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SIL Implies Man Is Bad Though He Was Doing What Sick Wife Told Him, Woman Gives SIL Reality Check
Young mother holding baby while woman argues, highlighting sil pregnancy husband boundaries in tense family setting.

SIL Implies Man Is Bad Though He Was Doing What Sick Wife Told Him, Woman Gives SIL Reality Check

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Most people don’t realize how easily jealousy can ruin a relationship. Some people act on these feelings and try to put others down, but that just creates a rift. It also doesn’t solve the insecurity they might feel in their lives.

This is what a woman realized when her sister-in-law kept making jabs about her husband. At first, she was annoyed that the woman was trying to create problems in her marriage, but later she realized that it was probably just projection. Eventually, the poster had to take a stand.

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    The poster shared that she had a pleasant home life with her husband and daughter, but on the flip side, her sister-in-law was quite unhappy with her spouse

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    One day, the poster had to be rushed for emergency surgery due to an ectopic pregnancy, and so she told her husband to stay home with their daughter

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    The woman’s sister-in-law kept commenting on her husband’s absence and painted him out to be a bad husband, so the poster had to shut her down

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    After confronting her in-law about overstepping, the woman took some time to calm down and decided to have an honest conversation with her

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    They discussed the other woman’s marriage and whether she was unhappy in it, but even though things were going well at first, the woman got very mad

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    Eventually, the sister-in-law had to be kicked out because of her aggressive behavior, and the woman realized she had been projecting her insecurity all along

    The poster shared that her relationship with her husband had always been good and that they had a happy home. Unfortunately, their sister-in-law didn’t have the same experience. It seemed like she probably felt ignored by her spouse and that he didn’t contribute to the household nearly as much as he should.

    According to experts, even if people are in an unhappy relationship, they might feel like they can’t leave it. The amount of time they’ve been together or their kids might be why they stay in such difficult situations. This is also probably why the other woman was dissatisfied with her partner, but still stayed with him.

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    The poster gave a glimpse into her marriage when she shared how her husband had behaved during a tough time. She had to be rushed in for emergency surgery due to her fallopian tube bursting, and she and her partner decided that he should be at home with their daughter. This way, he could hold down the fort at home.

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    Showing up and being there for loved ones is extremely important, but it might look different depending on the circumstances. In this case, the man showed up for his wife by taking care of their kid and the house. Since they both had agreed on the matter, it wasn’t anyone else’s decision to make, which is why it was odd when the sister-in-law made a fuss.

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    The other woman felt that because her brother-in-law wasn’t present at the hospital, he was a terrible husband. She tried to bond with the poster by saying that they should stick together against bad spouses. This just annoyed the OP, who said that her partner was just doing what they had agreed upon.

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    The more the sister-in-law tried to bash the other woman’s husband, the more it became clear that she was projecting her own feelings about her marriage. She clearly thought that she could poison the OP’s mind against her partner and win favor. She didn’t realize that they had great communication and had agreed upon a course of action that suited them both.

    It’s often observed that people project their feelings because they’re trying to protect themselves from difficult or overwhelming thoughts. By assigning the negative situation or specific traits to another person, they can pretend like it’s not happening in their own life and protect themselves from hurt.

    It seems like the sister-in-law has been dealing with dissatisfaction in her marriage for a long time. Unfortunately, even when the OP tried to get her to talk about it, she shut the topic down. It might take a while for her to realize the truth about her relationship, but until then, hopefully, she stays out of other people’s marriages.

    How would you have handled an overstepping family member like this? We’d love to hear your best solutions for this problem.

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    People felt that the poster was absolutely right to confront her in-law, and that the other woman had a lot of unresolved feelings to deal with

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    Beverly Noronha

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    Beverly Noronha

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    You can call me Bev! I'm a world-class reader, a quirky writer, and a gardener who paints. If you’re looking for information about tattoos, Bulbasaur, and books, then I'm the NPC you must approach.

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    Sathe Wesker
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, this oddly hits home. My mom had an ectopic pregnancy when *I* was nine, I luckily had my bio dad to be with me while my step father (the father of the child) was with my mom. Still, I remember all three having that very awkward convo with me. This woman understood 100% that her living child neeeeeded her father. It was the right call, her SIL needs a slight reality check on a few fronts.

    nm
    Community Member
    7 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Us women must stick together" is a major BS and many women fall in. They listen the advice of other women with sh!tty husbands and project it on their own. Take wrong decisions, destroy their marriage and life and after regret it, but it's too late. I have personal experience of this. Ffs not every husband is a sh!tty one! Grow a brain and use it!

    Papa
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was struck by the sister-in-law saying she wasn't happy with her marriage, but when asked if she had spoken to her husband about it she said she hadn't but she had given him hints. From someone who has been married for 37 years, ladies, if you hint your wants to your husband you are setting things up for you to both be unhappy. Most men will be happy to make changes to make you happy, but hints often go right over our heads, so be very clear about what you want.

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    Sathe Wesker
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, this oddly hits home. My mom had an ectopic pregnancy when *I* was nine, I luckily had my bio dad to be with me while my step father (the father of the child) was with my mom. Still, I remember all three having that very awkward convo with me. This woman understood 100% that her living child neeeeeded her father. It was the right call, her SIL needs a slight reality check on a few fronts.

    nm
    Community Member
    7 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Us women must stick together" is a major BS and many women fall in. They listen the advice of other women with sh!tty husbands and project it on their own. Take wrong decisions, destroy their marriage and life and after regret it, but it's too late. I have personal experience of this. Ffs not every husband is a sh!tty one! Grow a brain and use it!

    Papa
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was struck by the sister-in-law saying she wasn't happy with her marriage, but when asked if she had spoken to her husband about it she said she hadn't but she had given him hints. From someone who has been married for 37 years, ladies, if you hint your wants to your husband you are setting things up for you to both be unhappy. Most men will be happy to make changes to make you happy, but hints often go right over our heads, so be very clear about what you want.

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