Parent Took Online Wondering Whether They’re Indeed A Jerk For Letting Their 22-Year-Old Bring Fast Food To A Wedding

YTA. He could've eaten it in the car. The bride's family PAID for the meals that weren't eaten. I'm an incredibly picky eater, yet there's always something I can eat - and my parents taught me how to handle these situations. Bringing food into the reception was completely unacceptable.

I get if they have sensory issues and can’t eat the food but… FAST FOOD? I can’t imagine that being better than posh wedding buffet food.

When I read the title, I thought, "oh, the son's like 8 or something" but he's 22. He's 22 years old. He can grow up a little and not do stuff like this.

When my brother got married, we took the limo to Wendy's after the ceremony and before the photos and reception because we knew it was going to be a long time before dinner. He could have gone to the fast food and eaten there and then come back, who would miss him being gone for a half hour or maybe less? It's rude to bring in your own food, and of course the venue will object. They didn't have to let anyone know where or why we was going, just say he stepped out for a while and would be back soon.

Your son ITA, you are the A enabler. Lending your vehicle does not make you an A and your son has been an adult for several years. But doing anything at a wedding that makes it about you (your son in this case) instead of the bride and groom is selfish / inconsiderate. If your son's palette is so F'd up he can't "suffer" his way through tenderloin / BBQ beef / good soup / salad then he should 'tank up' before he goes to the reception. Or wait until after. Or sneak out and eat something in private. You said he doesn't have a medical problem so he wasn't going to starve to death by waiting. Hopefully all of the "YATA" responses I see here will encourage folks to be more considerate at someone else's wedding.

That anyone asks these questions means we failed as a society. People are stupid, common sense is out the door.

If I were the bride or groom, I'd be banning everyone who brought fast food into the wedding from my life. I wish there was a way to license people to have kids. OP failed hers big time and raised an infantilized waste of space. And she has the manners of a pig.

Question: can I go to a Wendy's and have pizza delivered so I can eat it there? No? Guess what - this is the exact same answer. It's insulting to everyone from the bride to the crew that supplied the meal. I would NEVER invite those two to ANY reception I planned knowing this was what they thought was okay.

Someone please tell me this is fake. If not, I can definitely see OP as a future MIL from the deepest bowels of hell and God help any person who attempts a relationship with "Johnny." ETA: Did she feed him, too? "Here comes the choo-choo train!" ETA #2: Or is she still breastfeeding her 22 year old baby?

YTTackyA. So the son is a picky eater...he's 22. Teach him to grow up and deal with the food that's there or eat beforehand. He sounds like an entitled baby. Rude and tacky. I would've been appalled too.

If the "picky" little BRAT can't curb his petty food phobias and eat what is offered at the wedding, he AND his NON EFFECTIVE "parents" should "miss" the happy occasion..💀🔥

Food allergies or very young children aside, what an AH move... especially when bringing food back for multiple people. The only reason the B&G didn't "seem" to mind was they didn't want to create a bigger disruption.

YTA. Sounds like both mother and son needs to grow up. I recently attended a wedding and my 2 10 year old cousins had better manners than these people. It was also a buffet and they ate what was given to them, they got only enough for them, and didn't spilled food. Also what kind of eater are they to have 2 chicken bones end up on the floor? OP's family is just spoiled

Who the f*ck does this?!??!?!?!?!??!?

Yeah that's pretty bad, and you should have told him so. You can't say no to your 22 year old son? And, he threw the bones on the floor? I've been serving and eating bone in chicken for a lot of years without ever having to pick bones off the darn floor. Little Johnny had to have tossed them there. How can you not be too ashamed to put this on the internet!

This entire reply is IMO. There’s a lot more to this story than the OP’s son with a “limited palate”. Most if not all blame rests directly on the OP. I suspect that she has coddled her son, catered to his every wish and demand, hasn’t ever said “no”, and has not taught him even the basics of manners and social behaviors. I would also venture to say that the mama’s boy/man child still lives with mommy, has no responsibility for household chores, and doesn’t pay rent or otherwise contribute to the household expenses. Is he working? As his social graces are virtually nonexistent does he have a girlfriend? The OP had the perfect opportunity to guide/teach her son by refusing to give him the car keys and explaining that his behavior would not be acceptable. She failed, big time. I would expect the bride, groom and their families to be upset and hopefully have discussed this with OP and son. No future invitations to any gatherings. OP—you are the AH in the worst way possible.

"The fried chicken" (I'm assuming) "was there and it was gOoD, so of course everyone ate it." Something tells me that the "picky eating" related rudeness is not limited to OP and his son. Maybe the bride and groom where "ok with it" only because the family had pulled something like this before and the happy couple was just over it.

