This Brutally Honest Post About Stay-At-Home Moms Was “Liked” Over 640,000 Times, But It Deserves More
Tired of constantly hearing the phrase “but what do you do all day?”, Florida-based tattoo artist Ryshell Castleberry decided to write a tribute to all stay-at-home mothers and housewives via Facebook. It exploded. Her powerful post has been liked over 640,000 times and shared by more than 300,000 people. It may seem like a lot, but that’s not enough. It has to be read by everyone to really appreciate all of the enormous sacrifices moms and caregivers make for the sake of their children.
However, not everyone agreed with her post on raising kids, chores, and choice for married life. Some working mothers criticized Castleberry that “there’s those of us who do all that AND work.” Castleberry defended her post by saying that anyone, whether a working mom or working dad, should be able to “read the message and replace the words with words that fit [their] situation.”
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Tired of constantly hearing the phrase “but what do you do all day?”, Florida-based tattoo artist Ryshell Castleberry wrote this post:
It begins with an imagined situation where a husband complains to his psychologist that his “wife does not work”
The list of tasks she does every day doesn’t end there…
Wait…what about the night?
Castleberry then goes on to list all occupations that moms have
“The woman is like salt”
Castleberry’s post was “liked” more than 640K times and received hundreds of positive replies
However, there were moms who said they work and still manage to do all the tasks she listed
But let’s not forget the stay-at-home dads!
Every normal husband who has a wife who stays home knows these facts. Any guy that doesn't acknowledge this is either a narcissist or idiot
There's knowing and there's "knowing" as in being aware of what it all involves AND trying to put oneself in that person's shoes. I'm not a housewife nor a mom but I don't think the worst is the actual work they do it's: 1) not getting paid (husbands of stay-at-home moms actually BELIEVE that the money they make is theirs and that their wives live off of them, without realising how much of that money would magically disappear if the wife was not there and he had to pay for someone to do it all and he would never get the level of care for him and his home and his children that he gets without paying a dime, so no that money is not HIS (exactly the same goes for working wives and stay-at-home dads, of course) 2) the sheer never-endingness of it, in regards of timetable, calendar and extent of care. 3) How invisible their work is and how little or inexistent the recognition is for what they do. 4) The mental exhaustion of being in charge of everything (planning, improvising, coordinating)
I'd go as far as to say any marriage that doesn't willingly share all money is doomed to fail.
I don't know any married men that believe the money they earn is theirs. Getting married is a true partnership. Taking it for granted = end
Well said. However, just to add an interesting "did-you-know fact" to the money part you mention. Many Japanese families have the tradition, and seem to find it normal, that the working husband gives all his salary to his stay at home wife, then she gives him pocket money. She's the one who manages financies, because she's the one who does daily groceries and takes care of the house as a whole.
amen sister about working husbands and "wives " who just stay at home. My husband controls all finances. I mean all. I never know how much I will get for food funds everything wo weeks. Depends on his mood I just don't even take my so called Allownace anylonger. Twenty five a week. I am grateful for it... But when he keeps saying I was nice enough to to ...... No thanks 🤑
Doug stingham and Sara Fina, you should pay the husband a 20% rate of return on all the money he spent on his family, because if the wife wants to be paid to take care of her own, so should the dad. but since this is absurd, the truth is you shouldn't have any children since you clearly are pissed at giving up your time, energy or money for them!
Well, I am the mother of an adult step child who home-schools her five children. I would not trade places with her for the world. I have always juggled home -- step-children -- and a full time job. If you have a support system, it can work and the kids are OK, but homeschooled kids are another matter. At least when the kids are at school (provided you have no little ones at home, you can set your own schedule. today I vacuum, dust, and wash bedding -- Tomorrow I do this and then the next day that. True, the stay-at-home wife/mother never get the credit she deserves, but my step-daughter does all the house work, cooking, schooling, and she manages a part-time job she can do via home and computer. So, I can say that if there are no babies, and feeding schedules involved, the kids get themselves ready for school, the oldest one knows how to make his own lunch ant those for younger sibs. All the kiddos should be taught to do basic chores since they live at home too -- not just Mom.
You're just an adult child who can barely handle any work and is deluded in thinking that your work was hard when instead, you were just incompetent and inferior.
