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Sister RSVPs ‘No’ To Her Own Brother’s Wedding Because It’s Way Too Expensive, Asks The Internet If She Was A Jerk
Sister RSVPs ‘No’ To Her Own Brother’s Wedding Because It’s Way Too Expensive, Asks The Internet If She Was A Jerk
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Sister RSVPs ‘No’ To Her Own Brother’s Wedding Because It’s Way Too Expensive, Asks The Internet If She Was A Jerk

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Let’s face facts, Pandas, weddings are expensive. When you start counting up all the gorgeous things you want to see at your celebration of love—from the floral arrangements to the fairy lights in the trees—you might realize that you should’ve started saving a few years earlier. However, we usually hear about the expenses, the lavishness, and the budgeting opportunities from the marrying couple’s point of view. It’s time to take a peek at how costly things can get for the guests to attend.

A redditor revealed to the AITA online community why she decided to RSVP ‘no’ to her brother and sister-in-law’s wedding, and it’s a real peek behind the scenes into how money problems can test even the strongest family relationships. Read on for the OP’s full story, how internet users reacted, and then tell us whether you think the woman was right or wrong to refuse to attend her brother’s out-of-state wedding.

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    A woman, who is very close to her brother, shared why she decided to skip his wedding. It all came down to her sister-in-law’s behavior

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    The wedding services industry is absolutely massive. In the United States alone, the market size of the industry was a whopping $57.9 billion in 2022. However, in recent years, it’s shrunk a bit. Over the past 5 years, the size of the industry has actually declined by 6.3%. However, this year, it has grown by 2.1% so far. The Covid-19 pandemic has definitely made its impact over the past couple of years, however, it doesn’t explain the drop from 2017 till 2019.

    The flight, the gifts, the new clothes… not to mention all the ‘freebies’ that the bride-to-be demanded of the OP, they all added up. So much so that the redditor decided to be true to her feelings and not attend the wedding. It was simply not worth the expense to her. Especially considering her sister-in-law’s [cough cough] peculiar behavior when it came to throwing some of the prep expenses her way.

    The AITA community was very sympathetic to the author of the post. In their opinion, the happy couple was acting a tad too entitled. It was also a mystery why the OP wasn’t invited to the bride or groom parties, considering the number of requests for help. It’s all just very odd. And the entire situation suggests that the bride might have wanted an incredibly lavish, fairytale-like wedding, but may not have actually had the means to make her wish come true. Either that or there are some very confusing feelings and low-key resentment that she has towards her husband’s sister.

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    According to a study done by The Knot, the average cost of being a wedding guest in 2021 was $460, roughly $30 more than in 2019.

    If the wedding was local, the cost came down to just $270. However, those driving out of town could end up spending as much as $660 on average… though that pales in comparison to guests who had to fly: they spent an average of $1,270. Meanwhile, wedding gifts (a part of all of these calculations), cost roughly $160.

    Keep in mind that things are bound to get even more expensive as worries about inflation and rising prices continue to haunt, well, pretty much everyone. But that shouldn’t detract from the happiness of occasions like weddings. We all just need to be more creative and flexible in how we approach things, both as guests and as those tying the knot.

    The OP shared some more of her thoughts in the comments of her post

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    Meanwhile, here’s how other people felt about the family drama

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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    CMDR unematti
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. "You're overreacting" is obvious minimization and dismissal of your feelings. It's their special day, not yours, personally i would've been much less patient.

    Not_Tellin
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You said it! Minimization at best... complete disregard, is more like it.

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    Katherine Boag
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If its a destination wedding, the gift is people attending. You dont expect gifts on top of that

    DKS 001
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing I keep saying to people: you are in no way obligated to ANYONE for any reason unless you choose to be

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    CMDR unematti
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. "You're overreacting" is obvious minimization and dismissal of your feelings. It's their special day, not yours, personally i would've been much less patient.

    Not_Tellin
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You said it! Minimization at best... complete disregard, is more like it.

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    Katherine Boag
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If its a destination wedding, the gift is people attending. You dont expect gifts on top of that

    DKS 001
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing I keep saying to people: you are in no way obligated to ANYONE for any reason unless you choose to be

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