Child-Free Lady Confused By Sister’s Angry Response When She Warns Her She Can’t Babysit Constantly

It can be quite harrowing when people make extravagant demands on you just because you are family. There are times when you wouldn’t even mind fulfilling them until they become overbearing, and you don’t even receive gratitude for providing a helping hand to them.

The original poster’s (OP) sister is quite similar, as she always relied on her for free babysitting because she felt OP had nothing better to do, since she was child-free. Tired of always being burdened with the responsibility, she told her so, but the woman didn’t take it well. Here’s what followed after that…

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It’s annoying how child-free people are taken for granted, as parents think they’ve nothing better to do than babysit

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The child-free poster has always helped her sister (Lisa) out financially as well as with babysitting, since she’s a single mom with 3 kids

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After Lisa moved nearby, the babysitting increased a lot, and sometimes, it got too much for the poster and her husband

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When she told Lisa that they couldn’t keep doing it constantly, she got annoyed and even refused to contact her after that

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The frustrated poster decided to reduce the financial and babysitting help that she provided because of how Lisa reacted

In today’s story, Reddit user TheAutumnMaiden tells us about how she got caught right in the middle of a conflict with her sister (Lisa). The thing is that OP and her husband are happily child-free, unlike Lisa, who is a divorced single mother with 3 kids. Despite their life decision, the couple has always been open to babysitting their niblings without complaint, all for free. 

In fact, the kind poster is well aware that Lisa also faces a lot of financial challenges and has never hesitated to help her out whenever possible. Well, she sounds like quite a helpful sister, doesn’t she? However, after Lisa moved closer to OP’s house, the boundaries just started to blur, as the babysitting demands surged to a point of exhaustion for the couple.

Now, the poster wanted to set up clear boundaries, so when Lisa asked her to babysit her child again, she agreed. However, she also told her that they couldn’t do it constantly, as it can get overwhelming for them. This triggered her sister so much that she replied that she shouldn’t have asked her in the first place, and then refused to speak to OP at all.

OP also tells us that Lisa gets a lot of help from their mom, and she probably had a fight with her, so she approached our lady. While the poster was worried whether she did the right thing, she also mentioned that Lisa has a knack for making irresponsible decisions. Having 3 kids when her financial situation is not something to boast about shows what the poster means, right?

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Well, netizens were quick to assure her that she had done nothing wrong, but the sister was the culprit in the story. You see, studies suggest that child-free people have lower stress levels as opposed to parents. In fact, data also shows that couples without children reported more romantic bliss. 

Well, there’s a good reason why people like OP prefer to be child-free, but imagine being forced to look after kids, despite all that? Of course, anyone would set boundaries! After all, setting boundaries is important to keep relationships healthy and protect your personal space at the same time. 

Many netizens highlighted the fact that she was enabling her sister by providing her with all the help she needed; meanwhile, Lisa’s ungrateful behavior clearly showed her sense of entitlement. Some also pointed out that she was simply using a manipulation technique to guilt the poster into helping her further, and she should clearly stick to her boundaries rather than cave in.

A few also commented about the irresponsible sister’s behavior when it came to having kids. Estimates suggest that raising a child from birth to age 18 can cost anywhere from $200,000 to $310,000 in the US. So, having 3 children in this economy when you are having financial struggles definitely does not sound like a good decision. 

The poster agreed with the netizens’ verdict and said that she would cut back on all the financial and babysitting help that she provides. Well, since it’s an old story, I hope she was able to do that without Lisa creating more drama. Don’t you think so, too? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

Netizens advised the poster that it’s better to set clear boundaries rather than let Lisa take advantage of the couple’s kindness

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