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“Sister Demands I Help Fund Her ‘Dream Wedding’ After Blowing Her Inheritance Savings”
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“Sister Demands I Help Fund Her ‘Dream Wedding’ After Blowing Her Inheritance Savings”

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Typically, their wedding day is one of the most memorable—if not most memorable—days in people’s lives. Yet, if they want a big celebration, it always costs a lot of money. That’s why some choose to downsize, and give up certain elements to make it more affordable, even if they had in their dream vision. 

At the same time, others can’t let go of their visions, just like the woman in today’s story. Only, in her case, the problem is that she doesn’t have any money, she’s borderline broke, and her dream wedding cost at least $50K. So, she came up with a plan for where to get money from, and let’s just say it caused quite a lot of family drama.

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    Yet, she still hoped to have her dream fancy wedding, even though she couldn’t pay for it herself

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    She expected her financially responsible sister to chime in with at least $10K

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    But the sister refused, saying she didn’t want to literally pay for her the woman’s past mistakes

    The OP’s sister has always been pretty financially irresponsible. As if she has bought a loan for a simple trip, or the most relevant example – an MLM scheme. 

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    Multimarketing schemes, also known as pyramid schemes, work as a non-salaried workforce sells the company’s products or services, while the earnings of the participants are derived from a pyramid-shaped compensation commission system. Basically, the higher on the pyramid you are (the earlier you join and the more people you bring along), the more you’ll earn. 

    The thing is that this type of scheme is at least controversial, and at worst illegal, depending on each case. Either way, most of the time, instead of providing financial stability to its participants, it brings the exact opposite to them. The sister from today’s story is no exception. 

    This lady, dubbed as Chloe, got sucked into one of those “boss babe” types of wellness drink pyramid schemea. You know, those that promote wellness, but in reality they make experts question their addition to health and quality. 

    Her sister tried to warn her, to save her from giving too much money to it, but that was fruitless – she was convinced it would make her a millionaire. But it didn’t. Instead, she lost her entire $25k savings and was left with basically nothing. 

    The thing is that she got engaged and has a dream wedding in mind. She’s also set on not letting the fact that she’s essentially broke stop her from having said wedding. As the OP described her, she has “serious main character energy” when it comes to that. This fairytale wedding would cost around $50k+, at least double what this woman lost in MLM – so, very much out of her reach. 

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    So, you wonder what her plan is in a situation like this? Well, the original poster, the bride-to-be’s sister, is the exact opposite when it comes to money. So, she expects her to help out. And by that, she means giving her at least $10K. 

    At first, she started giving subtle hints about it, hoping the OP would suggest giving money herself, but when she didn’t, she asked straightforwardly. This made the post’s author lose it. Yes, she’s responsible with money, but that doesn’t mean that all of that saving effort should go to funding her sister’s wedding. Especially when this sister was warned against blowing off all of her money and didn’t listen. 

    This caused the sister to explode over how selfish, unsupportive, and all the things that the OP is. What makes everything worse is the fact that the mom joined in with the “family helps family” narrative. 

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    When it comes to paying for the wedding, yes, sometimes family does chime in on things like that. Especially back in the day, this celebration used to be a parents’ financial burden. Nowadays, it isn’t a given that parents will pay – it always depends on the couple’s financial capabilities, the agreements between members, and everything like that. 

    It is even less of a given that a sibling would pay for the wedding. So, the OP turned to an online crowd to ask – is she refusing to sacrifice her financial stability because her sister’s irresponsibility is actually such a bad thing as some make it out to be? 

    Netizens were firm – she wasn’t wrong for doing all of that. As they pointed out, it’s quite likely that if she had agreed to give this money, which is already a huge amount, the sister’s greed would’ve only increased and she would’ve asked for more money along the way. So, yes, she might be painted as a jerk in her family’s eyes, but she might’ve dodged a financial bullet. 

    What would you have done in the OP’s case? Share your takes in the comments!

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    Netizens supported the sister, saying she shouldn’t be pressured into paying so much money just because the woman was irresponsible in the past

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    Vinny DaPooh
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should help her out. Send her links to apply for Uber or DoorDash or another legit side hustle so she can earn that money

    Anxious&Bored Bear
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Family helps family" seems to mean one person is expected to help while everyone else watches.

