“Husband Thinks I’m Paranoid”: Teacher’s Gut Feeling About Creepy Student Proves Chillingly Right

Healthy and clear boundaries are something everyone should aim to establish in every part of their lives, from work and school to relationships and friendships. They can lead to more mutual respect. However, things can start going wrong when a person completely disregards your basic privacy and makes you feel unsafe. It can be incredibly scary to realize that someone in your life may, in fact, be stalking you.

An anonymous high school teacher asked the internet for advice after a student’s off-hand yet particular comment shook her to her very core. Scared, the teacher conducted a thorough investigation of her home and found a couple of hidden camera devices. Scroll down for the full story and two very important updates. Bored Panda has reached out to the author for comment, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.

It can be shocking to learn that someone in your life has been spying on you

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A scared high school teacher turned to the internet for help after suspecting that her student may have been stalking her

Text excerpt about a student's creepy comment and the husband's view on paranoia.

Text about occasional student comments, usually humorous and well-meaning, made in a classroom or group setting.

Text from a teacher's perspective on chaperoning a school event.

Text about problematic students with social difficulties and poor hygiene, not participating in a monthly school event.

Text about a boy named Stewart protesting after drinking, mentioning a student's creepy comment.

Text displaying a student's comment to a teacher about their evening plans.

Text excerpt about feeling unsettled after a creepy student comment.

Text discussing a recent purchase of Baileys Irish Cream.

Text describing a habit of enjoying a bath and movie in a dressing gown.

Bullet point discussing a new television purchase by husband over Christmas.

Text image discussing a student's creepy comment, leaving the person shaken and questioning if they're being paranoid.

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Text discussing paranoia and disbelief about a student's creepy comment.

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Text describing feeling skittish at home due to noises, checking rooms, and having trouble sleeping; related to being paranoid.

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Text about a student's creepy comment and a husband's concern, emphasizing mental health.

Text expressing paranoia about a creepy comment made by a student.

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The woman later shared a bit more context about the frightening situation

Text update expressing gratitude for support on a student’s creepy comment, planning to check bluetooth and wifi devices.

Text discussing a careful search for hidden devices using a phone camera trick.

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Text describing a student's creepy comment, questioning coincidence.

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Stalking is a huge issue in the UK, and over a fifth of British women have been victims of it

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According to the Office for National Statistics in the United Kingdom, stalking involves two or more incidents causing distress, fear, or alarm.

Some examples of stalking include:

• “Receiving obscene or threatening unwanted letters, emails, text messages or phone calls;
• Having obscene or threatening information about them placed on the internet;
• A person waiting or loitering around their home or workplace;
• Being followed or watched.”

According to data, 1.5 million people aged 16 and over experienced stalking between March 2023 and March 2024. These levels of stalking have been “fairly consistent” over the past decade.

The Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW) found that women are more likely to be victims of stalking, with over one in five women (20.2%) having experienced stalking at some point in their lives since the age of 16.

Meanwhile, men are affected, too, though to a lesser extent, with 8.7% of men having been victims of stalking.

Most commonly, stalking victims are younger people. 8.8% aged 16 to 19 years of age experienced stalking between 2023 and 2024, as per CSEW.

Around 423k people were victims of domestic stalking, of which 314k were stalked by a partner or ex-partner, while 141k were stalked by a family member. 635k victims reported that the stalking had involved electronic communications to threaten or harass them.

When it comes to your safety, it’s very important that you listen to your gut

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Finding conclusive proof that someone has been spying on you in your own home can shock you deeply. It turns out that the one place where you assume you can relax and be yourself isn’t safe from prying eyes. It’s a violation of privacy, basic human decency, and your dignity.

In these situations, it’s very important to get in touch with the police and raise the issue with other authority figures, which is exactly what the teacher did. She wrote online that she was grateful for everyone’s advice, otherwise, she may have never found the hidden camera devices in the first place.

This is a good reminder that when it comes to your safety, you should always listen to your gut. If something genuinely feels wrong or weirdly ‘off’ when interacting with someone, then you should probably listen to that instinct.

It’s vital that you take action to address situations where you think you may be stalked, followed, or spied on. That being said, living in perpetual fear and paranoia also isn’t the answer. You need to find a personal balance in your life where you prioritize your safety without making your day-to-day life unbearable.

For example, checking your home for potential bugs after someone makes an oddly specific comment about how you spend your evenings is simply smart. You’re acting on relevant information and you’re verifying a theory you have about being spied on. On the other hand, sweeping your home for bugs twice each day because you think shadowy organizations might be out to get you would be taking things too far.

However, you should not allow anyone to gaslight you into thinking that you’re ‘just being paranoid’: again, if your gut’s alarm bells are ringing, listen to your instincts. Consult your family and friends, and ask for advice online, but at the end of the day, you’re the one who has to make the decision about what to do.

Have you ever been a victim of stalking? When did you first realize that something was wrong? What did you do to handle the situation? How do you ensure your safety? It’s a sensitive topic, but if you’re up for sharing your experiences, you can do so in the comments.

Here’s how some readers reacted when they saw the teacher’s viral story

Reddit comments discussing a student's creepy remark and reactions, mentioning details like a new TV and wine.

Comment mentioning student’s creepy remark and suggesting ring cameras for security.

Reddit comment discussing paranoia after a student's creepy comment and mentioning spouse's perspective.

Comment suggesting increased security after a student made a concerning remark.

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Comment from a user expressing concern about a creepy student remark, suggesting strangers or trusted individuals might be involved.

Creepy student comment shared in an online discussion for feedback.

Comment discussing frustration with lack of support over creepy student comment, highlighting a common theme with spouses.

Comment suggesting a twist will occur, related to a student's creepy remark.

Reddit user comments on hidden camera detection paranoia.

Reddit comment reacting to a creepy student remark, expressing fear and concern.

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After taking the advice of some internet users, the teacher decided to do a thorough sweep of her home. She was shocked by the results

Update text about reconsidering after worried reactions to a student's comment.

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Text describing discovery of hidden devices at home; captures a creepy student comment context.

Text discussing a smoke detector change in a bedroom, suggesting a device swap noticed in an old photo, referred to police.

Text about taking advice seriously and husband downplaying concerns.

Text from a concerned teacher discussing a student's comment, mentioning consultation with school head and maintaining a paper trail.

Text expressing feeling of privacy invasion after a student’s comment, seeking affirmation from others.

Here’s what some people said after reading the latest update

Reddit comment about a student's creepy remark on gaining access to a house.

Reddit comment about a student's creepy comment and a husband's reaction.

Comment suggesting suspicion about a husband setting up cameras, related to being paranoid.

Comment discussing a wife's reaction to creepy student comment and husband's response.

Comment discussing student making creepy remark about a new TV, with husband dismissing concerns.

Text exchange discussing potential paranoia about being watched by husband and students.

Comment discussing relationship concerns and therapy after a creepy student comment incident.

A comment expressing concern about unsettling behavior related to cameras and suspicion towards a husband.

Comment discussing a scary event and seeking space from a husband, mentioning needing appropriate consequences.

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