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Parents Refuse To Discipline Teen After Vicious Rumor Endangers Aunt, Get Cut Off
Pool parties are supposed to be relaxing, where people come to enjoy the water, sun, and each other’s company.
However, during the one Reddit user Silent_Coconut_8060 and her husband threw for their family and friends, all the fun ended when her niece decided to spread lies about the guests.
For reasons known only to the teenager, she started sending her parents false texts about substance abuse at the event, leading to a fallout between them and the hosts.
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This teenager must really hate her aunt and her husband
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Because she just started spreading gross lies about them
Image credits: Karolina Kaboompics / pexels (not the actual photo)
Image source: Silent_Coconut_8060
Generally, teens are the biggest liars
Image credits: Craig Adderley / pexels (not the actual photo)
A study called ‘From Junior to Senior Pinocchio‘ looked at lying behaviors in more than a thousand people ages 6 to 77, and the researchers found that peak dishonesty does, indeed, occur in adolescence.
Part of the reason why is that during this period, we are still usually relatively immature, with weaker emotional regulation, impulse control, and communication skills.
Professor and chair of the psychology department at Oberlin College, Nancy Darling, Ph.D., has researched teen lying for more than two decades.
She has studied 10,000 young people between the ages of 10 and 24, and has done research in countries including the United States, Chile, the Philippines, Italy, Sweden, and Uganda.
Dr. Darling and her team have identified three basic types of teen lying. These are:
Lying by avoidance. This strategy involves steering people away from topics you do not want to talk about. Therefore, teens distract their parents from conversations that might force them to reveal information that they don’t want to share.
Lying by omission. When teens lie by omission, they leave out key pieces of information that they know would be important.
Lying by commission. This is intentionally making statements or telling stories that are not true, which seems to have been the case in our story as well. Dr. Darling says that this type of lying is rarer than the others; however, outright lies have the most negative impact on parent-child relationships.
According to The Josephson Institute, an organization that studies the ethics of American youth, the vast majority of teens agree that trust and honesty are essential in personal relationships. But they still lie:
- to get out of trouble;
- to do something they’re not allowed to or that is dangerous;
- because they believe their parents’ rules are unfair;
- because they think what they want to do is harmless;
- as a way to protect others’ feelings;
- to maintain privacy;
- and, most importantly, to establish their independence and autonomy.
Without knowing more about the teen, it’s difficult to accurately pinpoint her motives. But if the author of the post is telling the truth and it’s not the first time she’s done this, there might be deeper problems at play here.
As her story went viral, the woman provided more information on the whole ordeal in the comments
People pretty much unanimously said that she hadn’t done anything wrong
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Alexandra 1 year ago
Present your evidence and then go no contact with niece and her parents. Do not get roped into finding a solution for your nieces' troubles. Let them figure it out on their own: you can't afford getting involved.
MsLou 1 year ago
Exactly. Next time niece gets in a fight with parents, runs away, etc. she should NOT get involved and helped. She should just call the police and tell them about this niece
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CatWoman1014 1 year ago
Pathological or compulsive lying like that could indicate a personality disorder. This kind of behavior isn’t normal
Margaret Shannon 1 year ago
Clearly, this child is deeply troubled, and has behaved badly in the past. Her parents need to be more cautious.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
If both sets of parents are in law enforcement, and the sister and BIL believed the niece without finding out OP’s side of things, including the video, ffs, then they are absolutely s****y cops, who probably take that same b******t “he said she said” attitude about things like rape, even if the rapist is caught in the act! I mean yes, believe your children when they say something untoward has happened, but still investigate it and get the other person’s side of the story. Having the entire thing recorded is a huge windfall for any investigator, and can immediately lear up any doubts and lead them right to the truth of the situation. And yes, even though teenagers do sometimes lie, with the niece it seems to be habitual. I’m amazed she didn’t take a lying potshot at OP’s friend who drove the kids home. Then again, when the s**t hits the fan after her parents view the videotape, she might direct her attack at them and try to say something inappropriate happened in the car. Unless this issue of habitual lying is addressed and corrected, I don’t see a good future for this girl.
