Guy Asks Whether He Did The Wrong Thing By Telling Off His Child-Free Sister As He’s Fed Up With Her Parenting Ideas
There is an opinion that in order to teach others, it is not at all necessary to be an excellent expert yourself. Indeed, many outstanding sports coaches never succeeded as players, and some brilliant scientists were in fact the poorest students.
But what about parenthood? Is it necessary to be a parent yourself in order to give advice and recommendations on raising a child? This is where people’s opinions diverge radically. On the one hand, no one understands what parenthood is until they raise their own child. On the other hand, a fresh look from the outside has never bothered anyone.
Well, sometimes it does. For example, it did for the author of this post in the AITA Reddit community, which has amassed around 5.1K upvotes and over 800 various comments: comments, where opinions, as we said before, were also divided. However, most people in the comments still supported the Original Poster.
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The Original Poster has a 4-Y.O. son and his sister regularly bothers him with parenting advice
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So, the Original Poster and his wife have a four-year-old son, who, as the father himself admits, is very shy and rarely talks to people outside his parents. The kid is also very picky and does not eat anything he doesn’t find comfortable. As the OP says, sometimes it’s tricky, but that’s being a parent.
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The OP really hates these comments from his sister because she tells him how she would raise her ‘imaginary’ children
The OP also has a sister who constantly picks on his parenting methods. We must say that the woman herself does not have children, but she regularly gives her brother whole lectures on parenting, both requested and not. This has often annoyed the OP very much, but he still tried to endure.
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In addition, the OP’s sister, as he says, constantly accompanies her criticism with tales about how she will raise her future children. For example, “my children will be well-mannered”, “my children will eat what I cook, or not eat at all”, “my children will be so helpful and dress themselves in the morning”.
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The OP admits that he literally hates these comments. After all, it is one thing to say what you think you will have, and quite another to face reality. The OP’s sister was going to get married, but the man she expected to propose suddenly broke up with her, so she doesn’t have her own family and children yet.
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One day the OP’s son refused to eat eggs with scallions and the dad made him another batch, without greens
So one beautiful day, brother and sister went to visit their mom, and the OP took his son with him. Mom cooked them eggs with little chopped up bits of scallions, a dish that they loved very much as children. The grandson, however, unlike his dad, refused to eat the eggs, because the scallions, in the boy’s own words, burned his mouth.
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The dad just got up and decided to make a new batch of eggs. To this, the sister immediately objected that he was spoiling the child and teaching him to be entitled. On the other hand, the man understood perfectly well that if he did not feed his son now, he would not eat at all, but he needed to eat. And then the sister once more began to talk about how she would raise her future children…
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The sister told the OP that he allegedly spoils his son, so the man just answered that it’s easy to raise imaginary children
The OP was outraged and stated that it is actually very easy to raise imaginary children, and the sister does not have kids of her own, so she has no idea what she’s talking about. The sister fell silent and left, and the mother later called the OP a jerk for offending her, putting pressure on her “pain point” and forcing her to remember that she did not have her own family.
However, the man was indignant, arguing that it was unfair for his sister to compare himself and his son with non-existent children. To this, his mother told him that the woman was just trying to help, and he simply threw it back in her face.
The OP’s mother scolded him for being rude yet most people in the comments, however, backed the man
People in the comments, unlike the mother herself, mostly supported the OP, agreeing that imaginary children are in fact easy to raise. In addition, according to some commenters, rigid parenting actually only harms children – especially if the kid has ASD, because the texture of food is fundamentally important for such children.
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Moreover, according to some commenters, even if the OP’s son does not have any health problems, his palette of tastes will develop with age. It’s very easy, according to people in the comments, to say “I’ll do this and that” with kids, but people often forget that children have their own opinions. And this opinion may not coincide with the parents’ point of view.
In fact, parenting is both a great happiness and a heavy burden, and, for example, this post of ours is probably a good confirmation of this fact. In any case, we’re sure you’ve already made up your mind about this particular story, so comments under the post are, as always, highly appreciated.
