress July 3, 1971, so I get how OP feels, they did some really traumatic things to my brothers and I the few years they did stay married, but at least they didn't try and erase my mother's memory and replace them.

Nta too bad you didn't point out that she didn't birth you.

yes. nothing more to say, just yes.

Maybe I watch too much true crime but ITA with those that are side eyeing the manner of the mother's death, the timing of the new relationship & the erasing of all things Mom once the new lady showed up. Was SM a waitress at the restuarant, did Dad already know SM, did Dad make sure Mom didn't have her epiPen that night, was the erasing of all things Mom an effort to make sure the kid didn't start asking these questions? I don't know, I think Mom's family should have opened an investigation. Either way, kid is NTA for tossing the SM's gift. You don't clear all photos & memories of a kids Mom & expect a harmonious relationship to blossom. He had every right to remember his Mom & had SM & Dad respected that maybe their home life could have been better.