“What Screams ‘We Are Not Going To Last Long’ For Couples?” (50 Answers)

My parents divorced when I was 6 months old. My stepmom loved to tell me how my mom only had me to try to save the marriage, so I basically grew up thinking I was a born failure.

This is just so strange to me that people would even think a baby is a band-aid. These people should not be allowed to breed.

Having a relationship to fix their kid.

that's my neighbors (from way back) you're talking about

Poor deluded buggers.

Meh, I once attended a co-worker's wedding, and I know that they discussed the "don't-cake-smash-in-the-face" thing beforehand. But, sure enough, when the time came, the groom did it, greatly upsetting the bride. As far as I know, however, they're still married after, maybe 20 years? Advice: don't do it anyway, it's gross and pointless.

I've never understood the trend and I don't know anyone who would like to have cake smashed in their face.

I told my ex if he did that I'd file for an annulment the next day. So disrespectful.

I met a guy who did wedding videos for 20 years and he said the cake cutting/eating is a tell as to how the relationship is going to go.

I've always hated this smashing cake in the face. It's ridiculous.

I feel that..😪

KFC is not the place to test this theory.

Yep. The small stuff is what big stuff is built on.

My husband points out all kinds of birds all the time to me and I'm not very interested, I really don't care as much for birds. But still I perk up and look because he's so exited and it's so cute to see him that way. I can't even imagine seeing my partner getting so excited about anything and not wanting to look at whatever makes him so happy. So of course we go the the bird park in Valsrode up to 4 times a year. And of course I bought him a bird almanac and a looking glass for his birthday. And those bird flutes that french artist creates that make perfect bird noises to attract certain birds to the bird feeder. The other way round he isn't much interested in fish. But I love aquariums and looking at fish. So we went to Hamburg to watch fish not just once. If you don't get exited when you see your partner being happy about something then that's definitely a bad sign. You don't have to share their passion but you should care when you see your partner being happy.

On a similar note, I used to go walking at night in the desert where I lived with my then-SO. One night there was a super-bright, beautiful corona around a full moon. I rushed back to tell him about it and invite him to come see, and he just muttered "I've seen that before." Wasn't long after that I was packing my stuff and getting out.

It could be the other one is not in the mood for birds. Maybe it goes away quick. And next tine they they vibes matches more and they watch the s**t out of those birds. One needs to understand a woman's hirmonal changes within 3 weeks ate the same as a man's in 5 years.....

Yup. This is why my dad has multiple broken marriages- contempt for both my mother and ex-stepmother destroyed them.

I don't use social media and my husband very rarely does. My marriage is so precious to me; why would I want the world to get in the middle of it?

I told my wife it's very disconnecting when she is on her phone when we are watching a movie or a show. Looking over to see her reaction to a scene and she missed it ruins the experience. I used to back it up constantly, but didn't enjoy it anymore. I then started to turn it off and watch it by myself later. When she asked to watch something and I responded why bother or that I already had, she started to realize it was an issue... she still does it occasionally, but has gotten better.

My girlfriend and I aren't even on social media like that. We hardly post each other anywhere and we're pretty solid. There are people who post their partners everyday, multiple times a day and they're happy. It depends on the relationship

I don’t think I’ve ever made a post gushing about my 26 year relationship 😆. I think relationships are between the 2 people involved. I have to bite my tongue with some of my friends oversharing how amazing their relationships are on SM when I know how far that is from reality.

You don't exactly know what's going on.

I was a cheater, and I'm eternally grateful to my current BF for his trust, and I'm not betraying it no matter what. And that's exactly because I know how awful it feels to hurt someone who trusts you. Sometimes people do learn from their mistakes.

I'm not advocating for cheating at all, but I've known a few couples that got together this way and had successful relationships. Maybe y'all hate it, but it happens.

Hmmm I cheated on my ex... My ex was a complete arsehole who got with me by cheating on his fiancée and also cheated on me.... The man I cheated on my ex with and I celebrate our 30th anniversary this year.

If a person can walk away from a long-term relationship to be with you, what's there to stop them from walking away from you to be with someone else? When someone cheats on their SO with you, it isn't a complement to you. It's showing total disrespect for their partner, and it's a sure bet that you'll be next.

Same way they come is the same way they go

my ex did not want to discuss his feelings because he is afraid that i wont understand while on the other side im the one who cant tell him how i feel without him venting on his bestie how "ungrateful" i was lmao

I sort of created this environment with my husband early on, I was very mentally unwell and couldn't see that I was reacting strongly to things because of trauma and blaming him for how I felt. I had bad ptsd. Eventually I realized I was "always right" a little too much. We're building back trust now and it's so good to feel close again and have him share with me. That bad time of our life is over because I chose look inward and to heal and change. When you really love someone you'll put in the work and make the hard decisions.

It doesn't even have to be a spouse. Simply having a person in the situation that requires constant de-escalation efforts from the others to just to be able to have a normal, quiet night, is truly exhausting.

Guy in photo is just mad because he peed his pants.

learn to fight clean! Do not draw emotional blood, be happy with a draw, don't keep a stack of old hurts to bring out and use. Love, forgive, and compromise.

It's all about finding a happy medium.

my first love never knew himself, he told me i fixed him the moment we both fell for each other. When it was over he acted like its my fault for ruining him or trying to fix him even tho im not lol

Yes and no. My daughter wanted to "fix" her lesbian partner and it was a full-on disaster. I wanted to "fix" my wife and I succeeded, it worked perfectly. The partner has to want to be fixed. To clarify, when I met my wife she had dark circles under her eyes, it was clear that she wasn't sleeping well. The fix consisted of observing that she never spoke the name of any man, and finding out which man in her past had hurt her, and getting her to talk about it.

You can’t fix them. If you think you can do that, just leave them because you can’t

People rarely change at the fundamental levels. Stop trying.

And you're not a rehab/reform home!

My friend had a traumatic last term miscarriage. While in the hospital her parter of several years said it was a relief she lost the baby, since he was having doubts about the relationship. Needless to say they didn't last.

Ok he is a twat and most likely a bit deusional. RUN

I am so sorry. Such an inconsiderate,horrible thing to say

Losing a child, especially a first child, puts an enormous strain on any relationship, no matter how good it is.