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Everyone knows that the best parents are the one that don't have kids yet. lol
My kid eats what I cook. As long as I cook exactly what she likes. Or will like in half an hour, depends.
If my children don't want to eat what I cooked, there's always bread or sth. similar. I don't cook for them what I know they don't like, and I keep some things apart that I'd mix for my husband and me (e.g. my stepdaughter sometimes doesn't like sauce on her pasta, but wants bits of sausage, so I have a bowl of sausage on the table and don't add them to the sauce). However, I won't cook separate dishes for everyone, and I sure as hell won't start cooking again after I'm done cooking. If they don't like it, they can have bread if they're really hungry, or they'll like whatever we have for the next meal. It WOULD be different if one of them had sensory issues or allergies, but, fortunately, they don't.
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Omg my brother and SIL were the worst! Before they had kids it was 'our house will be spotless' 'our kids will be geniuses' 'our kids won't have any screen time' .. you can guess what it's like now .. lol
The kid is watching tv in what looks like a war zone.
Load More Replies... If the sister ever has children, the wake up call is going to be very nasty. Like others have said, the child may be on the autistic spectrum. There is certainly enough in the story to get him evaluated. It’s where my mind wen to.
not even autism, kids are particular and stubborn and want things how they want and like. I've also heard that children's sense of taste is stronger, something to do with need to be able to sense inedible or potentially toxic things early on, before they know better. (i'm no expert)
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This is why I'm child free. It's because I know being a mom is WAY harder than being an auntie and that conclusion isn't even based on first hand experience! Sure, I've babysat my niece tons of times, but that's nothing compared to having to be there for her 24/7. OP's sister is definitely the AH. And she needs to get over her breakup. I was with my ex for 8 years and thought we would 100% get married, but he broke up with me instead. So I know how she feels. She needs to STFU about parenting and work on getting over her breakup. Stop projecting.
I like that one about before I had principles, now I have children. I'm a Mom of six, number five was different. High functioning ASD, with a speech impediment. NO ONE could understand what he was saying EXCEPT ME. And sometimes I had to guess (a lot). So I was his interpreter for everyone until we went to a speech pathologist and started early pre-k (Which was like trying to teach an angry octopus with claws). He is now 19 and cooks for himself. Still immature and childish, but he'll eventually mature. You just got to do the work and find YOUR OK.
Forcing kids to eat things they don't like is not okay. It can lead to them having unhealthy relationships with food. It can also backfire: when I was six, my dad forced me to drink buttermilk, after I'd told him I didn't like it. Welp. That buttermilk projectiled horizontally out of my body as soon as I put the cup down. Never had to drink it again.
Well, especially buttermilk, which is essentially milk gone bad, is absolutely understandably rejected by most children. It's the same with bitter things and "grown-up" stuff like coffee: most children will RIGHTLY reject it, because it triggers the "inedible" reaction with its taste or smell. We're culturally trained to eat some things that we wouldn't choose at a small age.
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Just wanted to say that OP's sister is CHILDLESS, not CHILDFREE. As a childfree woman, I would never dream of giving any parent advice about parenting. Not my circus, not my monkeys.
The title of the article is a little misleading because the OP didn't yell at their sister. He was a little on the nose, but honest. No yelling was mentioned in the post.
The sister has a rich and fulfilling fantasy life, so why bother getting married or having kids?
All this man wanted to know if he was an a-hole. Not a diagnosis. Remember his son is 4. Just because he doesn't like green stuff in his eggs doesn't mean he's on the spectrum.
LOL, before you're a parent you have all these grand notions of how you'll raise your kids and how your methods will make them perfect, well-behave human beings. Then, SURPRISE, your kid(s) have a mind of their own and your parenting methods require an overhaul. And what does the sister expect OP to do, force feed the kid or punish them for not eating? That's going to make for a happy healthy kid and a happy healthy relationship with the parents (sarcasm)
No, but my kid is ASD and he has learned how to pick the scallions out for example. Sister has no business. But short order cooking everything is tough too. It's not a bad idea to help your child learn how to adapt to the world. The world won't always adapt to them. Of course my son is high functioning and has 3 hours of ABA a day so we can work on this stuff. I don't agree the parent should always short order cook for the child though.
