Father Is Upset As His Son Comes Home From School With Marks On His Hand Recording Times He Was Bullied Over 2 Days
The new school year brings children and parents not only joys, but also various sorrows. For some, these are bad school grades, for some – problems with the schedule, and for some, alas, one of the main and most common issues of modern schools – bullying.
Recently, more and more attention has been paid to this problem, and we are increasingly revealing the scale of it. To tell the truth, bullying has existed for all time; the attitude towards it has simply changed. If somewhere in the middle of the 20th century it was perceived as an integral element of the so-called socialization process, now schools are actively fighting this. But the problem still remains.
Matthew Beard, a father of three from London, had to deal with it after his son’s first days in high school. The father told about this situation on Twitter, collecting more than 600 reactions in just a few hours and provoking an active discussion of the problem of school bullying among parents and educators.
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The Original Poster saw his son’s hand covered with hand-drawn pen marks after two days at high school
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So, when Matthew’s son returned from school one day, his dad noticed strange marks made with a pen on his hand. Matthew asked what it was, and the boy said that he himself decided to leave a mark every time he was bullied, both physically and verbally, by other students.
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The marks meant that the OP’s son was bullied, physically or verbally, 21 times over two days at school
In just two days, 21 marks were accumulated on the child’s hand, and this shocked Matthew so much that he decided to share his outrage online. In the second tweet, the man stated that he feels the photo is powerful and that he thinks schools need to come down harder on bullies, while their parents should be fined.
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Matthew thinks that too many parents simply don’t know what’s going on with their kids in schools and expect them to be safe, but that’s unfortunately not the case. Some people, alas, believe that everything will resolve itself.
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According to statistical data, around 20% of students in recent years reported being bullied
Of course, this is not true. According to statistics compiled by the National Center for Educational Statistics, in recent years, about 20.2% of students report being bullied. Thus, the issue of countering bullying should be addressed at all pedagogical levels. For example, it is very important to develop a sense of mutual connection in students of all ages.
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“It’s all about connection,” says associated professor Nancy Beardall, who created and implemented a bullying prevention curriculum in Newton Public Schools, in her interview for Lesley University’s website. “When students feel connected to their peers, their school, and their community, they do better.”
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People in the comments massively supported the OP and his son, and suggested various ways to counter school bullying as well
We must say that most of the commenters supported the father in his desire to raise the issue of school bullying. In particular, Matthew was praised for having already jumped the first biggest hurdle, which many don’t. Twitter users hope that the school administration will respond as quickly and efficiently as possible.
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However, some users advised Matthew to simply teach his son to fight back. Based on their own experience, they said that they were also bullied at school, and only by learning how to fight did they manage to overcome it. On the other hand, responding to violence with violence is not a completely civilized approach, and the fight against bullying in the education system should be as comprehensive as possible, affecting both children and parents.
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You can always tell us your opinion about this situation in the comments to this post, and if you have your own idea on how to counter bullying in schools, please let us know about it.
People say it’s character building to be bullied. It sure is - my character is one who is depressed, anxious, no self esteem, zero self worth etc. I’m 51 now. It stays with you, because you are mostly bullied during your formative years when you are developing as a person. If you are told something often enough, you start to believe it
Only bullies say bullying is positive for character building, and that includes parents. "Boys will be boys", "man up", "they only do it because they like you". There are countless excuses to do nothing about it. I hope you're faring a bit better now.
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The worst part is that if someone does defend themselves, they will likely get expelled. I actually went to school with someone who would harass black students and call them the n-word. Multiple students that he did this to beat him up and got expelled. Nothing ever happened to the culprit (aside from getting beaten up). Even going to the principal and defending them accomplished nothing because schools in the south have a zero tolerance policy for violence but a "boys will be boys" policy for abject racism. There were also several suicides at the school. Hoping things are at least a little better then they were 20 years ago.
I got bullied in elementary school. Quite a lot. I hated it. Switching classes didn't help, parents intervention didn't help, switching school helped quite a lot. I was still unpopular, but being unpopular is totally different thing than being bullied, so..it was a kind a relief. Fast forward 24 years. I have returned in my hometown for a visit to mother and grandmother. My former bully became a real estate broker. In a time we were about to sell a property somewhere. He got in contact, totally doesn't remember me. You know what... when you cut down a tree with an axe, the axe doesn't remember a thing, but the tree remembers it all. I didn't let him get this opportunity. Not even after years. Karma? Schadenfreude? Maybe. Or maybe - I can allow myself to be picky now.
People say it’s character building to be bullied. It sure is - my character is one who is depressed, anxious, no self esteem, zero self worth etc. I’m 51 now. It stays with you, because you are mostly bullied during your formative years when you are developing as a person. If you are told something often enough, you start to believe it
Only bullies say bullying is positive for character building, and that includes parents. "Boys will be boys", "man up", "they only do it because they like you". There are countless excuses to do nothing about it. I hope you're faring a bit better now.
Load More Replies... The worst part is that if someone does defend themselves, they will likely get expelled. I actually went to school with someone who would harass black students and call them the n-word. Multiple students that he did this to beat him up and got expelled. Nothing ever happened to the culprit (aside from getting beaten up). Even going to the principal and defending them accomplished nothing because schools in the south have a zero tolerance policy for violence but a "boys will be boys" policy for abject racism. There were also several suicides at the school. Hoping things are at least a little better then they were 20 years ago.
I got bullied in elementary school. Quite a lot. I hated it. Switching classes didn't help, parents intervention didn't help, switching school helped quite a lot. I was still unpopular, but being unpopular is totally different thing than being bullied, so..it was a kind a relief. Fast forward 24 years. I have returned in my hometown for a visit to mother and grandmother. My former bully became a real estate broker. In a time we were about to sell a property somewhere. He got in contact, totally doesn't remember me. You know what... when you cut down a tree with an axe, the axe doesn't remember a thing, but the tree remembers it all. I didn't let him get this opportunity. Not even after years. Karma? Schadenfreude? Maybe. Or maybe - I can allow myself to be picky now.
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