Sara. Ummm. How about we men don't need to put our self in anyone's shoes other then our own!! Do women put themself in mens shoes?? No off course not they well just call us sexest. So you stay in yours ok stay in mine and we know this what else you want a cookie ??? Seriously it's pathetic and weak. Husbands most anyways do appreciate thier wives. But is that enough. ??? No. Right. So what is enough??? Dont matter that argument has expired and we voted trump to sort this bs out
I agree. My husband doesn't understand. He questions me every single day!!
There's an old Flinstones episode that he can watch regarding trading places for a day. make him watch it.
Narcissist
first world people are really good at making their life seem so tough on facebook for applause of the masses. funny creatures.
A friend of a highschool friend decided to post on facebook about her "bad week", just to show that "not everyone has a perfect life". It included: we put our 3rd house on the market and it didn't sell for as much money as we were hoping.
🏘️😪👎
While I understand your point I just want to say that the hardships of some do not negate the hardships of others. All people of this world are growing in different situations and what may seem hard to them may not be hard to others. To judge people is futile.
Lol, that's not the point. Think self-pity.
But that's irrelevant? She's not comparing herself to people in war zones or extreme conditions... she's comparing herself to her husband (who is also western) who says she's lazy even though she works longer hours than him but isn't paid or given credit for it like he is. Besides, i've met people from third world countries who actually worked less back home so i wouldn't assume that lack of sleep is somehow less of a strain on your body just cause you live in better circumstances. It's scientifically proved to be a harm to everyone!
It doesn't sound though, it just shows that being housewife is a job, as the accountant husband's job. None of them migth have the hardest of the lifes, or the worst of the jobs, i mean no one says they're unluckly, but it is unfair that that's woman work is not recognized as that, only because she s a housewife, or actually, only because she's a woman
Much respect to the people who do work very hard for nothing though, but that's not what we should be looking up to, it's actually quite disgusting they are exploited like that. Nobody should live like that.
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Rafael, I agree 100%. More traditional cultures would be embarrassed to share this info, they consider it private. This is a Western phenomena. Besides, what does it accomplish to broadcast this, but to get pity or recognition? We've become weak and self absorbed.
But the thing is that many women do all this and still work professionally and I would say that's truly impressive
Yep! My retired mom did just that while bringing up 5 of us.
Yes the truly unsung heros are working wives and Mums.
Amen!
How? If the woman of the story works at the house 24 hs
I'm a working mom...always have been with all 3 of mine but I believe the bottom line is there is only 24 hours in a day...sounds like both moms putting in that work could get credit ...it's not an either or situation or a right or wrong...I've met some stay at home moms that do it excellent and on a grander scale and are able to do so bc they have the additional time in the home but we all deserve awards but there are no trophies for this....we do it because we are supposed too💪🏼
Why yes we are!
Every normal husband who has a wife who stays home knows these facts. Any guy that doesn't acknowledge this is either a narcissist or idiot
There's knowing and there's "knowing" as in being aware of what it all involves AND trying to put oneself in that person's shoes. I'm not a housewife nor a mom but I don't think the worst is the actual work they do it's: 1) not getting paid (husbands of stay-at-home moms actually BELIEVE that the money they make is theirs and that their wives live off of them, without realising how much of that money would magically disappear if the wife was not there and he had to pay for someone to do it all and he would never get the level of care for him and his home and his children that he gets without paying a dime, so no that money is not HIS (exactly the same goes for working wives and stay-at-home dads, of course) 2) the sheer never-endingness of it, in regards of timetable, calendar and extent of care. 3) How invisible their work is and how little or inexistent the recognition is for what they do. 4) The mental exhaustion of being in charge of everything (planning, improvising, coordinating)
I'd go as far as to say any marriage that doesn't willingly share all money is doomed to fail.