Load More Replies... Haha! My dad's wife is like op's sister regarding my kids. She will sneak in little comments about table manners, putting toys away, screaming etc. She does this because she wants the world to believe that my brother (adopted) was the perfect child. The look on her face when my dad reminds her that my brother was a normal kid that was allowed to eat dinner in front of the tv or who would smear greasy fingers on windows..... lol.
Instead of lecturing & giving advices, why she didn't become a friend with her nephew?
Sis and mum, you are the biggest A-holes of all. Sis: It ain't your place to say so shut yer trap. Mum: You raised this shadow parent of a sister so you of all people ought to know better.
My imaginary kid's been in and out of juvie so many times that people think he works there.
I work with kids with kids on the autism spectrum and immediately thought of this as well but often times parents get very offended if someone mentions that their child may have autism so I glad a few people have commented and recommended getting him evaluated. I hope they do because the resources available are great and he can get an IEP heading into school and will get resources there as well. They can also get him free therapy and other supports as he would qualify for disability insurance.
Why would anyone put highly visible scallions in a 4 year old's egg and expect them to eat it? Not very realistic.
My hypothetical kids would play with their wooden toys. They would not watch TV until they were 4 years old and no more than 15 minutes a day. They would always listen, would not make noise and clean up their mess. However, I have real children now. They are messy, loud, can be difficult at times or misbehave. THATS what kids are like. And thank God for tablets and TV, ot gives me time to cook and clean in semi-peace...
I've been watching my patients who are really happy and non-stressed with their kids. I do telepsych. I'm all, 1 hr screen time, has to be educational, need to plan activities, and I'm stressed. I see these happy patients who love being with their kids at home and what are they doing? Everyone is watching TV. It's really made me rethink screen time.
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I agree with that one commenter on the original post telling OP to test his son for ASD. I was the exact same way and I'm autistic.
Those who don't have kids should just keep their mouths shut. Honestly looking after a child is a bit like trying to juggle with grenades. You never know what's going to go off next. One day a child will eat everything and love, next day the only thing will be fish fingers. Dress nicely by themselves next day your threatening to send them to school in the pjs if they don't put on school clothes. And the only way anyone is going to know what it's like is have your own, and see then how well all these brilliant parenting ideas work... as good as they sound, just there isn't enough energy and time to implement them well consistently to become habit
Hang in there bro, just reading how you are dealing with the situation though extremely toxic for both you and your sister; more of a burden on you, but yet you seem to be handling very well mentally. When you become an adult you will self reliant, know whY your boundaries are and most importantly be assertive. It takes huge balls of steel to confront your parents and stand up for your beliefs even though you felt bad afterward because the got mad. Just shows how well you are developing emotionally. I 100% agree with how you feel and how you view your sister just learn to forgive her because; sure she comes first in your parents eyes (which is extremely f***Ed up) but thus was he she is being raised and if she is as intelligent as you she will eventually understand why you view your home as an opposition. Best of luck to you and happy late birthday hope you got to enjoy it with your friends. Take care.
Perhaps he should explain how to get and keep a long term relationship. Her kids will eat what she cooks as long as they are never exposed to fast food or other people's cooking. Ask your son why he won't eat something. My son won't eat white...mayo, ranch. But onions and potatoes and rice are fine. Also no tomatoes or cucumbers...seeds. Good luck. Listen to your son and your heart not your sister.
NTA She should either help out or leave. He was absolutely in the right to say what he did. His mother should stay out of it or actually support her son since she knows what parenting is really like. That sister has a lot to learn.
