Being a single parent is not easy, especially after losing a significant other. And while no one can ever replace them, a close friend or a family member can become a significant figure in the child’s life.
A widower and a single dad to three girls, redditor ‘Humble-Piccolo9513’, was happy that they had their grandmothers and aunts as strong female role models. But he was seemingly not looking to add any more women to the list, despite one trying quite hard to become a “mother figure”.
No one can ever replace a parent, but some loving people can be great parental figures
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This dad was happy with the female role models his daughters had and was not looking for a “mother figure”
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The number of single dad households has been on the rise for decades now
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Nowadays one parent holding down the fort is not a rare scenario. In the US, for instance, for one reason or another, roughly one-in-four children under the age of 18 live with one parent and no other adult, Pew Research Center reports. That puts the States on the top of the list of countries with the highest rate of children living in single-parent households.
According to Pew Research Center, the share of kids living in a single-parent household in the US has been on the rise for decades; the same trend can be seen with the number of homes run by single dads. Statista revealed that while there were roughly 3 million families with a male householder and no spouse present back in 1992, the number grew to over 7 million in 2022.
It’s important for kids raised by single dads to have a female role model, too
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While single dads themselves are often excellent role models for their children, other people they love—such as grandparents or close family friends—can be, too. In the OP’s case, it was the grandmothers and the aunts who became female role models for his daughters and took on the role of mother figure.
As was pointed out on Marriage.com, “Without a female role model, daughters raised by single fathers might struggle to navigate the emotional nuances typically associated with maternal figures.”
Moreover, without such a role model, daughters may find it challenging to relate to other women or understand certain aspects of female camaraderie and support systems, in addition to finding it difficult to express traditionally feminine emotions.
This goes to show that members of a single-parent household tend to face a unique set of challenges, one of which, according to the American Psychological Association, is “problems caused by the parents’ dating and entering new relationships”. Luckily, the OP felt right away that his cousin’s friend was trouble; not only that, he wasn’t looking for a partner altogether, which was all the more reason for him to make sure that Amy stays away from his girls instead of trying to become a “mother figure”.
Fellow redditor shared their thoughts in the comments, the OP replied to some of them
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It's been said it takes a village to raise a child, and it sounds like this man has a very stable, capable village in place. What his village clearly does not need is Amy, the village idiot. Kudos to this guy for recognizing this and blocking the idiots efforts.
I think its important to have role models in a child's life but they can come from many places. I learned a lot of important lessons in my life from my parents but I learned new right answers to those lessons living, working, and eating with an old farm couple the summer between high school and college. I'd rather my kids learned how to be a good man/woman from a football coach, an aunt, or the retired pharmacist next door than someone I married just to fill a role.
Exactly - they could be teachers, or an adult at a club they go to, or a neighbour! Sounds like the dad is doing a great job bringing up his girls and if it ain't broke, don't fix it. He was right to block Amy, she sounds like she would have been toxic.
Load More Replies... It's been said it takes a village to raise a child, and it sounds like this man has a very stable, capable village in place. What his village clearly does not need is Amy, the village idiot. Kudos to this guy for recognizing this and blocking the idiots efforts.
I think its important to have role models in a child's life but they can come from many places. I learned a lot of important lessons in my life from my parents but I learned new right answers to those lessons living, working, and eating with an old farm couple the summer between high school and college. I'd rather my kids learned how to be a good man/woman from a football coach, an aunt, or the retired pharmacist next door than someone I married just to fill a role.
Exactly - they could be teachers, or an adult at a club they go to, or a neighbour! Sounds like the dad is doing a great job bringing up his girls and if it ain't broke, don't fix it. He was right to block Amy, she sounds like she would have been toxic.
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