I don't know any married men that believe the money they earn is theirs. Getting married is a true partnership. Taking it for granted = end
Well said. However, just to add an interesting "did-you-know fact" to the money part you mention. Many Japanese families have the tradition, and seem to find it normal, that the working husband gives all his salary to his stay at home wife, then she gives him pocket money. She's the one who manages financies, because she's the one who does daily groceries and takes care of the house as a whole.
amen sister about working husbands and "wives " who just stay at home. My husband controls all finances. I mean all. I never know how much I will get for food funds everything wo weeks. Depends on his mood I just don't even take my so called Allownace anylonger. Twenty five a week. I am grateful for it... But when he keeps saying I was nice enough to to ...... No thanks 🤑
Doug stingham and Sara Fina, you should pay the husband a 20% rate of return on all the money he spent on his family, because if the wife wants to be paid to take care of her own, so should the dad. but since this is absurd, the truth is you shouldn't have any children since you clearly are pissed at giving up your time, energy or money for them!
Well, I am the mother of an adult step child who home-schools her five children. I would not trade places with her for the world. I have always juggled home -- step-children -- and a full time job. If you have a support system, it can work and the kids are OK, but homeschooled kids are another matter. At least when the kids are at school (provided you have no little ones at home, you can set your own schedule. today I vacuum, dust, and wash bedding -- Tomorrow I do this and then the next day that. True, the stay-at-home wife/mother never get the credit she deserves, but my step-daughter does all the house work, cooking, schooling, and she manages a part-time job she can do via home and computer. So, I can say that if there are no babies, and feeding schedules involved, the kids get themselves ready for school, the oldest one knows how to make his own lunch ant those for younger sibs. All the kiddos should be taught to do basic chores since they live at home too -- not just Mom.
You're just an adult child who can barely handle any work and is deluded in thinking that your work was hard when instead, you were just incompetent and inferior.
Sara. Ummm. How about we men don't need to put our self in anyone's shoes other then our own!! Do women put themself in mens shoes?? No off course not they well just call us sexest. So you stay in yours ok stay in mine and we know this what else you want a cookie ??? Seriously it's pathetic and weak. Husbands most anyways do appreciate thier wives. But is that enough. ??? No. Right. So what is enough??? Dont matter that argument has expired and we voted trump to sort this bs out
I agree. My husband doesn't understand. He questions me every single day!!
There's an old Flinstones episode that he can watch regarding trading places for a day. make him watch it.
Narcissist
first world people are really good at making their life seem so tough on facebook for applause of the masses. funny creatures.
A friend of a highschool friend decided to post on facebook about her "bad week", just to show that "not everyone has a perfect life". It included: we put our 3rd house on the market and it didn't sell for as much money as we were hoping.
🏘️😪👎
While I understand your point I just want to say that the hardships of some do not negate the hardships of others. All people of this world are growing in different situations and what may seem hard to them may not be hard to others. To judge people is futile.
Lol, that's not the point. Think self-pity.
But that's irrelevant? She's not comparing herself to people in war zones or extreme conditions... she's comparing herself to her husband (who is also western) who says she's lazy even though she works longer hours than him but isn't paid or given credit for it like he is. Besides, i've met people from third world countries who actually worked less back home so i wouldn't assume that lack of sleep is somehow less of a strain on your body just cause you live in better circumstances. It's scientifically proved to be a harm to everyone!
It doesn't sound though, it just shows that being housewife is a job, as the accountant husband's job. None of them migth have the hardest of the lifes, or the worst of the jobs, i mean no one says they're unluckly, but it is unfair that that's woman work is not recognized as that, only because she s a housewife, or actually, only because she's a woman
Much respect to the people who do work very hard for nothing though, but that's not what we should be looking up to, it's actually quite disgusting they are exploited like that. Nobody should live like that.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Rafael, I agree 100%. More traditional cultures would be embarrassed to share this info, they consider it private. This is a Western phenomena. Besides, what does it accomplish to broadcast this, but to get pity or recognition? We've become weak and self absorbed.
But the thing is that many women do all this and still work professionally and I would say that's truly impressive
Yep! My retired mom did just that while bringing up 5 of us.
Yes the truly unsung heros are working wives and Mums.
Amen!
How? If the woman of the story works at the house 24 hs
I'm a working mom...always have been with all 3 of mine but I believe the bottom line is there is only 24 hours in a day...sounds like both moms putting in that work could get credit ...it's not an either or situation or a right or wrong...I've met some stay at home moms that do it excellent and on a grander scale and are able to do so bc they have the additional time in the home but we all deserve awards but there are no trophies for this....we do it because we are supposed too💪🏼
Why yes we are!