    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Family helps family" = house burns down, you put them up for a while. or car breaks down, you go and help tow it to a garage. She can get married without any financial help. She WANTS a big wedding, she can't afford it. She must live with it.

    Load More Replies...
    Niki
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole wedding culture needs to stop. It's great if you can afford it, but don't be a bridezilla. No one is going to remember that your wedding was Insta-worthy in 20 years, or even five. What they will remember is you being controlling, whiny, and possibly a*****e to those you love. Just enjoy the day. Sheesh.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Family helps family" - that's not helping, that enabling! Simple rule: don't punish people for behaving responsibly and don't reward the ones who do refuse to grow the eff up.

    TeenieMeanie
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m in my 40s now and I remember going to a lot of nice backyard weddings growing up. Is that not a thing anymore?

    Craig Reynolds
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If a person cannot afford their dream wedding on their own, then they don't get to have it. No one should expect anyone else to fund their wedding. Oh, and "family helps family" does not apply to non-essentials, and a wedding is not an essential expense. If the mom feels it is, then the mom can fund it.

    🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's the one holding your past against you - your past that was spent saving up that lovely money she wants. Learn from this and stop telling your family what you're saving for again, be it a house, a holiday or even a party.

    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gala weddings are the worst waste of money ever! What's all the hoopla going to mean when getting down to the notty-gritty of married life? Hubs and I spent a total of about 3 grand. We're coming up to our 25th anniversary and he's always been there for me and I for him. Picture album hasn't been opened in over a decade. It's the future that counts, not the splurge.

    Ixanga Cancun
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If 'family helps family' I'm sure the rest of the family could pull together and give your sister the $10K she wants. But 'family helps family' seems to mean here, 'sister pays from her savings' and everyone else gets a pass.

    Cath Lisowski
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If your mom is insistent on family helps family she can pay for the wedding.

    Monica G
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonderr where the rest of 40k for the wedding are coming from.

    Trillian
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can't afford it, you can't have it. Helping is for emergency situations, not crazy spending.

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too bad she flushed her dream wedding down the drain. If she was so set on one that expensive she should've been saving. The fact that anyone is guilting tripping OP for not giving money to something someone wants, but doesn't need, means I'd cut all of those a******s out of my life. Let them all crowdfund the wedding then, if "family help family".

    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the best things that could happen to families and relationships would be the complete death of our wedding culture. It leads to people spending lavishly without it being even close to responsible which is perhaps the worst foot for any relationship to start out on: lots of nonsensical and overly expensive spending in defiance of reality. Please, for the sake of literally everybody let eloping become the hot trend. Drop your wedding adventure on social media as surprise. They will still get the attention without this seriously detached from reality approach to one day in a person’s life.

    Beth Wheeler
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her sister is an idiot! You do NOT have a wedding that you can't afford. No it's ands or buts!!! If Mommy wants family to help family she can pay for that ridiculous s**t show that she wants. I would give them a gift but no where near $10K.

    NJ P
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tradition is that parents of bride pay. They don't have, she doesn't get it. Not everyone gets their dream. Unless someone in family is superrich celebrity or pop star, they are still not obligated to pay. Just say NO!

    Mike F
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS is why you never discuss money with anyone other than a financial advisor/planner. My favorite reply is I have a few shekels put aside because it's just nobody's business. I'm not rich, I'm barely above getting by, but my account balance is my business. If the blushing bride needs this costly wedding so badly she won't have a problem signing a notarized promissory note with repayment terms plainly spelled out. If she is serious let her get some skin in the game.

    K. LNU
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP should offer to help sister out... WITH a legally created payback promissory note to include interest and a time frame. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't sign it.

    megabeth
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Medical emergency? Maybe. An overpriced wedding nope. I get she feels bad she made her sister cry. But you just can not control everything, especially other people's bad decision making. Sis has a lot more tears ahead of her if past is prologue.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would tell very stupid mother, "I am helping her. I'm helping her to learn that actions have consequences so next time she won't be so irresponsible and stupid with her money. I am most certainly NOT going to give her a penny for her wedding. She can either have the wedding she can pay for or wait until she saves up. Time to grow up and live in reality". If mom kept it up, I'd give her a nice long break from hearing from me.

    Vinny DaPooh
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should help her out. Send her links to apply for Uber or DoorDash or another legit side hustle so she can earn that money

    Anxious&Bored Bear
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Family helps family" seems to mean one person is expected to help while everyone else watches.