2 things: 1) nta. 2) consider having the little one tested for high functioning autism. It's probably just a kid being a kid, but some of the things mentioned in the story COULD be high-functioning autism. I have hypersensitivity to light, sound and touch, meaning I don't like bright environments, I don't like noisy environments, I don't crowds. While I'm not particular at all about fashion, I am kind of particular about my clothes being loose, not restricting, confining or tight, and not being made in a way that catches my attention (like really itchy tags). I have faulty perception filters so certain things, like repetitive sounds, or physical distraction can't be simply filtered out, and can become annoyances. These symptoms become worse when I'm under stress, and then the symptoms cause stress, and it gets to be cyclic. The earlier ASD is diagnosed, the earlier the individual can learn to accept it and compensate.
With the pitter-patter of little feet, come 100 million words to eat. ❤️
… No; no I think the mother might have confused the concepts of “help” and “patronizing beyond words, from absolutely no position”. She may want to sort that out, it’s a pretty damaging mix up.
nah f**k your sister and mom too, she got dumped because she is like this, it's always people with no kids that judge the most and they don't know s**t
NTA. I am 60. I still avoid the same foods I hated when I started eating.
NTA. I don't have any kids myself and not planning on having any, but when I was around 12 and younger I was so picky that I would starve if I didn't like the food I was given. And my parents didn't make me eat if I didn't want to. Being hungry never really made want to eat food I didn't like, it just made me lose a lot of weight.
Childless women can parent better than parents. I do. My cousin gave up her son bc she wanted to get drunk and high forever. Guarantee I’m a better mother to nothing than she was to someone. So tired of people condescending to childless people as if they were never a child once and have no idea what a child needs. F all the way off.
You confuse me. You're a better mother to nothing? What's a mother to nothing? Maybe you meant a better mother to just yourself. Your not a mother to nothing. Even if you don't have kids.
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I love it when childless people correct my parenting. SAID NO PARENT EVER
My sister was like that. She trained in childcare and would always go off about the behaviour of our oldest. I thought "just you wait lady". It turned out that our son reacted to certain foods, but also as an adult has been diagnosed with ADHD. HIS son has autism and 95% of the time you wouldn't know but that other 5%. Her son was so awful that my kids called him the hellchild. My sister was at the school once a week for something or other. It turned out he was extremely clever and bored. When he was 15 he suddenly switched around, decided he wanted to be a doctor and went all out to be the best. Now 32 he is well on his way to achieving that.
I was that sister thinking that my kids would never act like my niece and nephews but I was duluded . Also as suggested I would think about getting your son checked for asd just as a precaution my youngest is in the spectrum.
Wondering if the OP ever has his sister babysitting his kids? He should obviously do that on a regular basis if she thinks she knows better. I would just keep saying 'well can you look after him on the weekend while we go away then? Give me some tips on what you did better than me when you have finished parenting him for two days?
lmfaooooo definitely not the a*****e. Kids are finnicky, and sometimes its better to pick your battles, someone who doesn't have kids wouldn't understand that
The sister is in for a big surprise when she does have kids. Each child is different and has to be treated that way. My fourteen year old brother is way different than my sister and I. He mainly likes to eat McDonald's, so when we go on a day trip, we will get him McDonald's and then go to the restaurant the rest of us want to eat at. He will just sit there while the rest of us eat. The sister is telling how she would raise children that don't exist and she needs to keep her opinions to herself and mind her own business. If the brother wants her advice, he will ask her for it. Until then, she needs to shut her trap and leave him alone. I also agree that he needs to have his son tested to see if he is on the spectrum.
I ate what was given to me because refusal would have meant not eating at all. My mom would not have pandered to my whims, and I'm pretty sure my friends' mothers were the same. I get that two year olds can be picky eaters, but if a four year old is still doing it then it's likely there are deeper issues at play.
Sometimes kids are picky for reasons. My first thought was that the kid could be on the spectrum and a few others here said that too. It can be hard for people with autism to eat certain foods as texture issues are often very prevalent but it's not a choice. It's not just hard for the parents, it's hard for the kids too.