It's one thing when a guest can't eat most of the menu items due to health reasons (celiac disease, food allergies, etc); it's another thing when they are just "picky"! Both OP and her son are adults, and they were aware of the menu before the wedding reception. Son decided he didn't like what was being served and went to get some fast food. Other guests found out and also had the young man get food for THEM! So, OP, what did you THINK was gonna happen once your "darling boy" brought back bags of Mickey D's and the guests start eating it in view of the bride and her family?? I promise you, they will remember you and your son, and not in a good way!! The venue operators I'm sure weren't happy with this, either! Their caterer, who put the time and effort into the food weren't pleased! YTA for being SO clueless to what your son's actions had done, and for enabling his behavior!

That was a long normal list of food being served but fast food is an alternative? That's not a limited palate that's just being extra

That's unbelievable. Mom has a big bang and weird...her son only eats fast food? The guy should finally grow up and keep the mother away from the future grandchildren when it comes to food (and probably other things too)

Ohhh man TA fasho

I think the chicken bones on the floor part bothers me the most. Even a child would know better.

I have a feeling that johnny is going to be single for a loooong time

YTA. Son and all the other people who opted to leave what sounds like a beautiful dinner, that probably cost the couple $150 a plate. The nerve. Kid could of sucked it up for a few hours. So what kind of food gets served at most weddings? Certainly not cheeseburgers and KFC. These people weren't doing it for dietary reasons. They were doing it because they're jerks and don't recognize sophisticated food. The other people who wanted fast food instead are AHs too. If I was the bride or groom, and I saw that happen I think I would have asked them to leave. I bet they brought their own Labatts in the trunk of their cars too. Dumb a*ses.

This is super gross, rude and trashy behavior. I have 3 sons and a granddaughter ages 25,23,20 and 4 and NONE of them would ever think to pull this c**p and I was beyond indulgent when they were young. I just also taught them that the world does not revolve around them and there are some things you just don't do.

When I read he was 22, I was waiting for her to say he was autistic or special needs, but no. He's just selfish, spoiled, entitled and trashy. I'm flabbergasted at the incredible rudeness. Don't people have basic manners anymore?

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They're both AH..maybe next time, little "Johnny" can stay home with big "Johnny" and go to Chuck E Cheese...You just uninvited you and your son to any future events lol

To the people saying you can't eat fast food at a wedding cope, I'd totally do it too.

That’s just bizarre. Reminds me of how my nephews went off to get McDonald’s after my sister-in-law made a delicious Christmas dinner. I thought that was so rude and disrespectful to their mother, but then she pampers them and they still live at home in their mid-20’s now. Probably pay no rent.

THAT'S why restaurants don't allow outside food?? I legit thought it was because it's rude or that they wanted you to spend money on their food 😭 I'm learning new things every day

Sorry OP, but hard YTA here. Not only have you shown yourself to be lacking in class, manners AND tact, but your enabling self has ensured your son has become the same classless twit you are. Nothing like leaving a legacy, huh? There's an expression that comes to mind, something about an apple and a tree...

My cousin is literally the pickiest water I've ever met (she eats literally 5 things only) and she has NEVER done this, even as a child. If she doesn't have anything to eat at a wedding she eats before or after. WTF is wrong with OP? Idc if his "permission" was to use the car OR to get food. There were other ways to do this, and bringing fast food for others WHO ARE NOT PICKY EATERS is just messed up. Hey OP, what if you had a dinner party or Christmas dinner that some 22 yo was too picky to eat. Would you be okay with them slipping out to buy fast food for themselves AND other guests? Reverse the situation and I bet you'd be ticked off too. If the kid had been 2 and it was just HIM eating fast food I'd say NTA. But OP, son, and any other who got fast food at the wedding are AH.

No manners. Immature selfish behavior. Mom YTA for not teaching your GROWN proper manners at a wedding. That was a very rude move. He could have eaten the food provided or eaten after. Good luck with him finding a spouse although most people his age are probably sadly not that different. Do better or leave him at home next time.

My husband is picky and he'd rather go hungry than pull a d**k move like this. It is very obvious he was coddled and never told no as a kid and apparently still is .

This screams "well, my son didn't like the play our niece was in so I let him watch a movie on a tablet throughout the performance" lol.

Didn't even bother to read it. But at 22 yo you don't get to be a picky eater. Certainly not at a wedding.

She's not the AH. She is not responsible for her son's actions, he's 22. Second, the only reason there was drama is because people wasn't minding their own business. If someone eating fast food at the reception was the biggest issue, they need to count their blessings.

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Wow so fast food messed up the wedding? No freaking way! People can eat whatever they want where they want. This is a free country. If they didn't want it there then they should've put it on the invitation people have different tastes. And yes the mom could've stopped him but to each their own

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Who actually gives a F*** how people eat and where. It does not impact your life in anyway. Everyone needs nourishment. This is messed up. Everyone judging someone's eating habits is the AH. This is why we have eating disorders. Grow the f*** up.