    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Family helps family" = house burns down, you put them up for a while. or car breaks down, you go and help tow it to a garage. She can get married without any financial help. She WANTS a big wedding, she can't afford it. She must live with it.

    Load More Replies...
    Niki
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole wedding culture needs to stop. It's great if you can afford it, but don't be a bridezilla. No one is going to remember that your wedding was Insta-worthy in 20 years, or even five. What they will remember is you being controlling, whiny, and possibly a*****e to those you love. Just enjoy the day. Sheesh.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Family helps family" - that's not helping, that enabling! Simple rule: don't punish people for behaving responsibly and don't reward the ones who do refuse to grow the eff up.

    TeenieMeanie
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m in my 40s now and I remember going to a lot of nice backyard weddings growing up. Is that not a thing anymore?

    Craig Reynolds
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If a person cannot afford their dream wedding on their own, then they don't get to have it. No one should expect anyone else to fund their wedding. Oh, and "family helps family" does not apply to non-essentials, and a wedding is not an essential expense. If the mom feels it is, then the mom can fund it.

    🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's the one holding your past against you - your past that was spent saving up that lovely money she wants. Learn from this and stop telling your family what you're saving for again, be it a house, a holiday or even a party.

    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gala weddings are the worst waste of money ever! What's all the hoopla going to mean when getting down to the notty-gritty of married life? Hubs and I spent a total of about 3 grand. We're coming up to our 25th anniversary and he's always been there for me and I for him. Picture album hasn't been opened in over a decade. It's the future that counts, not the splurge.

    Ixanga Cancun
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If 'family helps family' I'm sure the rest of the family could pull together and give your sister the $10K she wants. But 'family helps family' seems to mean here, 'sister pays from her savings' and everyone else gets a pass.

    Cath Lisowski
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If your mom is insistent on family helps family she can pay for the wedding.

    Monica G
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonderr where the rest of 40k for the wedding are coming from.

    Trillian
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can't afford it, you can't have it. Helping is for emergency situations, not crazy spending.

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too bad she flushed her dream wedding down the drain. If she was so set on one that expensive she should've been saving. The fact that anyone is guilting tripping OP for not giving money to something someone wants, but doesn't need, means I'd cut all of those a******s out of my life. Let them all crowdfund the wedding then, if "family help family".

    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the best things that could happen to families and relationships would be the complete death of our wedding culture. It leads to people spending lavishly without it being even close to responsible which is perhaps the worst foot for any relationship to start out on: lots of nonsensical and overly expensive spending in defiance of reality. Please, for the sake of literally everybody let eloping become the hot trend. Drop your wedding adventure on social media as surprise. They will still get the attention without this seriously detached from reality approach to one day in a person’s life.

    Beth Wheeler
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her sister is an idiot! You do NOT have a wedding that you can't afford. No it's ands or buts!!! If Mommy wants family to help family she can pay for that ridiculous s**t show that she wants. I would give them a gift but no where near $10K.

    NJ P
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tradition is that parents of bride pay. They don't have, she doesn't get it. Not everyone gets their dream. Unless someone in family is superrich celebrity or pop star, they are still not obligated to pay. Just say NO!

    Mike F
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS is why you never discuss money with anyone other than a financial advisor/planner. My favorite reply is I have a few shekels put aside because it's just nobody's business. I'm not rich, I'm barely above getting by, but my account balance is my business. If the blushing bride needs this costly wedding so badly she won't have a problem signing a notarized promissory note with repayment terms plainly spelled out. If she is serious let her get some skin in the game.

    K. LNU
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP should offer to help sister out... WITH a legally created payback promissory note to include interest and a time frame. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't sign it.

    megabeth
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Medical emergency? Maybe. An overpriced wedding nope. I get she feels bad she made her sister cry. But you just can not control everything, especially other people's bad decision making. Sis has a lot more tears ahead of her if past is prologue.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would tell very stupid mother, "I am helping her. I'm helping her to learn that actions have consequences so next time she won't be so irresponsible and stupid with her money. I am most certainly NOT going to give her a penny for her wedding. She can either have the wedding she can pay for or wait until she saves up. Time to grow up and live in reality". If mom kept it up, I'd give her a nice long break from hearing from me.

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