Dad Gets Applauded Online For Standing Up For His Son Who Got Bullied For Wearing Nail Polish
A Missouri dad’s recent TikTok post proved that gender norms and stereotypes remain a touchy subject that tends to spark heated discussions online. Doug Weaver, an art teacher and a self-described “real cool guy,” has gone viral after he opened up about an encounter between his 6-year-old son and his classmates, who criticized the boy for wearing nail polish.
As the man detailed in the video, which has amassed over 1.1 million views at the time of writing, his son simply wanted to paint his fingernails over the weekend, “so we painted them.” But after he returned from school on Monday, it turned out that several kids told him that this is something only “for girls”. But to that, the boy responded: “Nothing is just for boys or just for girls.”
Doug continued to share his thoughts on the matter, sparking a broader conversation and trying to shift the narrative around gender norms. So scroll down to find out how the story unfolded and read the reactions it received from viewers. Then be sure to share your thoughts, as well as your personal experiences, with us in the comments.
After his son was criticized for wearing nail polish by his classmates, Doug Weaver went viral for speaking out about the encounter on TikTok
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You can watch the full video, which amassed over 1.1 million views, right here
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Doug’s video sparked a fiery debate in the comment section, illustrating how many people are divided on the matter. But the good news is that an astonishing number of viewers appreciated his approach and even shared their own personal experiences with fellow parents.
As the 34-year-old father, who has nearly 250,000 followers on TikTok, told Good Morning America in an interview, this wasn’t the first time his son Finley, who he described as “super creative,” had painted or wanted to paint his nails.
“We’ve had conversations about it before. It’s the first time that other kids have given him a hard time about it,” Doug said. “He painted his nails in kindergarten, no one cared. Everyone seemed to really like it. But this year, in first grade, it seems like more and more kids are aware of social norms and trying to enforce them. And so it’s suddenly becoming more apparent to him.”
Doug also pointed out how strongly he felt about speaking out about this situation on social media. “I see a lot of people on TikTok talking about very similar topics and tackling the same ideas,” Doug said.
“One of the reasons that I want to post this content is because I am a [cisgender, heterosexual] man,” Weaver said. “You don’t hear these things talked about by cis het men nearly as much. It’s a lot harder to find … I think because it’s easy not to [talk about it].”
The proud dad mentioned the video received mixed reactions from his followers. While many were supportive, some people sent angry messages, accusing Doug of confusing his child and setting him up to “be in therapy when he’s older.”
“My question is just how do they not see how silly it is to make all of these grand assumptions and get all upset and angry over a 6-year-old having color on his fingers? Like when you say it out loud, how does that not sound ridiculous?” Doug asked in response.
But Doug believes that speaking out loud and sparking conversations around this topic is an important step to dismantle gender norms and societal ideas of “what is considered masculine by many people.”
“This seemed like a relevant story about just how much pressure there is, as a boy or a man, to fit into some kind of mold. And it’s something that we’re dealing with our son,” he added.
“I know how much pressure I had when I was young to try to fit some kind of masculine image and it wasn’t pressure from my family. It was just the pressure that’s there — and now, seeing my son getting a lot of the same pressures that I did, but in a different scenario … it’s kind of hard to watch.”
“I know there are people who have never heard anyone say that it’s fine and have never heard anyone say that, ‘No, this isn’t harmful. It’s just paint,'” Doung noted. “Those are the people that I would like to just be able to say, ‘No, it’s fine. If you like colors, it’s fine. … It doesn’t mean anything more or less than just colors on your nails. And it’s OK.”
Bored Panda would love to hear your thoughts on this situation down below. Do you agree with Doug’s approach? Do you have any personal stories you would like to share with us? Feel free to let us know all about them in the comments.
Many viewers applauded Doug’s approach and shared their own personal experiences in the comments
Although some criticized the dad for supporting his son’s wishes despite knowing it’ll probably draw unnecessary attention
To all the parents who said he shouldn't do it to prevent bullying, that's the attitude that allows the bullying situation to continue. By condemning the nail polish instead of the bully you say that the nail polish is wrong. So if you feel that way just say it,you're allowed to have your opinion, but don't hide behind the "it's for the kids sake" bs answer
I agree. If someone is getting bullied, the bullies behaviour needs to be changed not the victims. It's often easier to get the victims to change but it sends out a terrible message to both sides and it's often lazy parenting and/or teachers.
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It's interesting to me that when a girl likes boy things, she is praised. But when it's a boy who likes "girl" things, he's bullied and seen as being in danger of being gay or damaged in some way. This says a lot about how we view boys and girls and the value we assign to hobbies based on the hobby's perceived gender. Boy stuff is held at a higher value than girl stuff, so if a girl likes boy stuff, she is moving UP the social ladder and is praised, but if a boy likes girl stuff he is moving DOWN the ladder and pearls are clutched. This is true even in adulthood. Movies about women pretending to be men are epic tales about improving one's lot in life. Movies about men pretending to be women are comedies because it is funny to dress below your status. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk, lol.
This is Toxic Masculinity in a nutshell - only MANLY MAN are allowed, and all others are social geeks and nerds not worthy of attention. Because geeks and wimps and nerds NEVER become CEOs and are powerless. Ever notice how these exact "manly men" are the ones lurking in the GOP and constantly say ridiculous toxic nonsense, and contribute to the idea of the threatened White Male?
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That woman raving about the massive breakdown of morals, values, and family sounds utterly unhinged. A lot of us aren't interested in living in Gilead, thank you very much. Everyone has fingernails. Why are only women "permitted" to paint theirs? Someone make this make sense?
There is no way to make sense of nonsense they spew. I am in the US and a MAGA recently told me we need an authoritarian fascist government so we can return to family values. It's terrifying people think this way and vote.
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To all the parents who said he shouldn't do it to prevent bullying, that's the attitude that allows the bullying situation to continue. By condemning the nail polish instead of the bully you say that the nail polish is wrong. So if you feel that way just say it,you're allowed to have your opinion, but don't hide behind the "it's for the kids sake" bs answer
I agree. If someone is getting bullied, the bullies behaviour needs to be changed not the victims. It's often easier to get the victims to change but it sends out a terrible message to both sides and it's often lazy parenting and/or teachers.
Load More Replies... It's interesting to me that when a girl likes boy things, she is praised. But when it's a boy who likes "girl" things, he's bullied and seen as being in danger of being gay or damaged in some way. This says a lot about how we view boys and girls and the value we assign to hobbies based on the hobby's perceived gender. Boy stuff is held at a higher value than girl stuff, so if a girl likes boy stuff, she is moving UP the social ladder and is praised, but if a boy likes girl stuff he is moving DOWN the ladder and pearls are clutched. This is true even in adulthood. Movies about women pretending to be men are epic tales about improving one's lot in life. Movies about men pretending to be women are comedies because it is funny to dress below your status. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk, lol.
This is Toxic Masculinity in a nutshell - only MANLY MAN are allowed, and all others are social geeks and nerds not worthy of attention. Because geeks and wimps and nerds NEVER become CEOs and are powerless. Ever notice how these exact "manly men" are the ones lurking in the GOP and constantly say ridiculous toxic nonsense, and contribute to the idea of the threatened White Male?
Load More Replies... That woman raving about the massive breakdown of morals, values, and family sounds utterly unhinged. A lot of us aren't interested in living in Gilead, thank you very much. Everyone has fingernails. Why are only women "permitted" to paint theirs? Someone make this make sense?
There is no way to make sense of nonsense they spew. I am in the US and a MAGA recently told me we need an authoritarian fascist government so we can return to family values. It's terrifying people think this way and vote.
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