Load More Replies... Everyone knows that the best parents are the one that don't have kids yet. lol
My kid eats what I cook. As long as I cook exactly what she likes. Or will like in half an hour, depends.
If my children don't want to eat what I cooked, there's always bread or sth. similar. I don't cook for them what I know they don't like, and I keep some things apart that I'd mix for my husband and me (e.g. my stepdaughter sometimes doesn't like sauce on her pasta, but wants bits of sausage, so I have a bowl of sausage on the table and don't add them to the sauce). However, I won't cook separate dishes for everyone, and I sure as hell won't start cooking again after I'm done cooking. If they don't like it, they can have bread if they're really hungry, or they'll like whatever we have for the next meal. It WOULD be different if one of them had sensory issues or allergies, but, fortunately, they don't.
Load More Replies... Omg my brother and SIL were the worst! Before they had kids it was 'our house will be spotless' 'our kids will be geniuses' 'our kids won't have any screen time' .. you can guess what it's like now .. lol
The kid is watching tv in what looks like a war zone.
Load More Replies... If the sister ever has children, the wake up call is going to be very nasty. Like others have said, the child may be on the autistic spectrum. There is certainly enough in the story to get him evaluated. It’s where my mind wen to.
not even autism, kids are particular and stubborn and want things how they want and like. I've also heard that children's sense of taste is stronger, something to do with need to be able to sense inedible or potentially toxic things early on, before they know better. (i'm no expert)
Load More Replies... This is why I'm child free. It's because I know being a mom is WAY harder than being an auntie and that conclusion isn't even based on first hand experience! Sure, I've babysat my niece tons of times, but that's nothing compared to having to be there for her 24/7. OP's sister is definitely the AH. And she needs to get over her breakup. I was with my ex for 8 years and thought we would 100% get married, but he broke up with me instead. So I know how she feels. She needs to STFU about parenting and work on getting over her breakup. Stop projecting.
I like that one about before I had principles, now I have children. I'm a Mom of six, number five was different. High functioning ASD, with a speech impediment. NO ONE could understand what he was saying EXCEPT ME. And sometimes I had to guess (a lot). So I was his interpreter for everyone until we went to a speech pathologist and started early pre-k (Which was like trying to teach an angry octopus with claws). He is now 19 and cooks for himself. Still immature and childish, but he'll eventually mature. You just got to do the work and find YOUR OK.
Forcing kids to eat things they don't like is not okay. It can lead to them having unhealthy relationships with food. It can also backfire: when I was six, my dad forced me to drink buttermilk, after I'd told him I didn't like it. Welp. That buttermilk projectiled horizontally out of my body as soon as I put the cup down. Never had to drink it again.
Well, especially buttermilk, which is essentially milk gone bad, is absolutely understandably rejected by most children. It's the same with bitter things and "grown-up" stuff like coffee: most children will RIGHTLY reject it, because it triggers the "inedible" reaction with its taste or smell. We're culturally trained to eat some things that we wouldn't choose at a small age.
Load More Replies... Just wanted to say that OP's sister is CHILDLESS, not CHILDFREE. As a childfree woman, I would never dream of giving any parent advice about parenting. Not my circus, not my monkeys.
The title of the article is a little misleading because the OP didn't yell at their sister. He was a little on the nose, but honest. No yelling was mentioned in the post.
The sister has a rich and fulfilling fantasy life, so why bother getting married or having kids?
All this man wanted to know if he was an a-hole. Not a diagnosis. Remember his son is 4. Just because he doesn't like green stuff in his eggs doesn't mean he's on the spectrum.
LOL, before you're a parent you have all these grand notions of how you'll raise your kids and how your methods will make them perfect, well-behave human beings. Then, SURPRISE, your kid(s) have a mind of their own and your parenting methods require an overhaul. And what does the sister expect OP to do, force feed the kid or punish them for not eating? That's going to make for a happy healthy kid and a happy healthy relationship with the parents (sarcasm)
No, but my kid is ASD and he has learned how to pick the scallions out for example. Sister has no business. But short order cooking everything is tough too. It's not a bad idea to help your child learn how to adapt to the world. The world won't always adapt to them. Of course my son is high functioning and has 3 hours of ABA a day so we can work on this stuff. I don't agree the parent should always short order cook for the child though.