Pewpie Diaper 1 year ago
Hate to say it, but while I was growing up, all the kids I knew who had parents in a position of authority (police, teachers, pastors, etc.) were just rotten kids!
Scott Rackley 1 year ago
Same. For some reason only the principal's kid was cool. Well, the principal was cool too so I guess it rubbed off.
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Hannah Taylor 1 year ago
If a seven-year-old can tell a lie that can ruin an adult's career, imagine the damage that can be caused by a lying 17-year-old girl. The possibilities are endless. OP and husband are wise to make her sister's family persona non gratis, whether or not the niece admits her wrongdoing. They are simply enabling her behavior. Did anyone else here find the statement "I'm sorry you're upset" a little familiar? I believe that is a part of DARVO. The parents are fully aware that their daughter is lying. It's only a matter of time before she makes them the target. That, or she lies about the very wrong person. Then they won't have to pay for college, just the funeral arrangements.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
Present evidence, then NC. Let the niece reap the produce she sowed. Also, get her to therapy before she completely loses the plot. She's teetering on the edge.
Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
This girl has serious problems, she is crying out for attention. Until she gets help or matures enough to know better OP should limit contact to not being alone with her. Do not shut off the family all together. This can be irreparable and you could regret it later.
Alexandra 1 year ago
Present your evidence and then go no contact with niece and her parents. Do not get roped into finding a solution for your nieces' troubles. Let them figure it out on their own: you can't afford getting involved.
MsLou 1 year ago
Exactly. Next time niece gets in a fight with parents, runs away, etc. she should NOT get involved and helped. She should just call the police and tell them about this niece
Load More Replies... CatWoman1014 1 year ago
Pathological or compulsive lying like that could indicate a personality disorder. This kind of behavior isn’t normal
Margaret Shannon 1 year ago
Clearly, this child is deeply troubled, and has behaved badly in the past. Her parents need to be more cautious.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
If both sets of parents are in law enforcement, and the sister and BIL believed the niece without finding out OP’s side of things, including the video, ffs, then they are absolutely s****y cops, who probably take that same b******t “he said she said” attitude about things like rape, even if the rapist is caught in the act! I mean yes, believe your children when they say something untoward has happened, but still investigate it and get the other person’s side of the story. Having the entire thing recorded is a huge windfall for any investigator, and can immediately lear up any doubts and lead them right to the truth of the situation. And yes, even though teenagers do sometimes lie, with the niece it seems to be habitual. I’m amazed she didn’t take a lying potshot at OP’s friend who drove the kids home. Then again, when the s**t hits the fan after her parents view the videotape, she might direct her attack at them and try to say something inappropriate happened in the car. Unless this issue of habitual lying is addressed and corrected, I don’t see a good future for this girl.
Pewpie Diaper 1 year ago
Hate to say it, but while I was growing up, all the kids I knew who had parents in a position of authority (police, teachers, pastors, etc.) were just rotten kids!
Scott Rackley 1 year ago
Same. For some reason only the principal's kid was cool. Well, the principal was cool too so I guess it rubbed off.
Load More Replies... Hannah Taylor 1 year ago
If a seven-year-old can tell a lie that can ruin an adult's career, imagine the damage that can be caused by a lying 17-year-old girl. The possibilities are endless. OP and husband are wise to make her sister's family persona non gratis, whether or not the niece admits her wrongdoing. They are simply enabling her behavior. Did anyone else here find the statement "I'm sorry you're upset" a little familiar? I believe that is a part of DARVO. The parents are fully aware that their daughter is lying. It's only a matter of time before she makes them the target. That, or she lies about the very wrong person. Then they won't have to pay for college, just the funeral arrangements.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
Present evidence, then NC. Let the niece reap the produce she sowed. Also, get her to therapy before she completely loses the plot. She's teetering on the edge.
Fancy Nancy 1 year ago
This girl has serious problems, she is crying out for attention. Until she gets help or matures enough to know better OP should limit contact to not being alone with her. Do not shut off the family all together. This can be irreparable and you could regret it later.
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