Load More Replies... Haha! My dad's wife is like op's sister regarding my kids. She will sneak in little comments about table manners, putting toys away, screaming etc. She does this because she wants the world to believe that my brother (adopted) was the perfect child. The look on her face when my dad reminds her that my brother was a normal kid that was allowed to eat dinner in front of the tv or who would smear greasy fingers on windows..... lol.
Instead of lecturing & giving advices, why she didn't become a friend with her nephew?
Sis and mum, you are the biggest A-holes of all. Sis: It ain't your place to say so shut yer trap. Mum: You raised this shadow parent of a sister so you of all people ought to know better.
My imaginary kid's been in and out of juvie so many times that people think he works there.
I work with kids with kids on the autism spectrum and immediately thought of this as well but often times parents get very offended if someone mentions that their child may have autism so I glad a few people have commented and recommended getting him evaluated. I hope they do because the resources available are great and he can get an IEP heading into school and will get resources there as well. They can also get him free therapy and other supports as he would qualify for disability insurance.
Why would anyone put highly visible scallions in a 4 year old's egg and expect them to eat it? Not very realistic.
My hypothetical kids would play with their wooden toys. They would not watch TV until they were 4 years old and no more than 15 minutes a day. They would always listen, would not make noise and clean up their mess. However, I have real children now. They are messy, loud, can be difficult at times or misbehave. THATS what kids are like. And thank God for tablets and TV, ot gives me time to cook and clean in semi-peace...
I've been watching my patients who are really happy and non-stressed with their kids. I do telepsych. I'm all, 1 hr screen time, has to be educational, need to plan activities, and I'm stressed. I see these happy patients who love being with their kids at home and what are they doing? Everyone is watching TV. It's really made me rethink screen time.
Load More Replies... I agree with that one commenter on the original post telling OP to test his son for ASD. I was the exact same way and I'm autistic.
Those who don't have kids should just keep their mouths shut. Honestly looking after a child is a bit like trying to juggle with grenades. You never know what's going to go off next. One day a child will eat everything and love, next day the only thing will be fish fingers. Dress nicely by themselves next day your threatening to send them to school in the pjs if they don't put on school clothes. And the only way anyone is going to know what it's like is have your own, and see then how well all these brilliant parenting ideas work... as good as they sound, just there isn't enough energy and time to implement them well consistently to become habit
Hang in there bro, just reading how you are dealing with the situation though extremely toxic for both you and your sister; more of a burden on you, but yet you seem to be handling very well mentally. When you become an adult you will self reliant, know whY your boundaries are and most importantly be assertive. It takes huge balls of steel to confront your parents and stand up for your beliefs even though you felt bad afterward because the got mad. Just shows how well you are developing emotionally. I 100% agree with how you feel and how you view your sister just learn to forgive her because; sure she comes first in your parents eyes (which is extremely f***Ed up) but thus was he she is being raised and if she is as intelligent as you she will eventually understand why you view your home as an opposition. Best of luck to you and happy late birthday hope you got to enjoy it with your friends. Take care.
Perhaps he should explain how to get and keep a long term relationship. Her kids will eat what she cooks as long as they are never exposed to fast food or other people's cooking. Ask your son why he won't eat something. My son won't eat white...mayo, ranch. But onions and potatoes and rice are fine. Also no tomatoes or cucumbers...seeds. Good luck. Listen to your son and your heart not your sister.
NTA She should either help out or leave. He was absolutely in the right to say what he did. His mother should stay out of it or actually support her son since she knows what parenting is really like. That sister has a lot to learn.
2 things: 1) nta. 2) consider having the little one tested for high functioning autism. It's probably just a kid being a kid, but some of the things mentioned in the story COULD be high-functioning autism. I have hypersensitivity to light, sound and touch, meaning I don't like bright environments, I don't like noisy environments, I don't crowds. While I'm not particular at all about fashion, I am kind of particular about my clothes being loose, not restricting, confining or tight, and not being made in a way that catches my attention (like really itchy tags). I have faulty perception filters so certain things, like repetitive sounds, or physical distraction can't be simply filtered out, and can become annoyances. These symptoms become worse when I'm under stress, and then the symptoms cause stress, and it gets to be cyclic. The earlier ASD is diagnosed, the earlier the individual can learn to accept it and compensate.
With the pitter-patter of little feet, come 100 million words to eat. ❤️
… No; no I think the mother might have confused the concepts of “help” and “patronizing beyond words, from absolutely no position”. She may want to sort that out, it’s a pretty damaging mix up.
nah f**k your sister and mom too, she got dumped because she is like this, it's always people with no kids that judge the most and they don't know s**t
NTA. I am 60. I still avoid the same foods I hated when I started eating.
NTA. I don't have any kids myself and not planning on having any, but when I was around 12 and younger I was so picky that I would starve if I didn't like the food I was given. And my parents didn't make me eat if I didn't want to. Being hungry never really made want to eat food I didn't like, it just made me lose a lot of weight.
Childless women can parent better than parents. I do. My cousin gave up her son bc she wanted to get drunk and high forever. Guarantee I’m a better mother to nothing than she was to someone. So tired of people condescending to childless people as if they were never a child once and have no idea what a child needs. F all the way off.
You confuse me. You're a better mother to nothing? What's a mother to nothing? Maybe you meant a better mother to just yourself. Your not a mother to nothing. Even if you don't have kids.
Load More Replies... I love it when childless people correct my parenting. SAID NO PARENT EVER
My sister was like that. She trained in childcare and would always go off about the behaviour of our oldest. I thought "just you wait lady". It turned out that our son reacted to certain foods, but also as an adult has been diagnosed with ADHD. HIS son has autism and 95% of the time you wouldn't know but that other 5%. Her son was so awful that my kids called him the hellchild. My sister was at the school once a week for something or other. It turned out he was extremely clever and bored. When he was 15 he suddenly switched around, decided he wanted to be a doctor and went all out to be the best. Now 32 he is well on his way to achieving that.
I was that sister thinking that my kids would never act like my niece and nephews but I was duluded . Also as suggested I would think about getting your son checked for asd just as a precaution my youngest is in the spectrum.
Wondering if the OP ever has his sister babysitting his kids? He should obviously do that on a regular basis if she thinks she knows better. I would just keep saying 'well can you look after him on the weekend while we go away then? Give me some tips on what you did better than me when you have finished parenting him for two days?
lmfaooooo definitely not the a*****e. Kids are finnicky, and sometimes its better to pick your battles, someone who doesn't have kids wouldn't understand that
The sister is in for a big surprise when she does have kids. Each child is different and has to be treated that way. My fourteen year old brother is way different than my sister and I. He mainly likes to eat McDonald's, so when we go on a day trip, we will get him McDonald's and then go to the restaurant the rest of us want to eat at. He will just sit there while the rest of us eat. The sister is telling how she would raise children that don't exist and she needs to keep her opinions to herself and mind her own business. If the brother wants her advice, he will ask her for it. Until then, she needs to shut her trap and leave him alone. I also agree that he needs to have his son tested to see if he is on the spectrum.
I ate what was given to me because refusal would have meant not eating at all. My mom would not have pandered to my whims, and I'm pretty sure my friends' mothers were the same. I get that two year olds can be picky eaters, but if a four year old is still doing it then it's likely there are deeper issues at play.
Sometimes kids are picky for reasons. My first thought was that the kid could be on the spectrum and a few others here said that too. It can be hard for people with autism to eat certain foods as texture issues are often very prevalent but it's not a choice. It's not just hard for the parents, it's hard for the kids too.
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